Inconsiderate neighbour - looking for advice.

So you've been calling 999 (112), the emergency services, when there's been a noise disturbance? They're right to tell you not to do that anymore to be honest, you should have been calling your local station to log the complaints imho. I wouldn't expect them to send anyone out quickly, or at all if they're very busy, but at least there would have been a log of the problem.

IIRC the male rang the doorbell and shouted at you because your father had told his wife not to park in the space in front of your house, that was the post you deleted wasn't it? Best thing to do there is get a Ring doorbell which will record any future confrontation with them and will also allow you to see who is at the door if you don't want to speak to them. Also, others have advised you to try and have that space turned into a disabled parking space, have you contacted a local councilor to see if that's possible?

How bad can it get? Do they own their home or do they rent, if they own then you might have a real long term problem. Noise issues rarely get sorted quickly in my limited experience. We had an alcoholic living beside us for a few years and she was loud playing music 3 or 4 nights/mornings a week, you could tell when she was really drunk because she played the same song over and over. I don't know how her 3 kids functioned in the mornings tbh. We'd just had our son at the time and we were being driven mental. Eventually she moved on but that was only because she got a council house somewhere else. The landlord was 'sympathetic' whenever we complained to him but he didn't live there so didn't really care at the end of the day.

The issue is with the wording, it doesn't say that it categorically state that it is "this may amount to anti-social behaviour".

You'll need plenty of evidence, volume of music, consistency and length of how long it goes on for and not just notes, video and audio recordings before they'll take you seriously.

Yes, a bit like everything else if you get the wrong Garda who doesn't give a toss you can be very unlucky, or get one who takes the job seriously you can get sorted. In this day and age, everybody can listen to loud music with headphones FFS. In Germany you aren't even allowed have a shower in an apartment block after 10pm or something.

How can our state authorities not sort this sort of thing out.

Don't worry about retaliation OP, you are doing nothing wrong.

I think you need to seek legal advice from a solicitor. I feel sorry for you and your parents, your home is supposed to be your safe place.

I worked with an audiologist who 'sound proofed' her room by having special lining paper pasted on sideways on the wall, and wallpaper put on normally over the top. This was years ago and it worked really well. I'm sure there are much better noise solutions in place now, am thinking cork board, but builders merchants would know. Would be worth a few bob to sound them out. Re the parking situation, can you get a friend to park in your space (widely) for a few days/weeks. Thirdly, DO think of moving, life is short, not worth the hassle, and your parents' health is fragile.

I would have though this was the case myself, but we were told by a Garda to phone 112 with all incidents - "Incoming calls are triaged and calls are dealt with in order of urgency. Importantly, dialling 112 allows the calls to be logged and then assessed when it comes to allocating policing resources to our area".

I find this hard to believe myself, but this is what a Garda told our residents association.

Now I can't really say if this is enough of an "incident" so to speak (I suspect not…) but the problem with ringing the local Garda station is that if you get the wrong Garda who doesn't care, and keep calling etc it'll quickly be the case that the OP is "the Number 10 Station Road moaner". If its received through 112, is it more likely that "Garda X did nothing"? I don't know. I suspect they can easily say they didn't have time or resources at that time.

I don't know what the answer is though, just passing on what we heard.

OP if you don't get anywhere with the local Garda, would it be worth writing to the Superintendent in the station or organising a meeting with him?

I find it hard to believe that anyone thinks calling 999 because your neighbour is being noisy is a good idea? This is an “emergency” number! It’s no wonder the Garda treated the OP like a crank called imo!

From Garda.ie:

In an emergency always dial 999/112

You should use this service if a crime or incident is happening now or if anyone is in immediate danger.

If he makes any threat to you, you should immediately make your local Garda station aware of the situation,

I know AGS take the possibility of a licensed firearm holder acting in a threatening manner very seriously.

Have to agree, neighbour noise is a nuisance but can’t see that AGS will keep calling to the neighbours to sort it out. Even if a case gets before a judge, they could order mediation which may not work. Two people can have very different ideas about what is extremely loud music.
Communal parking regularly causes issues, but unfortunately if residents are free to park in any of the available spaces, there’s not a lot can be done about it. That’s the same in most new developments now.

OP should try to find out if the noisy neighbours are owners or renters, and consult a solicitor for legal advice.