Neighbours! How do ye get on with yours?

banie01

I'm quite lucky with mine, my next door neighbour in particular.

She's pushing 80 but is still lively, active and independent.

I'm living here nearly 15yrs now and in our 1st year my wife suffered a heart attack at home. I didn't know her then other than as a hi/bye next door.

When everything was going crazy in our house, paramedics and the usual onlookers, she came in and told me she was taking our son next door and tbh?

Even though he was only 3 at the time, I am forever grateful for her taking him out of the line of fire that day.

One of those moments when your world is falling apart and someone just appears and does the right thing at the right time.

It's a kindness I'll never forget tbh, indeed it's one I've mentioned here on boards many a time previously.

Fast forward to today, and I was stuck into doing a job for her. Fitting a wall mounted folding shower stool and she kept trying to feed me, pay me and then give me wine and anything else she thought she could fit in my hand as a thank you.

So anyway, long story short...

She's disinheriting her kids and leaving everything to me! 👀😉

No, seriously tho, I'm lucky enough to have neighbours who are decent skins and we keep an eye out for each other.

How's the rest of Boards getting on with theirs?

Leg End Reject

I've never had a problem with neighbours, always been lucky.

Does that make me the bad neighbour?

Mundo7976

Most are ok. However there's 1 pr!ck who's nice as pie to everyones face but then talks about them to everyone else, thinks he owns the estate, try not to interact & give very little info, he doesn't like it

Akrasia

A few weeks ago my next door neighbour got really drunk, started screaming at someone in his house, smashing up the inside of his house and then threw a dresser drawer and a flat screen TV out the 2nd story window and onto my car which was parked on my drive.

So we're not on good terms at the moment

Jim_Hodge

The nearest neighbours are 400 metres away but we get on great. There's never any issues with neighbours around here and a great, friendly, helpful community of families of all ages.

Ubbquittious

Never hear from them. I think they are townies who moved to the country so don't really bother with the whole neighbour scene

banie01

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120276867#Comment_120276867

Sorry to hear that. I do hope that at the very least your damages are at least being made good.

gameoverdude

We get on grand and a wave now and again. Few words. Help themselves with heavy lifting and then have a cup of tea and talk rugby. Perfect neighbour.

elperello

Very well.

They never interfere in my life but are always there if I need them.

standardg60

Mine are great, couldn't wish for better tbh. In my job i visit a lot of different clients and it's definitely a case that the more salubrious the area the worse the neighbours are. Very few of them get on as a pure result of snobbery. One client lives at the end of a narrow cul de sac and doesn't get on with two of the neighbours, one next door and one opposite. Working there once with a trailer on my van the opposite one kindly offered to move their car to give me more space, the next door one came out and berated me for 'forcing' them to move the car! I told them where to go.

People are mad.

hoodie6029

As an adult I now realise that we were the neighbours from hell when I was a kid. Original resident built a bungalow to retire in on a rural site. Nothing around him. Farmer next door starts dividing up the field next to him into sites in a row along the road, as was the fashion in the 70’s

My parents with 3 children under 6 and number 4 on the way move in next door. Very active family, always in the garden playing ball, cycling and shouting at each other. Original neighbour was an avid gardener. Must have been hell for him.

After a couple of years we bought a horse which was keep in the garden, front and rear. I think it may have stretched over the fence and eaten some of our neighbour’s shrubs at some point!

Dad planted a leylandii hedge in the 80’s. He only cut it in the late 90’s after a few complaints from the neighbour.

Dad also build a big garage/stable on the boundary with this neighbour. Flat roof, never plastered and in full view of his dining room.

As a kid, I just knew him as the cranky neighbour. As an adult, I can see why. My parents were inconsiderate **** as neighbours.

Poor bugger moved out in the early 00’s. The new neighbours had a real issue, and righty so, with my dad’s love of burning rubbish in the garden. Not the domestic rubbish, but garden waste, stuff cleared out of the garage, left over from DIY, old beds….

I know they reported him and he got at least one fine for it. He was forever more peeking through the hedge to see if they were gone before burning something. Pity he never got Court for it!

johnfrank1967

Get on well with all neighbours, one burns rubbish isn't there always one. I i wouldn't mind but he works for a county council.

corner of hells

Grand , there's a young Chinese couple on one side and a Polish family on the other side.Everyone else is from Finglas or Dublin city.

A few years ago a couple of young gentlemen started to abuse the Chinese couple over a couple of nights blaming them for Covid.

It all stopped when various blokes from Finglas were sent out by their wives to intervene , my wife sent me out as an observer only cause I'm from town.

freshpopcorn

I live on a small country road with a few houses. Neighbours are fine but we've little contact apart from the odd Helllo and brief chat.

We're not into popping in for coffee and don't have a group What's App!

Ginger83

We've got lovely neighbours who would go out of their way to help you. All bar one wnaker but there's always one. As the neighbours say there's no good in him.

Pissy Missy

I get on well with my neighbours because I live far away from them, the joys of living in the countryside

Riddle101

The neighbors that live on either side of me are sound and tbh they're the only ones my family really interacts with on occasion in the neighborhood. Although there are other families who we'd say hi/bye to if we see them on the streets and we have no problems with any neighbors to speak of but that's as far as it goes with us. We barely know the families that live further down from us aside from maybe their surnames.

I live mostly in a quiet area so I can't complain though, I'm happy with the neighbors I've got although there is one neighbor a few doors down that seems a little stuck up but not so much as to cause too many problems.

Deregos.

I've got the bestest neighbours in the whole wide world . . Hi Dave & Jane 👋

Strumms

nothing much to complain about.. two have certain idiosyncrasies which can be annoying, but they don’t go out of their way to be difficult or bad neighbours…

1) he’s got a legitimate hearing problem, works nights so when he comes in, gate slammed, doors slammed shut, window slammed shut, ohh and side gate bashed open with his bikes front wheel…. If you are just drifting off it wakes you or keeps you awake. He is a polite and courteous fellow, just a melt with the noise.

2) neighbour running a childcare business from home. Perfectly content with her clients parking across the gates of other residential properties and on corners awaiting the collection of their children…whilst she chats to them all at her door, she isn’t oblivious to it. To change the use of the property to a business whereby clients visit and spend time, significant time there you’ll need regulatory planning permission I read… it was never granted and in fact never sought.

this one is just a dick…

3) the man child…. Who has garden parties that go on until 4am, outdoor music, singing, shît breaking, roaring shouting… was in my year in school so he’s not a kid, or close, just a colossal silly dopey headed man child fûckwit…. The apple fell not far from the tree.

my thought is that there is a little more than alcohol fuelling the festivities.

no neighbours from hell apart from the party dude., just well, a couple that can be melts.

Fathom

Quiet, thoughtful neighbors. Mostly faculty, grad students, and young professionals. Can think and work at home.

iniscealtra

Lovely neighbours. Say hello and have the odd chat. Everyone is busy with their own lives. Work, farming, cars Elderly lady next door i call into every so often. English lady on the hill who doesn’t talk to anyone. Apparently she did years ago but took the piss asking for favours and fell out with everyone one by one. I did a few favours for her when we bought the house but after i siad i could’t do something she never talked to me again. Bizarre but grand. She doesn’t bother anyone.

Sgt Hartman

A pleasant woman with two young kids and a gorgeous cat to my left and a very quiet middle aged couple to my right. I rarely see or hear them. I'm a bit paranoid that I'm the nasty neighbour on account of my yappy Jack Russell running out to the back garden any chance he gets for a good barking session (We keep him in the house, especially at night although he loves to go out the back during the day for a bark)

Lewis_Benson

I live down a boreen which is down another boreen, only a handful of neighbours, most are grand.

John_Rambo

Live in a suburban area, lucky to have a broad mix of good level headed neighbours from various backgrounds, so no such thing as "blow ins, townies, culchies, outsiders" etc... Supportive of each other without being intrusive. Elderly were looked after during covid an are still looked out for, lots of child minding exchanges etc... there's a few who like to keep themselves to themselves and that's OK & respected.

NSAman

Interesting thread.

I live in a “posh” area. (God knows how I managed that)

Neighbours to the left have all the bells and whistles materially. You know the cars, the house, but only visit the property once a year or so. Not very friendly I have to say and not that intelligent. LONG STORY!

my neighbours to the right 400-500 meters away are an elderly couple. Absolutely fantastic. Obviously they have been blessed in life, but so down to earth, helpful and caring. Their kids live about 4 hours away, so if heavy lifting required they ask me. Of course, that’s repaid by dinners and anything that I may need help with. They are not intrusive just really nice people.

Graces7

I only see one neighbour, who is our ferryman. He is really kind and helpful; I ask his help ONLY in r

eal need, eg he delivers my shopping as I cannot get to the shops,, and anything I really need as I am all but housebound. It is knowing there is someone to help in real need that is the greatest help and respecting the helper

I knit warm hats for other neighbours..

Oscar_Madison

Great neighbours overall I have to say- there’s just one or two who either like to give out about everything or like to gossip - the trick here is to listen to it all but give nothing away yourself 😀

Some people here mentioned elderly neighbours and how lovely they are- totally agree that in the main, elderly neighbours can be fascinating, great conversationalists and really with it in terms of what’s going on in the world.

We often have small meet ups in our houses- a bit of wine and nibbles or a late breakfast on a Sunday - we take turns and it’s costs very little but it’s always so relaxed-and always include our elderly neighbours in those meet ups.

Badly Drunk Boy

I have an 81-year-old woman on one side, and a couple in their mid to late 70s on the other. The husband of the couple can be a bit of a head-wrecker but he's harmless and takes in packages for me from couriers when I'm not there, so I can't complain.

There's a woman (70-ish) a few doors up who sneaks rubbish into my (and other peoples') bins, which I can forgive except she always puts stuff in the wrong bins, like a plastic bag full of random types of material into the compost bin or recycling. 🙄 (I know a lot of people say that it all goes in the one tip, but let us make-believe for a bit... 😉 )

fineso.mom

Brilliant neighbours on all sides. I live on a quiet country road near a crossroads and would consider all within a two or three mile radius to be neighbours. Most house have at least one person who is originally from the area but there are also quite a few people from different counties who bought or built in the area. All welcomed and considered part of the community and great banter if there's an intercounty match. Great to see all the different flags flying,often two different counties on the same house.

Great people who help each other out when needed,huge support in times of sadness and we have had some tragedies over the years. But also shared happiness and celebrations when someone or group has success in something .

You often hear people complain of nosiness in rural areas. Can honestly say that I have never seen that,just genuine interest and concern.

Couldn't wish for better.

Glencarraig

Have an absolute cnut next door, a separated/divorced with brats in tow, the "entitled and living the affluent life" type but feels that she/they are too good for the neighbourhood. Wants to be in D18 or similar but cant afford it !!

brokenbad

We are "blow-ins" and live in a quiet rural area on a main road for nearly 6 years now with our nearest neighbours 500m away - a nice middle aged couple who were a huge help when we first moved into the area but they are not in your face constantly - but they always there if you need them.

Other neighbours on the opposite side further up the road i would only know from a wave in the car on the rare occasion i would see them. They keep themselves to themselves which is fine and i respect that as i am a fairly private person myself.

Like most modern families, we are a busy household with both working fulltime and always on the roads with kids activities, chores, etc so i wouldn't have time to be conversing with neighbours all the time - not like years ago when "rambling" from house to house on a daily basis was the norm.

Bawnmore

We bought our house a few years ago and we have no neighbours at all. Our nearest neighbours are probably 2km away at least so I've met them, but we don't know them. This mightn't suit everyone, but we love it.

Apiarist

We get well with all of our neighbours (Dublin estate). One has a very messy back garden visible from our upstairs, and another likes to light BBQs with an abundance of lighter fluid which smells rank, but that's about it for inconveniences.

niallpatrick

I rent on the cusp of suburbia in a relatively nice working class estate mostly private housing and housing association, lots of driveways hedges floral very open with regards to space. Lovely Families I've known for 40+years and neighbours I've known for 7 years and they're honest salt of the earth types. There is some crap that trickled in as well doing their best to wreck the area, we've a hostel/halfway house nearby with one troublesome resident known to the locals.

The private cul-de-sac top of my street their teenage kids are just rotten bstards and thanks to them I've my cctv facing our car but I also have 3 points of street view covered as well. Gable end where they think they can gather and do whatever they like (wrong) the opposite side of the road where their pals take vids and gather in 10-15's to cause others upset and the telephony box facing the gable all covered by CCTV, almost 360 pan and 180 degree tilt fully recordable night vision and zoom including audio.

My record for chasing them off property we pay full rent for is I think 15 aged 12-16, put me in my place eh? do as you like when my wife isn't well eh? think again! they wanted attention they got the sort of attention they didn't want and the local rep may have gotten involved as well. I have them all on stills as jpegs a rogues gallery. All dated and time stamped as evidence should I need it. One of their hangers on has an e-scooter and keeps lookout. When I see him passing our block I hit record he's also a sneak thief. Caught him last year stealing easter eggs left for a toddlers supervised easter egg hunt.

The law is on my side I have nothing to lose, their parents haven't the balls to keep their own kids in check so they know not to come to my door with empty threats they can't back up, other than that everythings just peachy. (not really it's hell being honest)

Greyfox

We say hello to each other 2 or 3 times a year, longest ever conversation in 8 years lasted 3 mins, no need for anything more

arsebiscuits82

Mother and father in law 30m away on one side, sister in law and her family 40m on the other side. Brother in law building 100m from ours.

They're grand, but never out of our house. The mother in law would be over at 9am on a Saturday and Sunday morning and could call 4/5 times during the day then. It drives me mental.

Sister in law and her husband, nice people but jesus they never shut up when they're over. Talking about anything and he'd turn into the subject matter expert no matter what the topic.

I lost something there recently, cue the father in law going through my garage without asking rooting for it, just rocked over, opened up the shed and worked away, I bit my lip big style that day. He followed this up by rooting through the house until he found it while we were at work. You can't say anything either he gave us a site and I'd be in the wrong...

True what they say, you don't marry the love of our life, you marry the family too!

Princess Calla

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120279976#Comment_120279976

That would drive me absolutely spare!!

pauliebdub

I live in an estate in North Dublin for 20 years and rarely speak to my neighbours. Most have their own lives and just don't mix with each other. My next door neighbours moved in two years ago and we have never spoken to them.

brokenbad

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120279976#Comment_120279976

I could not live with the constant impromptu visits from in laws - free site or not.

gipi

You know how in every estate, there's one front garden that all the kids gather in to play....even if the kid who lives there isn't actually there at the time?

And you know the parents who relive their nightclub days by blasting drum n bass in the front garden every time the sun shines via the recently acquired large Bluetooth speaker, making it impossible for anyone else to enjoy the sunshine?

Well, I live next door......😊

I moved into my apartment four years ago and have never had a conversation with any neighbour. I say hello to people as I pass them and they say it back. I don't know the first name of anyone in the building I live in or the area I live in and nobody knows mine.

I f*cking love it.

Andrea B.

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120279976#Comment_120279976

😂 brilliant!

Princess Calla

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120280118#Comment_120280118

I couldn't have someone coming into my house and go through my stuff while I'm not in , or in, for that matter.

What right minded adult would think this is an ok thing to do?

Parents that don't respect their children's boundaries is a massive bug bear for me.

Aglomerado

I'm lucky with mine. Apart from a small bit of noise from power washers and god awful hip hop music blaring from one car when the owner comes home and parks up, no problems, and those things are forgiveable, they're not constant.

I've probably been a bad neighbour as my gutters are in a state but they'll be sparkling tomorrow when the guy I've booked to clean them comes.

arsebiscuits82

i remember one time we went on a family holiday, got home at 9pm. At 9.02 the in laws were over, I hadn’t even the last child out of the car!

My hedging cannot grow quick enough!

Feets

Genuine question...is it worth it to live so close to in laws ...for the land etc?

(Side cheeky question) have u ever worried about divorcing and splitting up the house cost etc?

L1011

One house is empty 95% of the time, which is handy as they were bloody awful when they lived there.

Other side is an auld widower who doesn't like loud noises making vibrations; but they need to be VERY loud as the houses are built like bomb shelters. But as there's more than one way to send vibrations in to his gaff, he was exceptionally unhappy with the sparks who was channelling the walls for a rewire!

banie01

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120281463#Comment_120281463

In the auld lad's defence, those wall chasers are awful noisy bástards 🤷‍♀️

hoodie6029

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120276463#Comment_120276463

Wrong approach imo. I’d start telling a few minor things that are true to build trust. Then I’d start stuffing him with lies that he’ll spread.

‘I saw an architect known for doing super basements in Dublin 4 going into Dan’s at number 52 the other week. Saw a van ‘quantity surveyor’ on the side of it there a few days later….’

‘Declan and Mary at 72? Yeah, the big environmentalists, electric car and all that. Getting rid of the boiler and are going to heat the house with geothermal energy.

500 feet they’ve to drill down in the back garden. The drill rig will have to be craned over the house and into the garden and then back out again. Street will probably have to closed to traffic for a day at least.’

Wanderer2010

Neighbours to the right are an elderly couple late 70s very nice quiet people who always have a word with you, they just want a low key retired life and im happy to help with bins and parcels etc.

However...neighbours to the left are an absolutely bizzare twosome. They came down from the west of ireland to start afresh and get new jobs. They walk the dog every night, head off for romantic dates and generally are stuck to each other. Sounds normal right? Except they are brother and sister!!! I smell a big scandal in that family but i ask no qs. Theres nowt as queer as folk.

youdoyou

My neighbour (semi detached house - rental) actively ignores me. Never catch’s my eye, never says Hello, seems to leave and arrive when I’m not outside etc. I had to knock on their door twice when packages were delivered to the wrong house. They had it on both occasions but didn’t bother knocking on the door to tell me. Works from home mostly.