Can Men & Women really be platonic friends?

GrumPy · 30-06-2006 01:14PM

LadyJ wrote:

A person can be pleasing on the eye without you "fancying" them per se.

WHAAA??!!!!111 :eek:

LadyJ · 30-06-2006 01:56PM

Irish GrumPy wrote:

WHAAA??!!!!111 :eek:

Shocking,I know! :rolleyes:

Vegeta · 30-06-2006 02:07PM

Good question.

There are a guys and girls who are capable of being just friends and i am jealous of you congratulations.

what i hate is people going "why are you even asking this" Read the replies lots of people are unable to have this kind of a relationship, myself included. So don't be so narrow minded

abetarrush · 30-06-2006 02:14PM

I think it's all about the girl

Some of my lady friends are ****in legends, but they're still girls, and they aint mingers at all!

Different for me a lil, cos I get on well with me sister

Dave! · 30-06-2006 02:16PM

Yes.

As long as they are ugly.

deedee lepoopoo · 30-06-2006 02:16PM

Of course male and females can have platonic freindships........

I have tonnes of male friends, who I have a laugh with. Great fun.

There is no underlying tension as far as I know.

If there was any attraction it usually rears its head at the start and then it's usually ironed out and goes away.:)

I can't understand people who cannot have friends of the opposite s*x without wanting to rattle their bones!!!!!

iceman_2001_ie · 30-06-2006 02:51PM

Only under very specific and narrow circumstance.

Straight men and straight women can never be "just" Platonic friends as both have the capacity to be attracted to the other.

Straight women and gay men can never be "just" Platonic friends as the woman has the capacity to be attracted to the other.
The same goes for Straight Men and gay women.

Only in two specific situations can one be truly in a platonic relationship with a member of the opposite sex -
1. Gay men and gay women
2. Siblings

nitrogen · 30-06-2006 02:54PM

As Chris Rock says, Men have two different types of female friends. Women they're fcuked and women they want to fcuk.

I'd have to agree with that 80% of the time.

dabbler2004 · 30-06-2006 02:56PM

I'm good friends for the last 10 years with a girl I work with. She's not ugly or 'minging' (hate that word!:mad: ) but there never has been or never will be anything else but friendship going on. She's married and I know her husband too and he doesn't have a problem with our friendship.

I seem to get on better with women rather than fellas anyway, don't know why just always been that way...

LadyJ · 30-06-2006 02:56PM

nitrogen wrote:

As Chris Rock says, Men have two different types of female friends. Women they're fcuked and women they want to fcuk.

I'd have to agree with that 80% of the time.

That's based on the idea that all men think exactly the same,which is not true.

LegacyUser · 30-06-2006 02:57PM

of course

Nalz · 30-06-2006 02:59PM

daRobot wrote:

....affected by their single sex school education.

yeah I reckon thats one of the reasons alright, good call

sunzz · 30-06-2006 03:06PM

I honest to god think it just depends on the individual at hand.

30-06-2006 03:08PM

daRobot wrote:

Anyone who thinks that men and women can't be platonic friends has been seriously affected by their single sex school education.

It's worrying that people even are asking this.

Totally agree with you. Up to recently I never had female friends, probably because I was in a boys school for most of my schooling. But earlier this year I met two in a matter of days!

Terry · 30-06-2006 03:24PM

i have an extremely beautiful female friend who i am no longer attracted to.
one who phones me and spends an hour talking to me.
it can work for some people.

Zapp Brannigan · 30-06-2006 03:28PM

I think they can.

I've been friends with a girl pal of mine since 3rd year and we've never had any sort of sexual tension or anything like that. We've just always been really good friends. And she's not an uggo either

But after such a long friendship I tend not to see her as female, to me she is one of the lads now.

Lust4Life · 30-06-2006 06:54PM

It really depends on the circumstances.
I have always related better to men than to women.
I like shoe shopping too, but women seem to be more mistrustful of other women. And I just do not have time for those kinds of games.
I would rather discuss wood working projects or home improvement projects than where I get my nails done!

My husband hates to go out dancing and Pubbing. His best bud LOVES to go! His wife hates it as well. Me and the best bud go pubbing and leave the spouses home (It is not an often occurrence, only monthly). No chance ever of a sexual relationship. We just have fun! Our spouses totally understand.

So it depends on the people. But I do agree there must be no sexual attraction on either part or it will not work.

Just my 2 cents.

L4L

faceman · 30-06-2006 08:56PM

easyontheeye wrote:

unless she fell off the ugly tree, other than that...NO!

Yeah i think you hit the nail on the head with this one.

30-06-2006 09:06PM

Yes, of course...

Bounty Hunter · 30-06-2006 09:14PM

bluewolf wrote:

Yes, of course...

gotta agree here especially if she's fat.

no joking aside, it is quite possible tho it is often hard to get past an initial attraction, as im sure most people have experienced.

Savman · 30-06-2006 10:18PM

nitrogen wrote:

As Chris Rock says, Men have two different types of female friends. Women they're fcuked and women they want to fcuk.

That man knows everything.

:D

Nalz · 30-06-2006 10:21PM

faceman wrote:

Yeah i think you hit the nail on the head with this one.

naah, you missed the nail by a good bit, especially if your with someone and youve been mates with some of her mates, or mutual friends...or just girls ya went to school with that ya know are alrigt lookin but not for you.

faceman · 30-06-2006 10:26PM

Trilla wrote:

naah, you missed the nail by a good bit, especially if your with someone and youve been mates with some of her mates, or mutual friends...or just girls ya went to school with that ya know are alrigt lookin but not for you.

not necessarily, all of me missus' friends want me. In fact most females i know either bonked me or fancy me.

Nalz · 30-06-2006 10:28PM

faceman wrote:

not necessarily, all of me missus' friends want me. In fact most females i know either bonked me or fancy me.

good 4 you man! like ya said not necessarily, it all depends on the person dont ya think? suprised this thread lasted this long tbh

Tar.Aldarion · 30-06-2006 10:38PM

Yes they can, I'm really bad at it with some friends(well exfriends) though.

Anyway, usually that doesn't happen. It is hard though, as the type of people you want to be friends with are the type of people you would be attracted to.

whatastupidname · 30-06-2006 11:22PM

Of course they can! You can have a laugh with the opposite sex without having an ulterior motive and its always good to get the opinion of the opposite sex to get a different perspective on things...

thehomeofDob · 30-06-2006 11:49PM

I'd say maybe - but again, all depends on the person. My best friend is a girl, we started hangin around with each other 3 or 4 years ago, went out for about a month, became best friends durin that time and it stayed up until now. She's gorgeous, and although I'd be okay with something happening (on a crazy drunken night or somethin) it's not a motive of mine.

Anyway, I have the hottest girlfriend going, she was weird about my girl-friend for a bit, but it's all good now

neoB · 01-07-2006 12:01AM

steve06 wrote:

Platonic friends that you want to get it on with.....

hehehe. I've plenty of guy friends and they are just friends and vice versa.
I don't see why it can't work out that way if you have **** loads in common.
Although I have to admit some of them i wouldn't mind, having a fling with....

Tar.Aldarion · 01-07-2006 12:08AM

neoB wrote:

I don't see why it can't work out that way if you have **** loads in common.

Because you are a girl. Mens minds are so um, different.

neoB · 01-07-2006 12:19AM

So they can't be friends like that? 8-) what if the guy doesnt even think the one is even one to sex up and just good to hang out with...

Can Men & Women really be platonic friends?

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