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French man accused of drugging his wife and inviting men to rape her

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,725 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    go on then discuss the case, in particular demonstrate what if anything I said is untrue as you are claiming.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,037 ✭✭✭✭volchitsa


    I don't know how rare it is, and I suspect neither do you. If this man hadn't been caught for a "minor" transgression in public, or if the local cops had been what seems to be your average misogynistic copper, going by what's coming out of various English police forces, this would be ongoing. Four men were also found to be "learning" his techniques to use on their own wives/girlfriends.

    The man's wife and children had literally zero idea that he was doing this - the daughter today said that the day after learning about it, she took her six year old son to school and she was trying to work out how to tell him that he was never going to see his grandfather whom he loved so much ever again. The point being that he was to all appearances, a great dad and grandfather. Why should we think he's the only monster around? Especially when there are 70 others in the region.

    Another of the men was described by a friend as someone he'd have left his own children with without a moment's hesitation.

    These are men who are well integrated into society, and there were a lot of them. And then there are others who knew but didn't report it. Not even an anonymous call to the police, as the daughter said.

    So yes, IMO those men are responsible too. As are all the men who, like Wayne Couzens colleagues, snigger about their friend/colleague's treatment of women - he was nicknamed "the rapist" at work, but nobody bothered looking into that either.

    ”I enjoy cigars, whisky and facing down totalitarians, so am I really Winston Churchill?” (JK Rowling)



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,037 ✭✭✭✭volchitsa


    The crimes in Paris may have had perpetrators in the Paris area. And when, instead of repeating this speculation over and over despite being given evidence of local men being accused, you make an effort and go and look up the perpetrators, you may find some from the Paris region - so find out what dates those crimes took place.

    Because you can keep denying it, but you have zero evidence, whereas I have given a couple of examples, and others have provided quotes from coverage of the trial all indicating that recruitment was generally from within a fairly short distance.

    ”I enjoy cigars, whisky and facing down totalitarians, so am I really Winston Churchill?” (JK Rowling)



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,037 ✭✭✭✭volchitsa


    LOL you haven't said anything except speculation. I've given links and quotes that disprove them.

    So it's up to you to prove my evidence wrong, not up to me to keep on showing that your speculation is based on nothing except - at best - you misreading a sentence in the press. I, and others, have already done that.

    ”I enjoy cigars, whisky and facing down totalitarians, so am I really Winston Churchill?” (JK Rowling)



  • Site Banned Posts: 1,331 ✭✭✭Yvonne007


    You're right. We should question every man because this guy was able to present himself as a decent upstanding human. Every man is a potential rapist and should be treated as such.

    Is this what you want everyone to say?

    God help you if you spoke about any man in my life like that.

    This thread would have been zapped if you had been speaking about anyone except men. The type of misandry you are typing is why people dislike radical feminists.

    It is possible to be outraged and discuss this vile situation without resorting to shrill, man-hating nonsense.



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,145 ✭✭✭monkeybutter


    the average misogynistic copper? look this was a random set of cops and well could you ask any more from them

    his technique? to learn it, you would need to get your wife on serious sleeping pills medication, how do you get over that slight hurdle

    look on the rapist nickname, hard to remember but he made some female colleagues uncomfortable, there may have been nothing to look into, its a bit fuzzy, I think any historical things came up after he got caught, no one was hiding him

    If anything the joke was on him

    you need something to go off like the case above

    I said the legit fantasy he was purporting is extremely rare but does exist

    it is rare

    the above is rare, unless you can come up with another instance like it

    Its hard to know why you are surprised he managed to blend in

    the wayne couzens scenario is rare



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,725 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


     If this man hadn't been caught for a "minor" transgression in public, or if the local cops had been what seems to be your average misogynistic copper, going by what's coming out of various English police forces, this would be ongoing.

    Love it: 'even when a men stop a rapist, men are still just pigs.'

    Utterly toxic agenda there.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,725 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    You've already said you aren't bothered to look through even 50 accused for this information yet you want to hold me to a higher standard. Gas.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,725 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    Yes, you have indeed already been misreading the press.

    The NYT report clearly indicates the abuses went on for some 9 years beginning in Paris which contradicts your claim these men were all local to the woman's current residence.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,145 ✭✭✭monkeybutter


    do you only have a subscription to the New York times. It began in paris moved to Mazon 2013, it mostly happened there, most of the men lived in the locality, it could be most of the other men lived in Paris when it happened there



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,725 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    do you only have a subscription to the New York times. 

    Droll to attack me for citing the article the OP used in the Original Post to base their screed on.

    That doesn't contradict the NYT report. It also just coincides with what I stated much earlier in the thread:
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    "it also says the victim worked in the paris area for 20 years before they moved to avignon at her retirement, she would have been about 62 when she retired (france retirement age pre 2023) and the police put the timeline of abuses at beginning about 2011, she's 71 now. So, that would put her retirement in about/around 9 years ago, ~2013 so the abuses would have begun in the paris area seemingly, if we are to extrapolate off the reporting in front of us and knowledge of french retirement ages.

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    "smallish" area, Avignon being down near Montpellier. Based on the reporting I don't think there are 70 rapists living within a brisk walk of the victim or something as the OP is trying to make it out as."

    And the NYT report makes it clear several of the accused have occupations that would take them afar from the immediate local area of the crime, they wouldn't have to live nearby to have opportunity to be part of the scheme and could do so while 'passing through,' Avignon being a major arterial junction between Montpellier, Lyon and Marseille.

    The accused men represent a kaleidoscope of working-class and middle-class French society: truck drivers, soldiers, carpenters and trade workers, a prison guard, a nurse, an I.T. expert working for a bank, a local journalist.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,699 ✭✭✭ceadaoin.


    How tf has a thread about a woman being raped by dozens of men over years, all instigated by her husband become about poor victimised men, evil women and pedantic back and forths about where the men were from? Jesus christ.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,145 ✭✭✭monkeybutter


    its a hilarious dig at your american obsession

    the op isn't making out anything like this

    its certainly most came from the locality. This is a fair point, at least one from the neighbourhood

    a lot of interest from just one town versus the husband having to work on getting people from across france the world, which dilutes the problem

    its madness that this didn't come to light sooner given the number of people involved



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,145 ✭✭✭monkeybutter


    the location of the men is a very pertinent point, given the context of the ops post

    the numbers involved are nuts



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,725 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    None of the men in the case are victims.

    I've seen no credible references to 'evil women?'

    Where the men are from is central to the OP's sweeping statements to accuse men the world over of harboring rapists as part of 'bro culture' and such. Seems important to get factual clarification on where the accused all hail from exactly, so.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,145 ✭✭✭monkeybutter


    Its not the men in the case who are victims, its the others not in the case

    he is referring to others response to the op and her perhaps generalization, assuming there is such a thing as a woman on here, ok then man



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,641 ✭✭✭Former Former Former


    . Every man is a potential rapist and should be treated as such.

    Is this what you want everyone to say?

    The original point of this thread per the initial thread title was that because no Irish men had created a thread condemning this case , we were in fact condoning it and would do the same if we had the chance. The OP expressly said the only thing stopping us from committing rape is the threat of violence from husbands.

    It’s absolutely astonishing and I’ve said it over and over but the exact same thread about immigrants, travellers, Muslims or pretty much any other group would have been shut down immediately, but not only is it apparently ok to say these things about men, if you disagree you’re enabling violence against women.

    The thread title has been changed by the mods but the overall thrust of the OP’s argument has not changed one iota, even after it’s been shown that she grossly misrepresented basic facts to make it seem like a much higher proportion of men were involved.

    All that has changed is the OP is just digging in more and more that “men in general” are the problem here and anyone who disagrees is a rapist or at best a rape apologist.

    Absolute clusterf**k from beginning to end, and it certainly was never anything to do with the case in France.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,145 ✭✭✭monkeybutter




  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 791 ✭✭✭marilynrr


    Jesus, he had also taken pictures of his daughters-in-law when they were in the shower or naked in the bathroom.

    I suppose that was nothing to him after what he did to his own daughter and wife.



  • Site Banned Posts: 1,331 ✭✭✭Yvonne007


    Oh well that makes it even worse. I can only imagine what the thread originally was titled.

    I haven't started a thread about the school fire in Kenya.

    That must mean I hate Kenyans and am a big ol' racist.

    Silly carry-on



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,725 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    This was the original title, as preserved by a quote in post #7

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  • Site Banned Posts: 1,331 ✭✭✭Yvonne007




  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,037 ✭✭✭✭volchitsa


    I think I made it clear that I was referring to the police in the UK.Their record illustrates that description. It may even be that others are as bad and that the UK are just the first to clean out their dirty linen.

    But I'mall the happier to give credit to police doing their job properly, and these French ones did. I think they deserve some measure of praise for that. Because where should their job stop when Pelicot was arrested for upskirting women in the local supermarket? In practice, I'd say most police forces would not launch a fullscale search of a man's IT devices based on an incident like that.

    Second, if by the "above scenario" you mean the Pelicot case, well there are FOUR other men on the margins of this case whose connection was that they wanted to learn his technique so as to rape their own partners. And I linked to several cases in Ireland of men raping sleeping women - the fact that nobody has yet thought to consider whether those men are serial offenders… well, if you don't search you won't find, right? Maybe the police just need to start looking more carefully?

    After all, Gisèle Pelicot - an extreme case, sure, but still, that's why he was caught, if he'd been more prudent he would still be free - had been consulting various specialists for a decade to explain both her repeated gynaecological problems and her memory lapses. And none of those specialists ever thought to consider the possibility that she was being drugged. None.

    We don't know how rare - or not - drugging a woman to have sex with her actually is. Because nobody is looking. Nobody even considers it a possibility as long as the man seems like a normal person. As most rapists do, TBF.

    ”I enjoy cigars, whisky and facing down totalitarians, so am I really Winston Churchill?” (JK Rowling)



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,037 ✭✭✭✭volchitsa


    Yes, and posters denying that they were mostly local, based on zero evidence, and despite actual evidence that they, ehh, were mostly local, should be queried as to why they are so desperate to misrepresent this?

    Instead, I'm being accused of saying all men should be castrated.

    But hey, apparently I'm the one with the agenda. 🙄

    ”I enjoy cigars, whisky and facing down totalitarians, so am I really Winston Churchill?” (JK Rowling)



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,037 ✭✭✭✭volchitsa


    That's not what I said. I said he recruited locally. "Locally" would mean around the Paris region when they lived in Paris.

    Most of the accused are from the second region where they lived, down south, since he was only starting out when they were in Paris, and they've lived in the Vaucluse for most of the time he's been doing it.

    It will also have been easier to identify the more recent contacts. ones from 10 years ago may have changed phone numbers, or Pelicot may just not have kept them once he moved south.

    These are not difficult concepts.

    ”I enjoy cigars, whisky and facing down totalitarians, so am I really Winston Churchill?” (JK Rowling)



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,716 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack


    Fair play volchista, genuinely, for being bold enough and brave enough to resist any appearance of civility when the behaviour of the type of man involved in this sort of behaviour is anything but civil, and deserves no sympathy or attempt at understanding, they deserve nothing but contempt. You were bang on to broach the issue the way you did with your opening post and original thread title (should be reinstated IMO), because expecting victims to adhere to standards of civility is exactly how these bastards manage to maintain their status in civil society. There’s another ongoing thread at the moment and people have no issue holding back their expressions of disgust, frustration and anger at the organised rape and abuse of children and vulnerable adults. This thread shouldn’t have been any different. Instead you’re getting posters trying to nit-pick you apart when you’ve every right to be angry, instead of offering support.

    I can’t offer any insight into the minds of these bastards that you’re not already aware of, or how women and girls ought to be able to protect themselves from men who commit these sorts of acts against women and girls, because the responsibility for their behaviour rests entirely with the men who commit these acts against women and girls. Society can’t change that, but it can make changes in law to make prosecuting men for these crimes less difficult and arduous for their victims and the people who are racked with guilt for not having known about their behaviour that they could have done something.

    Saying that, it really is a sad indictment of men that there are men in what we like to believe is a civilised society who, when presented with an opportunity of committing rape in the belief they won’t face any consequences or punishment, are willing to avail of the opportunity when they believe it presents itself. The case in France isn’t the first case of its kind by any means, it’s just the most recent one which has come to public attention in France is all. There was a similar case in the UK about 50 years ago which led to rightful criticism of the ‘honest belief’ defence and the introduction of the Sexual Offences Act 2003, nearly 30 years later which held that a defendants belief that the victim consented must be reasonable. What made that case even more harrowing was the fact that her husband could not be charged with rape, as that didn’t exist in UK law until the 2003 Act either:

    https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/DPP_v_Morgan


    In France, their laws regarding rape are far less comprehensive than Ireland or the UK. In Ireland too we’ve only recently passed the Criminal Law (Sexual Offences and Human Trafficking) Act 2024 to change the honest belief defence to one of an objective test of whether the belief could be held by a reasonable person in those circumstances:

    https://www.irishtimes.com/politics/2023/07/11/mistaken-belief-of-consent-no-defence-to-rape-accusation-under-new-law/

    https://archive.ph/3l28Q

    French law regarding rape is different:

    "Under French law, perpetrators benefit from a presumption of consent from their victim," said Catherine Le Magueresse, a doctor of law and author of Pièges du Consentement: Pour une Redéfinition Pénale du Consentement Sexuel ("The Pitfalls of Consent: For a Redefinition of Sexual Consent in the Criminal Code"). "Basically, men are told they can help themselves to other people's bodies, but that they must not abuse them, otherwise it's violence, constraint, threat or surprise.

    https://archive.ph/ihGNV

    It’s not surprising that this particular case has been dragged out for the last two years:

    For now, the French government seems to be playing it by the ear, awaiting the parliamentary committee's conclusions, which are expected shortly. The law's amending could be merely symbolic, introducing the words "committed without consent" at the beginning of the article, representing a truism of sorts in view of the rest of the definition.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,725 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    Ohhhh, I see. Today there's been some backtracking from your original position: now only most of the accused are locally sourced, backing down from previously claiming 'all' of them were.

    The only reason anything is 'difficult' here is because you keep pushing an overbearing narrative without the necessary facts to make the claims of absolute nature. It's not a difficult concept: claims require evidence.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,699 ✭✭✭ceadaoin.


    Granted, I've only dipped in and out of the thread and haven't read every post. Someone was going on about women killing babies with abortions as some sort of gotcha at one point and a lot of people seem to think that the op making this thread is casting aspersions on all men, making them victims

    According to the BBC, "Most of the other men lived only a few kilometres away" anyway. Do you not find it shocking to think there are that many men willing to rape an unconscious woman if they think they'll get away with it within just a "few kilometres"? You'd rather argue about exactly how far away they were than accept this shocking fact? One of them was even a neighbour, known to the victim. What are the chances? Seems to me that either for some reason that particular area of France is a magnet for sexual deviants or that more men than anyone would like to think are capable of this behaviour. Which seems more likely to you?



  • Site Banned Posts: 1,331 ✭✭✭Yvonne007


    The contempt for the story requires no civility. The contempt towards the men involved in this story should have no civility.

    (well according to rules, I think we need to post in a civil manner).

    But there is no need to be uncivil when it comes to men. I know I find it offensive that the men in my life would be even mentioned in the same breath as these people.

    There are some terrible people in the world. That is a sad reality.

    You said this

    "it really is a sad indictment of men that there are men in what we like to believe is a civilised society who, when presented with an opportunity of committing rape in the belief they won’t face any consequences or punishment, are willing to avail of the opportunity when they believe it presents itself"

    Why is it a sad indictment of men as a whole?



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,037 ✭✭✭✭volchitsa


    All recruited locally, but locally doesn't have to be one single place does it? Locally in Paris, then Locally in the south of France.

    No backtracking from me. Because I haven't been making this up, I've been posting based mostly on the French coverage of the court case, with links to English speaking media when I come across them too.

    ”I enjoy cigars, whisky and facing down totalitarians, so am I really Winston Churchill?” (JK Rowling)



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