Found out my gf is underage.

LegacyUser · 05-01-2007 03:32AM #1

So was in a nightclub, basically a hot girl comes onto me, we get off with each other, she tells me she's 18(same as me), I go home with her (I spend the night but not everything happens), a few days later I'm told she's 14????

I feel like a pretty bad, but I like her though, but I can't stay with a 14yo though can i?

She seems faily infatuated with me, maybe that's just cause of her age. I dunno how much i like her. I do think shes hot though. I take it it'll have to end?

Vorsprung · 05-01-2007 11:08AM

I'd say get out of there quick, you'll only get yourself into trouble.

shapez · 05-01-2007 11:15AM

Bad news man. Move on.

delop · 05-01-2007 11:31AM

me thinks we are going to see Case OP appearing in the courts soon if this continues...

Anti · 05-01-2007 11:34AM

Drop it likes its hot.

Seriously though, not your fault she lied to you. But move on and get her out of your life asap.

Talliesin · 05-01-2007 11:57AM

You know you it will have to end. End it.

TheBlock · 05-01-2007 12:04PM

Tell her you like her but that what you are doing is illegal and that when she turns 17 to give you a call.

Seriously Man you weren't even considering staying with her now where you?

hmmmm · 05-01-2007 12:07PM

No doubt Underreged must ensure it ends or there could a be a little trip to see a man in a wig and a name placed on the sex offenders list.

If he had had sex with this girl, how does it work out legally? Obviously it is illegal but he was lied to. Is it a case of automatic guilt? The girl was obviously let into a nightclub where legally only people 18+ are permitted - so should he not be legally entitled to presume she was 18+. Is the nightclub not responsible in some way?

Shelli · 05-01-2007 12:12PM

Also, if she is infatuated with you like you say, be very careful to let her down gently, girls that age can be extremely spiteful, she could say that anything had happend and it would be her word against yours.

Just tread very very carefully.

TheBlock · 05-01-2007 12:13PM

By "Not everthing happened" I assume they did not have full intercourse. Maybe OP could confirm this is the case. Either way it really does need to end and quite quickly.

dr.bollocko · 05-01-2007 12:16PM

Chalk it up as a strange but not necessarily awful experience and move on a wiser man. I dont think that you could really continue in a relationship with a 14 year old Lolita regardless of how hot she was. Remember what you were like when you were 14?
Get a "You must be at least this tall to ride" sign.

*Tripper* · 05-01-2007 12:18PM

RUN! Seriously though if i was in you situation i'd be out of there quicker then an arab in texas!

zuutroy · 05-01-2007 12:23PM

I think I'm too old to know if its weird or not. 14 sounds crazy young but then again so does 18. I think I went out with a 15 year old when I was just gone 18 and I didnt see anything wrong with it!

Miss Fluff · 05-01-2007 12:32PM

12 + 2 = 14

That's right, she is a mere two years older than a 12 year old. She is still a child and as Shelli said, girls that age can be seriously spiteful. Have nothing more to do with her.

Oh yeah, and does it strike anyone else as a bit alarming that you were able to spend the night at her house? I mean hello? I've heard of liberal parenting but that takes the biscuit!:eek:

spurious · 05-01-2007 12:35PM

but I can't stay with a 14yo though can i?

You are not thinking straight.
Get away from her and learn your lesson.

6th · 05-01-2007 12:36PM

So if you get with someone in a nightclub and go home with them they are your GF? .... what age are you?

shapez · 05-01-2007 12:37PM

It is also alarming that she was in a nightclub!!! Unless it was an underage disco???

Bazzy · 05-01-2007 12:38PM

Where are this girls parents if she's 14 and was able to go to a nightclub and spend the night with a bloke.

Tell her the truth she's too young and shouldnt have lied to you and if you see her in the club again let managment know before someone ends up in court !

Jotter · 05-01-2007 01:10PM

I was going to say its not the worst thing in the world an 18 yr old and a 14 yr old bec its only 4 years but then I remembered that when I was 14 I was dating a 19 yr old. I thought I was very mature and people often told me I was more mature for my age which of course made me think I knew EVERYTHING but while we were together for 8 months he liked me but I LOVED him and thought that bec he bought me a ring and wed been together AGES then that ment wed be together forever and get married etc!! HA! Now Im older and wiser I think he was fierce immature to be dating a 14 yr old and kinda sad into the bargain and I often wonder what was wrong with him!
I also dated a 23yr old when I was 17 and I met him in a club a couple of years ago when he told me id grown up very sexy - that made my skin crawl and kinda says it all when he had to use the phrase grown up - so after all that leave little 14yr old hot girls to the 16yr olds - you can date 16yr old hot chicks no bother!

05-01-2007 01:12PM

Jail bate?

patrickc · 05-01-2007 01:34PM

a few days later I'm told she's 14????

did you actually hear it from her? or someone being spiteful, especially as she was in an over 18's nightclub. if you heard it from her run

seamus · 05-01-2007 02:22PM

patrickc2006 wrote:

a few days later I'm told she's 14????

did you actually hear it from her? or someone being spiteful

Well, that's what I'm thinking.

If you heard it from her, it ends now. If you heard it from someone else, confront her. Get proof if needs be.

The girl was obviously let into a nightclub where legally only people 18+ are permitted - so should he not be legally entitled to presume she was 18+. Is the nightclub not responsible in some way?

Doesn't work that way reallty. The whole legal furore which came up a few months back was over the issue of a reasonable mistake. That is, if you had reasonable cause to believe the other party was over the age of consent (being in a nightclub may count), then you can't be guilty of the act because there was no further steps you could/should have taken to ensure you weren't breaking the law. If you meet someone in a nightclub, you're not going to ask them to prove their age, nor are you entitled to demand that they prove it.

It's a bit too open, but the Government are rushing to close it and make it so that you go to jail, regardless of the circumstances, which is totally going to the wrong extreme in the opposite direction, but that's another thread.

koneko · 05-01-2007 02:29PM

Run, Forrest, run!

:| · 05-01-2007 04:24PM

hmmmm wrote:

No doubt Underreged must ensure it ends or there could a be a little trip to see a man in a wig and a name placed on the sex offenders list.

If he had had sex with this girl, how does it work out legally? Obviously it is illegal but he was lied to. Is it a case of automatic guilt? The girl was obviously let into a nightclub where legally only people 18+ are permitted - so should he not be legally entitled to presume she was 18+. Is the nightclub not responsible in some way?

AFAIK The nightclub's just responsible for allowing her to be on the premises while she was under 18. The op can't be charged because he assumed she was over 18, but now that he knows he can be if he does it again. So run for your life OP

joebhoy1916 · 05-01-2007 04:33PM

To be honest that's sick.

Your saying thing's like she is hot while you know she is only 14, your saying I cant stay with her can I as If to say do you think it's ok it's sick and dont lie you didn't go home with her to fall asleep.

rugbug86 · 05-01-2007 04:45PM

unless he's heard it from her, she may not be 14

going home with a 14 year old, parents anyone??? she's not gonna live on her own...

OP talk to her, then you can make your decision. if she's 14, get out of there, if she's not, confront the person who told you she was.

8thor2nd? · 05-01-2007 04:56PM

If she is 14 (or 15 or 16 tbh) you can't have sex with her. Bottom line. Regardless of how hot she is, you need to let her down smoothly. Say it's because of the law. Don't burn all you bridges becaues you probably want to get some of that in 4 years time.

stifz · 05-01-2007 05:01PM

Underreged wrote:

So was in a nightclub, basically a hot girl comes onto me, we get off with each other, she tells me she's 18(same as me), I go home with her (I spend the night but not everything happens), a few days later I'm told she's 14????

I feel like a pretty bad, but I like her though, but I can't stay with a 14yo though can i?

She seems faily infatuated with me, maybe that's just cause of her age. I dunno how much i like her. I do think shes hot though. I take it it'll have to end?

Thats hilarious!!

Let sense prevail and step away from the child... NOW.

LegacyUser · 05-01-2007 05:38PM

'Part of me wonders how you didn't have some idea of her age. We're talking 14! At a stretch I could understand some trickery if she was 16 but 14?!?!?! You fool.
In any event end it before you end up in court. Tell Lolita to take a hike'

matt-dublin · 05-01-2007 05:42PM

for starters after a few days, i don't think she's your girlfriend.

just get out of there.

joebhoy1916 · 05-01-2007 06:16PM

Unregwr wrote:

'Part of me wonders how you didn't have some idea of her age. We're talking 14! At a stretch I could understand some trickery if she was 16 but 14?!?!?! You fool.
In any event end it before you end up in court. Tell Lolita to take a hike'

I agree with that unless you were really drunk. I mean jesus how would you not know. 14 and you said not everything happened so something did happen I would guess foreplay. The word tight come's to mind.

Found out my gf is underage.

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