Can you be fat and happy?

Volvoboy · 04-02-2006 09:42PM

I'm sure 99% of overweight happy people would be happier if they were a healthy weight.

Nope, i dont mean to speak for everyone who is overweight bt my personal op is i'm happy with the way i am.

If you were to give me a plastic surgeon for a day and i could have anything i wanted done to my body i wouldnt change a f**king thing.

Ickle Magoo · 04-02-2006 09:44PM

cormie wrote:

happiness is of course the main thing, but if you overweight and happy, you I'm sure 99% of overweight happy people would be happier if they were a healthy weight.

That's very true.....I just meant that I don't think weight is necessarily a good indicator of happiness or health for that matter....I have thinnish friends and podgy friends, one of my thin friends eats crap and smokes 40 a day - she is neither particularly happy nor healthy.....I have a podgy friend who goes to the gym twice a week, is pretty happy in life but likes chocolate and beer a little too much and finds the weight easy to gain & difficult to shift.....I'd say she is both happier and healthier than her slim counterpart - yes, I'd agree she would be happier without the excess weight....but I would also say she'd never swap her spare tyre for the life of the thin girl.....

Tar.Aldarion · 04-02-2006 09:44PM

Clearly it is impossible to be both fat and happy, choose folks.

hullaballoo · 04-02-2006 09:51PM

Blisterman wrote:

Aren't fat people supposed to be jolly?

I laughed so much I peed a bit.

OMcGovern · 04-02-2006 09:53PM

I'm 5' 10", with a 40" waist, 15.5 stone.

I think the biggest factor is psychological self image

I'm reasonable broad and well built, and that's what I see most of the time.
I can be socially extroverted when I think of enough jokes and smart remarks.
I used to be 12 stone in college and had acne..... I looked in the mirror but saw nothing but spots. I was reasonably skinny then.
But I showed my college photo id to a female friend and she went weak at the knees.... I was attractive in college, and only saw the acne, so I rejected girls who were in hindsight "throwing themselves at me".... honestly.... no exaggeration.

If you're fat, don't aim for skinny members of the opposite sex.
Hopefully, you're attracted the girls/guys of a similar "level".
Aim for a female/male version of yourself, and things should work out.

If you're soooo heavy that you have medical problems.... that's a problem admittedly. That could be considered "self destructive behaviour", and may need addressing with counsellors or other more experienced mind fockers :-)

In summary.... if you're fat and it doesn't get in the way of your life/objectives, then you're probably feeling okay about it.
I like cute 'n' curvy women... so I don't see a problem.
Everyone goes through the ups and downs of life, and I'd be surprised if someone didn't have what they considered to be at least a weeks worth of depression at some stage in their life.

regards,
Owen

jesus_thats_gre · 04-02-2006 09:55PM

cormie wrote:

Maybe you never think about it, but would you not prefer to be a bit more slim? If done correctly it would mean you will be far more healthier. Would you not prefer that, would you not be happier knowing you were more healthy?

Of course you would like to be slimmer as it is associated with being more attractive and has the benefit of being healty.

Cutie18Ireland · 04-02-2006 10:04PM

yes!!!
im a size 20, 5ft 8ish
and 15st and yeah i am happy!!
and i am active and healthy!!

GrumPy · 04-02-2006 10:07PM

im 5'11 (no less then 5'10 anyways) 30 waist, and just over 9stone, i'll be 18 in just over 2 months- i need to eat

:eek:

Attol · 04-02-2006 10:50PM

I'm 10 stone and about 2 pounds. I'm 165 cms tall. I'm an 18 year old girl and I feel like a whale. I'm just above a size 12 hip wise (size 31) and size 12 on top. I used to be a size 10 yet still felt I was so fat. I didn't realise until after I'd gained loads of weight (due to moving away from my social life, friends etc. and just eating out of boredom) how thin I'd been. I'm having so much trouble shifting the stone and a bit that I want to get rid of. You just don't appreciate how you look if you don't have confidence in your physical appearance. I wouldn't consider myself particularly shy or anything, I just don't appreciate what I have lookswise.

It depends totally on the person. Also different people carry it off differently and everyone has their own perception of beauty. To be honest I can't think of any girls that I have known that have been 100% happy with their appearance regardless of shape or size.

OMcGovern · 04-02-2006 11:12PM

Yeah, girls are a lot more vulnerable to negative self image than guys.
I'd a female friend, absolutely lovely looking, and soooooo thin that a figure hugging surfing wet suit actually looked loose on her, who just thought she had flabby tricepts ( underarm flabbiness ).

I think guys tend to have a positive self image, and girls a negative one.
Maybe cos "society" expects girls to look good.
Although I reckon that's more female competitiveness / bitchiness, than what guys expect.

I'd like to suggest that one of the psychologically healthiest things you can do is have a close friend of the opposite sex.... someone you tell tell anything too, and get honest opinions whether you like the answers or not.

regards,
Owen

Rb · 04-02-2006 11:19PM

Fat people can be happy imo, of course they can.
That said, an awful lot of fat people would be unhappy about being fat which would probably affect their overall happiness but I'm sure theres plenty of fat people that just couldn't give a sh1te and are happy with how they live.

LadyLotts: Size 12 is nothing to worry about, the average size of women that I help in the store I work in would have 29-31 inch waists and I wouldn't call them fat at all.

Azureus · 05-02-2006 01:34AM

of course they can be happy, provided theyre healthy theres no reason for someone overweight not to be. that said, the stick insect world we live in probably has a negative effect on many bigger people (same as it does everyone else i suppose!) it depends on the character of the person.

R0ot · 05-02-2006 02:59AM

Im a skinny runt, i eat a load of crap and i still aint gained a pound, on the flip side i do train alot, and play alot of basketball, but im a big gamer too. My g/f hates me when i can eat a load more than her and nothing happens, im told ill get fat soon, all the time, but im 19 now and still nothing

cormie · 05-02-2006 03:04AM

I'm so jealous of people like you root!! The amount of healthy eating I do and it takes so long to show any results. Damn you:v:

slightlycrazy · 05-02-2006 03:06AM

Is 12 and 1/2 stone at 6ft 3 overweight?? With a 32 inch waist?

Rb · 05-02-2006 03:14AM

slightlycrazy wrote:

Is 12 and 1/2 stone at 6ft 3 overweight?? With a 32 inch waist?

no.
Well, check your bodyfat percentage or ask your GP 'cause everyones different.

plonk · 05-02-2006 03:16AM

I would say every fat person would be happier if they lost weight.

cormie · 05-02-2006 03:48AM

slightlycrazy wrote:

Is 12 and 1/2 stone at 6ft 3 overweight?? With a 32 inch waist?

That sounds like a healthy weight for sure, but this is only detemined by weight and height, you may be that weight with an unhealthy diet so it all depends.

slipss · 05-02-2006 03:57AM

yeah of course fat people can be happy, but that deosn't mean they should be happy about being fat, or that they wouldn't be happier if they weren't fat. Not being fat is always better than being fat, your healthier, more attractive and generally happier because you have one less thing to worry about. There isn't really an excuse for being fat, if you exercise and eat healthy food then you won't be fat. I'm a big supporter of people being themselves and all that but not when its just lazy uninformed or careless.

embee · 05-02-2006 11:38AM

Your own level of happiness is not directly proportional to your weight.

If that was the case, all skinny people would be unhappy, and all fat people would be happy.

backflip · 05-02-2006 11:48AM

slightlycrazy wrote:

Is 12 and 1/2 stone at 6ft 3 overweight?? With a 32 inch waist?

Well i'm 12 and 1/2 at 5ft 10. And i doubt i'm overweight!! And i doubt you are too.

Slug · 05-02-2006 11:51AM

Most people will be happy, no matter what they look like and don't care what others think of them! So i think you can be fat and happy but can also have your off days!

toffeapple · 05-02-2006 03:44PM

Why did you ask the question if you have answered it yourself?
Your giving all the lardies an excuse to pipe up and talk all "oprah" about how great it is to have inner beauty...and for the ladies to come in with

10 stone and about 2 pounds. I'm 165 cms tall. I'm an 18 year old girl and I feel like a whale. I'm just above a size 12 hip wise (size 31) and size 12 on top. I used to be a size 10 yet still felt I was so fat. I didn't realise

no one cares fu#k off

Attol · 05-02-2006 04:03PM

toffeapple wrote:

no one cares fu#k off

I was actually answering the question. That does tend to be the point of forums.

toffeapple · 05-02-2006 04:07PM

LadyLotts wrote:

I was actually answering the question. That does tend to be the point of forums.

The question was can you be fat and happy?
not can we have a run down of your weight and how much you lost?

10 stone is hardly fat so you dont even qualify...you under the misguided impression that people want to now about your exact weight and diet etc ...they don't I don't...why don’t ya start a thread " lets talk about me and my weight and how it fluctuates" and see how many people reply

... as i said fu#k off

Attol · 05-02-2006 04:16PM

And what about all the other posters? So you want people to just post yes or no answers? That'd make an interesting conversation. I was posting my experiences as I feel that girls are going to be seen as fat more often than guys. It depends on the situation of a person and if you would care to read the rest of the posts in this thread you may see that I was not the only person to answer in this fashion. You appear to be trolling the forums as all the posts I have seen from you are negative and are attacking other posters.

cormie · 05-02-2006 04:47PM

toffeapple wrote:

... as i said fu#k off

Calm down buddy, It's ok, deep breaths! Ssssh:)

xzanti · 05-02-2006 04:51PM

I personally couldnt be happpy... I went up to a size 14 a few years ago and I hated it.. Not just my appearance but I felt physically uncomfortable too, my clothes all felt tight on me and I got pretty down in the dumps.. thankfully I lost it and Im a size 8-10 now.. Some people can carry a few extra pounds and still look great but it did not suit me at all..

cormie · 05-02-2006 05:03PM

Cool well done Xzanti, you don't look over weight at all now. By the way, what's a size 14/8/10 in guy terms

also, in weight terms... what weight were you when you were a size 14?

TerrorFirmer · 05-02-2006 05:12PM

toffeapple wrote:

The question was can you be fat and happy?
not can we have a run down of your weight and how much you lost?

10 stone is hardly fat so you dont even qualify...you under the misguided impression that people want to now about your exact weight and diet etc ...they don't I don't...why don’t ya start a thread " lets talk about me and my weight and how it fluctuates" and see how many people reply

... as i said fu#k off

What he's trying to say here is "You aren't fat by any stretch, it's silly to think so with those statistics"

Can you be fat and happy?

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