Meghan & Harry: WE QUIT

suicide_circus · 27-02-2021 2:29pm

Going on James Cordon in order to "step back" from the media spotlight.

Pair of absolute spoofers.

27-02-2021 2:36pm

Yep, said it before, for a pair that don't like/want media intrusion into their lives, they do court the media a bit too much.

the purple tin · 27-02-2021 3:05pm

Well there are different types of media coverage. Going on a show like Oprah for eg lets you give your side of the story. You know it can't be twisted to misrepresent you.

Whereas a rag like the Daily Fail have their own agenda and love to put the boot in to people without giving them the right to reply, because they know it will sell more papers and get more clicks.

the purple tin · 27-02-2021 3:09pm

That reminds, me a few years ago I was in a shop and the young lad behind the counter said 'we are giving everyone a free copy of The Daily Mail today, would you like one?'.
I said no thanks, and told him that reading that crap would only put me in a bad mood.
He said it must be bad alright because hardly anyone had taken a copy all day

Leroy42 · 27-02-2021 4:04pm

bubblypop wrote: »

Yep, said it before, for a pair that don't like/want media intrusion into their lives, they do court the media a bit too much.

You think that the price for any interaction with the media is that they can make up things about you and break privacy rules?

27-02-2021 4:08pm

Leroy42 wrote: »

You think that the price for any interaction with the media is that they can make up things about you and break privacy rules?

Nope
Never said anything of the sort

27-02-2021 4:08pm

Leroy42 wrote: »

You think that the price for any interaction with the media is that they can make up things about you and break privacy rules?

Nope
Never said anything of the sort

Leroy42 · 27-02-2021 4:13pm

bubblypop wrote: »

Nope
Never said anything of the sort

But you are questioning why people that claim to want privacy are on Oprah and James Cordon?

You do realise that there is a difference between PR and being attacked by the media?

They are trying to sell something, and can utilise PR to generate additional revenue but that shouldn't mean they can be torn apart.

They have never said they wanted to remove themselves from the public eye, just that they want a fairer relationship

27-02-2021 4:21pm

I said for people that complain so much about the media, they court plenty of media attention themselves.

It's double standards.
If they want privacy, they can have it.

cnocbui · 27-02-2021 4:36pm

bubblypop wrote: »

I said for people that complain so much about the media, they court plenty of media attention themselves.

It's double standards.
If they want privacy, they can have it.

No it isn't - they want public attention on cause they wish to support, they don't the Daily Mail sending someone to Mexico the track down dad and offer him a bucket of cash for a private letter she sent him, or 15 journalists camped out around the hose they had fled to in Canada, with long lenses trained on their bedroom window 24/7.

It's no different to politicians - they want relevant media attention, but they don't want them rifling through their rubbish bins or tracking down their parents and friends and trying to trick them into reveling private details - the more embarrasing, the better.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 27-02-2021 5:51pm

bubblypop wrote: »

I wouldn't see any issue with her not inviting some of her family to the wedding, not everyone lived in The Waltons.
We can't pick our family, unfortunately.

Me neither. I totally agree. My brother wasn’t at my wedding because he’s an awful person. I won’t go into details on why but I’m confident that there’s nobody in this thread who would query my decision if I did elaborate. I’m sure there were family members and friends wondering why he wasn’t there but they don’t know what I know.

Who knows what the dynamics are in any one else’s family. That Meghan’s father staged paparazzi shots of him working out, suit shopping and standing around looking sad before Meghan and Harry’s wedding was an interesting nugget of information, I thought. That’s a decidedly odd thing to do.

bitofabind · 01-03-2021 11:38am

Yeah the Oprah trailer definitely makes it look like they're trying to give a fair and balanced "side of their story", what with the dramatic jump cuts and titillating statements like "I was afraid of history repeating itself" and Lord-of-the-Rings style music.

It also appears to put Meghan front and centre, with Harry as a side-kick, "bring him in as a side note once the main interview has been done". Should be interesting.

meeeeh · 01-03-2021 12:21pm

It's Oprah. It will be a human interest story. People who are into that will like it. It won't be Emily Matlis interviewing Andrew. Which btw just proves how dumb Andrew is to do an interview with current affairs type of presenter. There is a reason why Lance Armstrong did an interview with Oprah and there is a reason why for example Mary Robinson went on Lare Late.

Maybe there will be some shattering revelations but I think it will be mostly fluffy stuff, a bit of tears, a bit of mental health, a bit of evil media (understandably) and a bit of we are at peace now. English media will have a fit because of the date it will be aired on and I bet that will be just about the most controversial thing about the whole interview.

BettyS · 01-03-2021 12:37pm

meeeeh wrote: »

It's Oprah. It will be a human interest story. People who are into that will like it. It won't be Emily Matlis interviewing Andrew. Which btw just proves how dumb Andrew is to do an interview with current affairs type of presenter. There is a reason why Lance Armstrong did an interview with Oprah and there is a reason why for example Mary Robinson went on Lare Late.

Maybe there will be some shattering revelations but I think it will be mostly fluffy stuff, a bit of tears, a bit of mental health, a bit of evil media (understandably) and a bit of we are at peace now. English media will have a fit because of the date it will be aired on and I bet that will be just about the most controversial thing about the whole interview.

I do think that the media gave them at the same time. I also think the concept of being the spare and lesser of two siblings, re: Harry is hugely psychologically damaging. It must be hard as a child to see your brother get special sessions with your Granny.

However, I also think that they benefited hugely, in the form of a gilded lifestyle. They never acknowledge this. They will never have to scrape together the 10% for a shoebox in Lucan. I think that people are fed up listening to them bemoan a very privileged lifestyle, while a lot of people are sick or out of work. The media scrutiny hardly came as a surprise when Meghan married Harry. That is why his ex decided not to marry him. They also preach about causes, such as environmental, while living a very environmentally-damaging lifestyle. I think people see them as hypocritical

meeeeh · 01-03-2021 12:52pm

An awful lot of people don't need to scrape together for a shoebox in Lucan. And using that logic majority of world population would think that is the height of luxury and yet people scraping together for shoebox in Lucan have no problem complaining about their situation.

What usually bothers us is the people who have more than we do, however that doesn't mean we are not privileged in comparison to majority of world population. So us bemoaning about our privileged life can be dismissed in the same way.

BettyS · 01-03-2021 12:57pm

meeeeh wrote: »

An awful lot of people don't need to scrape together for a shoebox in Lucan. And using that logic majority of world population would think that is the height of luxury.

You are using the argument of false equivalence.

On a slight tangent, the median salary in this country is 40,000. If two people make 80,000 per year, and have to pay childcare costs and rent, raising 40,000+ for the deposit can feel like scraping it together.

You surely cannot deny the immense privilege the royals have? The closest most of us on Boards will get to a private jet is as a spectator from afar. The money they have by any world standard is obscene

01-03-2021 1:00pm

What date will it be aired on? Is it significant?

Be right back · 01-03-2021 1:05pm

bubblypop wrote: »

What date will it be aired on? Is it significant?

Commonwealth day, the Queen is on TV making a speech that day too, I think.

Be right back · 01-03-2021 1:29pm

bitofabind wrote: »

Yeah the Oprah trailer definitely makes it look like they're trying to give a fair and balanced "side of their story", what with the dramatic jump cuts and titillating statements like "I was afraid of history repeating itself" and Lord-of-the-Rings style music.

It also appears to put Meghan front and centre, with Harry as a side-kick, "bring him in as a side note once the main interview has been done". Should be interesting.

Why aren't they being interviewed together for the whole thing?

meeeeh · 01-03-2021 1:44pm

BettyS wrote: »

You surely cannot deny the immense privilege the royals have? The closest most of us on Boards will get to a private jet is as a spectator from afar. The money they have by any world standard is obscene

We can't deny what privilege we have in comparison to some untouchable in Calcutta. I don't deny one bit their privilege however that doesn't mean they aren't affected by certain issues like everyone else. It's a false belief that being rich is enough to be happy (it can help but it's not enough).

I don't accept the argument that those richer than us should not complain about something just because they are richer.

Leroy42 · 01-03-2021 2:15pm

I think everyone in the UK, the media especially, is looking at this all wrong. They are blaming Harry, and especially Megan, for wanting to leave.

But nobody is asking how and why? This is a pretty monumental decision by Harry, and yet the most the media want to do is simply blame Megan for it.

Nobody is asking what traumas and problems this fella has, or had, that has led him to this decision. Not only he is effectively turning his back on his family, but he is taking the risk of losing out on a very privileged existence.

Rather than asking how he could possibly do this to the queen, people should be asking how the hell the queen allowed it to get this far.

With all that money and privilege the easiest thing for Harry to have done is kept his mouth shut, turned up to the odd event, and lived his life. Like the majority of the royal family actually do. But he didn't, couldn't, opt for that. He needed things to fundamentally change. You can bet he brought issues up with his Da, the queen etc. It is sad that they couldn't bring themselves to look to actually help him.

I know everyone thinks the queen is amazing, but as a grandmother, as a parent, as a role model, she seems to be completely lacking. Her family is completely screwed up.

cnocbui · 01-03-2021 2:18pm

Be right back wrote: »

Why aren't they being interviewed together for the whole thing?

Aliens.

BettyS · 01-03-2021 2:34pm

meeeeh wrote: »

We can't deny what privilege we have in comparison to some untouchable in Calcutta. I don't deny one bit their privilege however that doesn't mean they aren't affected by certain issues like everyone else. It's a false belief that being rich is enough to be happy (it can help but it's not enough).

I don't accept the argument that those richer than us should not complain about something just because they are richer.

My original post never denied the struggles they face. But while yes, they have their own strife, and as I mentioned before, I think that the concept of spare is abhorrent, they have considerable advantage materially over the average human being. A simple acknowledgment of their privilege by them rather than simply outlining all that is wrong with their lives, which they are entitled to do might endear them more to the public.

The reality, be it fair, or not, is that people who have lost loved ones recently before their time or who have lost their job may not be able to relate and sympathise with them. They are entitled to share their opinion. But there are a lot of traumatised people around at the moment in society who may not be as open to their woes.

meeeeh · 01-03-2021 2:35pm

Leroy42 wrote: »

With all that money and privilege the easiest thing for Harry to have done is kept his mouth shut, turned up to the odd event, and lived his life. Like the majority of the royal family actually do. But he didn't, couldn't, opt for that. He needed things to fundamentally change. You can bet he brought issues up with his Da, the queen etc. It is sad that they couldn't bring themselves to look to actually help him.

I know everyone thinks the queen is amazing, but as a grandmother, as a parent, as a role model, she seems to be completely lacking. Her family is completely screwed up.

I actually think it's an institutional problem. Similar to Catholic Church institution of Royal Family is more important than individuals in it. So there is no wonder they are screwed up. I don't find royals particularly interesting, however I find the position of very archaic institutions in the society very interesting. How their roles are scrutinized in one way and not scrutinized at all in another way (Andrew again). All this just proves to me that being born as certain rank is completely f***ed up. Plus I hold them responsible for influencing 90% of boring, frumpy wedding or horse racing outfits.

Leroy42 · 01-03-2021 2:40pm

BettyS wrote: »

My original post never denied the struggles they face. But while yes, they have their own strife, and as I mentioned before, I think that the concept of spare is abhorrent, they have considerable advantage materially over the average human being. A simple acknowledgment of their privilege by them rather than simply outlining all that is wrong with their lives, which they are entitled to do might endear them more to the public.

The other side to that is that they have a considerable amount to risk in all of this. They are, potentially, turning their back on all of that. They may well be able to maintain the money side, but their position in the social arena, in their standing in the UK, is massively at risk.

I doubt they even worry about money. For them, I guess, it is not something they have ever had to worry about. (Well Harry anyway, Megan probably until her acting break).

But it strikes me as about something far more important, to Harry at least, than money.

BettyS · 01-03-2021 2:41pm

meeeeh wrote: »

I actually think it's an institutional problem. Similar to Catholic Church institution of Royal Family is more important than individuals in it. So there is no wonder they are screwed up. I don't find royals particularly interesting, however I find the position of very archaic institutions in the society very interesting. How their roles are scrutinized in one way and not scrutinized at all in another way (Andrew again). All this just proves to me that being born as certain rank is completely f***ed up. Plus I hold them responsible for influencing 90% of boring, frumpy wedding or horse racing outfits.

I look at my young nieces and nephews, and their close relationship with my mother. I cannot imagine the hurt if she singled out one of them to nurture and to have special bonding time with. We all need to feel purpose in our life. Feeling that your only purpose is to be the understudy is wrong. Harry likely never got to develop as a person in his own right. I also think having no control over one’s life direction is ridiculous

Itssoeasy · 01-03-2021 2:43pm

Leroy42 wrote: »

I think everyone in the UK, the media especially, is looking at this all wrong. They are blaming Harry, and especially Megan, for wanting to leave.

But nobody is asking how and why? This is a pretty monumental decision by Harry, and yet the most the media want to do is simply blame Megan for it.

Nobody is asking what traumas and problems this fella has, or had, that has led him to this decision. Not only he is effectively turning his back on his family, but he is taking the risk of losing out on a very privileged existence.

Rather than asking how he could possibly do this to the queen, people should be asking how the hell the queen allowed it to get this far.

With all that money and privilege the easiest thing for Harry to have done is kept his mouth shut, turned up to the odd event, and lived his life. Like the majority of the royal family actually do. But he didn't, couldn't, opt for that. He needed things to fundamentally change. You can bet he brought issues up with his Da, the queen etc. It is sad that they couldn't bring themselves to look to actually help him.

I know everyone thinks the queen is amazing, but as a grandmother, as a parent, as a role model, she seems to be completely lacking. Her family is completely screwed up.

My impression from watching people talk about William and Harry is that after their mother died the British public became very protective of them. I don’t recall whether Kate Middleton was universally at the outset but being a member of the royal family isn’t a normal existence and most of them seem to get on with it. I think if Meghan and Harry had given it a few years then maybe the reaction to them leaving might not have been so negative. I mean I think the current situation will change whether Harry and Meghan like it or not when the queen dies and Charles becomes king.

An institution like the British royal family isn’t going to fundamentally change over night seeing as it’s been in existence for centuries.

Who says they didn’t help him ? I mean he’s spoken on TV about the struggles he had after the death of his mother with William and Kate and it seemed like he was getting past it.

Stateofyou · 01-03-2021 2:48pm

BettyS wrote: »

My original post never denied the struggles they face. But while yes, they have their own strife, and as I mentioned before, I think that the concept of spare is abhorrent, they have considerable advantage materially over the average human being. A simple acknowledgment of their privilege by them rather than simply outlining all that is wrong with their lives, which they are entitled to do might endear them more to the public.

The reality, be it fair, or not, is that people who have lost loved ones recently before their time or who have lost their job may not be able to relate and sympathise with them. They are entitled to share their opinion. But there are a lot of traumatised people around at the moment in society who may not be as open to their woes.

No matter what someone is going through in their own personal life, it's completely their own choice (or failing, in my opinion) to begrudge, judge, look down on, be angry towards someone else because they're perceived to have it better.

Of course they're aware of their privileged position; they've dedicated their lives to service and helping others instead of looking out for only themselves and not even attempting to give back like so many others. They need to take control of their image and story because their popularity will in part make it easier for them to make the deals and pull in the kind of money it takes to make the big impacts they hope to have.

BettyS · 01-03-2021 2:54pm

Stateofyou wrote: »

No matter what someone is going through in their own personal life, it's completely their own choice (or failing, in my opinion) to begrudge, judge, look down on, be angry towards someone else because they're perceived to have it better.

Of course they're aware of their privileged position; they've dedicated their lives to service and helping others instead of looking out for only themselves and not even attempting to give back like so many others. They need to take control of their image and story because their popularity will in part make it easier for them to make the deals and pull in the kind of money it takes to make the big impacts they hope to have.

Not everybody can reach the top of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, as you suggest.

I have seen people that had genuinely traumatic lives. After the lives that they have had, far be it for me to judge their “failing” i.e begrudging those with better off lives. You are judging those who “begrudge”, as evident by your own pejorative comment about them? We all judge. There is a difference between judgement and condemnation.

Time will tell what kind of difference that they will lead. Time will tell what they will do with the vast sums of money that they receive.

Leroy42 · 01-03-2021 2:55pm

Itssoeasy wrote: »

My impression from watching people talk about William and Harry is that after their mother died the British public became very protective of them. I don’t recall whether Kate Middleton was universally at the outset but being a member of the royal family isn’t a normal existence and most of them seem to get on with it. I think if Meghan and Harry had given it a few years then maybe the reaction to them leaving might not have been so negative. I mean I think the current situation will change whether Harry and Meghan like it or not when the queen dies and Charles becomes king.

An institution like the British royal family isn’t going to fundamentally change over night seeing as it’s been in existence for centuries.

Who says they didn’t help him ? I mean he’s spoken on TV about the struggles he had after the death of his mother with William and Kate and it seemed like he was getting past it.

And yet he has turned his back on the whole thing. So whether you, or anyone else, thinks he was past it, or will get past it, seems to be the opposite.

Institutions change all the time. Was a time when divorce wasn't allowed. When the Queen didn't pay taxes. Hell when the queen was in sole charge.

They didn't want to change it. They didn't want to stand up to the media. The worried that standing up to the media may result in the media being less fawning to them and thus place their institution in jeopardy from a public losing interest.

The Queen has done a great job in bringing the Royal family back into the hearts and minds of the general public. But it's a marketing company, and Harry didn't want (as far as I can tell) to be part of the game. He doesn't seem to buy in that the price for their place in the media, is to have lies, and private details leaked.

The queen could have done something to help, should have done more to help. They didn't. How much they did or didn't do, I've no idea.

But nobody seems to be even asking. Its all Meaghan's fault, coming over here, with her notions and looking to change things. Get back in your box.

And even they way they dealt with Harry, Rather than accept he wants to change things, he wants to step back from 100% but still do lots of good work, they gve him an ultimatum. Our way or the high way.

Meghan & Harry: WE QUIT

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