Best Place To Meet Someone New

FoXXy · 2005-11-06 20:21:08

Theres the age old question haunting us single girls ( or guys )... where do we go to meet the next mister right? i've asked friends and every one has a different answer about where to go to find a guy... so lets put it to you lot, see wot happens :)

06-11-2005 09:21PM

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Theres the age old question haunting us single girls ( or guys )... where do we go to meet the next mister right?

i've asked friends and every one has a different answer about where to go to find a guy... so lets put it to you lot, see wot happens

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#2 06-11-2005 09:26PM

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I must have started at least two threads and replied to countless since I joined Boards asking the very same question.

People on here will tell you College, they'll then say if you're in College, join clubs and socs etc etc.

I personally think you're either lucky or unlucky when it comes to meeting potential girlfriends/boyfriends, many people I know float from relationship to relationship obliviously, where some people I know (including myself) never meet anyone. I don't think there's a clear cut answer in where to specifically meet a potential mate. The only thing I can say to you is maybe you can get your friends to see if they know anyone nice already that they could introduce to you. I've said it before and I'll say it again, I don't think you can find love in a club or a pub (there are a few exceptions to this rule though)

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#3 06-11-2005 09:27PM

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You could always come to my house!:D

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#4 06-11-2005 09:31PM

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Sweet wrote:

You could always come to my house!:D

<slaps head>Doh!

Well, it sounds like a great idea sweet and I know you were talking to the original poster, but if you're a crusty old bastard like me at 22.. going around to peoples houses isn't gonna do much!

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#5 06-11-2005 09:39PM

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I have the same problem, wheres the best place to go to meet a nice girl because I never met a nice girl in a pub/club. Its so hard to find a nice decent girl im 21 and still havent had a girl friend, im not ugly at all or anything just find it hard looking for a girl..

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#6 06-11-2005 09:42PM

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Friends of friends can be a good bet.

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#7 06-11-2005 09:42PM

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massimo wrote:

I have the same problem, wheres the best place to go to meet a nice girl because I never met a nice girl in a pub/club. Its so hard to find a nice decent girl im 21 and still havent had a girl friend, im not ugly at all or anything just find it hard looking for a girl..

pub and nightclubs are the worst places, join a club or society that your interested in and you will meet a person with similar hobbies ect!

love is always in the place you least expect it and when you least expect it! I met my fiancee through mutual friends at a new years party! didnt expect it and we are 3 years together

don't go out with the aim to meet someone, it happens when you least expect it:)

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#8 06-11-2005 10:03PM

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There are no socs in college that interest me though. I have very different interests (like astronomy and stuff related), than my friends have and I often find it hard to talk to girls knowing what to say and stuff.
I need to find a lovely girl who has the same areas of interest, well she doesnt have to but it wud be nice. Id be a long time looking though..

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#9 06-11-2005 10:04PM

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The only thing romantic with the suggestion of joining clubs and socs to meet nice girls/boys is the suggestion itself. When in college, I joined clubs and socs initially for a laugh, if I met someone there too; all well and good. I didn't though, it's just an easy phrase to come out with when suggesting a place to meet people. I think a lot of people in college already have boyfriends/girlfriends anyway and the popular response for singles in college is to go out and get pissed.

Irrespective of that for a minute, what is peoples advice to someone who wants to meet a nice girl/boy who is no longer in college?... clubs and socs?

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#10 06-11-2005 11:06PM

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massimo:
What kinda course are you doing?

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#11 06-11-2005 11:28PM

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im doing physics why?

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#12 06-11-2005 11:35PM

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No chance you could get to do an erasmus year/semester?

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#13 06-11-2005 11:39PM

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Laguna wrote:

<slaps head>Doh!

Well, it sounds like a great idea sweet and I know you were talking to the original poster, but if you're a crusty old bastard like me at 22.. going around to peoples houses isn't gonna do much!

I beg to differ and I'm crustier than thou ...
http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=318615

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#14 06-11-2005 11:39PM

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Hold on here, there is no IDEAL place to meet Mister or Missus right/ a new realtionship partner type person, it doesnt happen that way.

You might meet some1 in a club/pub u might meet some1 on a bus when it happens it happens, just wait for it to happen otherwise it might never happen if ur too egar.
Been there done it, as in when i go out lookin to score some1 and do, then start hopin for a realtionship it doesnt happen
When im not going out to score i always end up wit a really nice girl/potential girlfriend but i aint ready for that yet after my last realtionship
And to finish my point it will happen when u lest expect it so stop thinking about it and enjoy yourselves.
(Ps a little drunk writing this)

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#15 06-11-2005 11:40PM

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these clubs and societys people keep suggesting must have a massive sexual undercurrent to them if people go to them to meet potential boyfriends/girlfriends

the key to meeting someone is to not want to meet someone. and confidence helps too. not being interested in anyone has worked for me for the past couple of years. when i was actually interested or open to the idea of meeting somone and having a relationship i was getting nowhere.

its just how things work. people can smell desperation i reckon

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#16 06-11-2005 11:50PM

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you all are trying too hard. Just come out of a ten year relationship and I'm meeting men EVERYWHERE - Bus stops , clubs , viewing apartments - make it look like you aint trying girls

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#17 06-11-2005 11:51PM

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FoXXy wrote:

Theres the age old question haunting us single girls ( or guys )... where do we go to meet the next mister right?

i've asked friends and every one has a different answer about where to go to find a guy... so lets put it to you lot, see wot happens

Stop desperately trying to find a guy... Or lower your standards...

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#18 07-11-2005 01:39AM

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Hmm...the only advice I can give is, just keep your eyes open, and when you see/meet someone you like just do it, just say f**k it and go and make the effort. Too many people pass up countless opportunities because they are too shy or whatever. Fair enough, but while your there counting out the reasons why you shouldnt do something about it ("umm, what if he/she says this, says that", "what if theyve got a girl/boyfriend" - b0ll0x!), your missing another chance to meet someone who could be great.

Aswell, as Dr. Phil says, you need to place yourself in a "target-rich environment"...ie, not sitting on your arse watching tv.

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#19 07-11-2005 02:25AM

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it just happens to be honest, the whole pub/club thing is dated anyways as then the drink is talking so its not real. But there are some exceptions.
Ive met my girlfriend from feb, before we broke up, through my friends, it was better anyways as we kinda hung out for a while and built up a friendship that turned into a relationship. But we found it easier to be friends due to work etc.

Anyways im single and am in no hurry to get back into a relationship, that said if something comes and hits me at that moment ill take it.

Then theres the boards beers

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#20 07-11-2005 02:52AM

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Drapper wrote:

pub and nightclubs are the worst places

That's just not true. A friend of mine brings (very pretty) girls home with him every single time he goes out. Most of these girls want to become his girlfriend.

He's good looking (although nothing special.) Tall. A bit of a bastard. Confident.

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jesus_thats_gre wrote:

Stop desperately trying to find a guy...

I agree with this completely. I reckon this is your main problem as to why you can't find a guy. There is nothing more unattractive than a girl who is desperate (i.e. activily looking for men.) I do believe this works both ways.

Just spend more time in social situations: parties, pubs, language meetings (if you're into foreigners), human rights organisations, writing/art/acting classes, etc etc etc. Sitting at home wondering why you're single is not helping your odds. You gotta get out there consistantly!

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#21 07-11-2005 03:04AM

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Right here: http://boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=309481

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#22 07-11-2005 03:24AM

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You could always try an online dating site...I know its a bit cheesy and a bit like shopping for a guy, but you never know...?!

Or as someone else suggested do an evening class, volunteer with an NGO, find a book club...

If you can get some mates together there are debate nights at a place called Crawdaddy in town which I read about a while ago that are apparently heaving hotbeds of unbridled physical attraction and intellectual stimulation...

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#23 07-11-2005 03:29AM

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Become an overweight, semi-funny "comedian" and get a TV show.

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#24 07-11-2005 03:30AM

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aidan_walsh wrote:

Become an overweight, semi-funny "comedian" and get a TV show.

LOL, or become a millionaire...

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#25 07-11-2005 05:02AM

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What ever happened to the innocent days when fledglings would go a boppin' in the local discothèque to the classic chantys such as "Danny boy" and "Fields of Athenry"? Being a gentlemen, a nice young master would ask his ladyfriend for his hand as they waltz the night away, and it would be the most indulging sexual experience for the two innocent whippersnappers ever.
But alas, now a mere drunkard can "fob off" with his pick of the unchaste alcohol-fuelled mistresses. The public foreplay is a visible treat for all to behold as he jostles his fingers into her arse orifice.
Ahh, those were the days... the innocent days. :rolleyes:

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#26 07-11-2005 09:53AM

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embraer170 wrote:

No chance you could get to do an erasmus year/semester?

im on an erasmus yr at the min, doesnt mean im finding potential b/Fs??

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#27 07-11-2005 10:12AM

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FoXXy wrote:

Theres the age old question haunting us single girls ( or guys )... where do we go to meet the next mister right?

i've asked friends and every one has a different answer about where to go to find a guy... so lets put it to you lot, see wot happens

Ill meet you behind the bike sheds in 5 mins.

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#28 07-11-2005 10:16AM

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Cianos wrote:

Fair enough, but while your there counting out the reasons why you shouldnt do something about it ("umm, what if he/she says this, says that", "what if theyve got a girl/boyfriend" - b0ll0x!), your missing another chance to meet someone who could be great

yea I generally try approach someone I like physically in less than 3 seconds, like if I'm walking by. I dont give myself a chance to say... 'hmm what if'

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#29 07-11-2005 01:52PM

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ando wrote:

yea I generally try approach someone I like physically in less than 3 seconds, like if I'm walking by. I dont give myself a chance to say... 'hmm what if'

You mean in a pub/club environment or anywhere?

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#30 07-11-2005 02:28PM

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A lot of people seem to meet their partner in work.

Though hopefully that doesn't happen to me!!

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#31 07-11-2005 02:36PM

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dublindude wrote:

There is nothing more unattractive than a girl who is desperate (i.e. activily looking for men.)

Actively looking does not mean being desperate. I certainly wasn't put off by the forwardness of American women when I was over there. They have no problems with just starting a conversation with you and maybe giving you their phone number. There's a lot to be said for their approach. I think it's a whole lot better than the 'just wait and it will happen' approach.

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