How is a Woman supposed to find a Man in the 21st Century

Odyssey 2005 · 20-06-2019 07:35PM

She didnt have any problems finding love

https://www.thesun.co.uk/tvandshowbiz/9328565/this-morning-model-millionaire-love/

AlphabetCards · 20-06-2019 07:35PM

OP your problem is that you are in Ireland.

Dating in your thirties is amazing in the Uk (from a guys POV)

AlphabetCards · 20-06-2019 07:35PM

fash wrote: »

you should sell your story as a script- I certainly would be interested in seeing that on screen.

That sounds like a bit of an unseemly proposition tbh

fash · 20-06-2019 07:37PM

AlphabetCards wrote: »

OP your problem is that you are in Ireland.

Dating in your thirties is amazing in the Uk (from a guys POV)

It's the same in Ireland...for males - that is the point.

Edit: the applicant wishes to submit exhibit A into evidence.

fash · 20-06-2019 07:38PM

AlphabetCards wrote: »

That sounds like a bit of an unseemly proposition tbh

I keep those on PM

banie01 · 20-06-2019 07:39PM

AlphabetCards wrote: »

OP your problem is that you are in Ireland.

Dating in your thirties is amazing in the Uk (from a guys POV)

Talk about completely missing the OP's point!
Whoosh!

Jimmy Bottlehead · 20-06-2019 07:45PM

leahyl wrote: »

Lovely, I’ll steer clear of you so :-P

I'm sure my partner will appreciate that

Capt'n Midnight · 20-06-2019 07:46PM

KungPao wrote: »

Now to keep him, Don’t hassle him if he wants to watch 4 premier league matches on a Saturday, in just his underpants.

And remember if a man says he'll do something , he will do it.

There's no need to remind him every six months.

Sawduck · 20-06-2019 07:49PM

Don't be rude or stuck up and just enjoy yourself a bit more

EmmetSpiceland · 20-06-2019 07:51PM

[Deleted User] wrote: »

All it takes is some imagined slight to utterly destroy your reputation as a man. Some women think bumping into them in a crowded bar with your back to them is sexual assault. I've had this happen me once, didn't even see the woman in question until she started roaring at me.

That smacks a little of the “razor blade in the apple”, shrill, deranged, “females” out to get you. I doubt any guy either of us know has had his life ruined for saying the wrong thing or touching an arm.

As far the bumping, to be fair to the women there are “low level” sex pests out there called “frottagers” who get off on grinding into people like that.

Obviously, the person who accosted you misread the situation and should have known better since you were facing the other way.

Daisy78 · 20-06-2019 07:59PM

Sawduck wrote: »

Don't be rude or stuck up and just enjoy yourself a bit more

Yea but how do you know that a woman is stuck up from across the room?!

Sawduck · 20-06-2019 08:02PM

Daisy78 wrote: »

Yea but how do you know that a woman is stuck up from across the room?!

Use binoculars

odyssey06 · 20-06-2019 08:05PM

This article is on demographics in New York, but some of the trends apply to Dublin also...
https://nypost.com/2015/08/25/hey-ladies-here-are-8-reasons-youre-single/

Jimmy Bottlehead · 20-06-2019 08:06PM

Daisy78 wrote: »

Yea but how do you know that a woman is stuck up from across the room?!

Look for the blu-tak

Sawduck · 20-06-2019 08:08PM

On a serious note,why do women like men who are jerks and treat them like crap,i know a few women who date total assholes who cheat on them and are complete sleaze balls

Olivia Pope · 20-06-2019 08:14PM

I socialize very little at the moment and for the last few years so I’m out of the loop so to speak. All of my friends and my husbands friends who met their spouse in the last 10 years met online other than one couple who met at their tennis club.

Someone said to me recently that there is a lot less open flirting with randomers on nights out now as people see flirting as being part of their online life. Anyone notice this?

Thelonious Monk · 20-06-2019 08:26PM

Sawduck wrote: »

On a serious note,why do women like men who are jerks and treat them like crap,i know a few women who date total assholes who cheat on them and are complete sleaze balls

Sounds like they have low self esteem

fash · 20-06-2019 08:31PM

Sawduck wrote: »

On a serious note,why do women like men who are jerks and treat them like crap,i know a few women who date total assholes who cheat on them and are complete sleaze balls

Evolutionary psychology: it is behaviour that has been observed in females from all species from insects to fish to birds to mammals. As a short cut for determining if a male is attractive or not, a female will see how attractive a male is to other females - (evolutionarily) on the basis that if a male can and does sleep with 100 females, it's a good idea to hook up to his genes for your male offspring - so that they too can sleep with 100 females (and hence spread your genes).

SusieBlue · 20-06-2019 08:31PM

Sawduck wrote: »

On a serious note,why do women like men who are jerks and treat them like crap,i know a few women who date total assholes who cheat on them and are complete sleaze balls

Because generally when they meet them they aren’t jerks who treat them like crap.
When they meet them they are perfectly lovely and sweet and thoughtful.
They rarely exhibit their negative traits in the early days (men and women both).

By the time he starts treating her like sh*t she’s already in love and emotionally invested which a) makes it easier to excuse and rationalize the bad things he does and b) makes it harder for her to let go.
At least in my case that is what happened.. I made excuse after excuse for him in my head, blamed myself, actually blamed everyone and anyone apart from him for the things he did.

And then, after all that I forgave him for & despite the fact we were together years and lived together, he dumped me anyway and threw me out of our house all in the space of an hour.

Daisy78 · 20-06-2019 08:40PM

Olivia Pope wrote: »

I socialize very little at the moment and for the last few years so I’m out of the loop so to speak. All of my friends and my husbands friends who met their spouse in the last 10 years met online other than one couple who met at their tennis club.

Someone said to me recently that there is a lot less open flirting with randomers on nights out now as people see flirting as being part of their online life. Anyone notice this?

Apparently tennis clubs are a hotbed of activity!

0ph0rce0 · 20-06-2019 08:50PM

Women want tall , dark and handsome, money, good job, nice car, nice house, big flute, class in bed. Mad for it all.

That's what they want and when they find it the bloke asks them what are you going to bring to the relationship.

Ehh uhhh ehh uhhhh ehh uhhh

Yeah you don't want to bring **** all.

That's why

Sawduck · 20-06-2019 08:56PM

SusieBlue wrote: »

Because generally when they meet them they aren’t jerks who treat them like crap.
When they meet them they are perfectly lovely and sweet and thoughtful.
They rarely exhibit their negative traits in the early days (men and women both).

By the time he starts treating her like sh*t she’s already in love and emotionally invested which a) makes it easier to excuse and rationalize the bad things he does and b) makes it harder for her to let go.
At least in my case that is what happened.. I made excuse after excuse for him in my head, blamed myself, actually blamed everyone and anyone apart from him for the things he did.

And then, after all that I forgave him for & despite the fact we were together years and lived together, he dumped me anyway and threw me out of our house all in the space of an hour.

Sorry to hear that,hope you are doing good now, you are waaay better off away from someone like that

20-06-2019 08:59PM

EmmetSpiceland wrote: »

.

Obviously, the person who accosted you misread the situation and should have known better since you were facing the other way.

She was with a guy who looked at me with a "shoot me now" expression. Something tells me she often pulled those kind of stunts.

jaxxx · 20-06-2019 09:01PM

0ph0rce0 wrote: »

Women want tall , dark and handsome, money, good job, nice car, nice house, big flute, class in bed. Mad for it all.

That's what they want and when they find it the bloke asks them what are you going to bring to the relationship.

Ehh uhhh ehh uhhhh ehh uhhh

Yeah you don't want to bring **** all.

That's why

Well I'm 0 for 9 on that list

20-06-2019 09:02PM

SusieBlue wrote: »

Because generally when they meet them they aren’t jerks who treat them like crap.
When they meet them they are perfectly lovely and sweet and thoughtful.
They rarely exhibit their negative traits in the early days (men and women both).
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Plenty of men who have treated women like crap or even beat them and then their friends still dated them.

Lots of women go into these relationships with their eyes wide open.

Junkyard Tom · 20-06-2019 09:06PM

jcorr wrote: »

I just feel like going into a bar like this sometimes and going to a woman:

https://youtu.be/WYGUKCINF_w

Gimme A Pound · 20-06-2019 09:07PM

Fiery mutant wrote: »

How about trying something new, like say, approach a man and strike up a conversation with him.

I know this is something probably alien to a woman, but sure in these lean times, put your head above the parapet and see what happens.

John DoeReMi wrote: »

The same way they've always done it. Tight jeans, tight top and stand there while the unfortunate men line up for rejection.

Larbre34 wrote: »

If they all just dropped the sneering attitude, sense of entitlement, vanity, selfishness and frankly overly ambitious physical appearance and sexual performance standards, they'd do great.

Taxi!

0ph0rce0 wrote: »

Women want tall , dark and handsome, money, good job, nice car, nice house, big flute, class in bed. Mad for it all.

That's what they want and when they find it the bloke asks them what are you going to bring to the relationship.

Ehh uhhh ehh uhhhh ehh uhhh

Yeah you don't want to bring **** all.

That's why

Nope, no hostility towards women here. "All" Larbre? Thought you'd be more critically thinking than that.
Which women would they be, 0ph0rce0? That behaviour is alien to me and my friends. Maybe it's time for all of the above posters to grow up and face that they're attracted to bitches.

TuringBot47 wrote: »

Maybe start before your biological clock is playing the tune to "Countdown".

But typically long term single women tend to get more girly and it's harder for them to share interests, films etc with men.
The ones that get into yoga, rekki, spirituality, angels, Bridget Jones, vegetarianism etc... totally alien to men.

Harvey Weinstein wrote: »

True right?

Best get your subscription to Cat Fanciers weekly sorted now rather than later and when they tell you that childless middle aged women are generally miserable and depressed just remember its not true!

Childless middle aged Women have all the fun and spend their days politely turning down all the young studs lining up to hook up with them

And that old canard about middle aged Women becoming invisible? Sure everyone knows Women only get more attractive with age!

Where the f did the above come from? The OP posted one line and they're a middle aged cat lady? I'm also pretty sure they're a guy and on a wind-up.

ToddyDoody · 20-06-2019 09:22PM

Gimme A Pound wrote: »

Where the f did the above come from? The OP posted one line and they're a middle aged cat lady? I'm also pretty sure they're a guy and on a wind-up.

I started the thread in the interest of fairness, given the other thread about men finding women has been going on for so long. I'm well aware of the struggles of some women finding a man and thought this exists too for women but are just less likely to start a thread about it.

It is a bit fun to have a man seeking woman thread and a woman seeking man thread side by side. You'd think there'd be no problem, on paper at least.

I've fancied many a guy but needless to say I'm single and have been most of the time. 33 and running out the clock I guess!

SusieBlue · 20-06-2019 09:38PM

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Plenty of men who have treated women like crap or even beat them and then their friends still dated them.

Lots of women go into these relationships with their eyes wide open.

I don’t think that’s a common occurrence at all, in fairness. I’ve certainly never heard of any situations where there was domestic abuse in a relationship & the woman’s friend shacked up with him after the abusive relationship ended.

I’m sure some women go in with their eyes open but that’s not true for the majority of cases. In most cases they are blinded by love and loyalty to just how toxic and destructive the behavior of their partner is.

Gimme A Pound · 20-06-2019 09:43PM

SusieBlue wrote: »

I don’t think that’s a common occurrence at all, in fairness. I’ve certainly never heard of any situations where there was domestic abuse in a relationship & the woman’s friend shacked up with him after the abusive relationship ended.

I’m sure some women go in with their eyes open but that’s not true for the majority of cases. In most cases they are blinded by love and loyalty to just how toxic and destructive the behavior of their partner is.

I'd bet soupandpoitin doesn't actually know one of these "plenty" he talks about. It's just more "women are attracted to bastards not nice guys" stuff.

Some definitely are (and some men are attracted to bitches, as always apparent on these threads) but it's not commonplace like some pretend, because most men aren't bastards.

How is a Woman supposed to find a Man in the 21st Century

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