If You Woke Up as the Opposite Sex

Mister Vain wrote: »

Who claims that?

It's regularly rolled out as a true fact that the male orgasm is less intense. Never read any decent research that backs this up. Some researchers have even tried to conclude that the female orgasm is a secondary thing(which is utter nonsense) as unlike the make version it's not required at all for conception*. Plus men fiddle with themselves more and seek out more sex on average, which might suggest the payoff is higher. If mine were any more intense I'd never leave the house. I'd be found a dried up husk of a man And men have one advantage; we're pretty much guaranteed one every single time. Show up get nekkid(or not) have unit fiddled with, Boiiiiing!.

Though if I woke up a woman it would be about the first thing I'd have a go at after I checked myself out nekkid in the mirror.

It would be very interesting to see how the world reacted to me differently as a woman. The different expectations and such like. And there would be differences, both positive and negative. I got the tiniest sniff of that here on Boards of all places, when in the early days a fair few folks thought I was a woman. At the time I modded Personal Issues and the Ladies Lounge(I ended up with the latter as a bit of a prank played on me, god be with the days when it was all less serious bizness), which apparently are more "womanly" type forums in some minds. Both male and female BTW. I got a few "as another woman surely you..." type PM's. Male posters tended to either try to butter me up with platitudes, or go off the deep end in the first PM. There was defo a different flavour when folks dealt with me as a man, albeit a subtle difference. It would be interesting to see that in the wider world. How would friendships change, how would work interactions change that sorta thing, even how I'd be treated when shopping or getting my car sorted. Though I do most of that myself, which would be interesting in itself if I tottered into a motor factors in heels asking for a set of trembler coils and an new magneto...

I'd be interested to see how the different hormones would act on me, if at all, though would need more than a week for that. I'd even want to see what the oul monthly "curse" was all about. Easy to say as a tourist mind you.

Down the years I've often come to the conclusion that being a woman is quite an uncomfortable - for the real want of a better word - thing by comparison. Monthly bodily changes, clothing that's more built for speed than comfort, more wobbly bits, more general sensitivity to others and sociability and social pressures and body image, more awareness of shifts in "atmosphere" within groups and all that.




*though is a huge part of couple bonding which is a major advantage for the raising of human kids who are extremely vulnerable so the parents have to stay around and together for longer.

Candie wrote: »

When we went to a dealership when my partner was buying a car, they talked about the engine and technical stuff, showed him how he'd be able to fit all his macho hobby stuff in the boot and on the roof and talked about all the extras, the economy, the mileage stats, even the tyres.

When I was at a dealership looking at cars, they showed me the interior options, the cupholders, how to work the touchscreen etc., but seemed to think the most important things were how much shopping I could fit in the boot and how it was all set up for infant seats. I must look like I do a huge amount of shopping and plan on having triplets.

I wasnt offended but it was interesting to note their assumptions.

TBH C, I'd be kinda, or at least a little eh wut? myself. I suppose they average things out. I'd know a fair number of men who wouldn't know one end of a car from another and frankly shouldn't be allowed on the road and I know a fair number of women petrolheads who know their stuff. Actually I'd reckon as cars have become more complex over the last decade or so and require almost zero maintenance that could be done by the average owner fewer and fewer men have much of a clue. Now I was born in the late 60's to be fair, but I remember my dad in the 70's and 80's regularly being under the bonnet fiddling and fettling and OK he was an engineer by profession, but it was a regular thing to see dads and usually their sons under the family car bonnet of a weekend. There was more of a connection to the car as an object. There had to be. So I could see the gender diff being applied back then, but much less so now.

Funny enough my mechanic and friend gets a load of women repeat customers and he'd be more than a bit of a dinosaur on the "woke" front, but he always had a blindspot with gender as far as his profession went. I noticed he would explain in quite a lot of detail about what was a problem and what needed doing. He has told me he reckoned in general and outside blokes who were petrolheads that non petrolhead women were better customers and understood, or were more open to understanding what was involved than non petrolhead men who were more likely to shut down out of some weird pride thing? I've found similar myself actually.