Do you do your own thing?

pgj2015 · 20-01-2020 08:16PM #1

I think I always have, if you invite me to a wedding or stag or something I dont enjoy I will never accept, sometimes I make up an excuse but mostly I will just tell people straight out that I don't enjoy weddings or stags etc and wont be attending.

I just think life is too short and you should do things that you enjoy and avoid things you hate. I have been asked to be a best man, to go on blind dates, to take part in charity events, no thanks.

whiskeyman · 20-01-2020 08:19PM

Such conflict in replying to this post...

EmmetSpiceland · 20-01-2020 08:23PM

Stags are great. I could take, or leave, a wedding.

lawred2 · 20-01-2020 08:24PM

One thing is for sure, life is definitely too short for WhatsApp groups that you don't want or need to be a part of.

Leave chat immediately..

pgj2015 · 20-01-2020 08:29PM

EmmetSpiceland wrote: »

Stage are great. I could take, or leave, a wedding.

I love a night out but hate stags, a load of men in their 30's acting like kids, oh look at us we are all mad dressed as priests, ninjas etc downing 20 pints and getting strippers, its pathetic in my opinion.

andekwarhola · 20-01-2020 08:31PM

pgj2015 wrote: »

I think I always have, if you invite me to a wedding or stag or something I dont enjoy I will never accept, sometimes I make up an excuse but mostly I will just tell people straight out that I don't enjoy weddings or stags etc and wont be attending.

I just think life is too short and you should do things that you enjoy and avoid things you hate. I have been asked to be a best man, to go on blind dates, to take part in charity events, no thanks.

Reati · 20-01-2020 08:34PM

That cavalier thinking was what led to my mates husband ****ing the babysitter on night and getting her pregnant. God that was a car crash divorce to have to hear about.

20-01-2020 08:35PM

Neames · 20-01-2020 08:37PM

Do my own thing? I can't even remember what my own thing used to be.

Your Face · 20-01-2020 08:37PM

I like to push it.

Push it real good.

20-01-2020 08:41PM

Yes I do my own thing. There are times though when I can't. In life there will be always be times we need to put others first. I know it's a hard balance for some to get right. They agonise over whether or not they should do x or y and if they don't what will be thought of them. My life is rarely simple but thankfully this is one aspect which comes easy to me.

JustAThought · 20-01-2020 08:45PM

less so that people think, but people are mostly happy in huddles and do not get outside that box.

PmMeUrDogs · 20-01-2020 08:49PM

I do my own thing sometimes, and other times I don't. If my family or friends need me, then I take their needs into consideration, usually more than my own. If they don't need me, I do what I want. I'd find it totally selfish and a bad trait if someone only ever did what they wanted.

CrankyHaus · 20-01-2020 08:56PM

There used to be a guy near me in his 40s who went around on a skateboard all the time with the same clothes and haircut he'd had since his teens. By all accounts he just smoked weed and hit the pub on the weekend.

Everyone laughed at him and called him Bart Simpson. He must well into his 50s by now.

Doing your own thing can be taken too far.

EmmetSpiceland · 20-01-2020 08:57PM

pgj2015 wrote: »

I love a night out but hate stags, a load of men in their 30's acting like kids, oh look at us we are all mad dressed as priests, ninjas etc downing 20 pints and getting strippers, its pathetic in my opinion.

I’d say I’m getting into double figures for the number of stags I’ve been on and none of them had any of that nonsense.

One did involve a stripper but it was the first one for a lad who got married far too young and the best man didn’t know any better. It was a day time “striptease” and it was more awkward than fun.

pgj2015 · 20-01-2020 08:58PM

CrankyHaus wrote: »

There used to be a guy near me in his 40s who went around on a skateboard all the time with the same clothes and haircut he'd had since his teens. By all accounts he just smoked weed and hit the pub on the weekend.

Everyone laughed at him and called him Bart Simpson. He must well into his 50s by now.

Doing your own thing can be taken too far.

yeah but as long as it made him happy he was right to act that way. who cares if people laugh at you? that is their problem. he wasnt harming anyone.

Anesthetize · 20-01-2020 09:01PM

CrankyHaus wrote: »

There used to be a guy near me in his 40s who went around on a skateboard all the time with the same clothes and haircut he'd had since his teens. By all accounts he just smoked weed and hit the pub on the weekend.

Everyone laughed at him and called him Bart Simpson. He must well into his 50s by now.

Doing your own thing can be taken too far.

This begs the question - what age should you stop being yourself?

marieholmfan · 20-01-2020 09:03PM

EmmetSpiceland wrote: »

I’d say I’m getting into double figures for the number of stags I’ve been on and none of them had any of that nonsense.

One did involve a stripper but it was the first one for a lad who got married far too young and the best man didn’t know any better. It was a day time “striptease” and it was more awkward than fun.

The problem with strippers at stags is that the groom generally is crazy about the bride and isn't interested in any other woman.

You should be allowed have a stag on each of your children's second birthday.

CrankyHaus · 20-01-2020 09:03PM

pgj2015 wrote: »

yeah but as long as it made him happy he was right to act that way. who cares if people laugh at you? that is their problem. he wasnt harming anyone.

You know that's actually a fair point. He was probably happier than a lot of his peers. The only argument I could counter with is that a society where everyone was on the doss would not function.

pgj2015 · 20-01-2020 09:14PM

Deja Boo wrote: »

Before long, you may be living life alone in your own little world (and bored beyond belief)... A wise ah poster said recently "you have to (atleast) show up for people."I like that motto. Otherwise selfishness reigns ...plus there is so much more enjoyment to be had, than our own limited experience shows us - broaden the horizons and man up op, life is about so more than just what you want in the moment.

my friends and family know that is just the way I am and dont seem to mind, dont get me wrong its not like I wouldnt help them out if needed, I would and do but im sure they can have a wedding or stag or some other function without me.

Sardonicat · 20-01-2020 09:14PM

CrankyHaus wrote: »

There used to be a guy near me in his 40s who went around on a skateboard all the time with the same clothes and haircut he'd had since his teens. By all accounts he just smoked weed and hit the pub on the weekend.

Everyone laughed at him and called him Bart Simpson. He must well into his 50s by now.

Doing your own thing can be taken too far.

Did he give a schite about what people thought of him? Is he happy?

Snotty · 20-01-2020 09:17PM

Fine line between doing your own thing and having to do your own thing cause nobody wants you to join into their thing. For most, they will want the former when it's too late and they end up in the latter.

Sardonicat · 20-01-2020 09:17PM

marieholmfan wrote: »

The problem with strippers at stags is that the groom generally is crazy about the bride and isn't interested in any other woman.

You should be allowed have a stag on each of your children's second birthday.

And a divorce party on the third birthday of the eldest

pgj2015 · 20-01-2020 09:22PM

Snotty wrote: »

Fine line between doing your own thing and having to do your own thing cause nobody wants you to join into their thing. For most, they will want the former when it's too late and they end up in the latter.

that wouldnt faze me to be honest, im happiest in my own company.

rob316 · 20-01-2020 09:22PM

I do stuff for friends and family all the time I don't want to do but they do the same for me. Been there for people and them been there for you is what it's about.

pgj2015 · 20-01-2020 09:25PM

Deja Boo wrote: »

My friends know the same of me, am grateful they don't (for the most part) allow it to stop them from inviting me places.

It's not that they can't have a social event without you - the interaction will make yours (and their) lives richer for it.

It wouldnt make my life richer, i would be bored and be counting down the time to when I can leave.

Ted_YNWA · 20-01-2020 09:27PM

Snotty wrote: »

Fine line between doing your own thing and having to do your own thing cause nobody wants you to join into their thing. For most, they will want the former when it's too late and they end up in the latter.

If I was to wait for people to join me in doing things, I'd still be waiting.

I have no problem heading off places on my own.

Similar to another poster, I prefer my own company.

20-01-2020 09:33PM

Yeah I used to be one for saying I’d go to something and dreading it when it came to the time and having to go. Too long in the tooth now to be bothered saying yes to anything if it doesn’t suit me 100%, like having to stay in B&B’s instead of hotels or if people I can’t be arsed with are going, etc. I never had a stag of my own either so it’s the ultimate excuse never to have to go to anything like that.

Snotty · 20-01-2020 09:37PM

Ted_YNWA wrote: »

If I was to wait for people to join me in doing things, I'd still be waiting.

I have no problem heading off places on my own.

Similar to another poster, I prefer my own company.

Big difference between never wanting to do anything with people and just doing things on your own. It's giving lots of refusals to people that cause the alienation, not just being happy in your own company, as many people are while still having friends and family to do things with also.

20-01-2020 09:38PM

Deja Boo wrote: »

But it doesn't sound like you want anything but plaudits for "doing your own thing" --- sure, well done you, hope a rich life works out for you.

Maybe the OP really is genuinely content not going to social events and joining in with things.
My life is richer because I engage with other people and share my life with them. Other people however may be happy out living a more isolated existence.

Always Tired · 20-01-2020 09:38PM

At least once per day.

Do you do your own thing?

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