Drinking alone in a Pub

Scipri0 · 30-05-2023 06:27PM

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I probably should some time. Cheers!

BraveDonut · 31-05-2023 08:54PM

Can't understand why anyone would feel self conscious. If someone thinks its strange, then they have a problem - not you.

Enjoy your pint and your paper/book. If you want to talk to others, do! If you don't, they'll get the message soon enough

castletownman · 01-06-2023 06:58AM

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Yeah its strange.

Someone could have a bite to eat in a restaurant, sit down for a coffee in a cafe, go to the cinema or a match, hell even holiday abroad, by themselves and no-one would bat an eyelid, and the person doing so wouldn't think anything of it. But flying solo to a pub is seen as almost taboo? Don't get it.

I actually prefer going to the pub alone. It's 'me time'. I can drink at my own pace, can choose to engage in conversation if I want to (I am not one for small talk for the sake of it), and am very unlikely to be dragged into a round or an extended session. In fact, one of my pleasures in life is arriving in an unfamiliar town/city and finding a decent pub to unwind in with a couple of pints. Will be doing so this weekend actually (until the wife joins me and starts talking shite 😂)

o1s1n · 01-06-2023 12:31PM

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You'd be surprised how many folks wouldn't eat in a restaurant, go to the cinema, a gig or a pub alone. They're definitely missing out!

I know someone who won't even walk into a pub on her own and I've to go out to meet her as she'd be 'too embarrassed to walk in alone'.

BaywatchHQ · 01-06-2023 05:57PM

I go everywhere alone as I am a loner. For example I have been to 23 concerts alone. Loner men are easy targets for people to insult and laugh at for example the cretin in my last event who had a go at me for supposedly queuing too close to his girlfriend. If I was standing in a group he wouldn't have had a go at me but as a lone man people aren't afraid to flex on you.

I also remember a girl laughing at me and saying I had no friends when I walked into an outdoor concert alone. It is funny that these wretched creatures always say how people should be independent yet they make fun of a loner man who is being independent.

Scipri0 · 01-06-2023 05:59PM

I have no problems going to the cinema by myself but maybe ye are right and it's all in my head when it comes to pubs.

o1s1n · 02-06-2023 10:27AM

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Fairly sure that's all made up or you're just incredibly paranoid.

Nobody would even notice you were alone at a gig as the whole venue is full of people walking around on their own to and from toilets/smoking areas/ bars.

I see sheep · 02-06-2023 04:50PM

I'm a blow in where I live currently and there are as many positives as negatives.

You're carrying no negative baggage - so unless you **** up and do something stupid nobody is going to think negatively of you.

And people are interested in you because you're not the same auld head they've been looking at for 30 years.

And it's interesting getting to know new people.

You're obviously not going to know everyone or 'get' all the jokes etc.

I see both sides as I'm 'a local' when I go back visiting where I'm from.

As mentioned above there's positives and negatives with being 'a local' too.

I've no problem going to the pub in my new village by myself.

Loafing Oaf · 02-06-2023 11:41PM

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Yeah when I was living in D4 one of my big pleasures was going on my own to one of the big spacious locals like the 51 or the Waterloo to watch a match and read the paper. Didn't even want the drink particularly but obviously...IIRC nobody ever tried to engage me in chat so I must be adept at sending out the right signals...

Cromuli · 02-06-2023 11:59PM

This is a local pub (as well) for local people.

ancapailldorcha · 03-06-2023 10:32AM

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I'd be one of those. I can easily go to the cinema alone but when it comes to pubs and restaurants, it's a bit depressing seeing everyone coupled up or in groups. There's also the expense. I do go to restaurants but only when abroad. Just feels a bit odd when I'm at home.

Neames · 04-06-2023 06:23PM

I live in a rural spot. One of the things I enjoy most is wandering into the local pub early Friday evening. There's generally a good mix of people there flying solo and we all chat away together and have a good laugh. No one talks about work, investments, cost of living, nothing serious. The funny thing is although we all get on even though we come from all backgrounds, age groups etc We look like a very odd bunch of people to onlookers. We're friendly with each other without all the serious talk that goes with friends - how's the family, how's the new job going etc.

Baasterd · 04-06-2023 10:42PM

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Sure that sounds like the definition of a great local. I have a similar spot, solid cast of mostly lone guys as locals but a few couples as well, run by a young couple that know their beer. So its like an old mans local but its popular with a younger crowd as well. Great spot engage as much or as little as you like with the chat always a friendly welcome and a cracking pint, no food and no kids as well 😊

gameoverdude · 04-06-2023 10:47PM

Get a kindle.

Drinking alone in a Pub

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