Neighbours! How do ye get on with yours?

Moved into the area a number of years ago & have never spoke to my neighbour's since.

Not long after I moving in the neighbour's had a meeting about dealing with the local pedophile & they didn't have the courtesy to invite myself.

On an unrelated topic I have had continued problem's with windows broken and grafitti on my property ever since.

Smile and wave boys, smile and wave

I think a lot of people can relate to that scenario in most modern housing developments - due to societal changes over decades with people away working all day, different demographics, on the road with school runs and dropping kids off to sport activities, etc, meaning people don't have the time or are not in the humour to engage in small talk with neighbours unless they happen to be cutting the front lawn and might make an awkward attempt at saying hello if they feel they have to….

Know most of my neighbours on either side and across the road. Actually knocked into my neighbours directly on one side once we put an offer on the house a few years to see what they were like... Get on with them all! The In-Laws have bad neighbours and no way I'd be happy to live next to someone I didn't get in with.

On one side I have a very grumpy mid-50s woman who told me she has insomnia and can only sleep during the day. She asked us to stop slamming the interior doors (we don't). The houses are attached and the walls are thin so she's probably just hearing us walking around and living our normal lives. She has knocked into us 3 times to complain and shouted 'what the f*ck is all the noise' out of her window at my 4 year old child at 3pm on a summer afternoon. He was playing in the garden (wasn't shouting or making that much noise). So she's a delight!

On the other side, the 4 bedroom house is rented out to about 20 people at a time. The rooms (including the sitting room) are jammed with bunk beds. The landlord has a go-between guy who collects cash from the renters and is making an absolute killing in profits. I reported the situation to the council and RTB but they don't care and have done nothing. The landlord isn't RTB registered. In fairness, while the house is quite an eye sore and they leave rubbish in the front garden, they're not as noisy as you'd expect. They seem to shower in the middle of the night (probably because there's so many of them) but overall they're not too loud. Shame you can't pick your neighbours!

I had a neighbour from hell for 10 years, a year ago that's where she ended up as she finally died. We celebrated, most of the road did. A thoroughly vile, evil liar of a woman who's own family were terrified of her yet are exactly like her. The guy we bought the house from never said a word about her, later found out he was terrified of her & within a few months of him selling up he was diagnosed with terminal cancer & died.

Am I glad I found this chat - I desperately need venting!

New-build housing estate in Dublin - mid terrace house.

On one side - neighbour with a tiny dog which has a high pitched bark and keeps barking all day long. We can hear this through the so-called modern construction party wall. Honestly, this doesn't bother us - must be because it is a 'natural' kind of noise. However, someone else posted anonymous notes to the neighbour and the dog warden about the dog's welfare. They think it was me. I have told them it wasn't, not sure they believe me.

Now - about the neighbour on the other side! Young family, male & female in mid 20s with two young children.

Male needs to have loud music on while showering. We can hear this in every bedroom on the first floor, even through the party wall and stud partition. He also needs to have loud music with heavy bass and drums over the weekends. This is right up against a bedroom making it impossible to have a lie-in or afternoon nap (when I had an infection and needed to rest often). The vibrations are so very annoying. I had a polite word with the female on FB Messenger but it keeps continuing to this day.

I do feel sorry for the young kids in the house. There are numerous studies that show that regular exposure to loud noise affects brain development in children.

Tired of the going-on, as a last resort, I put up a general information note on the estate's FB discussion page about neighbour's noise nuisance in general and what to do about it without identifying the neighbour. God - did it escalate! The female got personal and unpleasant to me on a public forum.

+ This estate does not have allocated parking. There are 5 parking spaces in front of a set of three terrace houses in our line, before a break for planting. The said male will only park in the space nearest our door even if all 5 spaces are empty. That's how inconsiderate they are.

Often, they park on or very close to the lines, so the other space becomes unusable too.

+ Previously, to carry out work in their back garden, they dumped gravel in the parking space closest to our front door. It was meant to be moved the following week but it stayed there for months. During this time, the two of them would park their vehicles in the next two parking spots, closest to their own front door. This meant we had to park 3 spaces away from our front door. Seems minor in the scheme of things. But was majorly inconvenient to haul heavy shopping into the house by a middle aged woman (me). Even the 10 extra steps for my elderly parents living with me caused them additional pain for their arthritis.

The female member of that household actually claimed in the aforesaid FB discussion that they were a nice neighbour!

Rural areas also can be very lonely and isolating if you are a "blow in" and have no ties or are not involved in the local community - particularly the GAA. Folk can be very clannish and small minded in this regard with little time for "outsiders"

Sounds like some of ye live with batshit crazy neighbours.

Thank fupp I live in the middle of nowhere.

Thankfully I haven’t seen or heard a thing from my neighbour since Halloween. For context from my earlier post, I told him never to contact us again after he threatened to ring the dog warden on us, stating that we were not being dominant enough with them. He showed a very nasty, condescending and arrogant side to him when we tried to explain how we look after them. Basically saying that he was “shocked” and that we “didn’t know what we were doing”. Myself and the partner were so upset with his attitude towards us that we couldn’t even eat anything that evening, and I asked to go home early from work because I was so upset about what he said. I just couldn’t focus. I should have known there was something off about him after I offered him half the payment for a new fence panel he got. The bill he sent was like something that was written up by a forensic accountant.

We were already stressed about how we were going to keep the dogs calm on Halloween night with all the bangers going off without this neighbour sticking his nose where it wasn’t wanted. Anyway we brought the dogs to our room, sprayed a little lavender scent and played some classical music which has a calming effect on dogs. They were as good as gold that night and showed no signs of stress from the fireworks.

Yes

Mine gave out about my burner being on at night , last night the neighbours one was on in the early hours and I could hear it . Not enough to ring the executive about and not from my bedroom