Best Place To Meet Someone New

FoXXy

Theres the age old question haunting us single girls ( or guys )... where do we go to meet the next mister right?

i've asked friends and every one has a different answer about where to go to find a guy... so lets put it to you lot, see wot happens

Laguna

I must have started at least two threads and replied to countless since I joined Boards asking the very same question.

People on here will tell you College, they'll then say if you're in College, join clubs and socs etc etc.

I personally think you're either lucky or unlucky when it comes to meeting potential girlfriends/boyfriends, many people I know float from relationship to relationship obliviously, where some people I know (including myself) never meet anyone. I don't think there's a clear cut answer in where to specifically meet a potential mate. The only thing I can say to you is maybe you can get your friends to see if they know anyone nice already that they could introduce to you. I've said it before and I'll say it again, I don't think you can find love in a club or a pub (there are a few exceptions to this rule though)

Stompbox

You could always come to my house!:D

Laguna

Sweet wrote:

You could always come to my house!:D

<slaps head>Doh!

Well, it sounds like a great idea sweet and I know you were talking to the original poster, but if you're a crusty old bastard like me at 22.. going around to peoples houses isn't gonna do much!

massimo

I have the same problem, wheres the best place to go to meet a nice girl because I never met a nice girl in a pub/club. Its so hard to find a nice decent girl im 21 and still havent had a girl friend, im not ugly at all or anything just find it hard looking for a girl..

Hugh Hefner

Friends of friends can be a good bet.

Drapper

massimo wrote:

I have the same problem, wheres the best place to go to meet a nice girl because I never met a nice girl in a pub/club. Its so hard to find a nice decent girl im 21 and still havent had a girl friend, im not ugly at all or anything just find it hard looking for a girl..

pub and nightclubs are the worst places, join a club or society that your interested in and you will meet a person with similar hobbies ect!

love is always in the place you least expect it and when you least expect it! I met my fiancee through mutual friends at a new years party! didnt expect it and we are 3 years together

don't go out with the aim to meet someone, it happens when you least expect it:)

massimo

There are no socs in college that interest me though. I have very different interests (like astronomy and stuff related), than my friends have and I often find it hard to talk to girls knowing what to say and stuff.
I need to find a lovely girl who has the same areas of interest, well she doesnt have to but it wud be nice. Id be a long time looking though..

Laguna

The only thing romantic with the suggestion of joining clubs and socs to meet nice girls/boys is the suggestion itself. When in college, I joined clubs and socs initially for a laugh, if I met someone there too; all well and good. I didn't though, it's just an easy phrase to come out with when suggesting a place to meet people. I think a lot of people in college already have boyfriends/girlfriends anyway and the popular response for singles in college is to go out and get pissed.

Irrespective of that for a minute, what is peoples advice to someone who wants to meet a nice girl/boy who is no longer in college?... clubs and socs?

embraer170

massimo:
What kinda course are you doing?

massimo

im doing physics why?

embraer170

No chance you could get to do an erasmus year/semester?

White Rabbit

Laguna wrote:

<slaps head>Doh!

Well, it sounds like a great idea sweet and I know you were talking to the original poster, but if you're a crusty old bastard like me at 22.. going around to peoples houses isn't gonna do much!

I beg to differ and I'm crustier than thou ...
http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=318615

KillerShamrock

Hold on here, there is no IDEAL place to meet Mister or Missus right/ a new realtionship partner type person, it doesnt happen that way.

You might meet some1 in a club/pub u might meet some1 on a bus when it happens it happens, just wait for it to happen otherwise it might never happen if ur too egar.
Been there done it, as in when i go out lookin to score some1 and do, then start hopin for a realtionship it doesnt happen
When im not going out to score i always end up wit a really nice girl/potential girlfriend but i aint ready for that yet after my last realtionship
And to finish my point it will happen when u lest expect it so stop thinking about it and enjoy yourselves.
(Ps a little drunk writing this)

el rabitos

these clubs and societys people keep suggesting must have a massive sexual undercurrent to them if people go to them to meet potential boyfriends/girlfriends

the key to meeting someone is to not want to meet someone. and confidence helps too. not being interested in anyone has worked for me for the past couple of years. when i was actually interested or open to the idea of meeting somone and having a relationship i was getting nowhere.

its just how things work. people can smell desperation i reckon

SuzyS1972

you all are trying too hard. Just come out of a ten year relationship and I'm meeting men EVERYWHERE - Bus stops , clubs , viewing apartments - make it look like you aint trying girls

jesus_thats_gre

FoXXy wrote:

Theres the age old question haunting us single girls ( or guys )... where do we go to meet the next mister right?

i've asked friends and every one has a different answer about where to go to find a guy... so lets put it to you lot, see wot happens

Stop desperately trying to find a guy... Or lower your standards...

Cianos

Hmm...the only advice I can give is, just keep your eyes open, and when you see/meet someone you like just do it, just say f**k it and go and make the effort. Too many people pass up countless opportunities because they are too shy or whatever. Fair enough, but while your there counting out the reasons why you shouldnt do something about it ("umm, what if he/she says this, says that", "what if theyve got a girl/boyfriend" - b0ll0x!), your missing another chance to meet someone who could be great.

Aswell, as Dr. Phil says, you need to place yourself in a "target-rich environment"...ie, not sitting on your arse watching tv.

Sparky

it just happens to be honest, the whole pub/club thing is dated anyways as then the drink is talking so its not real. But there are some exceptions.
Ive met my girlfriend from feb, before we broke up, through my friends, it was better anyways as we kinda hung out for a while and built up a friendship that turned into a relationship. But we found it easier to be friends due to work etc.

Anyways im single and am in no hurry to get back into a relationship, that said if something comes and hits me at that moment ill take it.

Then theres the boards beers

AARRRGH

Drapper wrote:

pub and nightclubs are the worst places

That's just not true. A friend of mine brings (very pretty) girls home with him every single time he goes out. Most of these girls want to become his girlfriend.

He's good looking (although nothing special.) Tall. A bit of a bastard. Confident.

...

jesus_thats_gre wrote:

Stop desperately trying to find a guy...

I agree with this completely. I reckon this is your main problem as to why you can't find a guy. There is nothing more unattractive than a girl who is desperate (i.e. activily looking for men.) I do believe this works both ways.

Just spend more time in social situations: parties, pubs, language meetings (if you're into foreigners), human rights organisations, writing/art/acting classes, etc etc etc. Sitting at home wondering why you're single is not helping your odds. You gotta get out there consistantly!

Guy:Incognito

Right here: http://boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=309481

jrey1981

You could always try an online dating site...I know its a bit cheesy and a bit like shopping for a guy, but you never know...?!

Or as someone else suggested do an evening class, volunteer with an NGO, find a book club...

If you can get some mates together there are debate nights at a place called Crawdaddy in town which I read about a while ago that are apparently heaving hotbeds of unbridled physical attraction and intellectual stimulation...

aidan_walsh

Become an overweight, semi-funny "comedian" and get a TV show.

AARRRGH

aidan_walsh wrote:

Become an overweight, semi-funny "comedian" and get a TV show.

LOL, or become a millionaire...

Tiffany

What ever happened to the innocent days when fledglings would go a boppin' in the local discothèque to the classic chantys such as "Danny boy" and "Fields of Athenry"? Being a gentlemen, a nice young master would ask his ladyfriend for his hand as they waltz the night away, and it would be the most indulging sexual experience for the two innocent whippersnappers ever.
But alas, now a mere drunkard can "fob off" with his pick of the unchaste alcohol-fuelled mistresses. The public foreplay is a visible treat for all to behold as he jostles his fingers into her arse orifice.
Ahh, those were the days... the innocent days. :rolleyes:

dundalk cailin

embraer170 wrote:

No chance you could get to do an erasmus year/semester?

im on an erasmus yr at the min, doesnt mean im finding potential b/Fs??

skywalker

FoXXy wrote:

Theres the age old question haunting us single girls ( or guys )... where do we go to meet the next mister right?

i've asked friends and every one has a different answer about where to go to find a guy... so lets put it to you lot, see wot happens

Ill meet you behind the bike sheds in 5 mins.

ando

Cianos wrote:

Fair enough, but while your there counting out the reasons why you shouldnt do something about it ("umm, what if he/she says this, says that", "what if theyve got a girl/boyfriend" - b0ll0x!), your missing another chance to meet someone who could be great

yea I generally try approach someone I like physically in less than 3 seconds, like if I'm walking by. I dont give myself a chance to say... 'hmm what if'

CarolLorraine

ando wrote:

yea I generally try approach someone I like physically in less than 3 seconds, like if I'm walking by. I dont give myself a chance to say... 'hmm what if'

You mean in a pub/club environment or anywhere?

Zebra3

A lot of people seem to meet their partner in work.

Though hopefully that doesn't happen to me!!

MrPinK

dublindude wrote:

There is nothing more unattractive than a girl who is desperate (i.e. activily looking for men.)

Actively looking does not mean being desperate. I certainly wasn't put off by the forwardness of American women when I was over there. They have no problems with just starting a conversation with you and maybe giving you their phone number. There's a lot to be said for their approach. I think it's a whole lot better than the 'just wait and it will happen' approach.

joejoem

These clubs/societies that people are talking about, what are they? The op is in his/her 20's and wants to meet a girl, what clubs/societies are there for that age bracket?

In my opinion, I dont know where else you can meet them, just keepa sly eye out.

shakaman

jesus_thats_gre wrote:

Stop desperately trying to find a guy

Why do you think you always meet more men/women when you're going out with someone........because you ain't trying and you're being yourself.

AARRRGH

MrPinK wrote:

Actively looking does not mean being desperate. I certainly wasn't put off by the forwardness of American women when I was over there. They have no problems with just starting a conversation with you and maybe giving you their phone number. There's a lot to be said for their approach. I think it's a whole lot better than the 'just wait and it will happen' approach.

I think American women in general ARE desperate though. You know they are always "trying to find a man".

(I have American female friends who fit my stereotype.)

I do like American women though.

*Lees*

There is no "BEST" place to meet someone!!!!!

In all fairness.... you can't go telling someone
"oh if u do this and do that... and join this society and this club"....
... it doesn't work like that!!!... Its always when your least expecting it that you meet someone that you really like!!...
... So stop Trying to meet someone and get on with being single and having a laugh!!
.... whoever says that you can't meet someone in a pub or a club is wrong....

You can meet someone anywhere!

embraer170

dundalk cailin where are you on erasmus?

dundalk cailin wrote:

im on an erasmus yr at the min, doesnt mean im finding potential b/Fs??

It may not find you a b/f / g/f but it will give you some self confidence (something which the irish education system fails at so badly)

Blondie86Star

I agree clubs/pubs arent the best for a long term thing.

I think through friends is the best I met my current guy wen my friend joined the L&H, he was in it. Then one day was having lunch with him, my new guy comes over, sat down. We just started talkin, then my friend had 2 go 2 his lecture n we stayed talkind for 2 hours. Saw him the next night in a party and the rest is history!

waterbabe

Most of my relationships started really oddly.I was sparring in tkd and my ex hit me very hard on the jaw by mistake.Thats how we started talking.I met another boyfriend in karate as well.Then I met another guy in a church.It was pouring rain and we both went in for shelter.You can meet someone new anywhere its all about having confidence in yourself.Forget about clubs no one wants to get to know the real you,drunken kisses in clubs are bloody awful.

Blondie86Star

I met my boyfriend before that in the gym,its amazing where you can meet people, and always wen u least expect it...dont go lookin for it..it'll find u!

AARRRGH

Yeah, I do think meeting someone is more a state of mind... and making the most of your appearance!

Example: I'm pretty sure a seriously hot girl gets propositioned everywhere.

Still, clubs and pubs work great for me (works everytime if I want it to. and I'm just "normal" looking. kind of.)

FoXXy

skywalker wrote:

Ill meet you behind the bike sheds in 5 mins.

See you there

ok well general concensus seems to be that looking is pointless. i kinda agree with it, i think that on a nite out if you go out with the intention of finding someone it wont happen cos ur not being yourself.. as in ur not as relaxed as u could be?
someone the other day told me the best way to meet someone new is to have a boyfriend lol... apparently the logic behind this is that whenever u get a guy theres always a newer guy on the scene u want?!? i dunno...

^CwAzY^

FoXXy I have 3 words for you - Copper Face Jacks

jrey1981

Accost random guys on the street like your wan out of Naked Camera!