online dating

It won't hurt any less because they're adults. I stand by my statement. But I'm in the enviable position of knowing 100% my daughter is mine. So maybe I'm not the best to comment.

Most fathers are relying on trust, and a passing likeness to their offspring, for that knowledge.

What about babies accidentally switched at birth?

Those family finder documentaries really pull at the heart strings.

I've chosen....

Had my 3rd date with N over the weekend (yes I know, it looked like we might not even make it to number 2). So ended up seeing her on Thursday and then again over the Bank Holiday weekend. Plans to see each other again next weekend.

I definitely like her and our dates have been really good (couldn't keep our hands off each other on the last one). Texting still a bit strange sometimes, as in lengthy breaks (though this definitely improved after date 2), though we were together for 5 hours over the weekend and I think she checked her phone just once and that was as we were finishing up together. Guess it's just on me to get used to someone who genuinely isn't attached to their phone.

Not sure how fast things will progress. I do get the impression that she's happy to take things slow enough. She basically stated that she does want to meet someone but it's not the number 1 priority in her life. I also have 2 holidays to contend with for her coming up, where given how comms have been thus far could be tricky to manage.

One thing that might not have been favourable for me (depending on your viewpoint, might not have been a big deal at all) is that I offered to pick her up from hers for the 3rd date and she preferred to meet somewhere else nearby and have me pick her up there. I guess she only met me for the very first time about 12 days ago, so understandable. FYI, she lives at home and I'm not sure if any of her family know I exist.

I went on another date (drinks) with a new girl in between Date 2 and 3 and that was super strange. Didn't feel like she was bothered with me at all (literally could not have seemed more disinterested in what I had to say, 0 follow up questions) but wanted to go to a 2nd venue (I declined) with me and seemed surprised when I didn't go for the kiss at the end.

I'd rather not keep dating others at this point as I've really enjoyed the dates with N but it's just a strange one to suss out so far. The in-person parts are great, she pays for things when it's her turn (and tries to when it isn't), suggests locations and things to do on dates and the chemistry is off the charts, but the comms can be extremely irregular (to the point I nearly called it off between Date 1 and 2) and then there's the picking up incident (whether that's normal or irregular) and the general vibe that things could move quite slowly.

Have the last 2 dates been drinks? Just wondering because sometimes people can be more enthusiastic than usual in such circumstances.

If she has been not very communicative between dates from the start it might not be a worry - it’s usually more concerning if somebody was but then trails off that alarm bells ring. However - the fact she specified that finding a relationship wasn’t her number one priority is more of an alarm bell - was she saying that to make sure you didn’t get ideas? She might find you attractive and see this as a bit of fun, hence the lack of eager chat between meet ups. But it’s hard to know without knowing more about her (which obviously I wouldn’t ask you to divulge here). Maybe she’s just being cautious. I’d say let her know you are into her and if she is too she’ll like it, if she’s not arsed she’ll back off. Better to know either way

I’m meeting my date again on Thursday night for dinner and over the weekend for a walk - will pick either Saturday or Sunday depending on the weather. He not only texts but calls during dates - not too much but enough to not make me anxious.

Do you mean between dates? 😅

lol yes 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

What have you done together that requires taking it in turns to pay? Coffee? Dinner? Nosy me so don’t feel obliged to answer 😁

I thought he was being rude fielding calls and texts during a date! Glad you clarified!

Seeing a few guys putting their surnames up as well as first names on Bumble ?

Is this some "go ahead and google me, I don't care" thing or just not filling out the profile correctly I wonder? It's frequent enough to make me think it deliberate 🤔

I haven't seen any surnames but I have seen some good double barrel names like Randy Rachel, Naughty Nora and my personal favourite, Peachy Pamela.

I havent had any girl ask me how much I earn and I am vague about the actual place I work in. They will ask about work but I think that's just making conversation

lol where do you get these fake profiles from, you can tell with the different font…are are you making them 🤪

I’ve never asked anyone what their job is, it usually just comes up in conversation, often only when we’ve met.