Pre-marriage course

24-11-2006 02:39PM

My mam Carol work's for Accord doing these course's she has been doing a lot of them in the Dublin region over the last year!

I do agree with them after helping her go through all her notes etc on PowerPoint and she spend's time going through each and every feedback sheet given on the courses as it help's her make the course for everyone

The organisation know couple's live together for year's and know some are still new to one another but

I think it says a lot for a couple if they can't be bothered at all to do it and even try to learn something else they can bring to their marriage

No one has the perfect relationship!

Also like to say that while I was raised catholic I’m not religious and my mam goes to church once a week

The course isn't particularly religious at all it's more of a guidance given towards couple also a fallback for the church that if a couple ever get's divorced after doing the prep course and receiving counselling that they know they did their best

My mam and dad are still madly in love they cook for one another, go on day trips and do all the soppy thing's that couple's do
They have been married for 20 year's and my mam is 46 and my dad is 48 and even (and much to my utter distain and disgust) they still go on dirty weekend's

My mam said to me that the course material benefited her and my dad and this was after all that time and after 3 kids
she said to me that in the time she was married her and my dad have changed so much that they have went through about 4 different marriage’s as a result of them both changing as they grew up and different event's that went on and they have been through the mill together

newwifey · 24-11-2006 04:23PM

Hi
I got married in June. Having been with partner for 10 years and had two kids together the priest asked us to consider doing the course.
We asked around, and unfortunately got very poor feed back from anyone who had attended the Accord course (which is the only one available when you live in the sticks!)
One couple siad the course giver, a lady, went red when she had to mention sex and couldn't say p-p-p-penis without stuttering.

We decided against it, and couldn't have been bothered organising babysitters for a whole day and evening along with paying the course fee.

I personally feel it is a money making racket for the Catholic church.
Really has anyone ever left the course and decided 'lets not get married after all'

Anyone who has lived with someone and shared the parenting skills and mortgage repayments has very little to learn from a 'pre marriage course'
Just my 2cents worth

Jip · 27-11-2006 12:22PM

The Church doesn't get the money, it's whoever organises the course, be it Accord or some other crowd.

CathyMoran · 27-11-2006 10:01PM

We ended up just going to it and getting it done. Was not that bad an experience, is part of getting married in a church so there is no harm in it. In the end we went to two. We were supposed to get married a few years ago and went then to an Accord course in Harcourt Street - was a nice course, bit of a laugh and was well run. I then discovered that the Jesuits run one and wanted to do that as I respect them a lot, actually found that course useless, it actually led to us calling off our wedding.

When we had problems earlier in the year Accord were the guys who helped us with our problems - we are getting married at the end of the year so result. It is only when you go through problems that you realise the value of these places.

CSG - fair play to your mum, my experience with Accord was positive, they helped save my to be marriage, now I can not wait to be a wife.

Aquitaine · 06-12-2006 12:01PM

Has anyone done the course through Terenure college (together.ie) ?

Pre-marriage course

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