Pregnancy in your 30s

I’d my first at 34 and I’m due my second in a few months at 39. Had some miscarriages last year so ideally wouldn’t have had such a gap in between them. I was the same in that I’ve travelled a lot and went back to college late twenties to study what I really wanted to do. I’d met my husband at 17 so we didn’t rush into kids

I had my first at 34 and my second at 36. Myself and my husband were together over a decade when my first arrived so it helped that we had a firm foundation before the madness arrived! You definitely don't need to be worrying about your age just yet, but as another poster said, don't fall into any relationship just to have a baby. There are lots of women doing it alone too, so you don't necessarily need a partner if the years go by and you are no closer to starting a relationship.

Had some irregularity around 35. Got it checked out and was well into perimenopause. No eggs left. Had a procedure to prepare for ivf and got pregnant naturally with twins shortly afterwards (reckon hormones were overcompensating for failing ovaries). Didn’t try for another after that for various reasons. Sometimes it’s fine to have them later and sometimes it doesn’t work out. But definitely keep a close eye on the cycles.

I was 38 having my first last year. We'd like to have another but haven't started trying yet. I had no issues becoming pregnant and had no complications due to my geriatric state

I think fertility is a feast or a famine really. We couldn't pass on the stairs without me getting pregnant, and I had unbelievably easy pregnancies and births. My sister had terrible trouble. IVF, miscarriages etc etc. I felt so bad for her. It was a terrible time. Very happily she has one little one now, born when my sister was 42. My friend used to say it was a pity you couldn't turn your fertility off and on at will.

Best of luck to anyone who is trying for a baby. I hope it all works out!

I've not had kids yet, but I did find myself in a similar situation to you OP a few years ago. I'd gone through a big breakup and really panicked about what kind of life I'd be able to have and how much time I had left to have kids.

Last year I booked in for a Fertility MOT, and it was a huge reassurance to learn that I have pretty good ovarian reserve and good egg reserve and all is in working order. I've also met someone since and am currently going through some big life changes, and it's an assurance to me that once things have settled, I'll be with the right partner and in good health when we decide to start trying. It did also give me a conscientiousness about my health that I didn't always have - and led to dietary and lifestyle changes (including leaving a very stressful job).

A friend of mine is about your age, single, and has decided she'll go the sperm donor route in a year or two if she hasn't met anyone by then. She's already researching it and has set her own timeline.

My message here is 1. you have time and life happens unexpectedly to all of us, I've certainly found being in my 30s that relationships do tend to move quite quickly too and 2. you can take control of some of this and make your own plans if you don't meet someone.

30, 31 and 36.
I knew when I came home after my first date with my now husband we'd most likely get married. I held off, but in hindsight we could have gotten married sooner and had our kids a year earlier.
I found things moved fast, and weren't scary fast, when I met the right person.

Moonteach, your only 32 that's still really young so I wouldn't panic yet.

In my friends group we all had our babies from 31- right up to 41. I didn't have my 1st child until 35.

Only 1 of us needed IVF so it's not all as doom + gloom as media makes out.

My mother is in her 70s and had her 1st child in her early 30s, I suppose it would be like someone today being in 40s having 1st child.

She was classed as a geratic mother.

She said what was the rush and she was right, she thought her friends were mad getting married at 19 & 20.

The most important thing is that you meet the right person. I meet my husband in my twenties & we were married a good few years before kids, but a difference I did note from friends who meet partners in 30s was that things seem to move quicker + some married or had kids within 2 years.