Relationship over

simone79 · 14-01-2020 05:28PM #1

Hi just need some advice I've been seeing a nice man for 3 months now and like him alot last night I ended getting very drunk and made a show of myself apparently I was rude to him and acting a bit nuts noting major but he said he doesnt want see me anymore as he doesnt like way I behaved I dont drink often but last night was a 1 off I have got drunk 2 time since we met but he said last nite was the last night he will be seeing me this man I think has a drink problem as he gets drunk every friday and it affects him seeing his child....I'm asking if he is been fair to me I've apologised as much as possible and vowed to never drink again should I leave him to think or just let go thank u

marieholmfan · 14-01-2020 06:34PM

simone79 wrote: »

Hi just need some advice I've been seeing a nice man for 3 months now and like him alot last night I ended getting very drunk and made a show of myself apparently I was rude to him and acting a bit nuts noting major but he said he doesnt want see me anymore as he doesnt like way I behaved I dont drink often but last night was a 1 off I have got drunk 2 time since we met but he said last nite was the last night he will be seeing me this man I think has a drink problem as he gets drunk every friday and it affects him seeing his child....I'm asking if he is been fair to me I've apologised as much as possible and vowed to never drink again should I leave him to think or just let go thank u

Simone why do you have to vow never to drink again?
Yes you made a fool of yourself . It happens.

You can't make it him take you back.

There's three million men in Ireland you'll soon find another.

simone79 · 14-01-2020 06:44PM

He said he cant trust me anymore because I drank and was rude and I've done it 2 times now so it's best I dont drink anyway....I feel hard done by because I was very good to him

marieholmfan · 14-01-2020 06:49PM

simone79 wrote: »

He said he cant trust me anymore because I drank and was rude and I've done it 2 times now so it's best I dont drink anyway....I feel hard done by because I was very good to him

You are hard done by there's nothing to be done. Move on. Three months isn't that long.

Widdensushi · 14-01-2020 06:51PM

marieholmfan wrote: »

Simone why do you have to vow never to drink again?
Yes you made a fool of yourself . It happens.

You can't make it him take you back.

There's three million men in Ireland you'll soon find another.

not that a million would make any difference but it would be around two million, probably under it

14-01-2020 06:52PM

simone79 wrote: »

He said he cant trust me anymore because I drank and was rude and I've done it 2 times now so it's best I dont drink anyway....I feel hard done by because I was very good to him

You got drunk two times...or you got drunk and was rude to him two times?

14-01-2020 06:52PM

simone79 wrote: »

He said he cant trust me anymore because I drank and was rude and I've done it 2 times now so it's best I dont drink anyway....I feel hard done by because I was very good to him

You got drunk & were rude..... 3 months in you should be all about him!
I think it's better Ye call it quits now

marieholmfan · 14-01-2020 06:54PM

Widdensushi wrote: »

not that a million would make any difference but it would be around two million, probably under it

No shortage of us anyways

marilynrr · 14-01-2020 07:17PM

simone79 wrote: »

I think has a drink problem as he gets drunk every friday and it affects him seeing his child...

You shouldn't want to be with him for that reason alone!!
If he has a drink problem and it affects him seeing his child then that's not a man that you want in your life.

simone79 · 14-01-2020 07:48PM

Both he said I was nuts and rude to him but I dont think that's true I think I'm a messy drunk but not rude.....I think his exes had drink issues so now all women who drink he sees as his exes he also asked me not to go pubs without him as it's not a place for people in relationships

CorkCBR6 · 14-01-2020 07:54PM

Hi Simone,

He could also be using that as an excuse and he's just not that into you!

Sure it doesn't sound like all that great craic anyway so move and be lucky there's no kids involved etc.

3 months is nothing.. crazy to be worrying about things like that so early into a relationship. Something isn't right with it.

Enjoy yourself, keep the chin up and maybe don't drink to the point where you get messy.. or do.. if that's what you want!

Faith · 14-01-2020 07:54PM

Simone, you have a history of abusive relationships where you have been treated terribly and made to feel that it was your fault, even though it wasn’t. In your previous threads, you were strongly advised to seek counseling to help you, because there’s a real limit to how much help we can offer. Did you ever get counseling?

simone79 · 14-01-2020 07:59PM

He also said I annoy him.as I talk to much and am loud

simone79 · 14-01-2020 08:03PM

I did get counselling yes

marieholmfan · 14-01-2020 08:03PM

simone79 wrote: »

He also said I annoy him.as I talk to much and am loud

You're better off Simone!
He doesn't sound like a catch at all.

You deserve a man who treats you properly and I'm sure that you'll find one .

14-01-2020 08:08PM

simone79 wrote: »

I did get counselling yes

I think you should get some more!
He said you're loud and annoying..... Why would you even listen to this?
Not worth it.

simone79 · 14-01-2020 08:14PM

Yea I seem to frustrate him alot.....I feel I'm not enough being just me with him.....he txt to say he so angry at me and I offered to go c him he said no he wants me to stay quiet for few days and c me at weekend maybe so now I know he doesnt mind if I walk r not I've always been good to him he not a bad man just my drinking last nite makes him think I drink alot even thou I dont at all

14-01-2020 08:18PM

He doesn't sound like a good man anyway, that's for sure.
Look forget about this guy...... Work on your self esteem

marieholmfan · 14-01-2020 08:21PM

simone79 wrote: »

Yea I seem to frustrate him alot.....I feel I'm not enough being just me with him.....he txt to say he so angry at me and I offered to go c him he said no he wants me to stay quiet for few days and c me at weekend maybe so now I know he doesnt mind if I walk r not I've always been good to him he not a bad man just my drinking last nite makes him think I drink alot even thou I dont at all

Simone you're far too good for this man.

simone79 · 14-01-2020 08:23PM

Thank u yes I'm a great girlfriend apart from them 2 times I messed up drunk

simone79 · 14-01-2020 08:23PM

Thank u yes I'm a great girlfriend apart from them 2 times I messed up drunk

simone79 · 14-01-2020 08:47PM

He told me I said mean things about his son and his ex so I suppose I deserve to be dumped my own fault thank u all for ur messages

SusieBlue · 15-01-2020 01:21PM

Why would you want to be with someone who thinks you're loud and annoying and whose drinking habits effect his custody arrangements for his son?
He sounds like no loss at all, regardless of what you did. He would only have chipped away at what little of your confidence is left.

Please seek more counselling, your self worth should not be determined by what a man who barely knows you thinks. You deserve better.

LegacyUser · 16-01-2020 12:00AM

I don't know how many counselling sessions you had but you haven't had enough of them. You have a history of being in abusive relationships and that pattern has been continuing. If this man has dumped you for good, he has done you a massive favour. You just can't see it. Your self-worth and perception of relationships are so damaged, the only person you're capable of blaming is you. Please get in touch with a counsellor as soon as possible and do not get back with this man.

simone79 · 16-01-2020 07:54AM

Yes I think ur all correct another thing is his contant conversation about my weight I know I'm fat but he brings up me losing weight at least one time a week even though I've told him I'm working on it.....it just makes me feel I'm not good enough as I am.....so yes I need to love myself first and not accept bad behaviour just because of odd slip up I make

lawred2 · 16-01-2020 08:23AM

Gets drunk and fails to see his own child. What a waste of matter...

simone79 · 16-01-2020 08:30AM

No he sees his son it's his ex who wont let him spend a full day r night with him as stage feels he drinks too much

Sephiroth_dude · 16-01-2020 10:34AM

simone79 wrote: »

He also said I annoy him.as I talk to much and am loud

Ya you're better off without this jerk, he did you a favour honestly.

simone79 wrote: »

Yea I seem to frustrate him alot.....I feel I'm not enough being just me with him.....he txt to say he so angry at me and I offered to go c him he said no he wants me to stay quiet for few days and c me at weekend maybe so now I know he doesnt mind if I walk r not I've always been good to him he not a bad man just my drinking last nite makes him think I drink alot even thou I dont at all

Do yourself a favour and block him.

marieholmfan · 16-01-2020 10:35AM

simone79 wrote: »

Yea I seem to frustrate him alot.....I feel I'm not enough being just me with him.....he txt to say he so angry at me and I offered to go c him he said no he wants me to stay quiet for few days and c me at weekend maybe so now I know he doesnt mind if I walk r not I've always been good to him he not a bad man just my drinking last nite makes him think I drink alot even thou I dont at all

Come on Simone he's only looking for a 'buddy' not a girlfriend or even a friend. You deserve better.

simone79 · 16-01-2020 12:15PM

But he was always the 1st to inniciate contact and meeting up wanted me to go to meet his family in april with him but he called all that off now due to my saying mean things about his ex and son said he needs to get to know me better before asking me to go his family now....I feel like I've done something so bad to him but I only got drunk and said some silly things I feel I'm been punished now by him he goes cinema with me and meals out so I think he did want a girlfriend in me but cant get past the me drinking 2 times thing and my behaviour my gut tells me he wants to keep me but I'll end up hearing about my mistake over and over as punishment

marieholmfan · 16-01-2020 12:31PM

simone79 wrote: »

But he was always the 1st to inniciate contact and meeting up wanted me to go to meet his family in april with him but he called all that off now due to my saying mean things about his ex and son said he needs to get to know me better before asking me to go his family now....I feel like I've done something so bad to him but I only got drunk and said some silly things I feel I'm been punished now by him he goes cinema with me and meals out so I think he did want a girlfriend in me but cant get past the me drinking 2 times thing and my behaviour my gut tells me he wants to keep me but I'll end up hearing about my mistake over and over as punishment

In the long term people move past all sorts of things. Wasters settle down, women lose weight, people stop drinking and smoking. I just think you're torturing yourself for no good reason.

Relationship over

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