online dating

Apparently that guy she's seeing left his wife for her not long after having a child. Also read she made multiple (Eleven) versions of the song to get it to number 1 but what does she care? She's made her money anyway.

I have a date lined up with the bountiful bosom lady. We're hiring a couple of pogo sticks to bounce around the park.

I will never stop saying hello to people even if I get the reaction Mick Dundee did when he went to New York. Can't let the bastards grind you down!

I approach a lot of people for a few reasons as I said a couple weeks back. To this day any negative or weird or hostile or aggressive reactions have been minimal to nonexistent. So I am not personally experiencing any of the things I occasionally read about out there.

But I am not approaching with romantic or sexual intent. So I guess I am not comparing like with like entirely. Though of course none of the people I approach know that!

Had a fun one recently where I saw two girls pocket their ID cards after being IDed at the door. So I "bumped" into them as I passed them and apologized of course. A bit of time after that I approached them with my mates and asked their names. Then I playfully said that they did not look like their names. They actually looked more like each others names so I did not believe them. Eventually I said "Right show me some ID".

Priceless faces when they took out the ID and they had each others and I pretended this proved I was right all the time :)

But in general I really do like approaching people and it gets easier with practice. Certainly will not be letting the bastards grind me down either @Ubbquittious I wonder how much the Croc Dundee reference dates us. You for using it and me for getting it instantly :)

What was the point to that exchange? If not flirting with them 🤔

Lovely second date tonight.

We all live in the same world, with the same people, yet have vastly different outlooks driven by our experiences.

Upbringing particularly. My mother is the eternal optimist. Pollyanna, Glad Game level stuff. It’s positively enraging at times, but it’s undoubtedly rubbed off on me on subconscious level. I just find it easier to go through life being positive and suffering the inevitable disappointments. Hopefully I don’t induce too much rage in the people around me 😆 - sure don’t we all turn into our mothers in the end ?

I value being a realist over excessive positivity or negativity. So be generally positive, but not to a degree that it’s harmful or ridiculous. I feel life is easier when you have hope, but not expectation

Just to practice my hobbies. In this case pick pocketing and sleight of hand. And just generally talking to new people. I just like people. I have no interest in flirting given the already complicated enough relationship I am in :) Certainly have no desire to add to that!

But I also tend to do it as a "wingman" thing. Guys I happen to be around tend to like it when I end up causing other groups, especially girls, to end up talking with us. Like the "mind reading" phone number thing I described before.

I think Covid did the opposite to me. Once it was "over" I went back to cold approaching people quite hard. I guess it helps that (as I just said above) a lot of my hobbies almost force me to do it.

Fear of rejection I simply can not get into the head space of. It's just something I have never had. Whether that means I have a particularly strong ego - or some kind of broken ego or psychopathy or autism that I do not work like other people I do not know.

But my brain is more transactional maybe. I approach someone. They have no interest. So I am back exactly where I was before I approached them. What exactly have I suffered, lost, or should be afraid of?

I know it must be a thing given how many people seem to suffer from it. But it will likely be a thing I can only observe from the outside and never understand.

I really know very little about Reddit. I find it's interface unusable for my brain with it's weird way of indenting and so have simply never used it. I just can not get my head around it. Or at least I never tried because I was so put off. Give me an hour I'd probably get it. But I have never been compelled to try. Or 4 or 8 or 12 or 16chan. Or whatever iteration the "chans" are on these days :)

If you go looking for something that's not there you'll find it.

Oh god I don’t think I’m that bad lol. I know what you mean though. Toxic positivity.

I like to think most people are generally just decent average folks. Good bits and bad in each of us.

If you expect the best in a person, at one stage or another they’re going to prove you right.

If you expect the worst in a person, at one stage or another they’re going to prove you right.

I wasn’t going to ask why he needs to practice pick pocketing because I think the answer will irritate me.

Regardless of whether that encounter was practicing ‘magician skills’ - those girls likely saw it as the men trying to pick them up.

so what's the list of online apps that people are using now

i know they use pof / bumble / tinder

but is there any other decent ones about ?

Think you’re right,

im not in a relationship for 11 years,

gave up both the pint and the women around the same time,

life has dramatically calmed down,

had my youngest with me full time until last year ( now 3 rd year in UCC) since he was 2 and a bit,

but between his mam ( divorced 19 years)and my then partner there was always hassle simmering,

both have moved on since along with the hassle ( thank God)

( both non Irish- 🇷🇴 and v fiery)

anyways excuse my rambling-

point being I’ve never went looking for love ❤️ it found me for good and ill ,

same happens most ppl I reckon,

personally I’d love to meet a non drinker/ normal person to share a cuppa,hikes,walks

normal stuff but I wouldn’t have the courage to go online dating at all,

so I take my hat off to you daring lot👏👏,

best of luck to each of ye

I’ve read it’s one of the best places to meet ppl

( hiking/ rambling club)