Strange girl asking me to go for a drink!

kevmy · 23-11-2006 04:10PM

Mossy Monk wrote:

and how the **** do you know what she was?

Well approaching people at random asking them for a drink is a bit strange behaviour IMO but it has happened in the past I'm sure. And the level of crime is vastly over reported Ireland is still a really safe country despite what a lot of people think (gangland stuff apart but in reality very little of that impacts directly on normal people). So I think it was highly unlikely that she had some evil plan, especially if she was a college girl.

Rb · 23-11-2006 04:21PM

kevmy wrote:

Well approaching people at random asking them for a drink is a bit strange behaviour IMO but it has happened in the past I'm sure. And the level of crime is vastly over reported Ireland is still a really safe country despite what a lot of people think (gangland stuff apart but in reality very little of that impacts directly on normal people). So I think it was highly unlikely that she had some evil plan, especially if she was a college girl.

You are extremely naive to think that.

How do you know she didn't have some evil plan?Do you know the girl?
Theres posters who have already said they've encountered similar behaviour which ended up badly, what the hell makes you think this lunatic standing at a street corner asking random guys who passed her to go for a drink, is any different?

Victor · 23-11-2006 04:23PM

ScumLord wrote:

What kind of drugs are we talking about here?

I'm guessing cocaine, the heroin chicks are a bit to rough looking. That said doing things with someone on coke is risky.

Fratton Fred · 23-11-2006 04:26PM

I was over here from the UK on a stag weekend and a lovely Irish girl came up to me in a nightclub and askd me for a drink.

We have been living together for five years and have a four year old daughter

SO BE WARNED

(That's the truth by the way)

kevmy · 23-11-2006 04:32PM

rb_ie wrote:

You are extremely naive to think that.

How do you know she didn't have some evil plan?Do you know the girl?
Theres posters who have already said they've encountered similar behaviour which ended up badly, what the hell makes you think this lunatic standing at a street corner asking random guys who passed her to go for a drink, is any different?

Why am I naive? I personally haven't had any experiences remotely similar to some of them mentioned in the thread and don't know any mates who had either. It would be stupid to do it as well because they would have shown their face to the person they are going to rob. How easy would it be to slap them in jail after that?
I don't know maybe this a Dublin thing. I live in Galway which I suppose is pretty quite crime wise. Still there are always people giving out in threads about Ireland becoming harsher and less friendly. This is coming about because people are more afraid of getting robbed/mugged/raped. I just refuse to live in fear of what might happen to me in some strange set of circumstances that will probably never come to pass.

humanji · 23-11-2006 04:50PM

Fratton Fred wrote:

I was over here from the UK on a stag weekend and a lovely Irish girl came up to me in a nightclub and askd me for a drink.

We have been living together for five years and have a four year old daughter

SO BE WARNED

(That's the truth by the way)

That's just terrible!

See, Kevmy? These things do happen! Be warned!

nacho libre · 23-11-2006 04:55PM

newestUser wrote:

I was walking into Trinity College last night around 11 o clock. There was a girl at the front gate, I noticed her stop a guy passing by, asking him something, and him just moving on.

She stopped me as well.

HER: "Hi, where are you going?"

ME (a little pissed, and caught off-guard): "Um, going home, I just have to..wait why are you asking me this?"

HER: "Um, do you want to go for a drink somewhere?"

ME (thinking this is all very Naked Camera): "No, you're fine thanks. Good night."

Did anyone else encounter this person?!?!?

Yes.
I got rid of her by asking her why are women attracted to serial killers;)

Sp@rtacus · 23-11-2006 05:32PM

kevmy wrote:

FFS i've never seen such a bunch of negative nellies and moaning micheals in my life. We have very few isolated incidents regarding a couple of girls ripping of a few lads and suddenly you can't talk to anyone. If ya never take chances in life then ya'll never live.
If the same girl came up to ya in a pub ye wouldn't think twice about it. But because she was just standing around we get the 'oh Jesus your lucky ya weren't killed' speech. She was a little strange sure but what the hell, she was hardly a criminal mastermind!

Kevmy... yes, if the girl came up to me in the pub I would be a little more amenable to it, but in fairness that might more so be due to the fact that she wasnt standing in the rain outside Trinity. With her hood up. Asking random punters to go off somewhere with her. :rolleyes: FFS, how desperate are you for a date dude?

Fratton Fred, nice story. A friend of mine met his wife here while on a stag from the UK (mind you, I should point out that she wasnt in fact his wife at the time

) Once he got over the fact that she hit him up with some
r0hypnol, robbed his cash and left him in a bathful of ice minus a kidney, the relationship really flourished.:D

Fratton Fred · 23-11-2006 05:51PM

Sp@rtacus wrote:

Fratton Fred, nice story. A friend of mine met his wife here while on a stag from the UK (mind you, I should point out that she wasnt in fact his wife at the time ) Once he got over the fact that she hit him up with some
r0hypnol, robbed his cash and left him in a bathful of ice minus a kidney, the relationship really flourished.:D

robbed of all your cash and missing a kidney is fairly typical for an English stag do in Dublin, well, it feels like it anyway:D

Miguel_Sanchez · 23-11-2006 06:02PM

kevmy wrote:

Why am I naive? I personally haven't had any experiences remotely similar to some of them mentioned in the thread and don't know any mates who had either. It would be stupid to do it as well because they would have shown their face to the person they are going to rob. How easy would it be to slap them in jail after that?

Brilliant. Of course as soon as you see the scumbags robbing you then they're definitely set for a future behind bars. Definitely. Because you saw them. Yup.

That's why you're naive. Because you think that if you see someone's face then their nefarious schemes to mug and rob you are ruined.

I don't know maybe this a Dublin thing. I live in Galway which I suppose is pretty quite crime wise. Still there are always people giving out in threads about Ireland becoming harsher and less friendly. This is coming about because people are more afraid of getting robbed/mugged/raped. I just refuse to live in fear of what might happen to me in some strange set of circumstances that will probably never come to pass.

Yeah. The thing is we're not talking here about some thing that could happen. We're talking about something that did happen. A strange girl randomly approaching people in the city centre at night and asking them to go off for a drink is odd. She's not just lonely for company - she's up to something. And chances are, it's not something good. So toddle off with her if you want to but if you do end up getting robbed then people really will look at you and say 'What the hell did you think was going to happen?'

kevmy · 23-11-2006 06:13PM

humanji wrote:

That's just terrible! See, Kevmy? These things do happen! Be warned!

Yes I've learned my lesson after that horrific story.:D

kevmy · 23-11-2006 06:25PM

Jeff_Lebowski wrote:

Yeah. The thing is we're not talking here about some thing that could happen. We're talking about something that did happen. A strange girl randomly approaching people in the city centre at night and asking them to go off for a drink is odd. She's not just lonely for company - she's up to something. And chances are, it's not something good. So toddle off with her if you want to but if you do end up getting robbed then people really will look at you and say 'What the hell did you think was going to happen?'

But nothing happenend!! We don't know anyhting about the girl. The point I'm making is that immediately assuming thats she's only there to trick you into being robbed is a little bit of leap don't you think? And that a consensus emerged that this was her plan, I find that odd. If talking to the girl you find something strange or notice a bunch of her muscled mates following you then you have some reason to presume shes up to no good. But all I'm saying is that she's probably a harmless weirdo, theres plenty of them around.
I mean I'm not saying I've had jumped at the chance to have a drink with a strange girl but still I wouldn't have been shaking in my boots either.

ArphaRima · 24-11-2006 05:47AM

Likely a prostitute, or a nut. Unlikely to be the love of your life, or even someone you would want to take home. (think STD's even if she isnt a criminal).
I reckon Irish people are naive to scams like this, and with the level of immigration going on right now there will be plenty of victims to newer forms of crime.

b0bsquish · 24-11-2006 12:23PM

This happened to a mate of mine, except it was twins that took him back to there place for some "fun"
He had great craic having his broken jaw wired up alright....

ferdi · 24-11-2006 01:26PM

i've had a girl outside crawdaddy ask me if i wanted to go back to her appartment nearby for a drink, turned out she was a loonie. why are the ones who come on to me always insane?

Stench Blossoms · 24-11-2006 02:45PM

ferdi wrote:

i've had a girl outside crawdaddy ask me if i wanted to go back to her appartment nearby for a drink, turned out she was a loonie. why are the ones who come on to me always insane?

Guys do that to me, does that mean their loonies aswell?

kevmy · 24-11-2006 02:52PM

orla wrote:

Guys do that to me, does that mean their loonies aswell?

No just double standards.

Limerick Dude · 24-11-2006 05:45PM

Id say if you went, you would probably have only one kidney right now....

Chucky the tree · 24-11-2006 07:27PM

orla wrote:

Guys do that to me, does that mean their loonies aswell?

No, it just means they know an easy ride when they see one.

24-11-2006 08:37PM

Do you still have both your kidneys? Hear there's a big black market for them.

Heyes · 24-11-2006 08:44PM

Sp@rtacus wrote:

B0ll0x, this is becoming very common, I believe. Similar thing happened to me...
I was walking up Dame St late one night with two male friends, and I was approached by an Irish girl, who incidentally was VERY attractive. I was drunk and in good form, so was happy to have the banter with her while I walked. I started to smell a rat though, my line of thought being that attractive legitimate girls dont usually wander up to drunken guys and engage them in leading conversation about where they live, and if they have a girlfriend etc... and I was also mindul of the fact that being clearly drunk made me an easy target. Anyway, when she continued to walk alongside me in my direction, away from where she had been, and I realised she had no friends with or near her and various other things, I knew it wasnt kosher and tried to cut the conversation short and exit stage left. Thats when she became REALLY desperate and very panicked - almost manic. I asked her what kind of trouble she was in, did she need money etc and more importanlty for my own safwety, was she being watched/followed. Long story short, we brought her into a place on Dame St. for a coffee and asked her what we could do to help her. In the space of a 5/10 minute conversation her mobile rang 4/5 times during which we could overhear short aggressive conversation from the other end. Then 3 mmmassive Eastern Eurpoean looking guys (no racism intended here - they were speaking Russiam or some other Baltic dialect) entered and walked past our table, brushed off her, stood at the door and then disappeared. It was clear they were p|mping her and letting her know that they had her clocked. She was petrifed. I suspect she was an addict as well. Anyway, she went from begging me to take her home to telling me to get away from her or I would be in danger..?!

I didnt know what to do. I rang the guards for advice, but never really expected them to be of any assistance. I tried to get an emergency Social worker number from the HSE but couldnt (no sprprise there) but did get a womens refuge number, which she wouldnt take anyway as she said her phone was checked constatntly and she'd be beaten for that. Ultimately, she left and we went on our way, but with very heavy hearts. It was very shocking to see the fear in her eyes and know what a horrific existance she had and I felt sick about not being able to do anything more constructive to help her. Incidentally she went to Alex, which not really relevant but to go from a fee paying school type background (again no genmeralisation inended) to that really reinforced to me that there but for the grace of g0d and all that.

Anyway, be very wary of going anywhere with anyone dubious like that. There very well could be two or more lads waiting to hit you up side the head and relieve you of your valuables. If it seems to good to be true, it probably is.

I read this yesterday and im still shocked by it. Im always in town and i suppose im some what blinded to whats going on around me. Its awfull sad that that girl has had to go through such misery.

Sully · 24-11-2006 08:47PM

Chucky the tree wrote:

No, it just means they know an easy ride when they see one.

Best post in this thread so far

panda100 · 24-11-2006 09:53PM

Heyes wrote:

I read this yesterday and im still shocked by it. Im always in town and i suppose im some what blinded to whats going on around me. Its awfull sad that that girl has had to go through such misery.

Me too.Its really scary to think this happening to girls on the streets of dublin and all across Ireland right now.

The_Conductor · 24-11-2006 10:58PM

Whats the problem.
We were always told to keep away from strangers- and even more aptly- to beware of strangers baring gifts. Most government departments now have posters up warning civil servants that if something seems too good to be true- that it probably is (too good to be true that is....).....

There is a fascinating amount of gullibility around- or naivity- for no apparent reason.

God only knows what the story was with the girl outside Trinity. I've been approached by a girl outside the passport office on Molesworth street- well spoken but wearing illfitting clothes and claims to be 16, and seeking money for a hostel as she was being sexually abused in the citycentre and wished to get out of there. I believed her- and did give her a bus ticket and some money for a hostel- that was weeks ago- I haven't seen her around since (I work in the area).

There is an awful lot of very bad crap happening. There is no way to prove things one way or the other. Some people seeking help or trying to get people's attention undoubtedly are con artists, may be beholden to pimps, may be drug addicts or alcoholics- may be the world's best liars. Others may be genuinely making desperate attempts to reach out to people and seeking help. How do you distinguish between these- you can't. All you can do is protect yourself.

OP- the girl outside Trinity- who knows, maybe she was a loonie, maybe she was in some sort of trouble and just wanted someone- anyone- to talk to, maybe she was a hooker or a junkie, maybe she was just being friendly- who knows......

Stench Blossoms · 25-11-2006 12:29AM

Chucky the tree wrote:

No, it just means they know an easy ride when they see one.

Meh, don't be jealous that i'm getting more sex than you.

lostexpectation · 25-11-2006 05:42AM

Sp@rtacus wrote:

B0ll0x, this is becoming very common, I believe. Similar thing happened to me...
I was walking up Dame St late one night with two male friends, and I was approached by an Irish girl, who incidentally was VERY attractive. I was drunk and in good form, so was happy to have the banter with her while I walked. I started to smell a rat though, my line of thought being that attractive legitimate girls dont usually wander up to drunken guys and engage them in leading conversation about where they live, and if they have a girlfriend etc... and I was also mindul of the fact that being clearly drunk made me an easy target. Anyway, when she continued to walk alongside me in my direction, away from where she had been, and I realised she had no friends with or near her and various other things, I knew it wasnt kosher and tried to cut the conversation short and exit stage left. Thats when she became REALLY desperate and very panicked - almost manic. I asked her what kind of trouble she was in, did she need money etc and more importanlty for my own safwety, was she being watched/followed. Long story short, we brought her into a place on Dame St. for a coffee and asked her what we could do to help her. In the space of a 5/10 minute conversation her mobile rang 4/5 times during which we could overhear short aggressive conversation from the other end. Then 3 mmmassive Eastern Eurpoean looking guys (no racism intended here - they were speaking Russiam or some other Baltic dialect) entered and walked past our table, brushed off her, stood at the door and then disappeared. It was clear they were p|mping her and letting her know that they had her clocked. She was petrifed. I suspect she was an addict as well. Anyway, she went from begging me to take her home to telling me to get away from her or I would be in danger..?!

I didnt know what to do. I rang the guards for advice, but never really expected them to be of any assistance. I tried to get an emergency Social worker number from the HSE but couldnt (no sprprise there) but did get a womens refuge number, which she wouldnt take anyway as she said her phone was checked constatntly and she'd be beaten for that. Ultimately, she left and we went on our way, but with very heavy hearts. It was very shocking to see the fear in her eyes and know what a horrific existance she had and I felt sick about not being able to do anything more constructive to help her. Incidentally she went to Alex, which not really relevant but to go from a fee paying school type background (again no genmeralisation inended) to that really reinforced to me that there but for the grace of g0d and all that.

Anyway, be very wary of going anywhere with anyone dubious like that. There very well could be two or more lads waiting to hit you up side the head and relieve you of your valuables. If it seems to good to be true, it probably is.

and there was that garda report the women in the sex industry were happy, healthy and filthy rich?

Aoife-FM104 · 25-11-2006 07:47PM

The girl was probably drunk, lonely and depressed. This kind of thing does happen quite a bit.

Also, it isn't only drunk men who are looking for sex!

Yes, the girls behaviour is a little out of the ordinary, but assuming she was part of some criminal gang is a bit sad I think.

Chucky the tree · 25-11-2006 08:19PM

orla wrote:

Meh, don't be jealous that i'm getting more sex than you.

of course.

Aoife-FM104 · 25-11-2006 08:25PM

lostexpectation wrote:

and there was that garda report the women in the sex industry were happy, healthy and filthy rich?

Who are you going to believe, the Gardai or someone on Boards.ie who reckons the three men who walked past him were pimps, and reckons the girl was a prostitute, when all he actually knows is that the girl was scared and a bit deranged?? He has jumped to a lot of conclusions!

o1s1n · 25-11-2006 08:31PM

newestUser wrote:

I was walking into Trinity College last night around 11 o clock. There was a girl at the front gate, I noticed her stop a guy passing by, asking him something, and him just moving on.

She stopped me as well.

HER: "Hi, where are you going?"

ME (a little pissed, and caught off-guard): "Um, going home, I just have to..wait why are you asking me this?"

HER: "Um, do you want to go for a drink somewhere?"

ME (thinking this is all very Naked Camera): "No, you're fine thanks. Good night."

Did anyone else encounter this person?!?!?

she didnt have short black hair and a pink jacket thing did she? i had a similar thing happen to me every morning on the bus to college last year. I gave this odd girl the time of day one morning by actually reciprocating in one of her conversations. she seemed nice to begin with. bad idea. From then on, every morning when she got on the bus, she would look for me, sit down beside, and continually talk the whole way into Dublin. This is a 1 hour journey we're talking about. sometimes she'd get so worked up in her conversation she'd start crying. everyone on the bus would begin staring at me. VERY odd stuff. she'd actually sit on the bus with me as it went by her stop and follow me off the bus at mine. then wait at my bus stop with me as i waited for my second bus. as i got on it, she'd still be screaming after me "so, when will i see you again?!!"
i had to start getting a different bus just to avoid her.

i think she got wise to this and started getting the following bus. i met her again. totally ignored her this time. she started crying and ran off the bus.
I felt bad in a way. But this girl would seriously not even take a hint. Even asked me to break up with my girlfriend.

wtf?! anyway, yeah total nut job. If you see her on a bus, seriously, pretend to be asleep or something.

Strange girl asking me to go for a drink!

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