Why does nobody say anything?

flikflak · 2004-11-29 17:02:23

I was on the bus the other day and was walking down the aisle to get off when I realised I had dropped one of my gloves. As I looked back down the aisle I could see it there just by the seat I had vacated. Now the bus was pretty full and they must have seen me drop it so ........ Why does no one say anything!!! I was on…

29-11-2004 06:02PM

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I was on the bus the other day and was walking down the aisle to get off when I realised I had dropped one of my gloves. As I looked back down the aisle I could see it there just by the seat I had vacated. Now the bus was pretty full and they must have seen me drop it so ........ Why does no one say anything!!!

I was on the bus this morning and a girl who was getting off had dropped her gloves I didn't see her drop them but saw them on the floor and saw her moving down the aisle so I said to the chap behind me "Did she just drop those?" He ignored me so I picked them up and went down to give them to her. Cue some people on the bus looking at me as if I had just beamed down from Mars!

Why don't people just say to you when you have dropped something. In the cold weather you have hats, gloves and scarves to deal with and things do get dropped without you noticing.

So why don't people say anything - maybe its just another pointer that society is becoming more "head down and keep walking it does not involve me so I won`t concern myself with it"

I think it is really sad.

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#2 29-11-2004 06:14PM

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flikflak wrote:

So why don't people say anything - maybe its just another pointer that society is becoming more "head down and keep walking it does not involve me so I won`t concern myself with it"

I think it is really sad.

Hear hear. Ppl are so self absorbed one one level and so scared of attracting attention to themselves on another that we are all in danger of becoming
boxed into our own little corner.

Mike.

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#3 29-11-2004 06:14PM

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Maybe they just didn't give a toss.

On the other hand, are you unkempt, unwashed or physically repulsive, by the way? If so, that may explain a lot. Try wrapping a scarf all around your face instead of the hockey mask. Try repairing the hole in your pis$bag and bringing your left shoulder forward, just a smidgen, thereby lessening the visual impact of the hump. And do clip those toenails if you persist with your sandal wearing. I for one wouldn't pick up your glove remotely, with a military bomb defusal robot.

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#4 29-11-2004 06:15PM

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It is really sad. "the act of kindness no matter how small, never goes unnoticed". Fair play to you, I guess if you just keep doin' it, and others like you, then maybe more people will catch on. Sure it's only good manners really. But in this day and age good manners are a blessing.

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#5 29-11-2004 06:18PM

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let me guess whas the girl that dropped the gloves that you ran after good lookin ? just curious

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#6 29-11-2004 06:20PM

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She could be a girl, not that girls can't think other girls a good lookin. But that's besides the point.

Agh, I'm all flustered.

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#7 29-11-2004 06:20PM

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another thing that really pissses me off is people never say please or thank you any more grrr *angry*

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#8 29-11-2004 06:22PM

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Guilty of doing this myself sometimes, find myself thinking "sure somebody else'll do it", and of course they rarely do. Felt fierce guilty one day driving through Douglas when I saw a jogger literally collapse in the rear view mirror of my car*. I should have stopped and got out, but I waited a few seconds, by which time someone else got there. I probably would've dithered when I got there anyway, but those few seconds could be the difference between life and death, and I could have been masterful in the moment. Never know now.

I reported a bin fire on North Main Street a couple weeks ago though, so I feel a small bit better about myself now.

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another thing that really pissses me off is people never say please or thank you any more grrr *angry*

'Specially when you hold the door for them. I always say "you're welcome" anyway, some of them get wonderfully embarassed. Most pretend not to notice though. Ignorant so and so's.

adam

*How he got in the rear view mirror of my car I'll never know!

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#9 29-11-2004 06:26PM

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Jesjes wrote:

She could be a girl, not that girls can't think other girls a good lookin. But that's besides the point.

Agh, I'm all flustered.

I am and I didnt actually pay any attention to what she looked like!

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#10 29-11-2004 06:27PM

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dahamsta wrote:

Specially when you hold the door for them. I always say "you're welcome" anyway, some of them get wonderfully embarassed. Most pretend not to notice though. Ignorant so and so's.

adam

i work in a pub and every night only one or two people say thanks or please its really annoying

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#11 29-11-2004 06:28PM

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'Specially when you hold the door for them. I always say "you're welcome" anyway, some of them get wonderfully embarassed. Most pretend not to notice though. Ignorant so and so's.

Yeah that`s great - really emphasising your own pleases and thank you`s when someone else says nothing like at the checkouts!

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#12 29-11-2004 06:28PM

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People on buses dont give up their seats any more to the elderly and disabled. Last thursday some very ignorant man was sitting in one of the seats for old people and the disabled. The bus was fairly full and A woman got on the bus, who looked more at home in a grave she went to ask him could she sit where he was and he simply ignored her. The man in his 40's at least. and a young boy on his way home from school who was no more than 12 years old offered her a seat. Unbelievable

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#13 29-11-2004 06:31PM

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And another incident........

A friend of my parents has recently become blind and was getting on the bus and he was feeling for a seat and could not find one. No one said to him "here you are there is a seat here". They all kept quiet. In the end he had to ask if there was a seat free anywhere.

Madness.

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#14 29-11-2004 06:32PM

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flikflak, you dropped something...

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#15 29-11-2004 06:42PM

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To the barman...I actually consciously make a point of saying "2 pints of x Please" and always say thank you both when i get my pints and when i get my change.
I mean, i find it less of an effort to be polite than not to be. Sometimes its more awkward not to be polite than to just say thanks. I wish I knew what the big deal was. A little manners does go a long way. Working in a call centre definately taught me that..

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#16 29-11-2004 06:45PM

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Some people are just raised without manners so they don't know any different. Just feel sorry for them.

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#17 29-11-2004 06:50PM

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This is why I don't like Dublin. No-one there ever seems to care about the other people around them. At least that's the impression I get whenever I go there.
I much rather Galway and Cork. Only the other day I was walking down Patrick's St. and my hat accident fell out of my pocket. Some woman noticed this and called me back, returning it to me. This isn't to say that Cork and Galway don't have their fair share of gob****es who don't give a damn about anyone else, but I find the two towns to be much friendlier.

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#18 29-11-2004 06:52PM

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ShiverinEskimo wrote:

I mean, i find it less of an effort to be polite than not to be

I agree Shiverin! It's not like it costs anything to be nice or polite!

I hate rude people...they bump into you and look at you like you've just committed mass murder! I can't understand it!

I bumped into someone last week and I said sorry! You think I had 2 heads the way the girl looked at me!

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#19 29-11-2004 06:58PM

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"another thing that really pissses me off is people never say please or thank you any more grrr *angry*"

i hate when someone agressively gives out for to you for not saying thank you or something thereby doling out more bad vibes then you did by not saying thankyou

i agree with the original posters sentiments

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#20 29-11-2004 07:03PM

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I closed this thread in Rugby - similar discussion, you guys might be interested. (Follow-ups on this thread, not on the Rugby board).

Al - who appreciates manners.

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#21 29-11-2004 07:03PM

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A few weeks ago i was cycling and €50 flew out of a fellow cyclists pocket unbeknown to her. I had to break my bollo c k s to catch up but i eventually got to her and she was so grateful. But it was in the middle of a very very busy crossroads. I wasnt stopping to get it. the point im trying to make is that i felt as if id done my good deed for the week. i told everybody in work. Most of them asked the same question. "did she get it back" the answer "i dont know".

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#22 29-11-2004 07:12PM

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I was on the No5 in Cork today heading to UCC. I'm on crutches at the moment, so I took one of the elderly/disabled seats to give my leg more room. When the bus left, all the other elderly /disabled seats were occupied by people wo were neither elderly or disabled. I really felt like standing up and telling them to cop themselves on. There were seats available at the back of the bus, but no, theny were too lazy to leave the elderly seats free. One girl was obviously a camogie player as she had her gear with her, the others were all students from what I could see. Lazy gobs*ites.

Oh and another thing, since i'm ranting.. Why do people stand at the front of the bus instead of moving back to see if there's seats or just to make room at the front. Again, lazy gobs*ites. Do they not realise that if they move back, there will be more room on the bus and more people might be able to get home a little earlier

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#23 29-11-2004 07:28PM

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Bacchus wrote:

I much rather Galway and Cork.

A friend of mine from down here lived in Dublin for years and told me that one of the reasons he preferred it up there is that the people are much more approachable. I didn't believe him, but when I actually paid attention I did notice that in some circumstances people are more inclined to talk to you, such as in a bar or when you're having a tinkle. That being said, people seem to be more inclined to nod or say "how are ya" in the street down here.

dudara wrote:

When the bus left, all the other elderly /disabled seats were occupied by people wo were neither elderly or disabled. I really felt like standing up and telling them to cop themselves on.

Were there elderly or disabled people trying to sit in them? The signs do say "Please give up this seat if an elderly or disabled person..."

adam

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#24 29-11-2004 07:34PM

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dudara wrote:

Oh and another thing, since i'm ranting.. Why do people stand at the front of the bus instead of moving back to see if there's seats or just to make room at the front. Again, lazy gobs*ites. Do they not realise that if they move back, there will be more room on the bus and more people might be able to get home a little earlier

Do they know how badly they'll be injured in a crash?

Mike.

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#25 29-11-2004 07:40PM

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woosaysdan wrote:

another thing that really pissses me off is people never say please or thank you any more grrr *angry*

when they don't even aknowledge the fact that you've held the door open for them i just shout out..

''yeah you're fúcking welcom bitch''... it makes me feel better..

one day i was in easons on o' connell st.... on the ground floor where all the magazines are... it was REALLY busy and everyone was just standing there and i decide that i want to leave...

so there i am trying to walk through everyone and not one of them thought it would be nice to clear some sort of path...

So in the end i got irritated and just said(LOUDLY) ''For **** sake!! :mad:'' and literally pushed through everybody!!

I have a habit of doing this which is why i don't like crowded places... another reason why i try and keep out of town

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#26 29-11-2004 07:43PM

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on the subject of manners I have brought up my two girls always to say please and thankyou and respect their elders and today It showed. My dad came up to visit and for a treat brought us to a local pub for dinner. The chef on duty called me over and told me my girls were so polite and pleasant that most kids dont know how to say please and thankyou or to talk to an elder person she said it was such a rarity nowadays to see polite kids. So me is chuffed

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#27 29-11-2004 07:46PM

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#28 29-11-2004 07:46PM

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On a similar note, I was shopping with my youngest sister one day, when she wanted to buy a chocolate bar ( she was about 5/6 at the time). So we went to the counter and I said to her "Give your money to the lady behind the counter". The shoplady was so pleased at being called a lady that my sister got the bar for free.

A little politeness and a smile goes a long way.

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#29 29-11-2004 08:02PM

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coming more or less like the "get it off your chest" thread.

However...

I agree completely with the original poster. Many houses have burnt to the ground because everyone thought that someone else had called the fire brigade.

As for Please and Thank You. Dont get me started, but I agree, saying your welcome anyway makes up for it.

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#30 29-11-2004 08:06PM

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dudara wrote:

On a similar note, I was shopping with my youngest sister one day, when she wanted to buy a chocolate bar ( she was about 5/6 at the time). So we went to the counter and I said to her "Give your money to the lady behind the counter". The shoplady was so pleased at being called a lady that my sister got the bar for free.

A little politeness and a smile goes a long way.

when i used to work in a shop it pissed me off no end when wannabe-posh mammies said to their little Johnny/Siofra/Fiachra/Cáca Millis "give your money to the boy behind the counter". at which point i'd leave the till, go outside the counter and pretend to be busy, while yer wan waits with her little kid and his ****ing milky way.

working in a shop is a surefire way to find the most ignorant and downright nasty people inthe country

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#31 29-11-2004 08:07PM

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I sometimes don't move to the back of the bus, because the ignorant busdrivers won't simply let you off unless you are right beside them, yelling at them to let you off. The bell won't cut it.

We were coming home from the airport, after spending 3 weeks in Europe and enjoying its fine transportation service. We had a couple bags, so we moved to the back of the bus. We rang the bell when our stop came, bus driver kept going. Rang it again, kept going past the next stop, we were yelling that we wanted off the bus, and finally some english lads had to tell the driver to let us off the bus. We ended up having to walk an extara 4 stops with backpacks.

The height of Irish ignorance is most obvious to me if you look at your average burger king/ mcDonalds. Every table has trays of food on them. I'd say about 90% of Irish people for some unexplained reason, think they are too good to clear their own table. They just leave it on the table, rather than put it in the bin themselves. And this is pretty much soley an Irish phenomena. I remember seeing a show where an American comic, came here and worked in abrekebabra for a month and couldn't get over it. He start asking people why they don't clean up after themselves, and got responses like "Its not our feckin' job".

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