How often do you see your parents?

The Young Wan · 29-06-2019 09:19PM #1

Those of you with parents who are still with us, how often do you see them?

jcorr · 29-06-2019 09:19PM

The Young Wan wrote: »

Those of you with parents who are still with us, how often do you see them?

Once every two months.

I used to leave Dublin every weekend to go home. But it's getting harder and harder as I get older.

Bellerstring · 29-06-2019 09:20PM

The Young Wan wrote: »

Those of you with parents who are still with us, how often do you see them?

Why....?

Necro · 29-06-2019 09:20PM

The Young Wan wrote:

Those of you with parents who are still with us, how often do you see them?

Pretty much every day more or less. Only one of the siblings who still lives in the locale which is hard for them at times as we'd all be relatively close

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1 · 29-06-2019 09:21PM

The Young Wan wrote: »

Those of you with parents who are still with us, how often do you see them?

What about yourself?

It doesn't apply to me, as mine are long dead, but tell us your own situation.

pc7 · 29-06-2019 09:22PM

Every week, usually wend so they can see grandkids.

_Kaiser_ · 29-06-2019 09:22PM

Both of mine are dead now but even when alive I only saw my mother every few months for the most part (although a fair bit more towards the end). My dad wasn't part of things for most of my life anyway.

It's great that many are close to their parents, but I find in this country it can often mean that they never really leave home and make a life for themselves either.

wakka12 · 29-06-2019 09:25PM

Id hope to see my parents at least once a week after I move out

Franz Von Peppercorn II · 29-06-2019 09:26PM

Once every two to three weeks as they have moved down the country. Every week when they were in Dublin, and I was here too.

Once a month or two when I lived in the UK. Once a year when I was in the US in my twenties.

The Young Wan · 29-06-2019 09:31PM

Aarav Thankful Body wrote: »

What about yourself?

It doesn't apply to me, as mine are long dead, but tell us your own situation.

I live abroad, so very infrequently. About once every three months if I'm lucky.

My partner, we see his every weekend.

abff · 29-06-2019 09:31PM

My parents are long dead, but when they were around and our kids were young, we'd call to see them pretty much every Saturday. But our parents lived within 5 miles of us, so it wasn't that much of a trek to go there. And the kids loved their grandparents, so they looked forward to the visits.

I think regular contact is important. But Skype and other technology based communication makes it easier to keep in touch, even if travelling time is an issue.

The Young Wan · 29-06-2019 09:32PM

Bellerstring wrote: »

Why....?

The wealth of mindless wonderings that this forum gets, and this is the one you take offence at?

PsychoPete · 29-06-2019 09:33PM

Probably around 4 or 5 times a week, normally to if they need anything or need any jobs done also the garage I built and a few of the cars are there

Cee-Jay-Cee · 29-06-2019 09:33PM

2 or 3 times a week sometimes more sometimes less.

My dad died 19 yrs ago and my mum lives about 10km from me so pretty close. She’s 78 but young for her age and very active, she’s always off in her wee car doing stuff or visiting people.

Twenty Grand · 29-06-2019 09:34PM

Once every month or 6 weeks.

We have a fantastic relationship with a bit of distance between us

Be right back · 29-06-2019 09:36PM

Usually twice a week!

Necro · 29-06-2019 09:36PM

_Kaiser_ wrote:

It's great that many are close to their parents, but I find in this country it can often mean that they never really leave home and make a life for themselves either.

Some cases yes. Myself I went off to Australia and did my travelling young, was lucky enough to meet my wife there and we came back and settled at home.

She loves it, I'm happy, the kids are happy and the parents are delighted they get to see the grandkids so often so it all worked out for the best in our situation

branie2 · 29-06-2019 09:37PM

A lot, as I live at home with them

29-06-2019 09:39PM

At least 5 days a week and often every day.

_Kaiser_ wrote: »

It's great that many are close to their parents, but I find in this country it can often mean that they never really leave home and make a life for themselves either.

Not sure I’d agree with that but even if so what’s wrong with it*? I couldn't imagine not being very close to my parents (being very lucky to have them both of course).

*as in how you see it as having an ill effect on their enjoyment of life?

The Bishop Basher · 29-06-2019 09:42PM

I try and drop in about once a week..

The older they get the more conscious I am about spending time with them..

messrs · 29-06-2019 09:44PM

I used to only go home once a month or so but as my parents get older i fear that there may not be much time left so now i go home every weekend. Im the only one out of my siblings that lives away so i have that self made guilt that Im not there enough

bop1977 · 29-06-2019 11:15PM

Every fu cking day.

But then I live on the same street as them.

Toots · 29-06-2019 11:20PM

3 or 4 times a week. They live really close by, so we call in every Sunday for a couple of hours, and then I’d usually pop in a couple of weekday afternoons on the way back from the school run.

Blaizes · 29-06-2019 11:27PM

Once a fortnight at least ( they don’t live in the same town but we always make the effort to meet up) Love my parents to bits and as I get older realize how lucky I am have to have them and how good they have been to me.

Gimme A Pound · 29-06-2019 11:32PM

I live less than half an hour's drive from them so my mother calls most Saturdays and I call to her and my dad during the week. I call the odd Saturday or Sunday too for family gatherings.

I think it's important to see them regularly enough when they're getting old but leading your own life too, as some people I know spend massive amounts of time with them (one still lives with her mother, the other stays a few nights a week with his parents) - what will they do when they're gone?

L1011 · 29-06-2019 11:35PM

They live 600m away. Goes from 2 days to maybe 2 months. I've lived abroad before, they aren't in any way reliant on me for support or vice versa so sometimes it is many weeks. My dad still uses messenger applications so I'd talk to him quite frequently on those

One eyed Jack · 29-06-2019 11:35PM

_Kaiser_ wrote: »

It's great that many are close to their parents, but I find in this country it can often mean that they never really leave home and make a life for themselves either.

I get what you mean, but I think that applies in any country really where the cost of living let alone the idea of owning their own property is an unrealistic pipe dream for some, and something they just don’t want for others. In some countries three generations living in the one household wouldn’t be uncommon.

Multigenerational, that’s the word I was looking for -

https://www.aarp.org/home-family/friends-family/info-04-2013/three-generations-household-american-family.html

As for how often I would spend time with my own parents? As little as possible frankly, funerals and weddings, and in recent years it’s been more funerals than weddings. I wouldn’t quite put the ratio at four funerals and a wedding, but it’s there or thereabouts!

Gimme A Pound · 29-06-2019 11:36PM

messrs wrote: »

I used to only go home once a month or so but as my parents get older i fear that there may not be much time left so now i go home every weekend. Im the only one out of my siblings that lives away so i have that self made guilt that Im not there enough

Ah I'm sure they understand. My brother is the same - despite having three children and living a few hours away, he visits at least once a month. That's loads. And your siblings are nearby. Some older folk's children are all gone away - including to far flung lands!

29-06-2019 11:40PM

My father is dead, but I only live a few minutes walk from home so I call in most days after work to check on my mother. Take her dog for a walk of she's not up to it or any jobs that need doing etc.

eviltwin · 29-06-2019 11:41PM

Never by mutual choice.

ILoveYourVibes · 29-06-2019 11:45PM

eviltwin wrote: »

Never by mutual choice.

im really sorry

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