Female orgasm through penetrative sex

One eyed Jack · 22-08-2019 07:14PM

Sardonicat wrote: »

Or another good approach you could try is to ask your partner what they like .

I wouldn't worry about the beads. Most women don't need to chant a few decades of the Rosary before they get down to business.

I’m not sure if you’re joking or if it’s me had a different kind of beads in mind

jaxxx · 22-08-2019 07:19PM

One eyed Jack wrote: »

I’m not sure if you’re joking or if it’s me had a different kind of beads in mind

Oh we know what kinda beads you had in mind you dirty sausage :pac:

Speaking of.. .. ..

{note to self: add the above to bucket list}

Sardonicat · 22-08-2019 07:28PM

One eyed Jack wrote: »

I’m not sure if you’re joking or if it’s me had a different kind of beads in mind

IRL I'm often told I have an innocent face and people are surprised if I say something less than innocent. Apparently, that air of uncorrupted purity surrounds my posts. Not sure if I was joking? Aww, Jack, that's probably the sweetest thing you've ever said to me.

Still waters · 22-08-2019 09:04PM

I just jockey the **** out of her till I cum, its very satisfying for both of us, me because ive fired a load and her because ive climbed down off her to go to sleep

Wibbs · 22-08-2019 09:20PM

Dial Hard wrote: »

By and large, masturbation for women is not about simulating the sensation of penetrative sex the way it is for men.

Which if you think about it D is kinda odd. I mean sex in the end of the day is mad pleasurable because it encourages, nay drives you to make babies and propagate the species an that(oh the fcuking rosy romance of it all

). The way to do that is by penetrative sex and you'd think biology and evolution would make it the main event as far as pleasure goes for both? Certainly not be so variable, even absent on one side. Though I suppose again it's the fundamental requirement of conception for men to have an orgasm, but it isn't for women so maybe wasn't as heavily selected for?

Deja Boo · 22-08-2019 09:57PM

*looks around* had no idea this was the Sex & Sexuality forum :eek: *close tab, CLOSE TAB!*

Day Lewin · 22-08-2019 10:10PM

Wibbs wrote: »

Which if you think about it D is kinda odd. I mean sex in the end of the day is mad pleasurable because it encourages, nay drives you to make babies and propagate the species an that(oh the fcuking rosy romance of it all ). The way to do that is by penetrative sex and you'd think biology and evolution would make it the main event as far as pleasure goes for both? Certainly not be so variable, even absent on one side. Though I suppose again it's the fundamental requirement of conception for men to have an orgasm, but it isn't for women so maybe wasn't as heavily selected for?

Several interesting points here:
One thing to note is that penetrative sex eg the actual ins and outs, can be very pleasurable for women without an actual climax. (Nicer if you do, of course!)
But the popular myth among men that pounding like a pile-driver will be delicious is seriously misguided. Thats just annoying. I like it best when he waits for me, and paces to my pace. *dreamy eyes*

Secondly: I've seen film where they put a teeny camera inside the vagina during the deed, and sure enough, when the lady came off there were lovely rosy waves of muscle, pulsing along the vaginal walls, almost literally sucking the semen towards the cervix.
It didn't say so, but we might speculate that this effect would be more likely during ovulation time. Evolution working there.

Thirdly: it s possible to train those vaginal muscles, by contracting them, squeezing and relaxing, to be more sensitive and more active during sex. Definitely helps! They say it helps men, too, - to have more control, wait longer, and enjoy it more.
So get with the Kegels. You won't regret it and your partner will appreciate the action.

riclad · 22-08-2019 10:19PM

If you have a boyfriend you may need to show him what you like,
do not presume every man is an expert on sex,
or what you like,
he may be selfish,or ignorant,or lazy
or get him a book on sex .
All women are different,

quote ;

How, if it’s even possible for mere mortals, can we have a vaginal orgasm? Ian Kerner, author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman, says that if you interpret “vaginal orgasm” as achieving orgasm from penetration alone, it’s pretty damn rare. “Vaginal orgasms don’t happen without some kind of clit stimulation. They can be enhanced with the G-spot, which provides a different sensation, and clitoral orgasm during penetration can give you the feeling of vaginal orgasm.”

So, are vaginal orgasms bull****? In 2011, a Yale urologist speculated that the G-spot was actually just an extension of the clitoris. “I don’t want to say they’re a myth, because some women do have them. But it’s very rare to take a dildo or a vibrator and have an orgasm simply by thrusting,” Kerner adds.

Bartos agrees. “It is possible to have [a vaginal orgasm], but it’s definitely not the norm. In fact, it may be the sexual unicorn [of orgasms].” Unfortunately, it’s hard to quantify exactly what percentage of people can have vaginal orgasms since, as Bartos points out, orgasms are a complicated business. There are a huge number of factors that play into how each and every orgasm is a little different—anatomy, masturbation or sex technique, and even where you are in your cycle can affect your orgasms. Not to mention your partners, relationship, and trust level often required to really let yourself go.

or show him this article,

https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/a6131/how-to-have-vaginal-orgasm/

Yes ,the simple answer is Some men may may think that women can orgasm
from penetration alone without any foreplay or stimulation

If you can,t talk about these things to your partner,
maybe you are in a bad relationship.

Just because a man is in his 20,s or 30,s do not presume he is a super expert on sex.
Just be positive ,say i,d like you to try this or this, or this
or i need more foreplay , rather than just put it in and go like a steam train.

pgj2015 · 22-08-2019 10:30PM

I just have my fun and thats all that matters.

ILoveYourVibes · 22-08-2019 11:30PM

sparklinglens wrote: »

I’ve been on the dating scene a little while now and I’ve come across a (small) number of men who believe that a woman can orgasm through penetrative sex alone. !

We can.

Let her get on top op. She'll figure out what to do and then you will know.

I.E she will want to grind on top whereas that isn't what would feel good for you.

So replicate that in other positions.

(and yes I am female)

Sardonicat · 22-08-2019 11:37PM

Thread gets spammed with irelevant, misinformed bollix based on one person's (alleged )anecdotal experience and completely derailed in 3,2,1...

ILoveYourVibes · 22-08-2019 11:42PM

I think the more important question is why so many men dont realize giving head to a woman requires mostly sucking?

Leg End Reject · 22-08-2019 11:47PM

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

I think the more important question is why so many men dont realize giving head to a woman requires mostly sucking?

Have you a penis down there?

ILoveYourVibes · 22-08-2019 11:48PM

Leg End Reject wrote: »

Have you a penis down there?

I knew you didn't know how to do it.

One of the perks of being bi.

You learn a lot.

I actually didn't even realize why I didn't really like getting head from a guy until i have been with a lesbian.

The way porn teaches men to give head is all all wrong.

The chan chan man · 22-08-2019 11:54PM

Who cares. I’ve had my fun...and that’s all that matters..

greencap · 22-08-2019 11:56PM

Yeah, the problem is just men being selfish.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5LC8PYq_VS0

Dtp1979 · 22-08-2019 11:56PM

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

I think the more important question is why so many men dont realize giving head to a woman requires mostly sucking?

It’s not a one size fits all. What works for one person mightn’t necessarily work for another.

ILoveYourVibes · 22-08-2019 11:59PM

Dtp1979 wrote: »

It’s not a one size fits all. What works for one person mightn’t necessarily work for another.

True.

But it worked for all women I have slept with and me.

Just sharing.

Leg End Reject · 23-08-2019 12:01AM

Dtp1979 wrote: »

It’s not a one size fits all. What works for one person mightn’t necessarily work for another.

You'd want a clit made of leather to be able to tolerate it being sucked. Far too sensitive.

ILoveYourVibes · 23-08-2019 12:01AM

Leg End Reject wrote: »

You'd want a clit made of leather to be able to tolerate it being sucked. Far too sensitive.

Gently suck.

Try it. If you dont like it ...you don't have to get him to do it again.

Also the area around it.

23-08-2019 12:03AM

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

I think the more important question is why so many men dont realize giving head to a woman requires mostly sucking?

Why do so many women actually think than men care?

More of the influence porn has on distorting peoples expectations?

Probably.

ILoveYourVibes · 23-08-2019 12:05AM

JayZeus wrote: »

Why do so many women actually think than men care?

Shrug never said anything about that.

Also a lot of my relationship experience has been with other women so i am probably influenced by that

Day Lewin · 23-08-2019 12:05AM

Female, and detest the oral thing.
For one thing a clit can be so sensitive that if anyone actually touches it directly they get a knee in the crotch. [Naming no names. cough]
Tugging gently and rhythmically in the surroundings, that's the way to go.

ILoveYourVibes · 23-08-2019 12:07AM

Day Lewin wrote: »

Female, and detest the oral thing.
For one thing a clit can be so sensitive that if anyone actually touches it directly they get a knee in the crotch. [Naming no names. cough]
Tugging gently and rhythmically in the surroundings, that's the way to go.

That was my experience exactly with licking etc and touching.

jcorr · 23-08-2019 12:08AM

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

That was my experience exactly with licking etc and touching.

How do lesbians do it.

PsychoPete · 23-08-2019 12:11AM

Just leave her finish herself off, be grand

Reviews and Books Galore · 23-08-2019 12:16AM

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

We can.

Let her get on top op. She'll figure out what to do and then you will know.

I.E she will want to grind on top whereas that isn't what would feel good for you.

So replicate that in other positions.

(and yes I am female)

This.

A woman knows her body best and it seems silly to expect the man to know your body :P the next paragraph is not in rekatonb to your pist

Also, about male orgasins, you know, orgasim doesnt necessarily coincide with ejaculation.

ILoveYourVibes · 23-08-2019 12:19AM

jcorr wrote: »

How do lesbians do it.

It as in the whole act???

Nothing like in porn films anyway.

No dildos. Or rarely.

Sucking. Touching the clit through other tissue if that makes sense particularly at first. Don't isolate it.

Actually I have checked you can find sucking on porn vids.

Women like circles in the area.

Get the pressure right. I mean don't burn the **** out of it.

Sardonicat · 23-08-2019 12:20AM

Reviews and Books Galore wrote: »

This.

A woman knows her body best and it seems silly to expect the man to know your body :P the next paragraph is not in rekatonb to your pist

Also, about male orgasins, you know, orgasim doesnt necessarily coincide with ejaculation. I've had orgasims that were more like sneezes and I've also had orgasims that were like foddamn aftershocks from toe to head.

I don't know what you had tonight, but whatever it was, you had too much.

ILoveYourVibes · 23-08-2019 12:21AM

Reviews and Books Galore wrote: »

Also, about male orgasins, you know, orgasim doesnt necessarily coincide with ejaculation. I've had orgasims that were more like sneezes and I've also had orgasims that were like foddamn aftershocks from toe to head.

Verrry Interrrrrestink.

Never would have thought this.

Would certainly be less messy

Female orgasm through penetrative sex

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