Would you be unfaithful on your stags/hen night?

easyontheeye

hi,

just curious what do people think of one more fling on the hens/stag night? if you could get away with it, would you? Have many ppl done it?

DonkeyRhubarb

Im sure millions of people around the world have done it, but Ireland is a small place and people talk. Need I say any more?

jor el

You watching that Stag/Hen show on Channel 4 now too?

Not married so, no.

easyontheeye

jor el wrote:

You watching that Stag/Hen show on Channel 4 now too?

Not married so, no.

yeah I am, kinda makes you think

Royale with Cheese

If you're going to cheat on your fiancé just before the wedding then you really shouldn't be getting married.

easyontheeye

it seems to be rampant out there, do you believe we are meant to be monomagous?

Nightwish

Hen/Stag nights generally piss me off. I intend not to have one, but if I did there is no way I'd ever ever ever be unfaithful.

easyontheeye

there seems to be this view that its your last night of freedom... but its viewed as sexual freedom? do you agree with this?

Nightwish

I dont see it as a night of "freedom". Freedom from what exactly? I dont want to experience anything and anyone else before I marry my bf. I dont see marriage as being something which binds me.

easyontheeye

is it not meant to be your last night as a single person? isnt that what it has become now? to be honest it makes me sick when i hear of ppl misbehaving just before they are to get married.

seamus

I think it all depends on the company. If your mates are the type of people who'll say "Go on, it's your last night before you're married, we won't say anything, here's a cheap hooker", then plenty of people are likely to cave to the pressure (of course after the oiling effects of alcohol). And it's not just men. Gangs of horny women can be just as bad. It's an attitude thing - in some circles it's "OK" (hush, hush). In others it's not.

On the other hand, if you're with a big pile of people who know and like/respect your partner, then you're less likely to find yourself getting pushed into doing it.

And then there are plenty of people who don't need to be pushed.

Agent Smith

Royale with Cheese wrote:

If you're going to cheat on your fiancé just before the wedding then you really shouldn't be getting married.

what s/he said...

easyontheeye

i've known girls who "you would think" are as nice as pie and love their bf's, but once they actually go out they go looking for a shag on a night out.. and also one girl in particular is the type that would set out to pull the stag!

jd

easyontheeye wrote:

yeah I am, kinda makes you think

Those kind of hen/stag nights are for crass skanger types, so , no, it didn't make me think..

WhiteWashMan

easyontheeye wrote:

hi,

just curious what do people think of one more fling on the hens/stag night? if you could get away with it, would you? Have many ppl done it?

no i didnt, and no i wouldnt.

easyontheeye

well its reassuring that most ppl are decent that have responded!

Idgeitman

Never, Defeats the purpose of loyalty.

Ruu_Old

Im married, I didn't and the thought had never entered my mind.

simu

No, what a terrible thing to do!

OSiriS

easyontheeye wrote:

it seems to be rampant out there, do you believe we are meant to be monomagous?

Why would someone get married if they didn't intend to be monogamous?

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

tax reasons?

easyontheeye

we all get tempting feelings married or not, what I am saying is do you believe we are meant to ignore them ? is monogamy natural? are we going against nature?

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

you realise you're goign against nature whenever you cook your meat, wear clothes and watch television right?

it's kind of our thing..

easyontheeye

Mordeth wrote:

you realise you're goign against nature whenever you cook your meat, wear clothes and watch television right?

it's kind of our thing..

but that is more or less accepted in society

Gandhi

easyontheeye wrote:

we all get tempting feelings married or not, what I am saying is do you believe we are meant to ignore them ? is monogamy natural? are we going against nature?

Monogamy is as natural as using toothpaste and toilet paper. Though admittedly, your wife would figure out you had quit on the hygiene products rather quickly.

Sparky

No way would I. Honestly if I'm going to be marrying the woman I love, I would have the respect for her to be faithfull. Likewise I would be the same even if we were going out together.

Chinafoot

easyontheeye wrote:

is it not meant to be your last night as a single person? isnt that what it has become now?

Uhmm...surely if you are going to marry the person you have already made the commitment?

No excuses for cheating...ever.

Chakar

Of course not but if you want to cheat there's nothing stopping ya.

Dizzyblabla

I was in Spain recently, met a group of lads out at a stag do, the future groom chatted me up openly in front of 3 of his future brothers in law?? I was amazed, and reminded him of his future wedding. He didn't seem a bit bothered and neither did his fiancée's brothers, I was told 'what goes on tour, stays on tour'... needless to say he was turned down, but I just couldn't believe he was doing it!

Karoma

Chakar wrote:

Of course not but if you want to cheat there's nothing stopping ya.

Except perhaps having to explain to your spouse why they have a new itch,etc?

An almost worthwhile thread. Thank you. I had often wondered about this as I had the impression that the majority of people see a stag/hen night as an excuse for one last fling.

humbert

regarding it as a last night of(sexual or otherwise) freedom is bullshit immature cowardly rubbish, however there are plenty of immature cowards out there and plenty of bullshit rubbish relationships so I think the hen/stag night, or cheating in general, is really only a symptom of the problem...

Bob the Builder

Well, I'm 14 and belioeve that if I was unfaithful to my *future* wife, she obviously didn't make me happy.

If I'm going to go out on a fling when I have marriage in mind one night before, will I go out on a fling when I'm 15-20yrs married....YES

...and one night before your wedding is a bad time to risk your wife finding out you had a fling...

I hear stories, this one on the radio of one case where both the wife and the husband agreed to swap spouses at weekends, by that I mean, I'll take my wife's friend for a night whereas she can have my male friend for a night of sex. It sounds funny, how that couple were in agreement to do that...I wouldn't say its rare or anything to find these cases.

Chakar

Well, I'm 14

Isn't it past your bedtime?

Well he just said he was 14!!!

Nehpets

Chakar wrote:

Isn't it past your bedtime?

Aard

Title of the thread actually shocked me.

Tar.Aldarion

No, ridiculous suggestion. if I'm getting married then I'm in love, so I couldn't anyway.

Black Swan

Why bother tying the knot? Those that play immediately before their wedding night, will play with others after.:rolleyes:

The Sweeper

It is pretty pointless to cheat on your future spouse on your Stag or Hen party. If you do it then and put it down to drink, you'll just be at it on every major night out on your own - someone's birthday, the office christmas party, so on, so forth.

I had a hag party before I got married (joint stag and hen). There was no point in anything else - everyone we knew either had partners who'd be at one or other event, or were mates of the people who'd be at one or other event. They would've just spent the night texting each other - far better to put them all in the one place and have a massive knees up!

oulu

Its your only time that you can and not feel like its cheating, It is your one a only wavier in life that allows you to have sexual pleasure with a stranger and not feel like you have cheated.Because you have not as you have that wavier but make sure to carry it when on your Stag/Hen night

boy_wonder

I was on a Stag in Kilkenny a few years ago.
I was shocked and disgusted to hear that the groom to be had scored and didn't go home alone. I was even more shocked and disgusted when i learnt that he had scored a "bride-to-be" that was one hen weekend.
No morals or conscience people?!

fuzzywiggle

No. Definitely would not. Apart from all the loyalty, love and trust issues, imagine if your future wife/husband found out, the wedding would more than likely be cancelled :eek:

Brian McFadden cheated on Kerry on his stag :rolleyes:

The Hill Billy

Why waste perfectly good drinking time on a stag night by spending time trying to get your end away?

carbonkid

Can kinda see the drunken logic of well im going to be 100% faithful for the rest of my life so this is my last chance to sleep with someone else...man i never wanna get married!!! But say the guilt the next day will ruin your wedding day, wont be so special then ya slapper

daveg

WhiteWashMan wrote:

no i didnt, and no i wouldnt.

Ditto.

Chakar

Hill Billy wrote:

Why waste perfectly good drinking time on a stag night by spending time trying to get your end away?

Theres something called multi-tasking apparently you can do and think of two things or more at a time.

blorg

Dreadful idea and on none of the stags that I've been on was the stag unfaithful. A stag weekend _can_ believe it or not just be an excuse to have a guy's weekend away with your best friends.

seamus

oulu wrote:

Its your only time that you can and not feel like its cheating, It is your one a only wavier in life that allows you to have sexual pleasure with a stranger and not feel like you have cheated.Because you have not as you have that wavier but make sure to carry it when on your Stag/Hen night

That's what idiots think. This "waiver" is fine if both parties agree to it, and are happy with it, but if a person automatically assumes that it exists simply because it's their stag/hen then they're an idiot. Same type of idiot who believes it's not cheating when you're in another country or when it's your birthday.
If you're marrying one of these idiots, then you're also an idiot.

The Hill Billy

Chakar wrote:

Theres something called multi-tasking apparently you can do and think of two things or more at a time.

Multi-tasking is just another way of doing more than one thing in a half-assed manner.

If you're going to do something right - you need to give it your full attention.

You'd never find Father Jack with a bottle of whiskey in one hand & the other up a nun.
A giant among men!

fabcat

I really don't understand this!! I had 3 hen nights (for the same wedding) and they were all a great laugh and one even had strippers and not even once did I think of cheating. My mind was so full of the stress of the big day and the emotions were so high, all I could think of was my future husband. I can't understand these peoples mindframes, your about to get married for Gods sake, your about to commit to someone for the rest of your life, why the hell would you cheat on them? It just makes no sense!! I have been chatted up by so many stags and when you mention their future wife, they seem so surprised like they've forgotten this girl who they've promised to spend the rest of their life with and grow old with and maybe have kids with.......Oh my God, I just really can't understand it!!!

easyontheeye

But what the girls/lads that chase the stag/hen knowing he/she is something they cant have and try to be has last lay, are they evil? or is it in their nature to want what they can't have?

LadyJ

easyontheeye wrote:

But what the girls/lads that chase the stag/hen knowing he/she is something they cant have and try to be has last lay, are they evil? or is it in their nature to want what they can't have?

Not evil,just not really their problem after that night I suppose so inconsiderate is more the word.

Personally,I hate the idea of having a hen night with a bunch of women. Most of my friends are guys. I have about three female friends so,I reckon, if I get married then I'll probably just have a joint party with my partner.

Also,if I was to go out with just my friends then I sincerely doubt that any of them would let me do something as stupid as cheating the night before my wedding.

Only reason I'd ever marry someone would be if I was sure there was no one else I wanted more. So if some randomer in a bar can tempt me more than the thought of a happy life with my partner on the night before my wedding then I'll know not to get married the next day.