Bird moving into my gaff - what’s fair to charge her?

For any bird, a box of Thrill a week should be sufficient, I would think.

Day rate or Night rate ?

Jesus Christ. 18 months is very young. They meant years, not months, when they told you the minimum age.

Am off to report you to the cops.

well done

well prepare to open up a can of worms. if ye were married would you expect rent? most likely not and while yer not in exactly the same situation, id be looking at it from that POV. yep shes getting the better deal by getting free rent essentially but if anything goes south then you'll still have the gaff

Have her cook all your meals and wash your clothes. "Beauty will not make the pot boil".

I'd suggest you let her find somewhere else. Your suggesting she should pay rent to live in your house ? Your obviously not ready to share your space with her.

When she moves in it will be her home too thats what normally happens when couples move in together, I don't feel your ready for that and it will still be your home with a lodger....

She'll be delighted to hear that you see her as a tenant in your paid for gaff.

If it all goes wrong it’s her house now and you will be that guy sitting on the canal bank drinking Lidl own brand cans of beer talking to the swans at 11 o’clock on a Tuesday morning

It's a bit different seeing as you already outright own the place. Bills should be 50/50, men and women are equal these days, no room for chivalry. When I had the house and mortgage, I charged herself €300 a month, far less than what she was paying in rent and just under 1/3rd of the monthly mortgage. The intent was she would join me on the mortgage at some point, but after I told her I wanted €10k as the deposit cost me €20k and I was only in there a year before she moved in. Only fair she pays half, including the deposit, imo. Anyway, that didn't happen because we're both smart and realised it may not work out as intended. Which was good, because it didn't work out as intended (we broke up because she started getting serious about having kids, mutual agreement about 2 years later).

I mean, why shouldn't someone who is living in your house pay towards the upkeep (rent) and bills? If there was a mortgage, would people expect to let her live there rent free just because "love"?

titling the discussion 'bird moving into my gaff' suggested the same to me tbh

Would she not be more at home in a nest? Get her a perch at least and let her out the window a few times a day.

If she pays a dime towards anything she'll have a right to your home if you split.

Way to take the fun out of 'living in sin'...I'd say OP would struggle to get it up at all after wading through all that...

You feel she should contribute beyond bills ?. Like as in pay you for the privilege of living with you. You're not covering any of her costs if you own the gaff and you want to make a few quid off her. Jesus you're some catch fella

Charge her like you would a tenant for rent and split all bills 50/50

That should make sure she's not your gf for long and just a person you know/tenant.

Post again when you're ready to actually share your life with someone.

Ah watch on, you take a single post and decide you've figured out the entire relationship just like that. Fair play to ya. Mystic Meg would be proud. I wonder why she stayed with me for 7 years if I was so demanding and un-committed, followed me from one county to another to live with me. And we never talked about kids. No, that doesn't happen in relationships. Suppose maybe I had her trapped somehow as well, she wanted to leave but I wouldn't let her. Probably abused her too yeah? Seeing as you're making stuff up, we might as well continue.

Boards full of judgment as always. Why do people always comment on stuff they know nothing about? For the thanks I'd imagine. Go you!

Edit: I realised that maybe my wording allowed you to start the fabrication, so let me clarify. She got serious about definitely wanting them. I got getting serious about definitely not wanting them. We came to a mutual agreement and parted ways. Or should I have taken her at her word when she said "It's ok, I don't want kids if you stay with me"? Maybe I should have said ok, denied her children (by getting the chop) and then be blamed for her unhappiness?

Please, do tell, how would that have worked out, seeing as you know so well.

never ever let them move in. Let her rent somewhere else, then if/when it doesnt work out (most relationships wont last) you still have your home.