To confront or not?

Ask who owns the car. Her reaction will tell you everything you need to know. Don’t argue. Just say goodbye and be glad you dodged a bigger bullet in the end.

Its a pity she couldn't have just been honest with you and said "Sorry, this just isn't working". Of course, you'd be wondering "why? I thought it was going so well" - which is natural enough and you're then left asking what had you done wrong. And I believe that's what's driving this desire to confront her - the 'why' part.

However, don't throw your dignity out with the bath water by chasing her for explanations. But, it would be dignified to say you feel the relationship has gone its distance and you think it should end here. She might come back and say something - or not. If she says nothing, you're no worse off, rather you're better off as now you know its over.

On the other - unlikely - hand, she might offer a reason as to why she lost interest. You might get some useful personal insights out of that.

Good luck, be kind to yourself and move on.

Drop a gear and off up the road with ya lad....

Honestly? Break up now. You've got your answer without her officially saying things.

When we are in relationships we can sense when things are up. It's our gut. Yours is screaming alarm bells now. Then you see there was a car parked outside over night and it was some guy she dated before? ... as I say you got your answer.

Give her a call and say you saw the car you know what's up. You'll be doing it for your self respect. Pay no attention to her lies as 99.9 percent of people lie rather than tell the truth when caught out.

If the shoe was on the other foot you'd be getting a phone call sharpish from her.

Have you agreed you are exclusive?

I've be honest, tell you tried to contact her. You drove by and saw the car so left her alone. She has no need to be telling white lies just be honest about it. and then move on. I wouldn't play games and try to catch her out.

I think you need to take the hint

Sorry to hear but this person is just stringing you along. Best for your own sanity to walk away from it. Certainly do NOT plan any holidays anyway. She has no respect for you.

Don't do any of the above, OP, just break it off with her and if she asks you why, tell her.

Ignore my first comment. I thought she was just being too cowardly to dump you, but it's clear now she's playing you. Book the restaurant as suggested above. Order your main course. Leave an envelope on the table and excuse yourself to take a call. Take out your phone and block her number. When she opens the envelope, the company logo of the lad she's sleeping with will tell her all she needs to know.

Why would you wait for her to slip up? What happens when she slips up? Do you win or will it be less painful of what?

If you're going to end it, just end it. If she's cheating on you, and you've made your decision to end it then do it and don't turn it into a game. I can't imagine how unpleasant it would be, spending time with her, waiting for her to slip up so you can catch her out and then end it.

Love it :)

the OP could confront and win the moral high ground and he will be smug at it being her fault. but why waste his time?

OP shouldn't bother with her and move on.

if she is arranging things for them sure tell her he is ending it cos....

but imo no need to seek out the confrontation- it just keeps you in a circle of unnecessary draining drama of back and forth

I find people wanting the big closure are never satisfied with what they get - cos the satisfaction they think they want doesn't exist.

'civilised suggestions' are exactly the standard of suggestions expected in the forum to be fair.

OP I'm not sure who you should be worried about sending signals to, but all you have to do is preserve your own dignity. I wouldn't hold on and wait for her to slip up, or play any games. Just call it a day and move on.