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oceansize · 04-01-2007 05:18PM

i think i'll just ring her about 7.30 or something!

miamee · 04-01-2007 05:22PM

Do that! And let us know tomorrow how you got on.

I'll watch out for your next topic 'Where to go on a second date?'

event · 04-01-2007 05:33PM

oceansize wrote:

You are crazy! But in some way correct.
I'll wait a while, i wont text her this morning coz she's probably still in bed. The fact that she's a little bit shy probably means she wont text me right?

I'll set up my archers on the hill!

What are the signs that i can read?
At dinner she was smiling and talking (i payed for the lot, she was trying to pay half but i said no way!)
when we went to the pub she was sitting next to me on a nice lounger seat, and she was kind of facing towards me, then in the next pub she was playing with her hair alot when i shee was talking to me...

im retarded at this stuff

in the words of mike skinner

I saw this THING on ITV the other week,
Said, that if she played with her hair, she's probably keen
She's playin with her hair, well regularly,
So i reckon i could well be in.

So go for it:D

BeardyGit · 04-01-2007 05:43PM

Call her, don't text here - No contest. Sounds to me like she enjoyed herself, and you did too. Pay her the respect of actually phoning her.

Also, if you're going to pay for the dinner, make sure she pays for the drinks or whatever - You're close to setting a precedent already so next time someone attempts to pay their share of the meal, let them or tell them it's okay, that they can pay for taxi/drinks/cinema/whatever. Just a pointer.

Good luck lad, she sounds like a lovely lass.

Gil

oceansize · 04-01-2007 06:10PM

did i leave it to long? should i have rang her already?

oh also, did i mention that i'm friends with her cousin show she hangs around with alot?

vorbis · 04-01-2007 06:15PM

just ring her!if she doesn't pick up leave a voicemail asking her to call you back. The ball is then in er court. As for making a move and she possibly rejecting it. Firstly, you can usually guage if she's receptive to you kissing her. Secondly, if you try and it fails, its only a big deal if you act like its a big deal. I used to think the same way as you until I saw other people make mistakes and just laugh it off.

i wasn't trying to damage your confidence. It sounds like she's interested so go call her!

oceansize · 04-01-2007 06:26PM

OK, so why do girls never call you? Well some dont.

I met a girl about 2 weeks ago and gave her my number pissed. She text me the next morning, we met up that night, and bobs your auntie, but the kinda girl i'd see again tho, very nice looking, nice body, but sleeping with you on the 2nd meeting after about a total of an hours conversation!!

vorbis · 04-01-2007 06:47PM

are you a bit of a moaner oceansize?

Are you complaining about the girl in the previous post??

Chucky the tree · 04-01-2007 08:29PM

vorbis wrote:

the problem wasn't you being nice. Theres nothing wrong with that. What was a problem was your lack of confidence in making a proper move. At some point, you should have kissed her properly as in make out.

Come on man, you spent hours chatting with this girl, that kind of move on your part would be the least that would be expected. She was probably left wondering why you didn't. Also personally, I would have accepted her offer to pay half. Sometimes paying for everything can feel like you're buying her company but thats just me.

I agree that he should of made a move earlier, but the time isnt in the back of a taxi when the driver is waiting to get paid. Even during a taxi journey i wouldnt make a move, specially if the girl is shy.

DublinWriter · 05-01-2007 12:07AM

miamee wrote:

Ditto! and well done on just giving her a kiss on the cheek, that's so sweet. I remember an ex of mine did that on our first date & I just melted because it was so unexpected & sweet

Yup, never kiss on the first date. Girls know what randy-pan-the-goat-boy types we are, so you have to be intreguing!

Sure, ring her, but do so exactly between 3 and 5 days post the first date. Any more/less would seem too eager or too uncaring respectively.

Rb · 05-01-2007 12:51AM

Agree with all of the above, don't ring her too soon but don't leave it too late.
If she doesn't ring back (providing she missed your call), well, she could be busy, take into consideration her schedule. Or she could just be a cold hearted ill mannered b*tch (some of them are like that afterall, albeit a minority). You won't find out by not trying anyway.
Good luck with it.

BeardyGit · 05-01-2007 09:09AM

If you enjoyed a date, make a call the next day and arrange something for a couple of days time. Much better idea - Gives the two of you something to get a bit excited about and avoids the bullsh** games. There's no need to wait 3-5 days.

kryan1 · 05-01-2007 09:15AM

Gil_Dub wrote:

If you enjoyed a date, make a call the next day and arrange something for a couple of days time. Much better idea - Gives the two of you something to get a bit excited about and avoids the bullsh** games. There's no need to wait 3-5 days.

Totally agree here. make the call and don't wait 2 long

cournioni · 05-01-2007 09:45AM

DublinWriter wrote:

Yup, never kiss on the first date. Girls know what randy-pan-the-goat-boy types we are, so you have to be intreguing!

Sure, ring her, but do so exactly between 3 and 5 days post the first date. Any more/less would seem too eager or too uncaring respectively.

I think you are going a bit over the top there DW. If there is a "moment" where she's flicking her hair right in front of you staring into your eyes when neither of you are talking she is giving you a clear signal for you to make a move. OP's girl may not have been sending out these signals if she is shy. If that was the case, the kiss on the cheek was the right move.

bragan · 05-01-2007 09:54AM

So, Did you call her??
And as for the kiss on the cheek thing, its very sweet! I would love that......

oceansize · 05-01-2007 10:41AM

OK... I did it. I spoke to her last night about 9ish,

She was well impressed by me! (as was i with her). She said she had a hangover yesterday but it was totally worth it, she said she loved my company etc.

I spoke to my friend (her cousin), who said she said i was an absolute gentleman and that i was so easy to talk to!

So i asked her if she'd like to meet up again and she said without doubt.
Although she is back home sunday so it's probably gonna be next week.

Result?

tba · 05-01-2007 10:50AM

10 out of 10

hmmmm · 05-01-2007 12:14PM

11 out of 10 - bonus point for the "without a doubt" part.

hmmmm · 05-01-2007 12:15PM

dup post.

miamee · 05-01-2007 12:47PM

oceansize wrote:

OK... I did it. I spoke to her last night about 9ish,

She was well impressed by me! (as was i with her). She said she had a hangover yesterday but it was totally worth it, she said she loved my company etc.

I spoke to my friend (her cousin), who said she said i was an absolute gentleman and that i was so easy to talk to!

So i asked her if she'd like to meet up again and she said without doubt.
Although she is back home sunday so it's probably gonna be next week.

Result?

Excellent result. She thinks you're great & 'without doubt' wants to see you again. You couldn't have asked for a better result, well done

Now plan something nice for date #2

tba · 05-01-2007 01:34PM

Comedy gig!

Theatre!

Ice skating! (seasonal)

Cinema!

Sports event!

Funderland!

I'm out of Ideas!

Kell · 05-01-2007 01:40PM

oceansize wrote:

OK... I did it. I spoke to her last night about 9ish,
She was well impressed by me!

This is proof positive to all posters who pro-crastinate with "should I/shouldnt I" bollíx, that its never that bad once you pull your finger out of your rear end and show a bit of balls.

K-

event · 05-01-2007 02:39PM

tba wrote:

Ice skating! (seasonal)

all year round in dundalk;)

oceansize · 05-01-2007 03:02PM

Ice Skating! Jasus. Im a blokes bloke. I dont do ice skatin! But im happy with the result!

hmmmm · 05-01-2007 05:46PM

oceansize wrote:

Ice Skating! Jasus. Im a blokes bloke. I dont do ice skatin! But im happy with the result!

Ice Skating is excellent for dates. You will fall and laugh - generally have great fun!

Beady · 05-01-2007 06:56PM

hmmmm wrote:

Ice Skating is excellent for dates. You will fall and laugh - generally have great fun!

Plus you can play the knight in shining armour bit, picking her up, kissing her better if she hurts herself;) . She seems to like chivalry!

So nice to see a happy ending (or should that be beginning!?) on this board:D .

DublinWriter · 05-01-2007 08:36PM

Beady wrote:

Plus you can play the knight in shining armour bit, picking her up, kissing her better if she hurts herself;) .

...reading between the lines, I'm hearing 'cop a feel'.

Beady wrote:

So nice to see a happy ending (or should that be beginning!?) on this board:D .

Don't forget to remind her that it was a team effort involving all your buddies in an Internet chat forum....erm, on second thoughts....

The Sweeper · 05-01-2007 09:34PM

oceansize wrote:

The only thing that puts me off a bit was,

We were in the taxi and just as i was getting out i said "thanks so much i had a great night" and kind of moved my head really quickly in to give her a quick kiss and she kind of turned her cheek a little bit as to say kiss me on the cheek.

Or, alternatively, 'Don't wear the face off me in front of the taxi driver as our first snog, thanks'.

DublinWriter · 05-01-2007 09:40PM

Minesajackdaniels wrote:

Or, alternatively, 'Don't wear the face off me in front of the taxi driver as our first snog, thanks'.

...or "at least have the courtesy to swallow that mouthful of kebab beforehand"

oceansize · 08-01-2007 11:42AM

Anyone want an update? OK then...

Met up with her again the other night by accident. was out with her cousin and friend, we walked into the pub and they were there. Went over and started talkin to em.
Had a laugh and me and my mates left for another pub, They showed up in the other pub then and we were yapping all night. End of the night came and everyone went home, but she stayed with me, and i got somethin to eat, i got a kiss on the lips this time. we got a taxi, and i said i had a great night again and gave her another little kiss. and gave some money for the taxi. i sent a text seeing did she get home alright and she replied saying thanks for a nice night.

That was Friday. i txt her twice just "oh my head hurts" stuff. But no answer since! i had a little bit of drink, and she didn't. maybe i did somethin wrong?

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