What boardsies would you bring back?

retro:electro · 16-08-2019 12:42PM

Mallory Pitiful Stick wrote: »

there was a poster who pulled a right strop over not getting their posts thanked.....cant for the life of me remember the name ...

johnpatrick81???

16-08-2019 12:47PM

Mallory Pitiful Stick wrote: »

there was a poster who pulled a right strop over not getting their posts thanked.....cant for the life of me remember the name ...

Yes their logic was that if you read the post, you should thank it to recognise the effort that went into it. Bat sh*t crazy

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 16-08-2019 12:48PM

Deleted User wrote: »

To be fair Lainey you gave her a pretty hard time at the end of July in another thread " How common is it for people to never find another half or have kids" - particularly posts between you both ( #586 and #587).

Ginandtonicsky was so empathetic, understanding and patient with you in trying to understand your point of view yet give an insight into her perspective on life. She spoke about life being hard for all of us, some more than others, and about putting our best foot forward.
Even when she was writing that I sensed something deeper and sadder in her. Yet she spoke about focusing on the positives.

I think you were quite hard on her then. Just because someone might sound like they have their act together doesn't mean they are in a good place. I thought she was actually trying to help you. In the end she just said she was giving up trying to understand, she had been so insightful and patient too. I thought she was a lovely poster and I really hope all is well with her. She hasn't posted since then and has closed her account.

I wuvved ginandtonicsky. The most emotionally-intelligent forum member I’ve come across.

16-08-2019 12:50PM

retro:electro wrote: »

johnpatrick81???

Nah dont think so. Was gonna say who but I'd catch a ban no doubt. They loved reporting everyone across their multiple accounts.

16-08-2019 12:53PM

Omackeral wrote: »

Nah dont think so. Was gonna say who but I'd catch a ban no doubt. They loved reporting everyone across their multiple accounts.

And yet we all suffered

16-08-2019 12:56PM

Mallory Pitiful Stick wrote: »

And yet we all suffered

I believe the Diary Room isn't a patch on what it was before since the 6 got clinked, gone quiet and all? Might ask to come back, it's been months now.

Raconteuse · 16-08-2019 12:57PM

G&Tsky - awesome woman. And so kind and non judgmental. Really hope she comes back eventually. I'd say she will. Nearly everyone does.

Earthhorse · 16-08-2019 12:58PM

Mallory Pitiful Stick wrote: »

there was a poster who pulled a right strop over not getting their posts thanked.....cant for the life of me remember the name ...

It was me, just now, in this thread.

begbysback · 16-08-2019 01:00PM

I once started a thread in AH using an old account asking if we could remove the thanks button until it was earned, or something similar to that, and I was serious about it, mods moved it to Cuckoos Nest.

Not surprised my old username hasn’t appeared on here, but like to think I contributed to the madness over the years!!

fullstop · 16-08-2019 01:02PM

Candie wrote: »

I don't know why TC gets any love, he may have been articulate but there were few posts of his that didn't drip with sneering condescension. He truly hated women.

Who?

jmayo · 16-08-2019 01:06PM

Gloomtastic! wrote: »

Scofflaw because he could always explain the complicated stuff in plain english.

Insufferable europhile who arrogantly dismissed people who didn't subscribe to his views.
Turned politics forum into a theory only forum and helped drive people out to P Cafe.

Duffy the Vampire Slayer wrote: »

Donegal born, but a naturalised US citizen. Apparently.

Wasn't he Donegalfella for years, but then went hedge fund managing to one of the Carolinas.

It was then that I found him really becoming unbelievable and that was just talking about his liefstyle and home.
Never followed enough of his posts to find all the inconsistencies in background.
And didn't know he was bigging up the sexual aspect of his very much younger half.

Aonghus Von B was a very much funnier self made man.

josip wrote: »

Paddy147 for the DIY advice
FredSwanson for the pics
AndersonIsGod for the chaos

Really miss Fred, he was great for pics.
Jaysus AndersonIsGod had some hard on for Pep.

A Tyrant Named Miltiades! wrote: »

Denerick was another one. Anyone remember him?

Nodin was another who got dogs' abuse, very unfairly.

Feck him and any reincarnations.
I got infracted and ban (might even have been old Scofflaw) for trying to get him to admin he saw nothing wrong with the Warrington bombing.

He had some odious opinions including accepting suicide bombings as valid.

I can think of one mod that seems to have disappeared and he was a total Walter Mitty.

retro:electro · 16-08-2019 01:30PM

Reading some older posts there from old accounts. It genuinely is baffling how some people have been let run ragged for years, trolling and abusing people and are still let close accounts and re-reg and carry on like nothing happened. Mad, Ted.

begbysback · 16-08-2019 01:41PM

retro:electro wrote: »

Reading some older posts there from old accounts. It genuinely is baffling how some people have been let run ragged for years, trolling and abusing people and are still let close accounts and re-reg and carry on like nothing happened. Mad, Ted.

Not really, if mods want to check history of old accounts then it’s easy to do, and not every re reg is a troll or abusive.

This is it · 16-08-2019 01:47PM

begbysback wrote: »

Not really, if mods want to check history of old accounts then it’s easy to do, and not every re reg is a troll or abusive.

After a few reregs accounts can get "lost", some are missed, some forgotten, etc. It's much easier for a mod to look at a single user, tot up their infractions and escalate or ban. If you've to look through multiple accounts, or a mod on the team doesn't even realise it's a rereg then they get away with things that they probably shouldn't have.

I understand the need for it with data protection and the rest but it's my belief that the close account feature was the biggest factor in the decline of boards. There were plenty of others but I think that did serious damage.

I do agree though, not every rereg is a troll, I don't think that's what R:E was saying anyway.

lainey_d_123 · 16-08-2019 01:49PM

Deleted User wrote: »

To be fair Lainey you gave her a pretty hard time at the end of July in another thread " How common is it for people to never find another half or have kids" - particularly posts between you both ( #586 and #587).

Ginandtonicsky was so empathetic, understanding and patient with you in trying to understand your point of view yet give an insight into her perspective on life. She spoke about life being hard for all of us, some more than others, and about putting our best foot forward.
Even when she was writing that I sensed something deeper and sadder in her. Yet she spoke about focusing on the positives.

I think you were quite hard on her then. Just because someone might sound like they have their act together doesn't mean they are in a good place. I thought she was actually trying to help you. In the end she just said she was giving up trying to understand, she had been so insightful and patient too. I thought she was a lovely poster and I really hope all is well with her. She hasn't posted since then and has closed her account.

Yes, she was those things, but my point was that it can come across as dismissive and damaging to pretend that everyone is dealing with the same issues when they aren't. It's one of the number one things people are told when they are on counselling courses. It is really, really damaging to people with serious health issues/disabilities to be told that 'it's tough for everyone' or some permutation of that. Of course it's not the same being a healthy person with plenty of money and resources and being someone who is chronically ill and struggling financially, for example. It's far easier to take a level headed view of relationships when most of the other things in your life are going well compared to when absolutely everything is bad. I don't think this viewpoint is that 'out there'. Yes, heartbreak is heartbreak, but magnify that many times when the end of a relationship could mean being totally alone, destitute and homeless and then trying to survive on the dating scene having to explain your disabilities and illness to all and sundry. That was all I was trying to say.

I did appreciate ginandtonicsky's posts and told her so directly, on the forum and via PM. Many, many times.

I think it's really horrible of you to try to make me feel like this is somehow my fault just because I was trying to point out some clear (if mildish) ableism. It gets really draining when you try to explain and people just keep dismissing you and then say 'oh I'm giving up, I was just trying to help'. Because all it does is silence people. Did you not notice that I also gave up posting there in that thread, after that? And until now, mostly also stopped posting on the forum at all. There are plenty of other places where people seem to 'get it'. Me calling her out on what I saw as a lack of empathy/mild ableism in one situation doesn't cancel out the many times I agreed with her, thanked her posts, etc.

She did post after that, to say that her relationship had not worked out as she hoped (or that's how I read it) and she didn't come back after that.

lainey_d_123 · 16-08-2019 01:52PM

Deleted User wrote: »

The Corinthian.

What kind of things did he say?

Ave Sodalis · 16-08-2019 01:57PM

Well this has certainly been a trip down memory lane!

I can barely remember names IRL, so I wouldn't notice much if someone disappears unless it's mentioned.

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5 · 16-08-2019 01:59PM

Plenty of people have tried to help you and given up lainey because you are very entrenched in a particular way of thinking and you react very aggressively when it's challenged. G&tsky was getting somewhere with you and clearly had empathy for your situation and when she dared to suggest your attitude probably wasn't helping you turned on her too.

Maybe you don't mean to come across as hostile as you do, it can be easy to be misinterpreted over text and I know you're on the spectrum which presumably doesn't help. But do you not think if 20, 30, 50 people are consistently telling you the same thing then perhaps you should maybe consider if there might be something in it worth taking on board?

This is not an attack on you, as I've said before you are a clearly intelligent person with a lot to like, and who's obviously had a hard time of a lot of things recently, I don't wish you any ill at all.

16-08-2019 02:03PM

I don't think Sweetmaggie is being very fair at all. Why use the closure of one person's account to pass comment on another user?

lainey_d_123 · 16-08-2019 02:06PM

Braden Fresh Pointer wrote: »

Plenty of people have tried to help you and given up lainey because you are very entrenched in a particular way of thinking and you react very aggressively when it's challenged. G&tsky was getting somewhere with you and clearly had empathy for your situation and when she dared to suggest your attitude probably wasn't helping you turned on her too.

Maybe you don't mean to come across as hostile as you do, it can be easy to be misinterpreted over text and I know you're on the spectrum which presumably doesn't help. But do you not think if 20, 30, 50 people are consistently telling you the same thing then perhaps you should maybe consider if there might be something in it worth taking on board?

This is not an attack on you, as I've said before you are a clearly intelligent person with a lot to like, and who's obviously had a hard time of a lot of things recently, I don't wish you any ill at all.

I didn't 'turn on her'. I explained why her viewpoint was damaging and ableist. She could have said something like 'oh God yes, it's hard enough dating as it is, I can't imagine having to deal with a disability as well' or acknowledged that being in a poor financial situation puts so much more pressure on every aspect of life. I wasn't attacking her as a person at all, I was challenging what I perceived to be a privileged viewpoint. Just because she was a (rightfully) respected poster doesn't mean absolutely everything she said was 100% right and she could never be challenged, ever.

TBH I haven't had the slightest problem on other forums, so what I took on board was so stop posting here. I tried to explain my viewpoint and was shot down, so I gave up, just like she did.

lainey_d_123 · 16-08-2019 02:07PM

Deleted User wrote: »

I don't think Sweetmaggie is being very fair at all. Why use the closure of one person's account to pass comment on another user?

This kind of bullying and ganging up is why I stopped posting. Can't imagine I'm the only one.

16-08-2019 02:07PM

lainey_d_123 wrote: »

What kind of things did he say?

Derogatory things, generally.

He was extremely articulate (not to be confused with verbose; there are a few extremely verbose - thread-killing - posters who confuse a surplus of words with an excess of intelligence), but most of what he had to say that I noted just demonstrated the utter contempt he had for women in general.

He may have been charming when the subject involved anything else but I only ever noticed him when he was on a vitriolic, spiteful mission to be as nasty as possible either to, or about, a woman/women. Though I doubt it.

16-08-2019 02:10PM

I don't remember The Corinthian at all at all.

Alf Stewart though! He was funny

16-08-2019 02:11PM

Kfallon, I haven't seen him in a while and enjoyed his posts.

16-08-2019 02:12PM

Deleted User wrote: »

I don't remember The Corinthian at all at all.

Alf Stewart though! He was funny

Count yourself lucky

And I vaguely remember Alf, in a vaguely positive way!

Raconteuse · 16-08-2019 02:15PM

Loved kfallon!

lainey_d_123 wrote: »

What kind of things did he say?

Just misogyny of the vilest level. "You'd all be having abortions on a bad hair day if you could" being a particular gem. And clearly not a bit pro life but pretending to be, just to put women down.

lainey_d_123 · 16-08-2019 02:25PM

Raconteuse wrote: »

Loved kfallon!

Just misogyny of the vilest level. "You'd all be having abortions on a bad hair day if you could" being a particular gem. And clearly not a bit pro life but pretending to be, just to put women down.

Ugh.

But I bet he was well-liked and his posts got loads of thanks. Am I wrong?

retro:electro · 16-08-2019 02:34PM

begbysback wrote: »

Not really, if mods want to check history of old accounts then it’s easy to do, and not every re reg is a troll or abusive.

I’m talking about one account I came across that has some of the most vile and disgusting things written in it that I’ve ever read. Openly racist, abusive, inflammatory, provocative and a blatant fantasist. Yet I believe they are still posting here today.
The mind boggles.

Trigger Happy · 16-08-2019 02:34PM

lainey_d_123 wrote: »

Ugh.

But I bet he was well-liked and his posts got loads of thanks. Am I wrong?

'Thanks count' in the predecessor to full scale people rating as in Black mirror Nosedive episode.

Sleepy · 16-08-2019 02:42PM

Earthhorse wrote: »

metrovelvet is another poster from yore I quite liked. Didn't always agree with her but she had a unique take on things.

I'd row with her day and night on here but I'd miss her around! PM'd each other a fair bit but haven't heard from her since her last incarnation (she was another who had half a dozen usernames over the years).

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

I’m so glad that I’m not the only one who thought this. Both the disdain for women and the condescension. And, as I said earlier in the thread, he revealed himself to be ridiculously precious too. The time he criticised a mod who actually stood up for him was astounding. I was thinking “If that’s what you’re like with people who are trying to help you...”. I’ve noticed that articulacy seems to dazzle and impress many people and much is undeservedly forgiven if you have a way with words.

I think his ongoing rows with certain female posters (particularly metrovelvet as they'd had a very messy real world entanglement that lead to pure bile spilling out all across boards) and his utter disdain for feminism got him branded as a misogynist when it always seemed to me that he was more of a sociopath than a misogynist. Strangely (or perhaps not, as it often seems the case with guys like him) for a poster who was hated by so many of the women on here, he was one of those guys who never seemed to be short of female company the few times I met him IRL.

AlphabetCards wrote: »

Dragan on the fitness forum. About ten years ago, he was almost pre-SJW but wasn't, he was just a caring bloke.

Cant remember the last guy, from south dublin and used to do acrobatics and what not. In great shape, was all about the planche and olympic rings before crossfit made them uncool. If someone could remind me, that would be great, his posts were quite insightful!

Dragan was a lovely guy IRL too. Used to train with him quite a bit and he was extremely generous with his time, got more into Photography than fitness and was a reg on the Photography forum. Last I saw of him was he'd gotten seriously into DJing. Think he was quite like myself at the time that he'd get almost obsessively into something, get decent to pretty good at it and then find a new obsession.

Are you thinking of AmazingEmmet? Guy was a walking Adonis and, again, very generous with his time. Remember him holding a free gymnastics class in Stephen's Green one time!

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