What did you take for granted before lock down that you vow not to after?

andekwarhola · 13-02-2021 01:43PM

It's my kids, and all kids, for whom I feel most sorry.

As mentally tough as it is for me, at least as an adult I can somewhat rationalize the restrictions.

My kids can't support their football club. They can't see their grandparents or go to school; can't hang out with their friends ; can't train or play matches with their teammates, and all at a hugely formative stage of their lives.

And it's doubly hard trying to explain it to them when they see other being allowed to flout some of the rules.

Stark · 13-02-2021 01:56PM

petrolcan wrote: »

Sure the same could happen if we didn't have covid. Fact is that we do have covid so why put additional pressure on services, especially now when there is something resembling hope in sight.

Because there's sweet **** all risk, none of that risk has anything to do with virus transmission and people still have a right to exercise, mental health, fresh air.

Antares35 · 13-02-2021 05:29PM

andekwarhola wrote: »

It's my kids, and all kids, for whom I feel most sorry.

As mentally tough as it is for me, at least as am adult I can somewhat rationalize the restrictions.

My kids can't support their football club. They can't see their grandparents or go to school; can't hang out with their friends ; can't train or play matches with their teammates, and all at a hugely formative stage of their lives.

And it's doubly hard trying to explain it to them when they see other being allowed to flout some of the rules.

Ah

I hadn't even thought about it in those terms to be honest. The only thing is it might build resilience, but they shouldn't have to be at a young age either. I'm lucky mine is only eight months (and the other is only half cooked!) but I worry if it goes on and on how their social skills will be affected. My baby has only ever seen one other baby! Must be tough with older children though.

completedit · 13-02-2021 05:32PM

Mimon wrote: »

The need to go out for a big night out now and again. Always thought it was just something fun to do but it definitely is a need for me.

Need to go out and express yourself/dance/have the craic. Nothing like a party at 5/6 in the morning after coming back from a club. Different state of mind

Will in The Inbetweeners said 'there's something quite animalistic about our urge to dance':pac::pac::pac: The bint he was with turned away from him but he was right. That's something the bores don't understand about drinking and socialising. There's a deep rooted need fulfilled by doing it. It's painted in such a negative light in this country which only further acts to make it more destructive as people see it as a taboo thing.

o1s1n · 13-02-2021 08:57PM

Gael23 wrote: »

I’m the same, though 6 years younger than you. All but one in reasonably good shape aside from hearing, knees etc that come with age.

It's mad isn't it? I remember all of my friends in primary school having their grandparents pass away during school. Almost like I surpassed all of that and my own grandparents were immortal.

I am soon to realise that is not true, but it's been really amazing having them alive the whole time. Even if they don't live too much longer I've still have them pretty much for half my life.

Sure I had two of my great grandparents alive until I was 25! Have an amazing photo of me when I'm about 12 or so, with my dad, my grandad and my great grandad all standing on my great grandad's doorstep in Monkstown.

ShatterAlan · 13-02-2021 09:20PM

Reading these posts I don't think any of you took any of these things for granted. The fact that you miss these little things means that you didn't actually take them for granted.

Rubberchikken · 13-02-2021 09:26PM

Its not being a bore to object to house parties that maybe entertain the clueless but disturb decent folks lives and peace.

Will never take for granted just being able to enter a shop, travel anywhere, eat in a cafe etc .

Ave Sodalis · 13-02-2021 09:46PM

There's a lot of things I miss but what I took for granted was things to do. Last month, I took my sister into town for her pre-test driving lesson, and then her test that she was doing in her own car (therefore I had no transport). It was raining, and nothing was open. I ended up hanging out in the graveyard my grandparents and uncle are buried in because it has abbey ruins I could shelter under and it wouldn't seem weird to be there 2 hours later because there's nobody about with the rain. It was peaceful, and thanks to the rain, nobody saw the creepy girl sitting in the graveyard for hours.

Don't get me wrong, I am a weirdo who likes graveyards but in the wet and cold for hours was a bit much. During normal times, I probably would have visited but then gone for tea or lunch somewhere, or browsed the book shop.

voldejoie · 13-02-2021 09:49PM

Travelling. I've always loved it but used to complain about having to travel a good bit for work - I'll not be doing that again! I'll never forget coming back from New York on 10 March last year, going straight to the office and joining in the debate on whether we'd be told to work from home for a while... Of course, two days later the office closed. I was meant to be going back to New York in early April (and had booked some annual leave to spend time with friends upstate), and that day was told that the trip was postponed indefinitely, I really thought it would be a few weeks at most and yet here we are nearly a year later.

So I miss travelling, eating at restaurants, going to the cinema and the theatre, mindlessly shopping in clothes shops, meeting up with friends for lunch/coffee/drinks, hanging out at the beach, flirting with strangers at a bar, working out of an office and having the craic with my colleagues, going dancing, getting my hair and nails done, hugging people... just going about day to day life with spontaneity. I can't wait for that to come back.

shesty · 13-02-2021 09:57PM

Antares35 wrote: »

Ah I hadn't even thought about it in those terms to be honest. The only thing is it might build resilience, but they shouldn't have to be at a young age either. I'm lucky mine is only eight months (and the other is only half cooked!) but I worry if it goes on and on how their social skills will be affected. My baby has only ever seen one other baby! Must be tough with older children though.

It is horrible.As someone said to me the other day, it's watching their little faces fall when you say yeah, you could visit granny last weekend but sorry no more now for ages.No sorry, preschool won't be open on Monday - again.No,sorry, I can't tell you when it will be.It is watching them go on a click and collect trip to the shopping centre 20 minutes down the road and the absolute excitement of them at just getting to walk from the car to the shop...like Disneyland levels - and you realise they have been nowhere other than a local walk in 2 months.It is them seeing anyone that isn't their parents or a couple of neighbours and every single thing they can think of is spilling out of their mouths all at once at the sheer excitement of seeing a different person, as they say, for real.It is the going to my mam's house to talk to my parents out of the car window and my 4 year old wanting to know if "this time" she can get out of the car and hug her granny for real.

It is the realisation that they have stopped asking can they go places or see people, not because they are ok and coping with what they have, but because they know the answer is always no now, and that you have basically been made a liar of so many times as a parent at this point, that they can't really believe anything you say anymore until it actually happens. This has long passed the point of resilience tbh, it is damaging now, and it can be seen im their behaviour.

The thing I will never, ever take for granted again is being able to say yeah, we can go there, let's do that, to my kids when they ask.

petrolcan · 14-02-2021 10:59PM

Stark wrote: »

Because there's sweet **** all risk, none of that risk has anything to do with virus transmission and people still have a right to exercise, mental health, fresh air.

I didn't say it had anything to do with virus transmission, I said it was about adding additional pressures to already overstretched services.

ax530 · 14-02-2021 11:05PM

Not knowing how a night out would end up, freedom being able to walk somewhere stop off for few pints, move on another bar. Maybe get some food another few bars bag chips on way home could even end up house party
I made an attempt to go out in August & December between bookings, no space ect ended up coming home again within an hour. No more going out for me while restrictions & bookings involved.

14-02-2021 11:37PM

Bringing my kids on road trips especially starting this time of year.
Hopping in the car to visit family from the tip to the bottom of the country.
Going out for a nice meal and a nice bottle of wine with the OH and people watching on the street while eating&drinking.
Sitting under a gazebo while the galway rain lashes ya sideways.
Having a meal out with the kids.
Going for a massage-miss this so much.
Seeing family- although the peace without some of them is priceless.
Feel so sad on a daily basis for my youngest child 1 1/2 who's never really been anywhere! Walks, beach home. Never really met any family. He has his siblings but it gets me! No zoo no sun holidays etc.. Can't wait for life to return to normal.

What did you take for granted before lock down that you vow not to after?

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