Do you talk to your cousins?

RandomViewer · 17-07-2020 07:18PM

A Tyrant Named Miltiades! wrote: »

For arguments sake that's the equivalent of ten aunts, each having ten children... on both sides of the family
(10^2) x 2 = 200

Is that possible? I must be missing something

Average family size up to the eighties ,very possible

Rubberchikken · 17-07-2020 07:22PM

50+ first cousins alone. Spread all over. Come upon a couple of them occasionally as they live locally but the have never met some of them and haven't met the rest in a long time.
I've hardly time to keep up with my siblings never mind cousins:)

Sheridan81 · 17-07-2020 07:28PM

Nope. My cousin is Fergal Sharkey and he doesn't like me.

17-07-2020 07:31PM

Id be v.close to some,grew up together....while others id take or leave

Buford T. Justice XIX · 17-07-2020 07:32PM

beggars_bush wrote: »

40+ first cousins

Don't really keep in contact with them.
Randomly bump into them though

47 first cousins, 45 still alive, some ginormous number of second cousins, well over 100. I would know all my first cousins well, well enough to recognise and head for a drink if we were to meet randomly. We would have gone out socialising with a good number, around 20, when we were younger so would still be in contact with that portion regularly.

I met my first cousin once removed and her child, my first cousin twice removed, before Christmas for the first time.

They count as well, don't they?:p

sportsfan90 · 17-07-2020 07:36PM

I've 40 first cousins and can't say I'm very close to any of them. The one's I get on best with live overseas.

Most are perfectly nice people that I get on well with at family events but I could then go years without seeing some of them again.

I'm one of the youngest cousins on both sides of the family so there's some 25 years older than me that I'd walk past and not even recognise.

theteal · 17-07-2020 07:40PM

Nope. FB friends is about as close as it gets. Sure I barely talk to my brothers so what chance for the cousins. No malice or anything, just not a chatty bunch. The wife is in a whatsapp group with all of hers, they're in constant contact.

Galwayguy35 · 17-07-2020 08:37PM

Rarely.

They are posh southside dubs who seem to have forgotten they are one generation removed from the farmyard in the west.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 17-07-2020 08:41PM

king_of_mayo wrote: »

I don't really. I grew up away from them and then as you get older, you only see them at certain events. They're all still in contact with each other, live near-ish to each other. I think that's slightly unusual.

Probably be different for kids nowadays with the smaller families. I have 20+ cousins, doubt youngsters today will have half that.

Nah, I only have nine cousins as my parents come from unusually small families for the era and I'm not close to any of my cousins.

darragh o meara · 17-07-2020 08:44PM

Have a few cousins on my mams side but unfortunately I don’t see them as much as I’d like due to them living a bit away. As kids we would have been a lot closer due to us meeting regularly at my nans who lived halfway. Since she died we only see each other occasionally. On my dads side I only see them at funerals and the odd get together.

DoozerT6 · 17-07-2020 08:45PM

Like a lot of others on this thread, my cousins are perfectly nice people but I rarely saw them while growing up (once/twice a year, if that) as we didn't live anywhere near each other, so we never really had a close bond. Would be FB friends and such, and absolutely know if my family needed a dig out with anything that they would help without hesitation (as they have done in the past) but we would only ever meet up at specific family events: 'hatchings, matchings, and dispatchings', isn't that the phrase lol..when we do meet up we get on grand but it wouldn't be a regular thing.

Aglomerado · 17-07-2020 09:38PM

Not really. Once the grandparents next door to us (who were the focal point of the family) died, relationships petered out. One of my cousins lives next door to my parents but I'd never see her or call for a coffee when I'm staying with my folks.

Met two of them at Christmas and the years fell away we had such a lovely chat. I've one in Greece as well who I message on social media from time to time. He's the only one I'm Facebook friends with out of 20 + cousins.

Most are grand and I wish them well but just because I share DNA with them doesn't mean we have much else in common.

heldel00 · 17-07-2020 09:54PM

We're the youngest on father's side so don't have much to do with those cousins but would be very close to all cousins on mother's side.

Went to primary school with a girl who was Keith Duffy's cousin and she was obsessed with him (Boyzone was in full swing at the time). Her room was plastered in topless posters of him! We couldn't convince her it was just plain weird!

17-07-2020 11:27PM

Signore Fancy Pants wrote: »

Only after I ride 'em.

How'ya boss. Tis your culture after all.

antimatterx · 17-07-2020 11:28PM

No, I can't stand them. They're absolute wasters. I was close with them as a kid and as a teen, but in my 20s I have no interest.

I haven't seen the majority of them in 4 years.

RWCNT · 17-07-2020 11:31PM

My ex's nutjob Ma once told me that being in regular touch with your cousins is a sign of a small mind and having not broadened one's horizons through life.

Anyone else ever came across this belief?

17-07-2020 11:32PM

On my Fathers side probably 40 years since I've seen them and on the Mothers side probably one or two I would see occasionally! Couldn't give a hoot either way!

limerickabroad · 17-07-2020 11:34PM

Sheridan81 wrote: »

Nope. My cousin is Fergal Sharkey and he doesn't like me.

^^^^^^^

Under-rated post

El Tarangu · 18-07-2020 12:06AM

RandomViewer wrote: »

pwurple wrote: »

Almost 200 first cousins. I don't even know half of them, let alone speak to them.

Average family size up to the eighties ,very possible

(no it wasn't)

Granny Smyth · 18-07-2020 12:07AM

I married mine.

Sheridan81 · 18-07-2020 12:08AM

limerickabroad wrote: »

^^^^^^^

Under-rated post

Not many Undertone fans in the audience.:D

Nigel Fairservice · 18-07-2020 12:31AM

I have 11 first cousins on one side and only 1 on the other. The 11 on my Dad's side were all born abroad so I don't know them very well. I've never even met 2 of them. There's a big age gap between the eldest and the youngest in the family, 31 years I think. My mother and her brother were estranged so I don't know the one cousin I have on my mother's side. She only lives up the road. At this stage I don't have much interest in getting to know them.

My Dad was terrible at recognising his own cousins. My mother had to point them out to him at family occasions.

18-07-2020 12:45AM

Sheridan81 wrote: »

Not many Undertone fans in the audience.:D

I genuinely couldn't stand him!

A voice like a siren!

Pinch Flat · 18-07-2020 12:50AM

I'm in contact with one cousin on my mothers side. few through Facebook on my dads side but pretty superficial. a recent family death of an uncle on my mothers side brought the cousins around like vultures. Solicitors letters and everything. All over a very modest amount from a man who died in testate. Wouldn't bother with them after that mullarkey.

feargale · 18-07-2020 02:00AM

Signore Fancy Pants wrote: »

Only after I ride 'em.

Classy.

Ihavetheaids · 18-07-2020 02:09AM

No they are all dead

ILoveYourVibes · 18-07-2020 08:18AM

Yes of course.

_Kaiser_ · 18-07-2020 07:07PM

Nope. Last time I saw any of them was 5 years ago. Before that it would easily have been a decade or more.

No loss whatsoever though. Don't talk to any of the remaining family either except for my sister tbh and she's the same way with them.

pgj2015 · 18-07-2020 07:18PM

only when I bump into them. I have about 40.I only like about 5 of them max. some of them are awful tossers.

cj maxx · 18-07-2020 07:28PM

I'd have 60 or so cousins, most abroad so no

Do you talk to your cousins?

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