Why do so many people become dry so young?

pgj2015 · 12-06-2020 08:44PM #1

I am mid thirties, don't go out as much as I used to at all but I still love a rave now as much as I did when I was 25. most of my mates are in their 20's lol ah no they are from 25-37. some of the lads who are only around 30 wont go to a rave or lads holiday to Ibiza etc anymore.

so what makes some people want to settle down when they are still young? like its a long time to 80 if ya make it that far.

JohnnyFlash · 12-06-2020 08:56PM

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andekwarhola · 12-06-2020 08:58PM

I thought only people in the late 40s to mid 50s used the word 'Rave' these before being shushed by their mortified children.

pgj2015 · 12-06-2020 09:00PM

andekwarhola wrote: »

I thought only people in the late 40s to mid 50s used the word 'Rave' these before being shushed by their mortified children.

I have heard big techno DJs in their 20's saying raves, ravers etc so the only mortified people are your children.;)

RurtBeynolds · 12-06-2020 09:01PM

It's got nothing to do with settling down. Just good taste.

Alrigghtythen · 12-06-2020 09:02PM

andekwarhola wrote: »

I thought only people in the late 40s to mid 50s used the word 'Rave' these before being shushed by their mortified children.

So I'm not a square what word do the kids dig these days for a shindig?

andekwarhola · 12-06-2020 09:03PM

Alrigghtythen wrote: »

So I'm not a square what word do the kids dig these days for a shindig?

Fck knows :pac:

What a word shindig is though

Chris_Heilong · 12-06-2020 09:03PM

People have always settled down young, it was only around the mid 80s to now that people are waiting until their late 30s to settle and then realise all the downsides that come with that.

Slim Charles · 12-06-2020 09:03PM

Because it was a decent thing to do when young and full of life, im in my thirties now and dont want to jeopardise my job by missing two days trying to recover from drinking till all hours with people I dont like. Give me a night in on the cans with our lass any day.

pgj2015 · 12-06-2020 09:04PM

Alrigghtythen wrote: »

So I'm not a square what word do the kids dig these days for a shindig?

dont know, I dont really care what the kids say.

bop1977 · 12-06-2020 09:04PM

Can’t handle the hangovers.

12-06-2020 09:05PM

I duno but I'd loooove a good night out in the pub now

andekwarhola · 12-06-2020 09:05PM

pgj2015 wrote: »

dont know, I dont really care what the kids say.

Get your kids to show you youtube embedding skillz, grandad.

pgj2015 · 12-06-2020 09:05PM

Slim Charles wrote: »

Because it was a decent thing to do when young and full of life, im in my thirties now and dont want to jeopardise my job by missing two days trying to recover from drinking till all hours with people I dont like. Give me a night in on the cans with our lass any day.

im self employed so that doesn't bother me.

pgj2015 · 12-06-2020 09:06PM

andekwarhola wrote: »

Get your kids to show you youtube embedding skillz, grandad.

calm down.

andekwarhola · 12-06-2020 09:09PM

pgj2015 wrote: »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=er2lzvlfPCE

5:58

calm down.

Too late, I'm telling your Big Techno DJ Mates.

LuasSimon · 12-06-2020 09:10PM

Young people are too busy protesting these days to be going to raves

pgj2015 · 12-06-2020 09:11PM

andekwarhola wrote: »

Too late, I'm telling your Big Techno DJ Mates.

lol I posted the wrong video, ah who cares, enjoy the music.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P-sMMGsr_cE

The Mighty Quinn · 12-06-2020 09:12PM

bop1977 wrote: »

Can’t handle the hangovers.

This is probably a big part.

I too am mid 30s. I enjoyed a drink in my 20s, often to excess, but not at the bad end of things. I earned less money yet had far more disposable cash. I should have used it wiser... However I had many a night out, many a hangover.

I also occasionally dabbled with ecstasy. It was great fun until it wasn't. The last time I took them, some 7 years ago, the come down was so severe it put me off for life. Drink is similar on a lesser scale. I can't cope with the hangovers.

I also couldn't afford it, would end up being an absentee employee or father or both.

Being "dry" is living life fuller as far as I'm concerned.

pgj2015 · 12-06-2020 09:14PM

The Mighty Quinn wrote: »

This is probably a big part.

I too am mid 30s. I enjoyed a drink in my 20s, often to excess, but not at the bad end of things. I earned less money yet had far more disposable cash. I should have used it wiser... However I had many a night out, many a hangover.

I also occasionally dabbled with ecstasy. It was great fun until it wasn't. The last time I took them, some 7 years ago, the come down was so severe it put me off for life. Drink is similar on a lesser scale. I can't cope with the hangovers.

I also couldn't afford it, would end up being an absentee employee or father or both.

Being "dry" is living life fuller as far as I'm concerned.

You dont have to be off your head at a gig every weekend, im talking about 3 or 4 times a year.

Feisar · 12-06-2020 09:14PM

Thirty-six, still enjoy a good session, priorities shift though, our baby is almost a year old so there are more important things in life than waking up wondering where I am and who the hell is that. Plus my wife wouldn't be impressed!

I woke up one time beside a friend on a large couch, she asked me, "did we have sex?" I reached down, gave the wee lad a rub, had a sniff and said, "no." They say leopards don't change their spots but that lad is gone, hopefully.

When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

pgj2015 · 12-06-2020 09:16PM

Feisar wrote: »

Thirty-six, still enjoy a good session, priorities shift though, our baby is almost a year old so there are more important things in life than waking up wondering where I am and who the hell is that. Plus my wife wouldn't be impressed!

I woke up one time beside a friend on a large couch, she asked me, "did we have sex?" I reached down, gave the wee lad a rub, had a sniff and said, "no." They say leopards don't change their spots but that lad is gone, hopefully.

When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

I hope you dont regret it when you are older.

andekwarhola · 12-06-2020 09:20PM

Although i'd have fallen squarely into the raving category, it's not the worst thing in the world if young to middle aged people have more leisure and lifestyle options now. You don't always have to default to one lifestyle.

L1011 · 12-06-2020 09:21PM

I used to go to club nights all across the country (mostly NI, cause Dublin crowds had a high scumbag %, and the regional cities rarely got the acts that even regional towns in NI got then), England, Amsterdam. Usually two or three festivals a year. Random pile of non-dance gigs, some in the UK.

Then I got a mortgage. At 24.

Barely went on holiday for three years afterwards, no nights out further than my local. Got one holiday to Copenhagen when there were four airlines / five flights a day fighting it out for maybe one flight of passengers in winter and the return for two was €50 with a checked bag.

By the time I'd recovered enough discretionary spend I couldn't hack the hangovers, the club nights running to 6am, flying in at 10pm and out at 9pm, etc etc. Had booked a four day festival this summer - but a 4* hotel walking distance from the site rather than the camping or holiday cottages - and was fully expecting to maybe lose day 3 to staring at the ceiling in the hotel.

Feisar · 12-06-2020 09:23PM

pgj2015 wrote: »

I hope you dont regret in when you are older.

Well there are always trade offs. At some stage you gotta ask yourself, like in the old Arnie classic Conan, "what is best in life?"

I spent my twenties drinking and fúcking my demons away. Somewhere between there and here I found peace.

The Mighty Quinn · 12-06-2020 09:23PM

Feisar wrote: »

Thirty-six, still enjoy a good session, priorities shift though, our baby is almost a year old so there are more important things in life than waking up wondering where I am and who the hell is that. Plus my wife wouldn't be impressed!
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What he said. I too have a wife and child.

I don't need or want 3 or 4 nights a year to be off my head. I will have a few beers when I feel the urge, but I don't miss being out of my mind.

If I'm being entirely honest, there are brief moments when I do feel a pang for the days of casual sex and the chase. Until I remember there were far far more days being miserable over women and hollow sex and drunkenness than good ones.

I've nothing to regret when I'm older.

pgj2015 · 12-06-2020 09:24PM

L1011 wrote: »

I used to go to club nights all across the country (mostly NI, cause Dublin crowds had a high scumbag %, and the regional cities rarely got the acts that even regional towns in NI got then), England, Amsterdam. Usually two or three festivals a year. Random pile of non-dance gigs, some in the UK.

Then I got a mortgage. At 24.

Barely went on holiday for three years afterwards, no nights out further than my local. Got one holiday to Copenhagen when there were four airlines / five flights a day fighting it out for maybe one flight of passengers in winter and the return for two was €50 with a checked bag.

By the time I'd recovered enough discretionary spend I couldn't hack the hangovers, the club nights running to 6am, flying in at 10pm and out at 9pm, etc etc. Had booked a four day festival this summer - but a 4* hotel walking distance from the site rather than the camping or holiday cottages - and was fully expecting to maybe lose day 3 to staring at the ceiling in the hotel.

I reckon we will be back raving again this time next year. full capacity

12-06-2020 09:25PM

Is it not kind of tragic to be partying like you're 18 when you're in your 40s?

pgj2015 · 12-06-2020 09:27PM

andekwarhola wrote: »

I'm not the one crying on a forum on a Friday night about my mates swerving me, dude.

I still go out with them mates but not to techno gigs. still have plenty to go to gigs with.;)

Figel Narage · 12-06-2020 09:29PM

Never liked raves or drugs or alcohol anyway. Never liked waking up past 12 PM with a hangover and a bunch of money I could've spent on something else. Awfully empty feeling that I never enjoyed. May sound boring but somehow I've never been described as such. They were never my thing although I'm still young enough so maybe I might get into them after a mid life crisis.............

pgj2015 · 12-06-2020 09:31PM

Deleted User wrote: »

Is it not kind of tragic to be partying like you're 18 when you're in your 40s?

im not 40 but I wouldn't agree with ya to be honest. I dont party like I did when I was 18 either, im talking about a few techno gigs a year.

live and let live, i wouldnt judge anyone of any age clubbing. There are people in their 40's and 50's who are a lot cooler than some 25 year old who thinks they are old.

Why do so many people become dry so young?

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