Anybody have a sibling who's a complete waster?

Wanderer78 · 04-01-2020 08:34AM

skooterblue2 wrote:

Wow you must have some GP. My GP asked why she need to write a letter to the L&N when the NLN was in the report. How come I get the booby prizes? She didn't even know her role.

Yea I'm very happy with him, he has a very good understanding of autism, he's always particularly concerned about my levels of anxiety, some people don't like him of course, but you ll always get that, I'd imagine some GPS have a poor understanding, it is an usual one

The White Wolf · 04-01-2020 08:40AM

Pac1Man wrote: »

God I hate the term professionals! It's so middle class. You went to college and work in accounts. Relax.

Aye agreed. I'm in a good white collar job which one might call require being skilled, but it's only really the people who are insecure about their abilities that refer to themselves as professionals. Usually the type that will have 20 letters beside their name yet will try and fob their job off on others.

Maybe focus on yourself OP as from experience, stressing over a family member's situation will get you nowhere.

I mean you call him the waster yet here you are ranting about him on boards. Maybe find a better way to spend your time.

Lillyfae · 04-01-2020 09:25AM

Purple Mountain wrote: »

Ooohhh... The gloves are off now.

We have a suspected OP troll, dole bashing, Eastern medicine and the mention of narcissus.

Hold on while I put the popcorn on.

Is it homemade or microwave? Microwave causes autism. You’re a troll. :P

lainey_d_123 · 04-01-2020 12:22PM

skooterblue2 wrote: »

Actually I was living outside of home at 19. No need to coddle me, just needed to provide one clue to lay people. Its not like it was beyond their professions. They didnt even have to pay for the assessment but they kept their own childrens diagnosis secret. As for their problems they all had fairly straight forward lives except for one incident where a stray horse wandered into the burger factory.

Again, why do you think your extended family should have noticed and done something? It's not their job or their business and it's extremely arrogant of you to assume they had no problems just because you didn't know about them.

Your expectations of other people are off the scale.

skooterblue2 · 04-01-2020 12:37PM

lainey_d_123 wrote: »

Again, why do you think your extended family should have noticed and done something? It's not their job or their business and it's extremely arrogant of you to assume they had no problems just because you didn't know about them.

Your expectations of other people are off the scale.

My cousin is a counsellor at St Pats.
Three of cousins are nurses.
6 cousins were doctors (one killed himself, another is burnt out, another has schizophrenia).
One aunt a school principal.
3 aunts nurses.
3 cousins teachers.
One Aunt who is a pharmacist, has a child with aspergers who went onto study pharmacy.
When my Godfather passed away, the NLN manageress, come over to ask me was I ok and she knew my two aunts well. Boy did I feel like a tit.
If that is not a family qualified to spot it, I dont know what is.
Aspergers was a dirty secret until very recently and there is no problem find out and sharing information about cancer or arthritis in the family but sharing information about Autism is taboo.
I often have old school friends contact me and ask to get help. That is the only way to break the stigma of it.

Bit arrogant of you to assume my family is uneducated and have never had any experience of autism or medicine.

lainey_d_123 · 04-01-2020 12:55PM

skooterblue2 wrote: »

My cousin is a counsellor at St Pats.
Three of cousins are nurses.
6 cousins were doctors (one killed himself, another is burnt out, another has schizophrenia).
One aunt a school principal.
3 aunts nurses.
3 cousins teachers.
One Aunt who is a pharmacist, has a child with aspergers who went onto study pharmacy.
When my Godfather passed away, the NLN manageress, come over to ask me was I ok and she knew my two aunts well. Boy did I feel like a tit.
If that is not a family qualified to spot it, I dont know what is.
Aspergers was a dirty secret until very recently and there is no problem find out and sharing information about cancer or arthritis in the family but sharing information about Autism is taboo.
I often have old school friends contact me and ask to get help. That is the only way to break the stigma of it.

Bit arrogant of you to assume my family is uneducated and have never had any experience of autism or medicine.

Right, so having told me your aunts had no problems or worries, you tell me your cousins had serious issues of their own, one of them killed himself, and you still think your aunts had no problems of their own and should have been observing every little bit of their nephew's behaviour?

Are you actually serious?

Why would you 'feel like a tit' because someone knew your aunts well?

You literally believe that the world revolves around you and you just don't see it.

mrsgiller · 04-01-2020 01:01PM

Brother in law 50, has walked out of good jobs because he doesn't like his manager, this has happened few times, has had a few crappy jobs since and is now receiving carers allowance for his mam while his wife holds down a full time job

wakka12 · 04-01-2020 01:02PM

touts wrote: »

No mortgage. No Rent. No Work stress. Can't help thinking he is the smart one and the rest of us are the fools.

Well you might say that if he was achieving that while being self-sufficient. But he's not , the OP says the parents are at their wit's end with him, so quality of life of others is being affected to sustain his lifestyle, which isn't fair or smart.

rainbowtrout · 04-01-2020 01:20PM

skooterblue2 wrote: »

My cousin is a counsellor at St Pats.
Three of cousins are nurses.
6 cousins were doctors (one killed himself, another is burnt out, another has schizophrenia).
One aunt a school principal.
3 aunts nurses.
3 cousins teachers.
One Aunt who is a pharmacist, has a child with aspergers who went onto study pharmacy.
When my Godfather passed away, the NLN manageress, come over to ask me was I ok and she knew my two aunts well. Boy did I feel like a tit.
If that is not a family qualified to spot it, I dont know what is.
Aspergers was a dirty secret until very recently and there is no problem find out and sharing information about cancer or arthritis in the family but sharing information about Autism is taboo.
I often have old school friends contact me and ask to get help. That is the only way to break the stigma of it.

Bit arrogant of you to assume my family is uneducated and have never had any experience of autism or medicine.

And none of them your parents, so not their job to interfere.
Teachers are not qualified to diagnose autism. I teach and some of the students I teach have an ASD diagnosis. However I teach them maths and science, I do not diagnose them. That's the psychologist or clinical psychiatrist's job.

And it's generally unethical to diagnose family members in the medical community. So it wouldn't be the place of any of the various relatives you have named to diagnose you, given that you were related and that they aren't qualified to do so anyway.

skooterblue2 · 04-01-2020 01:29PM

lainey_d_123 wrote: »

Right, so having told me your aunts had no problems or worries, you tell me your cousins had serious issues of their own, one of them killed himself, and you still think your aunts had no problems of their own and should have been observing every little bit of their nephew's behaviour?

Are you actually serious?

Why would you 'feel like a tit' because someone knew your aunts well?

You literally believe that the world revolves around you and you just don't see it.

Serious as a heart attack.
If you see a person constantly failing and dont ask why? I said it to my friend, that I noticed something about his son, I couldnt put it a name on it but I told him to pursue it privately. Turns out I was right and it was ADHD and now the child is being treated. I said the same to my sister (nurse) about my nephew and she didnt see it. My wife now sees what I am talking about (lack of eye contact, intense interest in heavy engineering at age 6 and now space) and sensitive hearing. Time will tell.

Why would they notice? They were all about their well off sucessful nephew and nieces. You dont think it is strange that one nephew and the other gets flagged and one has to go through the system unaided. Oh that happened to you? Now you understand why I would get annoyed.

Not "someone", I am talking about someone who would have a working knowledge of autism and possibly where one nephew would have benefitted and the other didnt.

skooterblue2 · 04-01-2020 01:53PM

rainbowtrout wrote: »

And none of them your parents, so not their job to interfere.
Teachers are not qualified to diagnose autism. I teach and some of the students I teach have an ASD diagnosis. However I teach them maths and science, I do not diagnose them. That's the psychologist or clinical psychiatrist's job.

And it's generally unethical to diagnose family members in the medical community. So it wouldn't be the place of any of the various relatives you have named to diagnose you, given that you were related and that they aren't qualified to do so anyway.

Yes but a hint wouldnt have gone astray. They are not qualified to diagnose but they do know how to identify it.

One again all they had to say is to consult an appropriate psychologist. I saw a problem with my wifes' nephew. I high lighted it when he was two. I was told my place and qualification, and I left it. Now he has been refused a place at primary school and Tusla (you need that shower like a dose of the clap) are now involved. The poor childs mother is a complete head melter (and I know that is an opinion not a diagnosis). I feel no responsibility as I did all I could at the time.

Nobody had to diagnose me, just give my parents a hint and they would have followed up on it appropriately.

lainey_d_123 · 04-01-2020 02:21PM

skooterblue2 wrote: »

Serious as a heart attack.
If you see a person constantly failing and dont ask why? I said it to my friend, that I noticed something about his son, I couldnt put it a name on it but I told him to pursue it privately. Turns out I was right and it was ADHD and now the child is being treated. I said the same to my sister (nurse) about my nephew and she didnt see it. My wife now sees what I am talking about (lack of eye contact, intense interest in heavy engineering at age 6 and now space) and sensitive hearing. Time will tell.

Why would they notice? They were all about their well off sucessful nephew and nieces. You dont think it is strange that one nephew and the other gets flagged and one has to go through the system unaided. Oh that happened to you? Now you understand why I would get annoyed.

Not "someone", I am talking about someone who would have a working knowledge of autism and possibly where one nephew would have benefitted and the other didnt.

Jesus wept...it is not your extended family's responsibility to sort your life out! Totally normal to see you failing and not ask why...maybe they didn't like you, maybe had their own sh1t going on...who cares? Loads of people have undiagnosed autism and other issues, including myself. I was not diagnosed until 32! Not once did I ever think to blame my extended family for not noticing! It's easy after the fact to point the finger and blame other people, but what's the point?

You seem to think there's been some conspiracy against you and you've been hard done by when in fact people were just living their lives and doing their best. Now when people I knew find out that I'm autistic, they say 'oh yeah, it makes sense' but at the time it maybe wasn't that obvious...plenty of children have obsessive special interests, don't make much eye contact, are quiet, etc. People just though I was introverted and a little odd. None of my teachers noticed it, but I'm sure they had bigger problems to deal with...kids from incredibly abusive backgrounds, kids who came to school hungry in dirty clothes...I am not the centre of the universe so I never expected anyone to go out of their way to diagnose me with anything.

Seriously, what's the point of the victim complex? Can you not just move on, like the rest of us do?

skooterblue2 · 04-01-2020 03:23PM

lainey_d_123 wrote: »

Jesus wept...it is not your extended family's responsibility to sort your life out! Totally normal to see you failing and not ask why...maybe they didn't like you, maybe had their own sh1t going on...who cares? Loads of people have undiagnosed autism and other issues, including myself. I was not diagnosed until 32! Not once did I ever think to blame my extended family for not noticing! It's easy after the fact to point the finger and blame other people, but what's the point?

You seem to think there's been some conspiracy against you and you've been hard done by when in fact people were just living their lives and doing their best. Now when people I knew find out that I'm autistic, they say 'oh yeah, it makes sense' but at the time it maybe wasn't that obvious...plenty of children have obsessive special interests, don't make much eye contact, are quiet, etc. People just though I was introverted and a little odd. None of my teachers noticed it, but I'm sure they had bigger problems to deal with...kids from incredibly abusive backgrounds, kids who came to school hungry in dirty clothes...I am not the centre of the universe so I never expected anyone to go out of their way to diagnose me with anything.

Seriously, what's the point of the victim complex? Can you not just move on, like the rest of us do?

If you saw someone desperately looking for something that was blatantly obvious to you, wouldnt you help them? I was told by a teacher afterwards that the school saw it but "didnt want to spend the money" on a diagnosis.

Oh I have given up on them a few years ago. I am happily off doing my own thing with Mrs SkooterBlue2. Parents were furious none of them were invited to the wedding. That is how I have dealt with it and it works for me and Mrs SB2 and really isnt that all that matters?

In all fairness its much easier to spot autism in male than a female. Dont you think it is strange that the nephew from the wealthier family gets all the treatments and cover up while on the other side the other child is struggling at the leaving cert and at college? You see the two side by side and not make the comparison? The cost over is very very small compared to the improvement in quality of life. That is the difference a discrete word would have made.

rainbowtrout · 04-01-2020 05:24PM

skooterblue2 wrote: »

If you saw someone desperately looking for something that was blatantly obvious to you, wouldnt you help them? I was told by a teacher afterwards that the school saw it but "didnt want to spend the money" on a diagnosis.

Oh I have given up on them a few years ago. I am happily off doing my own thing with Mrs SkooterBlue2. Parents were furious none of them were invited to the wedding. That is how I have dealt with it and it works for me and Mrs SB2 and really isnt that all that matters?

In all fairness its much easier to spot autism in male than a female. Dont you think it is strange that the nephew from the wealthier family gets all the treatments and cover up while on the other side the other child is struggling at the leaving cert and at college? You see the two side by side and not make the comparison? The cost over is very very small compared to the improvement in quality of life. That is the difference a discrete word would have made.

The school would have had to get your parent's approval to send you to a psychologist. I know of cases in the school I work in where parents have refused the referral because they don't want their child labelled as special needs and when extra resource classes have been offered to children who are struggling but don't have a diagnosis they have been refused because the parent considers the resource class as putting a label on their child that says they are thick.

You appear to have this awful victim complex and that pretty much everyone that you've come into contact with in your life owes you something and was instrumental in not getting you diagnosed as ASD.

Your parents are ultimately responsible for you and they did not bring you for assessment or if anyone said anything to them, they ignored it. Many parents don't like to be told their child has special needs of any kind and will tell the concerned party where to go in no uncertain terms if it is suggested.

So with regard to your family, some parents are very proactive and figure that if they get a diagnosis it means that a plan can be put in place to give their child all the supports available in school/life. Some ignore it and put their head in the sand and the child gets nothing as they don't have an official diagnosis. But it's more convenient for you to make this into a rich/poor narrative.

Finally ASD diagnoses are a relatively modern thing. We probably all knew kids growing up that were a bit different and may have heard some not so PC ways to describe them, but they just had to get on with it as there was no diagnosis. You don't say what age you are but old enough to be married anyway based on your comments, so an ASD diagnosis might not have been a common thing when you were at school.

skooterblue2 · 05-01-2020 03:43AM

rainbowtrout wrote: »

The school would have had to get your parent's approval to send you to a psychologist. I know of cases in the school I work in where parents have refused the referral because they don't want their child labelled as special needs and when extra resource classes have been offered to children who are struggling but don't have a diagnosis they have been refused because the parent considers the resource class as putting a label on their child that says they are thick.

You appear to have this awful victim complex and that pretty much everyone that you've come into contact with in your life owes you something and was instrumental in not getting you diagnosed as ASD.

Your parents are ultimately responsible for you and they did not bring you for assessment or if anyone said anything to them, they ignored it. Many parents don't like to be told their child has special needs of any kind and will tell the concerned party where to go in no uncertain terms if it is suggested.

So with regard to your family, some parents are very proactive and figure that if they get a diagnosis it means that a plan can be put in place to give their child all the supports available in school/life. Some ignore it and put their head in the sand and the child gets nothing as they don't have an official diagnosis. But it's more convenient for you to make this into a rich/poor narrative.

Finally ASD diagnoses are a relatively modern thing. We probably all knew kids growing up that were a bit different and may have heard some not so PC ways to describe them, but they just had to get on with it as there was no diagnosis. You don't say what age you are but old enough to be married anyway based on your comments, so an ASD diagnosis might not have been a common thing when you were at school.

If you were a paid psychologist by the IT or the HSE and you failed to raise a flag when you saw a problem as I often asked for in college (x3 times a year) was that my fault for not being proactive? If I was attending a HSE psychologist 4 times a year and was advised by a PhD psychology student (american I knew socially) and both the psychologist and doctors (x3) ignored the suggestion. Where does that leave you.

If I told you I had 20 carpenters in over 15 years to fix a stairs and one of them could do it right, and then one got a solution on day, Would you think I was getting all the carpenters from a bad source? Or that the rest didnt give a crap?

Aspergers has been recognised by the Americans since 1992 and the Irish since 1996, no excuse plenty of time to implement change. It was a thing back then it was just kept in circles.

05-01-2020 12:14PM

skooterblue2 wrote: »

If you were a paid psychologist by the IT or the HSE and you failed to raise a flag when you saw a problem as I often asked for in college (x3 times a year) was that my fault for not being proactive? If I was attending a HSE psychologist 4 times a year and was advised by a PhD psychology student (american I knew socially) and both the psychologist and doctors (x3) ignored the suggestion. Where does that leave you.

If I told you I had 20 carpenters in over 15 years to fix a stairs and one of them could do it right, and then one got a solution on day, Would you think I was getting all the carpenters from a bad source? Or that the rest didnt give a crap?

Aspergers has been recognised by the Americans since 1992 and the Irish since 1996, no excuse plenty of time to implement change. It was a thing back then it was just kept in circles.

This thread isn’t about your life experience.

rainbowtrout · 05-01-2020 03:10PM

skooterblue2 wrote: »

If you were a paid psychologist by the IT or the HSE and you failed to raise a flag when you saw a problem as I often asked for in college (x3 times a year) was that my fault for not being proactive? If I was attending a HSE psychologist 4 times a year and was advised by a PhD psychology student (american I knew socially) and both the psychologist and doctors (x3) ignored the suggestion. Where does that leave you.

If I told you I had 20 carpenters in over 15 years to fix a stairs and one of them could do it right, and then one got a solution on day, Would you think I was getting all the carpenters from a bad source? Or that the rest didnt give a crap?

Aspergers has been recognised by the Americans since 1992 and the Irish since 1996, no excuse plenty of time to implement change. It was a thing back then it was just kept in circles.

So when it's highlighted that it's not your extended family's responsibility and not ethical to diagnose family members, the blame is now shifting elsewhere.

Something being formally recognised in the mid 90s doesn't mean that there's a roll out of diagnoses the following week. People have to be trained, suitable methods of diagnoses have to be established, tested and agreed upon.

Your life experience is not the experience of everyone else.

lainey_d_123 · 05-01-2020 04:34PM

rainbowtrout wrote: »

So when it's highlighted that it's not your extended family's responsibility and not ethical to diagnose family members, the blame is now shifting elsewhere.

Something being formally recognised in the mid 90s doesn't mean that there's a roll out of diagnoses the following week. People have to be trained, suitable methods of diagnoses have to be established, tested and agreed upon.

Your life experience is not the experience of everyone else.

This one is just like my brother....it's all someone else's fault, all his bad fortune in life is due to not being diagnosed, if he had been diagnosed sooner he'd be CEO/president...

Autism was nowhere near in the collective conscious in the 90s as much as it is now. I remember loads of kids who looking back, were way along the spectrum, but who weren't diagnosed because it simply wasn't taken as seriously. That's a shame, but it's not some big conspiracy or personal slight against this poster. My life would have been much easier if I'd been diagnosed earlier, but I wasn't, so that's that. I did eventually get diagnosed and it was helpful to understand why so many things were challenging, and I used the information to move on with my life and be successful. I don't sit there ranting constantly about how I was wronged by my family, teachers and the medical profession.

I would be interested in any studies of comorbidity of autism and narcissistic personality disorder, because it certainly isn't a feature of autism to be this much up your own hole and think everyone else is there to serve you.

Mam of 4 · 05-01-2020 06:35PM

Does anyone else think the thread title should be changed at this point ?

lainey_d_123 · 05-01-2020 06:36PM

Mam of 4 wrote: »

Does anyone else think the thread title should be changed at this point ?

I think it's still relevant.

Mam of 4 · 05-01-2020 06:37PM

lainey_d_123 wrote: »

I think it's still relevant.

That's fair enough , I was just asking

Sardonicat · 05-01-2020 06:41PM

mrsgiller wrote: »

Brother in law 50, has walked out of good jobs because he doesn't like his manager, this has happened few times, has had a few crappy jobs since and is now receiving carers allowance for his mam while his wife holds down a full time job

So he's caring for his mother? What a waster, hey? If his wife us working full time the amount of Carer's Allowance he receives is a pittance, BTW.

Airyfairy12 · 05-01-2020 06:56PM

OP you have an awful lot of growing up to do.
Life isnt a competition, not everyone reaches specific mile stones by a certain age and not everyone has the same goals or aspirations for themselves.
You also dont know whats going on behind the scenes for your brother. How do you know he hasnt or isnt trying to make a life for himself?

Your brother is also still very young and allot can change, in a very short space of time. He may not be doing anything that you see as worthwhile right now, thats not to say he never will.

Instead of judging and looking down on other people and how they live their lives, why not just focus on your own. Or better yet, you could offer to support your brother since life is going so well for you.

skooterblue2 · 05-01-2020 09:26PM

rainbowtrout wrote: »

So when it's highlighted that it's not your extended family's responsibility and not ethical to diagnose family members, the blame is now shifting elsewhere.

Something being formally recognised in the mid 90s doesn't mean that there's a roll out of diagnoses the following week. People have to be trained, suitable methods of diagnoses have to be established, tested and agreed upon.

Your life experience is not the experience of everyone else.

Actually the most likely people to spot it is the immediate family, so says Tony Attwood. Most of my family is well qualified in their respective professions to comment. When someone gets cancer in the family they are all around the places like bees around flower garden.

They knew about it in the 2000's cause one of them told me when she got back from Australia, she couldnt get back to her place of work. She got a temp place in a large hospital and had contact with surgeons that she would never had. She thought the surgeons were all arrogant assholes. She was pulled aside and told the reason why and that was the way it was. If she spoke up then it would have save me 10 years. So why did it 20 years for me to get a diagnosis, the people were there the books were there, My friend got diagnosed at age 8 and he was 10 years younger than me (we didnt meet until well after I was diagnosed). Yes he does come a much wealthier back ground and no I am not jealous and I dont hold it against him.

skooterblue2 · 05-01-2020 09:38PM

lainey_d_123 wrote: »

This one is just like my brother....it's all someone else's fault, all his bad fortune in life is due to not being diagnosed, if he had been diagnosed sooner he'd be CEO/president...

Autism was nowhere near in the collective conscious in the 90s as much as it is now. I remember loads of kids who looking back, were way along the spectrum, but who weren't diagnosed because it simply wasn't taken as seriously. That's a shame, but it's not some big conspiracy or personal slight against this poster. My life would have been much easier if I'd been diagnosed earlier, but I wasn't, so that's that. I did eventually get diagnosed and it was helpful to understand why so many things were challenging, and I used the information to move on with my life and be successful. I don't sit there ranting constantly about how I was wronged by my family, teachers and the medical profession.

I would be interested in any studies of comorbidity of autism and narcissistic personality disorder, because it certainly isn't a feature of autism to be this much up your own hole and think everyone else is there to serve you.

I am under no illusion that I would never make president or CFO. I know what my strengths and limits are. I dont think everyone is there to serve me but if you some wrong wouldn't you try to put it right? If you saw a tap running needlessly wouldn't you turn it off?

You want to do a study be my guest to approach an institution. About 75% never report their autism at college (associate in DCU support). If they are slow at coming forward in university, they are going slower at assisting a survey like that. BTW are you jealous that you brother got diagnosed and not you at a similar time? Is it wrong to want appropriate health care?

rainbowtrout · 05-01-2020 09:39PM

skooterblue2 wrote: »

Actually the most likely people to spot it is the immediate family, so says Tony Attwood. Most of my family is well qualified in their respective professions to comment. When someone gets cancer in the family they are all around the places like bees around flower garden.

They knew about it in the 2000's cause one of them told me when she got back from Australia, she couldnt get back to her place of work. She got a temp place in a large hospital and had contact with surgeons that she would never had. She thought the surgeons were all arrogant assholes. She was pulled aside and told the reason why and that was the way it was. If she spoke up then it would have save me 10 years. So why did it 20 years for me to get a diagnosis, the people were there the books were there, My friend got diagnosed at age 8 and he was 10 years younger than me (we didnt meet until well after I was diagnosed). Yes he does come a much wealthier back ground and no I am not jealous and I dont hold it against him.

If people around you don't know what they are looking for they can't diagnose it. And also as it wasn't properly recognised until about 25 years ago, people wouldn't have classed someone as 'a bit odd' to be on the autism spectrum. Lots of people have similar traits in isolation so seeing a couple of them together isn't all that unusual.

That's quite a nasty comment about your family and cancer. Cancer can and does lead to death for a lot of people, and for those that survive the toll that chemo takes on their health and the fallout from it can be quite heavy. It's a well recognised and documented disease. Your comments are quite bitter, it all seems to come back to you not being the centre of attention.

And you are bitter about your friend being wealthy. Wealth has nothing to do with his diagnosis. You didn't have to mention it at all, but you couldn't help yourself.

skooterblue2 · 05-01-2020 09:40PM

Airyfairy12 wrote: »

Your brother is also still very young and allot can change, in a very short space of time. He may not be doing anything that you see as worthwhile right now, thats not to say he never will.

Instead of judging and looking down on other people and how they live their lives, why not just focus on your own. Or better yet, you could offer to support your brother since life is going so well for you.

The brother is probably going through a rough time in his early 30's when he realises that his life goals wont be met in comparison to other. You cant prevent it you can only be there to assist him in his time of need.

skooterblue2 · 05-01-2020 09:47PM

rainbowtrout wrote: »

Your comments are quite bitter, it all seems to come back to you not being the centre of attention.

And you are bitter about your friend being wealthy. Wealth has nothing to do with his diagnosis. You didn't have to mention it at all, but you couldn't help yourself.

I didnt need to be center of attention, I just need the appropriate treatment.
No I wouldnt swap places with my friend for all the tea in China. He has both similar and different challenges. As I have it, I would rather stay where I am than exchange it for his lot in life. Money can buy a lot I am very grateful for what I have in my life compared to what he has coming to him. Money has everything to do with a diagnosis, it makes a difference whether you get a cushy civil servant or a private practitioner, who survives on word of mouth.

take everything · 05-01-2020 09:48PM

skooterblue2 wrote: »

I dont have a city and guilds in acupuncture. I have a city and guilds in Plant processing. What if my theory was that ie was genetics? Load of people believe it is that or that it was due to some exposure to toxins or to trauma? Arent all those valid theories, held by valid experts in the field like Dr Temple Grandin and Professor Simon Baron Cohen?

Pretty sure Temple Grandin is a professor but not in psychology.

skooterblue2 · 05-01-2020 09:50PM

take everything wrote: »

Pretty sure Temple Grandin is a professor but not in psychology.

True, animal psychology but she is a recognised Author on the subject.

Anybody have a sibling who's a complete waster?

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