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Is it ever acceptable to break up via text?

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  • #62
    Thelonious Monk
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    Christ it's 5 dates and you haven't even slept with each other, you owe the dude nothing. Just send him a whatsapp saying you're not feeling it and wish him all the best. Sin é. What would be the point in the hassle of meeting up just for a orgy of awkwardness?



  • #63
    YellowLead
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,026 ✭✭✭YellowLead


    https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119284671#Comment_119284671

    That was never my intention! It was is a text okay vs a phone call. I was firmly of the opinion that after 5 dates it was, but a friend said a phone call would be more respectful so I wanted to get more opinions - that’s all :)



  • #64
    amdublin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,653 ✭✭✭✭amdublin


    Well it is done. Put it behind you now!


    I think I would have done it via the method of communication that was used most in the course of your "time together"/5 dates. Which! I am going to assume was text?! (In this day and age and all that)

    Did you talk with him via phone much? Or was text the primary (only??) form of communication?

    Me: I think text is fine at the 5 date stage



  • #65
    Esse85
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    Was gonna add that it depends how ye have communicated to date, stick to that same channel, if ye text via whatsapp use that route or if ye have spoken on the phone all the time then that's what's required.

    Glad to hear it's sorted now.



  • #66
    bitofabind
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 939 ✭✭✭bitofabind


    I don't think there's a rulebook with this stuff. It's what feels like the right thing to do. He probably wanted the phone call or the in-person because he wanted the right of response i.e to try to change your mind. You're not in the market for that. A clearcut text may be painful, but it's leaving less open to interpretation or persuasion. So it's kindest in the long run.

    No-one likes rejection. It's sh1t. I think operating under an M.O of "how would I like to receive this news" is the best policy.



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  • #67
    wylo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,214 ✭✭✭wylo


    Imo, the only truly unacceptable break up method is ghosting.



  • #68
    ratatouille99
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22 ✭ratatouille99


    I'd say you feel relieved OP.


    Must be generational. As someone in their early/mid 20s, I would end things over text after just 5 dates but I do think we "date around" more. 5 dates doesn't necessarily mean exclusivity anymore. If it's exclusive I'd always do it in person.


    Hope you're not beating yourself up over it, happens to everyone.



  • #69
    Hannibal_Smith
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,426 ✭✭✭Hannibal_Smith


    Given the OP has resolved their issue, I'll close this one off.

    Thanks folks

    HS



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