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Bird moving into my gaff - what’s fair to charge her?

  • 09-06-2022 9:10pm
    Registered Users Posts: 95 ✭✭ Ham Grenade

    What’s the usual situation for this. My girlfriend of 18 months is moving in next month to my apartment which I own outright. What is a reasonable financial arrangement to propose? Don’t what it to look like I’m paying for sexy time but I feel she should pay something



  • Registered Users Posts: 4,945 ✭✭✭ SCOOP 64

    Day rate or Night rate ?

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  • Registered Users Posts: 1,261 ✭✭✭ Gant21

    Council house rates €25 a week.

  • Registered Users Posts: 95 ✭✭ Ham Grenade

    Don’t have a mortgage. But I feel she should contribute beyond bills

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  • Registered Users Posts: 1,269 ✭✭✭ UsBus

    Keep it to 50/50 on bills. Will be much simpler down the line if it doesn't work out. As long as your property is in good nic, you'll still have the asset in years to come.

  • Registered Users Posts: 1,089 ✭✭✭ snowcat

    Jaysus dont be tight. You are obviously doing ok to own your own apartment. The women love that so i would not charge her but if she mis behaves give her the boot.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 12,943 ✭✭✭✭ Potential-Monke

    It's a bit different seeing as you already outright own the place. Bills should be 50/50, men and women are equal these days, no room for chivalry. When I had the house and mortgage, I charged herself €300 a month, far less than what she was paying in rent and just under 1/3rd of the monthly mortgage. The intent was she would join me on the mortgage at some point, but after I told her I wanted €10k as the deposit cost me €20k and I was only in there a year before she moved in. Only fair she pays half, including the deposit, imo. Anyway, that didn't happen because we're both smart and realised it may not work out as intended. Which was good, because it didn't work out as intended (we broke up because she started getting serious about having kids, mutual agreement about 2 years later).

    I mean, why shouldn't someone who is living in your house pay towards the upkeep (rent) and bills? If there was a mortgage, would people expect to let her live there rent free just because "love"?

  • Registered Users Posts: 1,854 ✭✭✭ Pissy Missy

    Is this a girlfriend or a tenant that will be moving in!? Fairplay to her if she's happy to give you money for rent when the apartment is already paid off. But if I owned my own place and my boyfriend moved in, no way would I be asking for rent nor expecting to pay it if the shoe was on the other foot.

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