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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 768 ✭✭✭dontmindme


    I used to do a lot of online dating maybe 10 years ago or more and at the time finally met someone where the relationship lasted 6 years. I've tried to go back to the current available apps but they seem different to years ago. Is there any of the apps/sites now where you can see who is online at anytime so that you can chat there and then in real time?



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 21,325 ✭✭✭✭Donald Trump



    My buddy had to get one in his early 20's because of a hereditary disease which would have guaranteed 100% that all his male children would be sterile. So in order to prevent that, he had to get the snip.

    His father and paternal grandfather and paternal great grandfather all had to do the same back in the day before they got married for the same reason.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,640 ✭✭✭✭pgj2015


    They will probably be poorer if they have kids.

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,700 ✭✭✭Padre_Pio


    They will, but they'll have kids.


    I'm a lot poorer running a car. But then I have a car.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,640 ✭✭✭✭pgj2015


    id rather have money than kids but we are all different. not everyone wants kids.



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 21,325 ✭✭✭✭Donald Trump


    Post edited by Boards.ie: Mike on


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,203 ✭✭✭✭Galwayguy35


    Why would anyone aged 20 even bother with online dating sites anyway?

    Things must have changed since I was that age, I was out every weekend and it was in pubs and nightclubs I would hook up with women.



  • Posts: 7,713 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Yeah, the 'don't have kids to save the environment' mind trick that's been pulled on people is just so sinister..



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,640 ✭✭✭✭pgj2015


    I couldn't give a fcuk about the environment, not why I don't want them, I doubt many people choose not to have them because of the environment.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,640 ✭✭✭✭pgj2015


    I see are you the one? or I'm looking for the one on a lot of profiles. FFS there is no "one", that is probably why they are on the dating sites so long. 😂



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  • Posts: 795 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Can't speak for everyone, but in my case, I've no friends. I'm not going into pubs and nightclubs on my own in the hope of meeting women. Would look like a right creep. Besides, would you even find a long term relationship with someone you met in a nightclub?



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,308 ✭✭✭✭wotzgoingon


    I remember watching crimecall or what ever it's called years ago. And this guy who they were hunting as he attacked some girl after the nightclub. He was there himself and kept pointing over to a group of fella's saying he was with them when talking to the girl. Turns out he was there himself.

    I have done that going to a nightclub by myself the most boring thing you can do and feel like a loser just standing there drinking your drinks and constantly saying to yourself what the hell am I doing here. Back to the male, female debate a girl could hit the dance floor and bump in to people while there by herself and probably enjoy herself by dancing with people she doesn't know. And could also hook up with some guy.

    Online dating has made it easier to find someone without having to leave the house well apart from when you want to meet each other in person.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,189 ✭✭✭✭Loafing Oaf


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,410 ✭✭✭Mister Vain


    I know its a numbers game and all but it might look a tad desperate if you're approaching EVERY girl. Ideally you should be enjoying the pub/club to begin with and that's unlikely to be the case if you're there alone. Probably better to join a club or take up a new hobby.

    Post edited by Boards.ie: Mike on


  • Posts: 24,207 ✭✭✭✭ Hattie Attractive Canoeist


    If you have an outgoing personality that’s the way to do it, but some people are naturally shy or don’t like crowds/pubs. When I was in my 20s I wasn’t very fond of them, although I did go occasionally.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,412 ✭✭✭Jequ0n


    Online dating apps are not the most exciting place on earth but they do work, as long as you don’t expect to find your “soulmate” (whatever that is supposed to be).

    I wouldn’t waste much time chatting without meeting up because it’s a red flag. It’s easy enough to figure out what people want to hear and you can enjoy playing along while it’s fun.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 129 ✭✭redmenace1


    Yes I think if there is decent chatting going on, meet up soon or move on.

    No point in wasting time, see if there is a connection in real life



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,203 ✭✭✭✭Galwayguy35


    I don't know, never gave it much thought at the time.

    It worked in my case, first woman i was in a long term with we met in a pub but I guess it doesn't work for everyone.

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,297 ✭✭✭Count Dracula


    I find them really crass and insipid. I did some research into them, nothing heavy, but I have read from different sources that only about 10% of males get a date regularly. If you are not a strong looking, attractive male, forget about it. I would not despair if you aren't, in real life women are rarely attracted to a man's looks. The biggest factor is how exclusive and powerful you are. Power is the single most important factor in pulling birds. It make sense, if I was looking to have kids and settle I would get the richest bloke I could find and start sucking it up, I want my kids to have nice things, live well, get schooled well, enjoy their childhood etc etc. An 18 year old model do grand for nailing me senseless in the back seat of my car during " Yoga Class" or "badminton", but that smooth toyboy can't get a meal on the table.... but my 38 year old sales director can and will. Or a doctor, dentist, vet , Accountant, etc etc. All the sites are doing is facilitating Chad type men with big dicks, I mean that. One of the involuntary celibate websites I was reading did an experiment with a couple of the worlds biggest sites. They posted from London using the photo of a dead russian male model pretending to be working for a week in London, photoshoot the works. They posted pictures of this gorgeous looking stud, fair hair deep set dark eyed muscled and tones well dressed etc. To test the market he states he dislikes soccer and drinking but had received a warning and a conviction for sex with a 16 year old minor 3 years previously...... you should see the amount of nudges and hits he received within a few days. Literally throwing themselves at him in their droves, some straight out with the phone details " Ring me now cutey" " i am free this week" " I can host". Birds will have sex with a sex offender if he is attractive enough. They're crap.



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,203 ✭✭✭✭Galwayguy35


    If Bernie Eccelstone or Mick Jagger were unknowns on a dating site they would never have got a date, Bernie was 5ft nothing and Mick wasn't exactly blessed in the looks department.

    Money and fame gets a man a lot of easy sex.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,410 ✭✭✭Mister Vain


    Well you did say every girl. I'm not saying he shouldn't take a chance, but going into nightclubs might be more fun if he actually had someone to go with. No need to get off the apps either. The more options the better.

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 21,325 ✭✭✭✭Donald Trump



    I know what you mean. I only get the much younger Easter European model types because of my devastatingly chiseled body and sexy hair.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,297 ✭✭✭Count Dracula




  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,640 ✭✭✭✭pgj2015


    You know the profiles that say live every day like its your last and that are so positive about life and seem so active. Do ye buy it? or are they really just watching the soaps and online every day, not really out hiking in the wilderness, surfing during a storm, jumping out of a plane or living with a tribe in the amazon for a few months at a time? 😂



  • Posts: 24,207 ✭✭✭✭ Hattie Attractive Canoeist


    Yesterday I did something that terrified the reason out of me… a skydive (in Gran Canaria), but I still think it’s less scary than attempting to chat up someone in real life! 🪂🤣

    Post edited by Boards.ie: Mike on


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,410 ✭✭✭Mister Vain


    I do buy it, but it can become a problem when trying to organise a date as they're usually too busy hiking or surfing that particular weekend to meet up. Although I suppose it does make you look more interesting than if you just had 7 identical selfies. 🤣



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,189 ✭✭✭✭Loafing Oaf




  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 21,325 ✭✭✭✭Donald Trump



    The only thing getting buried around Melania is me lad



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,308 ✭✭✭✭wotzgoingon


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