Appalling abuse on a bus to my partner

Fiddlesticks99 · 30-07-2019 8:24pm #1

Recently my partner was with her kid (not mine, she had her from a previous relationship). She was on the bus on the way to the Inteo centre. Her daughter is 2 and was in her buggy. She was parked in the buggy / wheelchair zone.We live on an infrequent bus route. The bus stopped at a certain stop and a wheelchair user attempted to board. The bus driver asked my partner if she'd mind to fold the buggy. Naturally, she refused as she was there first and there isnt enough room for buggies and wheelchairs to share, she had an appointment and had to make it.
The wheelchair user was asked to disembark and wait for the next bus, it was drizzling rain at the time. My partner received a torrent of abuse from other bus passengers, including men. This is a disgraceful indictment on humanity.
What is the legal or moral situation? Was she obliged to fold? Her two year old has ADHD and doesn't like being told what to do. She'd have a tantrum if she was taken out of the buggy or asked to sit on a knee.

Collie D · 30-07-2019 8:27pm

This has to be a windup.

On the off chance it’s not...good luck with the other Boardsies.

strandroad · 30-07-2019 8:28pm

Fiddlesticks99 wrote: »

Naturally, she refused as she was there first

That's quite antisocial and mean, she didn't deserve to be abused but she did deserve to hear a few comments. She should have folded the buggy.
I hope you're trolling!

Qrt · 30-07-2019 8:28pm

Fiddlesticks99 wrote: »

Recently my partner was with her kid (not mine, she had her from a previous relationship). She was on the bus on the way to the Inteo centre. Her daughter is 2 and was in her buggy. She was parked in the buggy / wheelchair zone.We live on an infrequent bus route. The bus stopped at a certain stop and a wheelchair user attempted to board. The bus driver asked my partner if she'd mind to fold the buggy. Naturally, she refused as she was there first and there isnt enough room for buggies and wheelchairs to share, she had an appointment and had to make it.
The wheelchair user was asked to disembark and wait for the next bus, it was drizzling rain at the time. My partner received a torrent of abuse from other bus passengers, including men. This is a disgraceful indictment on humanity.
What is the legal or moral situation? Was she obliged to fold? Her two year old has ADHD and doesn't like being told what to do. She'd have a tantrum if she was taken out of the buggy or asked to sit on a knee.

Not a nice situation for anyone involved but with the newer buses you can fit 3/4 buggies on the bus at a time. I often see this on the 27. I take it the route uses one of the older buses?

wrestlemaniac · 30-07-2019 8:30pm

Fiddlesticks99 wrote: »

Recently my partner was with her kid (not mine, she had her from a previous relationship). She was on the bus on the way to the Inteo centre. Her daughter is 2 and was in her buggy. She was parked in the buggy / wheelchair zone.We live on an infrequent bus route. The bus stopped at a certain stop and a wheelchair user attempted to board. The bus driver asked my partner if she'd mind to fold the buggy. Naturally, she refused as she was there first and there isnt enough room for buggies and wheelchairs to share, she had an appointment and had to make it.
The wheelchair user was asked to disembark and wait for the next bus, it was drizzling rain at the time. My partner received a torrent of abuse from other bus passengers, including men. This is a disgraceful indictment on humanity.
What is the legal or moral situation? Was she obliged to fold? Her two year old has ADHD and doesn't like being told what to do. She'd have a tantrum if she was taken out of the buggy or asked to sit on a knee.

Were you on the bus with her?

I'd be of the opinion that the two year can come of her buggy but the wheelchair user can't so I would have taken my child out.

Strumms · 30-07-2019 8:30pm

The kid has ADHD ? Ok I can sympathize. The wheelchair user had to get the bus to be somewhere though and couldn’t do so because your OH was unwilling to compromise and perhaps put up with a little fall out from having to move. She is the kids mother she needs to fûcking deal with it and be a responsible parent and human being, she is clearly neither. You have my sympathy.

Dublinmuppet · 30-07-2019 8:30pm

Seriously this has to be a joke. Not sure why u pointed out the kid is not yours. No reason to...... but what a vile partner u have if she did do that.

Sonny noggs · 30-07-2019 8:30pm

Fiddlesticks99 wrote: »

Her two year old has ADHD and doesn't like being told what to do.

Good luck with that.

dartboardio · 30-07-2019 8:31pm

Wheelchair users get priority not bold ahem... ADHD children.

She was rude to refuse, plenty of room to squeeze the buggy up a bit at least and get the wheelchair in.

Heres Johnny · 30-07-2019 8:32pm

Your partner was in the wrong. Depends on the nature of the abuse she got whether it was warranted or not. But she should have folded the buggy to allow everyone get on with their day

Happy4all · 30-07-2019 8:32pm

Fiddlesticks99 wrote: »

Recently my partner was with her kid (not mine, she had her from a previous relationship). She was on the bus on the way to the Inteo centre. Her daughter is 2 and was in her buggy. She was parked in the buggy / wheelchair zone.We live on an infrequent bus route. The bus stopped at a certain stop and a wheelchair user attempted to board. The bus driver asked my partner if she'd mind to fold the buggy. Naturally, she refused as she was there first and there isnt enough room for buggies and wheelchairs to share, she had an appointment and had to make it.
The wheelchair user was asked to disembark and wait for the next bus, it was drizzling rain at the time. My partner received a torrent of abuse from other bus passengers, including men. This is a disgraceful indictment on humanity.
What is the legal or moral situation? Was she obliged to fold? Her two year old has ADHD and doesn't like being told what to do. She'd have a tantrum if she was taken out of the buggy or asked to sit on a knee.

Must try harder

eviltwin · 30-07-2019 8:33pm

What an absolute bitch your partner is. If this is true which I suspect it isn't.

Sonny noggs · 30-07-2019 8:33pm

Does your partner have the free travel?

Wesser · 30-07-2019 8:36pm

She should have made space for the wheelchair user.

ive never heard of a 2 year old having adhd. thats very young to have adhd diagnosed. sounds like likely under disciplined as oppossed to adhd.

lawred2 · 30-07-2019 8:36pm

Fiddlesticks99 wrote: »

Recently my partner was with her kid (not mine, she had her from a previous relationship). She was on the bus on the way to the Inteo centre. Her daughter is 2 and was in her buggy. She was parked in the buggy / wheelchair zone.We live on an infrequent bus route. The bus stopped at a certain stop and a wheelchair user attempted to board. The bus driver asked my partner if she'd mind to fold the buggy. Naturally, she refused as she was there first and there isnt enough room for buggies and wheelchairs to share, she had an appointment and had to make it.
The wheelchair user was asked to disembark and wait for the next bus, it was drizzling rain at the time. My partner received a torrent of abuse from other bus passengers, including men. This is a disgraceful indictment on humanity.
What is the legal or moral situation? Was she obliged to fold? Her two year old has ADHD and doesn't like being told what to do. She'd have a tantrum if she was taken out of the buggy or asked to sit on a knee.

Two year old diagnosed with ADHD

Me hole

0/10

alchemist33 · 30-07-2019 8:36pm

Pretty much unheard of for a 2 year old to be diagnosed with ADHD in Ireland. And even if they were, it wouldn't make them more uncomfortable on a knee than in a pushchair.

fishy_fishy · 30-07-2019 8:37pm

No two year old gets diagnosed with ADHD...

lawred2 · 30-07-2019 8:38pm

Wesser wrote: »

She should have made space for the wheelchair user.

ive never heard of a 2 year old having adhd. thats very young to have adhd diagnosed. sounds like likely under disciplined as oppossed to adhd.

Under disciplined?

A two year old!?

This thread is the twilight zone

30-07-2019 8:38pm

Could she not drive to her interview? Much less stressful.

dartboardio · 30-07-2019 8:39pm

lawred2 wrote: »

Wesser wrote: »

She should have made space for the wheelchair user.

ive never heard of a 2 year old having adhd. thats very young to have adhd diagnosed. sounds like likely under disciplined as oppossed to adhd.

Under disciplined?

A two year old!?

This thread is the twilight zone

Well my mum says in her day there was no ADHD, just bold kids

lawred2 · 30-07-2019 8:39pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Could she not drive to her interview? Much less stressful.

Looks more authentic to get the bus when you're collecting your giro

Plumbthedepths · 30-07-2019 8:40pm

OP I know this is not AH but your partner is a 'dick'.

dartboardio · 30-07-2019 8:40pm

Collectin da labar

Dublinmuppet · 30-07-2019 8:41pm

He had to be trolling. No way could u come on here and expect sympathy with that story. If it is true and I doubt it very much the partner should be ashamed of herself and no way has a toddler got adhd. Probably had Coke and crisps for his breakfast and got all hyper

30-07-2019 8:41pm

dartboardio wrote: »

Collectin da labar

And most likely doin nixers

Heres Johnny · 30-07-2019 8:42pm

Intreo centre for an interview, woman that wouldn't let a wheelchair user on the bus, a 2 year ruling the roost and passengers hurling abuse. Lovely bus route.

super_furry · 30-07-2019 8:43pm

Imagine having nothing better to do with your time than to make up stories to try to wind up people you'll never meet.

strandroad · 30-07-2019 8:43pm

Heres Johnny wrote: »

Intreo centre for an interview, woman that wouldn't let a wheelchair user on the bus, a 2 year ruling the roost and passengers hurling abuse. Lovely bus route.

She should have dumped the buggy at the bus, she'd get a new one from de social.

corks finest · 30-07-2019 8:45pm

dartboardio wrote:

She was rude to refuse, plenty of room to squeeze the buggy up a bit at least and get the wheelchair in.

ADHD is an excuse for a lot of ppl to let their kids be spoilt troublesome brats- obviously not all but Fu*k me ADHD was only invented in the last 10/15; years in Ireland before that if you constantly misbehaved you'd get a slap in the arse

corks finest · 30-07-2019 8:45pm

lawred2 wrote:

Two year old diagnosed with ADHD

My thoughts exactly

Westernyelp · 30-07-2019 8:47pm

Torrent of abuse justified.

corks finest · 30-07-2019 8:47pm

dartboardio wrote:

Well my mum says in her day there was no ADHD, just bold kids

As a 60 grandad of 12 ADHD equals getting away with bad behaviour FFS ,and of course the extra few bob as a carer if one is on the dole

mada82 · 30-07-2019 8:47pm

“Naturally, she refused”
That made me laugh out loud.
Classic post

the_syco · 30-07-2019 8:47pm

Fiddlesticks99 wrote: »

Naturally, she refused as she was there first

Fiddlesticks99 wrote: »

Her two year old has ADHD and doesn't like being told what to do. She'd have a tantrum if she was taken out of the buggy or asked to sit on a knee.

Like mother, like daughter? :pac:

But seriously, kids as young as 4 can be diagnosed with having ADHD. Not two. I'm sensing internet diagnostic test from some Facebook page.

Mongfinder General · 30-07-2019 8:48pm

There's a reason why her ex ****ed her off...

Spook_ie · 30-07-2019 8:50pm

Assuming some semblance of truth to the OP, put yourself or your missus in to the wheelchair and then let us know what you'd think of some person having the attitude your OH exhibited.

Dublinmuppet · 30-07-2019 8:51pm

So she had to go for her interview with the social so presuming she’s claiming some welfare payment. Do u think maybe the wheelchair user might have been trying to get to his job. U know the job that charges tax that pays the social welfare claims.......

Still waters · 30-07-2019 8:52pm

She was dead right op, sur couldn't the lad in the wheel chair just roll to wherever he was going, isn't that what the wheels are for

irishgrover · 30-07-2019 8:55pm

strandroad wrote: »

She should have dumped the buggy at the bus, she'd get a new one from de social.

**** ya, I was just about to post something similar....

fineso.mom · 30-07-2019 8:58pm

I've just had a look at some other threads started by the OP. Suspicions confirmed.

Dublinmuppet · 30-07-2019 8:58pm

Am still amazed she didn’t get a taxi. Surely the taxi man takes butter vouchers

Fiddlesticks99 · 30-07-2019 8:59pm

Spook_ie wrote: »

Assuming some semblance of truth to the OP, put yourself or your missus in to the wheelchair and then let us know what you'd think of some person having the attitude your OH exhibited.

Well if there's no room, then there's no room. I don't think a wheel chair is a "pass" as such. Loads of people have to wait for less crowed buses sure

Fiddlesticks99 · 30-07-2019 9:00pm

Dublinmuppet wrote: »

Am still amazed she didn’t get a taxi. Surely the taxi man takes butter vouchers

Whats with the sly digs?

Fiddlesticks99 · 30-07-2019 9:02pm

Alot of people on here seem to have a problem with social welfare recipients.....Not the point so please stay on topic

Dublinmuppet · 30-07-2019 9:03pm

Fiddlesticks99 wrote: »

Alot of people on here seem to have a problem with social welfare recipients.....Not the point so please stay on topic

You seem to have a problem with wheelchair users

Dublinmuppet · 30-07-2019 9:04pm

Fiddlesticks99 wrote: »

Whats with the sly digs?

Nothing sly about it. Your partner is a vile creature

Sheridan81 · 30-07-2019 9:05pm

Hi, I remember this.

It was me in the wheelchair.

I don't really have a disability. I just use the wheels for sympathy and special treatment on bus journeys etc.

And I would have gotten away with it if it wasn't for your pesky kid.

Heres Johnny · 30-07-2019 9:05pm

Fiddlesticks99 wrote: »

Alot of people on here seem to have a problem with social welfare recipients.....Not the point so please stay on topic

Entitled mother, entitled child

Del.Monte · 30-07-2019 9:05pm

Thread belongs in AH - even most of the posters in this thread never come on the C+T forum.

dubstarr · 30-07-2019 9:06pm

Fiddlesticks99 wrote: »

Recently my partner was with her kid (not mine, she had her from a previous relationship). She was on the bus on the way to the Inteo centre. Her daughter is 2 and was in her buggy. She was parked in the buggy / wheelchair zone.We live on an infrequent bus route. The bus stopped at a certain stop and a wheelchair user attempted to board. The bus driver asked my partner if she'd mind to fold the buggy. Naturally, she refused as she was there first and there isnt enough room for buggies and wheelchairs to share, she had an appointment and had to make it.
The wheelchair user was asked to disembark and wait for the next bus, it was drizzling rain at the time. My partner received a torrent of abuse from other bus passengers, including men. This is a disgraceful indictment on humanity.
What is the legal or moral situation? Was she obliged to fold? Her two year old has ADHD and doesn't like being told what to do. She'd have a tantrum if she was taken out of the buggy or asked to sit on a knee.

Jesus i cant believe i read that.Your partner is a wagon and if it was me i would be complaining to the bus company about that driver.Wheelchairs have priority and its written everywhere.Its protected in law for ****s sake.

I really hope it doesnt come knocking on your door.

Dublinmuppet · 30-07-2019 9:07pm

Sheridan81 wrote: »

Hi, I remember this.

It was me in the wheelchair.

I don't really have a disability. I just use the wheels for sympathy and special treatment on bus journeys etc.

And I would have gotten away with it if it wasn't for your pesky kid.

I’m the 2 year old kid. I have rights!

Appalling abuse on a bus to my partner

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