Why do some people take such offence if you don't go to their stag party or wedding?

I have seen a lot of this over the years myself. People declining wedding invitations, and then getting themselves into a tizzy about what the community will think of them. When in reality nobody cares. These people are just narcissists who think they world revolves around them.

I missed the question.

"I have seen this a lot over the years, I hate weddings and stag parties so rarely go, but I have had so called friends stop talking to me for not going.

I still keep in touch with them and meet up with them etc give a good wedding gift but they cant seem to understand that everyone if different and some people just don't like stag parties and weddings and cut contact over it.

Im not going to change though, life is too short to go to events that you don't want to go to."

A close friend who doesn't care about the most important day of my life basically means they are not really a close friend.

A wedding is the mist important day of your life? Important? What about perhaps, the birth of your child?

Not for me, I plan to never have kids.

Not the first post on this thread where you say the OP is on the spectrum/autistic. Maybe they are, maybe not, they only said they dont like going to wedding parties. Are you a MH professional?

But maybe you need to see it from the couples point of view. They consider you aren't a real friend because you didn't go to their wedding. It was your choice not to go and will be for any future weddings. Time to move on, go out and enjoy your bank holiday rather than moaning to a group of strangers all day.

But they're not wrong and many people here have told you that. Believe it or not, it is a major slight to not go to someone's wedding especially considering it seems you just couldn't be bothered. All the moaning here and complaining that they're wrong won't change that.

I think I’m somewhat more inclined with your position on weddings. Myself and Mrs.Rawr even eloped to prevent having a large one which we both hated the idea of. Large weddings can be fine, or…a tonne load of annoyances related to relatives, it’s a coin-toss.

I’m of the mind that it’s perfectly fine to turn down a wedding invite to a friend, but given the importance of that event to them you also need be tactful about to frame that refusal. I’d avoid going down the road of «I’m not attending your wedding because I find them all to be stupid and unenjoyable» as that would imply a direct insult on their own plans for a wedding.

I’d lean more towards, «Listen, I’m absolute pain at weddings, doesn’t matter who’s it is I just turn sour. Trust me, I’ll drag things down, it’s better if I sit it out for the sake of everyone’s enjoyment. Up for giving you hand with anything, but on the day you don’t want me there.»

That’s a refusal, but a sort of a «It’s not you, it’s me» kind of thing. You are not into weddings, I don’t think that’s a crime. I’m not into them myself and I think mine was only fun because we turned into a series of shanigans, but I do believe that people should be allowed to turn them down. Just to remember that in those refusals, others might need a reason for it that doesn’t feel like a personal jab.