Would you be unfaithful on your stags/hen night?

Bob the Builder · 13-07-2006 01:57AM

Well, I'm 14 and belioeve that if I was unfaithful to my *future* wife, she obviously didn't make me happy.

If I'm going to go out on a fling when I have marriage in mind one night before, will I go out on a fling when I'm 15-20yrs married....YES

...and one night before your wedding is a bad time to risk your wife finding out you had a fling...

I hear stories, this one on the radio of one case where both the wife and the husband agreed to swap spouses at weekends, by that I mean, I'll take my wife's friend for a night whereas she can have my male friend for a night of sex. It sounds funny, how that couple were in agreement to do that...I wouldn't say its rare or anything to find these cases.

Chakar · 13-07-2006 02:12AM

Well, I'm 14

Isn't it past your bedtime?

Well he just said he was 14!!!

Nehpets · 13-07-2006 02:17AM

Chakar wrote:

Isn't it past your bedtime?

Aard · 13-07-2006 03:42AM

Title of the thread actually shocked me.

Tar.Aldarion · 13-07-2006 03:45AM

No, ridiculous suggestion. if I'm getting married then I'm in love, so I couldn't anyway.

13-07-2006 05:26AM

Why bother tying the knot? Those that play immediately before their wedding night, will play with others after.:rolleyes:

The Sweeper · 13-07-2006 07:24AM

It is pretty pointless to cheat on your future spouse on your Stag or Hen party. If you do it then and put it down to drink, you'll just be at it on every major night out on your own - someone's birthday, the office christmas party, so on, so forth.

I had a hag party before I got married (joint stag and hen). There was no point in anything else - everyone we knew either had partners who'd be at one or other event, or were mates of the people who'd be at one or other event. They would've just spent the night texting each other - far better to put them all in the one place and have a massive knees up!

oulu · 13-07-2006 08:23AM

Its your only time that you can and not feel like its cheating, It is your one a only wavier in life that allows you to have sexual pleasure with a stranger and not feel like you have cheated.Because you have not as you have that wavier but make sure to carry it when on your Stag/Hen night

boy_wonder · 13-07-2006 08:34AM

I was on a Stag in Kilkenny a few years ago.
I was shocked and disgusted to hear that the groom to be had scored and didn't go home alone. I was even more shocked and disgusted when i learnt that he had scored a "bride-to-be" that was one hen weekend.
No morals or conscience people?!

fuzzywiggle · 13-07-2006 08:55AM

No. Definitely would not. Apart from all the loyalty, love and trust issues, imagine if your future wife/husband found out, the wedding would more than likely be cancelled :eek:

Brian McFadden cheated on Kerry on his stag :rolleyes:

The Hill Billy · 13-07-2006 09:03AM

Why waste perfectly good drinking time on a stag night by spending time trying to get your end away?

carbonkid · 13-07-2006 09:56AM

Can kinda see the drunken logic of well im going to be 100% faithful for the rest of my life so this is my last chance to sleep with someone else...man i never wanna get married!!! But say the guilt the next day will ruin your wedding day, wont be so special then ya slapper

daveg · 13-07-2006 10:42AM

WhiteWashMan wrote:

no i didnt, and no i wouldnt.

Ditto.

Chakar · 13-07-2006 10:46AM

Hill Billy wrote:

Why waste perfectly good drinking time on a stag night by spending time trying to get your end away?

Theres something called multi-tasking apparently you can do and think of two things or more at a time.

blorg · 13-07-2006 11:24AM

Dreadful idea and on none of the stags that I've been on was the stag unfaithful. A stag weekend _can_ believe it or not just be an excuse to have a guy's weekend away with your best friends.

seamus · 13-07-2006 11:48AM

oulu wrote:

Its your only time that you can and not feel like its cheating, It is your one a only wavier in life that allows you to have sexual pleasure with a stranger and not feel like you have cheated.Because you have not as you have that wavier but make sure to carry it when on your Stag/Hen night

That's what idiots think. This "waiver" is fine if both parties agree to it, and are happy with it, but if a person automatically assumes that it exists simply because it's their stag/hen then they're an idiot. Same type of idiot who believes it's not cheating when you're in another country or when it's your birthday.
If you're marrying one of these idiots, then you're also an idiot.

The Hill Billy · 13-07-2006 11:53AM

Chakar wrote:

Theres something called multi-tasking apparently you can do and think of two things or more at a time.

Multi-tasking is just another way of doing more than one thing in a half-assed manner.

If you're going to do something right - you need to give it your full attention.

You'd never find Father Jack with a bottle of whiskey in one hand & the other up a nun.
A giant among men!

fabcat · 13-07-2006 12:12PM

I really don't understand this!! I had 3 hen nights (for the same wedding) and they were all a great laugh and one even had strippers and not even once did I think of cheating. My mind was so full of the stress of the big day and the emotions were so high, all I could think of was my future husband. I can't understand these peoples mindframes, your about to get married for Gods sake, your about to commit to someone for the rest of your life, why the hell would you cheat on them? It just makes no sense!! I have been chatted up by so many stags and when you mention their future wife, they seem so surprised like they've forgotten this girl who they've promised to spend the rest of their life with and grow old with and maybe have kids with.......Oh my God, I just really can't understand it!!!

easyontheeye · 13-07-2006 12:27PM

But what the girls/lads that chase the stag/hen knowing he/she is something they cant have and try to be has last lay, are they evil? or is it in their nature to want what they can't have?

LadyJ · 13-07-2006 12:40PM

easyontheeye wrote:

But what the girls/lads that chase the stag/hen knowing he/she is something they cant have and try to be has last lay, are they evil? or is it in their nature to want what they can't have?

Not evil,just not really their problem after that night I suppose so inconsiderate is more the word.

Personally,I hate the idea of having a hen night with a bunch of women. Most of my friends are guys. I have about three female friends so,I reckon, if I get married then I'll probably just have a joint party with my partner.

Also,if I was to go out with just my friends then I sincerely doubt that any of them would let me do something as stupid as cheating the night before my wedding.

Only reason I'd ever marry someone would be if I was sure there was no one else I wanted more. So if some randomer in a bar can tempt me more than the thought of a happy life with my partner on the night before my wedding then I'll know not to get married the next day.

Bacchus · 13-07-2006 12:48PM

I don't understand how anyone could do something like that. If you are marrying someone, you obviously love her/him (unless it's some sort of arranged/forced marraige). In which case why would you betray that person and risk everything just when you were about to start a whole life together. It just doesn't make sense.

To be honest, the whole cheating thing doesn't make sense to me. If you don't love the person you are going out with or don't see a future with them and you want to be with someone else, break up with your current partner first. Don't be a dick and cheat on someone who trusts you. It's a scumbag thing to do.

Tar.Aldarion · 13-07-2006 12:57PM

Dealing with hen parties every night at work(urgh), a lot of people do unfortunately.

Bacchus · 13-07-2006 01:08PM

You should take incriminating photos and hand them out during the wedding cermony

easyontheeye · 13-07-2006 01:16PM

I heard a story one time..not sure if it is true,

a groom found out his wife to be was having it off with the best man, so he hired a private detective to follow her and take some photos etc, anyway it turned out they were, so he went ahead with the 50k wedding that the brides father was paying for

so at the reception after the wedding he stood up and thanked everyone for attending and to show his appreciation by leaving an A4 envelope for everyone in the audience

in the envelope was a picture of the bride and the best man in bed!!

the groom then stood up then told the bride and the best man were to go and said im off to get this marriage anulled and thanks for the 50k dinner! lol

whatsupdoc? · 13-07-2006 01:25PM

tax reasons?

classic

a groom found out his wife to be was having it off with the best

I've heard that story before, think it's one of those
"not sure if it's true or not but it's a good one anyway"

GAA widow · 13-07-2006 07:23PM

jd wrote:

Those kind of hen/stag nights are for crass skanger types..

Yeah, I agree....although there are exceptions to every rule.

Chakar · 13-07-2006 07:25PM

Bacchus wrote:

I don't understand how anyone could do something like that. If you are marrying someone, you obviously love her/him (unless it's some sort of arranged/forced marraige). In which case why would you betray that person and risk everything just when you were about to start a whole life together. It just doesn't make sense.

To be honest, the whole cheating thing doesn't make sense to me. If you don't love the person you are going out with or don't see a future with them and you want to be with someone else, break up with your current partner first. Don't be a dick and cheat on someone who trusts you. It's a scumbag thing to do.

Its a bit different when you're drunk, randy and there's temptation.:rolleyes:

GAA widow · 13-07-2006 07:45PM

Have been on a good few hen nights and cheating never even entered the equation. When my time rolls around I'd never even dream of cheating, kinda defeats the purpose of getting married, wouldn't it?
Have heard a girl who met her husband on her hen night when engaged to another guy. Classy or wha?
I'd hate to think what was on that Channel 4 programme last night would be considered the norm - "what happens on the stag stays on the stag" and all that rubbish but from reading the posts it seems most Irish guys are decent enough sorts!

faceman · 13-07-2006 08:20PM

easyontheeye wrote:

hi,

just curious what do people think of one more fling on the hens/stag night? if you could get away with it, would you? Have many ppl done it?

why do flings have to stop at your hen/stag? Is that a rule or somethin?

leche solara · 13-07-2006 08:23PM

without hesitation

Would you be unfaithful on your stags/hen night?

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