To Grope or Not To Grope!!

LegacyUser · 28-10-2005 02:42PM #1

This might not really be a PI so if you think not, feel free to move or lock it.

I've only just started seeing someone & though we've only kissed so far its pretty intense. He's already introduced himself to my boobs which I've no problem with.
This seems to be the normal & accepted thing for a guy to do anyway, but here's my question?

In the heat of things, is it ok for me to touch his parts or not?
Do fella's love that, or would they run a mile?

I'm afraid that secretly he's hoping that I do, I don't & he's disappointed, or I do touch him & it freaks the hell out of him.

I'm also afraid it'll make me look sluttish????

Beruthiel · 28-10-2005 02:51PM

can you tell me what age you are?

LegacyUser · 28-10-2005 02:54PM

We're both 22

audge · 28-10-2005 02:57PM

Mmmm, what age are you?

for what its worth, there are few men who would run a mile if the girl they fancy decided to get up close and personal with his privates!

AARRRGH · 28-10-2005 02:57PM

He'll defo be happy you grope him too.

But as Beruthial is saying, it does depend on what age you are.

When guys are older they don't necessarily want you to do anything to them (with your hand, at least...) because your hand can't compete with theirs.

Young lads will love it though!

LegacyUser · 28-10-2005 03:01PM

dublindude wrote:

He'll defo be happy you grope him too.

But as Beruthial is saying, it does depend on what age you are.

When guys are older they don't necessarily want you to do anything to them (with your hand, at least...) because your hand can't compete with theirs.

Young lads will love it though!

Same applies with Boobs (actually all parts), there's nothing the guy can do (with his hands anyway) that a girl can't do better! Doesn't stop the man trying though!!
???

Beruthiel · 28-10-2005 03:03PM

shy girl wrote:

We're both 22

ermmm
at the age of 22 you can do whatever the hell you like!
are you still a virgin?

galwaydude18 · 28-10-2005 03:04PM

Lads would not run a mile if you do it but in saying that he may think hes in with a chance for a s*ag if you do! it's your call! he wont run a mile of freak out tho!

AARRRGH · 28-10-2005 03:04PM

Shy Girl wrote:

Same applies with Boobs (actually all parts), there's nothing the guy can do (with his hands anyway) that a girl can't do better! Doesn't stop the man trying though!!
???

Yeah, but men are perverts!

ferdi · 28-10-2005 03:07PM

when its a toss up between to grope and not to grope a dude....always go with grope.

LegacyUser · 28-10-2005 03:08PM

Beruthiel wrote:

ermmm
at the age of 22 you can do whatever the hell you like!
are you still a virgin?

No, I'm not. I've been in 2 long term relationships & am pretty good at most of that stuff (I think!!!

)
It's not that I'm afraid I won't know what to do with it, it's just I haven't made a move like that before, you know, going down there without being invited & I just wondered if guys hoped I did or would they prefer I waited for the invitation, that's all.

I've known this guy for a long time & I don't think he's been in any serious relationships so probably isn't that used to having someone messing around in that area.

I'm afraid it'd be too much for him, or where men are concerned:- is there such a thing as too much???

galwaydude18 · 28-10-2005 03:10PM

not all of them! Can you prove that every man on the planet is a pervert! I would think not!

seamus · 28-10-2005 03:12PM

At 22, he'll run a mile if you *don't* start groping soon

Seriously though, guys have absolutely no problem with you working away down there. I'd be worried if he freaked out (unless your hands were cold!)

AARRRGH · 28-10-2005 03:12PM

galwaydude18 wrote:

not all of them! Can you prove that every man on the planet is a pervert! I would think not!

I was joking... but I'm pretty sure no man will turn down the chance to touch a nice 22 year old boobie!

audge · 28-10-2005 03:14PM

You are 22..... ah for goodness sake grope away, at 22 I cant imagine he's never had his bits felt up... he definately wont freak!

Hugh Hefner · 28-10-2005 03:22PM

Have to say that I thought you were about 15 when I read this. At 22 grope away! Hell, at 15 grope away! It's all good.

How long have you been going out for?

LegacyUser · 28-10-2005 03:26PM

Hugh Hefner wrote:

How long have you been going out for?

This will only be our 3rd meeting. But like I've said, we're 22, not children which is why things are pretty steamy.

PS With regards to an earlier post of mine:- while in a relationship the guys didn't have to say everytime 'here do something with this' or you know what I mean, it's just for the very 1st time a particular girl touches your bits, should it have been invited or is it cool for her to work away of her own accord?

shakaman · 28-10-2005 03:31PM

Oh he'll be delighted when you decide to explore his regions as he has yours.......trust me, at any age.

We are in the age of sexual equality after all!

Sherlock · 28-10-2005 03:41PM

dublindude wrote:

He'll defo be happy you grope him too.

But as Beruthial is saying, it does depend on what age you are.

When guys are older they don't necessarily want you to do anything to them (with your hand, at least...) because your hand can't compete with theirs.

Young lads will love it though!

Guys over 22 would prefer to play with themselves than have a girl do it???....speak for yourself!!

BoozyBabe · 28-10-2005 04:43PM

I think it depends on the guy, if he's quite shy or not used to that type of situation then he might not know how to react, but hey, what do I know I suppose, I'm a bloody girl!!

Are there any fella's who could say that NO WAY, they wouldn't like it?

I say play it by ear & if he's happily helping himself with your bits then go for it, he can hardly refuse!!!

seamus · 28-10-2005 04:48PM

BoozyBabe wrote:

Are there any fella's who could say that NO WAY, they wouldn't like it?

Gay ones.

There's no man who would refuse a woman doing this, unless she has previously proven herself to be one who handles it likes she's churning butter.

Tar.Aldarion · 28-10-2005 04:48PM

BoozyBabe wrote:

Are there any fella's who could say that NO WAY, they wouldn't like it?

Not that I know of,Infact OP,go make that man a lucky man

Gay ones.

They might enjoy it.well might....

WhiteWashMan · 28-10-2005 05:51PM

Shy Girl wrote:

This might not really be a PI so if you think not, feel free to move or lock it.

I've only just started seeing someone & though we've only kissed so far its pretty intense. He's already introduced himself to my boobs which I've no problem with.
This seems to be the normal & accepted thing for a guy to do anyway, but here's my question?

In the heat of things, is it ok for me to touch his parts or not?
Do fella's love that, or would they run a mile?

I'm afraid that secretly he's hoping that I do, I don't & he's disappointed, or I do touch him & it freaks the hell out of him.

I'm also afraid it'll make me look sluttish????

there are no rules.

just do whatever you feel is comfortable with you/

worry less about what people will think, and concentrate more on what you want or like.

LegacyUser · 28-10-2005 05:52PM

just use body language to figure out how far you both want to go. Are you enjoying the way he plays with your breasts? If so, he might get excited to have his thighs touched. If he flinches, slow down - but you'll know when his body reacts if you're doing the 'right' thing. You can explore each other together... give a little...give up a little. Just stay in your comfort zone.

Shy Girl wrote:

should it have been invited or is it cool for her to work away of her own accord?

it would be well weird to say to a girl on the fourth date, 'hon, could you just rub me through my jeans a bit?' So, I don't think you'll get a spoken invitation, but what's his body saying?

And be conscious of what your body is saying to him too.... smiling, sighing, holding him close, looking at him that way. it's all the language of passion....

The Bollox · 28-10-2005 05:57PM

Shy Girl wrote:

In the heat of things, is it ok for me to touch his parts or not?
Do fella's love that, or would they run a mile?

I'd find it hilarious tbh

Nevyn · 28-10-2005 06:18PM

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Victor · 28-10-2005 06:56PM

/changes pants.

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Its a case of upping the ante. It depends on position, but start with his lower back - the area around the kidneys is sensative, so just some nice massage strokes with your hands. Move to legs rub his bits with your leg, no objection? Moveon.,

LegacyUser · 28-10-2005 07:08PM

I've never once waited for an invitation!
If I've been with him a couple of weeks, and things start heating up, I wouldn't hesitate to give him a good grope!

crazymonkey · 28-10-2005 08:24PM

do what you feel comfortable with, and have fun,,

AARRRGH · 28-10-2005 08:30PM

Victor wrote:

Its a case of upping the ante. It depends on position, but start with his lower back - the area around the kidneys is sensative, so just some nice massage strokes with your hands. Move to legs rub his bits with your leg, no objection? Moveon.,

Good advice, but I did find it funny (in a cheesy romantic novel kind of way!)

The Sweeper · 28-10-2005 09:51PM

Erm, I have to interject here (no pun intended)

I have two words for you: ....Blue....Balls...

Basically, it works like this. As a woman, you will find it erotic and fulfilling to be touched by careful, skilled person. Be this fondling, stroking or whatever else of breasts and genitals. All good. You can enjoy quite a bit of foreplay as a woman without cumming, or wanting to cum.

You also don't get that sensation where you could bend horseshoes around your penis and the lack of blood to your brain means you respond in monosyllables.

Men are far more excitable creatures. Men in a state of arousal - generally (before anyone shouts at me) - prefer direct genital stimulation than the roundabout rubbing that women can enjoy. That's because men become aroused more quickly and don't have that slow-burn furnace requirement that women do.

If you're going to 'touch' your boyfriend, do so with the awareness that, if he were touching himself that way, he would continue to do so until he orgasmed. Unless you're happy enough to up the ante to the point where you allow him to take over so he can satisfy himself in front of you, just be cautious how much "groping" you do.

In particularly unfortunate situations, men can use words like "tease" with reference to women.

"Tease" is generally translated as "she didn't jerk me off and I was too embarassed to jerk myself off so there I am, testicles down to my knees, images of my second class irish teacher running rife through my head, dick you could demolish buildings with, and she's cuddled into my shoulder talking about her f*cking cat. Jesus wept."

Then again, the beginnings of sexual experimentation are all about frustration, and who am I to deny you that?

To Grope or Not To Grope!!

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