Are looks the main thing in life?

Nikki Sixx · 31-05-2019 12:23AM #1

When it comes to jobs, partners and generally leading a fulfilled life, is being born good-looking the golden ticket? I presume that every man/woman gets the best looking partner they can muster using their own social standing and their own looks?

armaghlad · 31-05-2019 12:24AM

Nikki Sixx wrote: »

When it comes to jobs, partners and generally leading a fulfilled life, is being born good-looking the golden ticket? I presume that every man/woman gets the best looking partner they can muster using their own social standing and their own looks?

Definitely a massive advantage.

Nikki Sixx · 31-05-2019 12:28AM

I’d imagine there are a lot less depression issues in extremely good-looking people? Surely they don’t suffer from as many confidence issues either.

Franz Von Peppercorn II · 31-05-2019 12:31AM

Nikki Sixx wrote: »

I’d imagine there are a lot less depression issues in extremely good-looking people? Surely they don’t suffer from as many confidence issues either.

You never met one of my exes.

mickdw · 31-05-2019 12:31AM

Looks or money

Nikki Sixx · 31-05-2019 12:34AM

mickdw wrote: »

Looks or money

Looks I’m talking about. And looks can lead to money if you think about it: rich man with a hot wife. I’ve heard of the opposite too, this good looking guy who wasn’t particularly successful marrying a female doctor from a very well off family.

LuckyLloyd · 31-05-2019 12:48AM

I might have made similar musings in my late teens / early twenties but I’d completely disagree now. I think being born with a genetic condition or acquiring some manner of illness or debilitation probably makes things extremely difficult, and is an area around which huge inequality still exists within our society. But if you’re able bodied, interested and interesting all sorts of normal human appearance will allow you to achieve whatever you wish to achieve imo.

31-05-2019 12:53AM

I'm extremely good looking and manically depressed..

SEPT 23 1989 · 31-05-2019 01:00AM

31-05-2019 01:04AM

No matter how good looking you think someone else's gf is, she's absolutely 100% melting her bloke's head to take out the bins every Tuesday.

31-05-2019 01:06AM

Love is the main thing, sillies. Without it we all wither.

wakka12 · 31-05-2019 01:07AM

Its incredibly advantageous and honestly I think your personality must have major short comings if you are not living a good life despite being really attractive

But I think a charming, bubbly, funny and intelligent and passionate personality can absolutely overcome average or below average looks and allow you a very fulfilled life and being very popular and well liked by people in general. Sad truth is though that usually ugly people will have been treated badly and it will have hindered the development of their personality, they may well have been able to overcome that but good looking people are the opposite, even if they are naturally very shy or not very intelligent or funny or have other personality issues people will make allowances because of their looks and encourage their personalities to flourish and overlook those issues because of their looks

kowloon · 31-05-2019 01:19AM

I'm not sure good looking men have quite as much advantage as good looking women, relatively speaking. The rich man good looking wife trope seems to be more common than the reverse, but maybe there just aren't as many wealthy women to balance that out.
I have heard good looking people complain about just being liked for their looks, but it's an issue I think most of us would be more than happy to experience.

branie2 · 31-05-2019 01:24AM

For a lot of people

Ronan|Raven · 31-05-2019 01:26AM

Looks fade over time but a good personality only grows stronger.

Ilovemycharlie · 31-05-2019 01:26AM

Wisdom.

Gimme A Pound · 31-05-2019 01:39AM

Not the main thing in life - obviously health, income (not being loaded - just having enough to get by), family, relationships, friendship, shelter, education surely are... but looks can be the most important thing in certain contexts. And overall they do give an advantage.

31-05-2019 01:52AM

Good looking people have an easier time gathering up and displaying confidence I suppose. But looks are far from the main thing.

Junkyard Tom · 31-05-2019 01:56AM

ILoveYourVibes · 31-05-2019 03:00AM

Ronan|Raven wrote: »

a good personality only grows stronger.

Marriage screws that up. I know people who have had the personality sucked right out of them.

And no looks are not it at all.

Mad_maxx · 31-05-2019 07:40AM

Nikki Sixx wrote: »

When it comes to jobs, partners and generally leading a fulfilled life, is being born good-looking the golden ticket? I presume that every man/woman gets the best looking partner they can muster using their own social standing and their own looks?

Depends where you are based, if Brad Pitt went to the local disco in ballygobackwards, he'd go home alone as his grandfather never played full back for the parish

In the city, I would say yes

Ave Sodalis · 31-05-2019 07:54AM

Nikki Sixx wrote:

Iâ€™d imagine there are a lot less depression issues in extremely good-looking people? Surely they donâ€™t suffer from as many confidence issues either.

I would think the opposite. With good looking people who are aware of it, it often becomes a part of their identity. As a result, some become almost obsessive with keeping their looks because looks change so much. People who aren't as universally good looking find their identity though more stable means.

Day Lewin · 31-05-2019 08:04AM

Looks are an initial advantage only; once the personality comes forward, the gilt gets knocked off the gingerbread mighty fast.

@kowloon wrote
"I'm not sure good looking men have quite as much advantage as good looking women, relatively speaking. The rich man good looking wife trope seems to be more common than the reverse, but maybe there just aren't as many wealthy women to balance that out.
I have heard good looking people complain about just being liked for their looks, but it's an issue I think most of us would be more than happy to experience. "

Its easy enough to take a fancy to a pretty face when you first meet them: but some of those pretty people are absolutely poisonous - full of themselves, vain, self-important and entitled. And that pretty girl will certainly pull a guy before her plain friend does.

But women know full well that a handsome guy who is proud of his looks may well turn out to be a ruthless exploiter and serial messer: handsome is as handsome does, etc. Proceed with caution.

So no, looks are NOT the main thing is life: the main things are integrity, sincerity, generosity and respect. In both sexes.

Hannibal_Smith · 31-05-2019 08:07AM

There was a guy I worked with who was very good looking, modelled for a bit apparently. But oh my god was he a sap. He was a total tool. His looks carried him through though. He dressed well and people took what he said seriously and was given a portfolio to manage. It was only after he left the boss realised he'd been f*cking up big time.

In his head he's top dollar though :pac: He thinks he's amazing at his job and at life in general.

Infernal Racket · 31-05-2019 08:19AM

No matter how stunningly beautiful a woman may be, somewhere, some lad is fed up riding her

Mrcaramelchoc · 31-05-2019 08:21AM

No way.big knockers are.

paw patrol · 31-05-2019 08:29AM

Looks do matter but being good looking needs to be worked for and must be maintained kinda like a continuous education. It's an achievement in itself.

You can look great in your teens naturally (like general intelligence) but without exercise , healthy (ish) eating and dressing well you will look bad over time.
You aren't just hit with the good-looking card you have to maintain it.

Anybody can be decent looking with a good body (via exercise) and carry themselves well clothes/hair/make-up

excluding any extremes nobody is good looking without work.

So my theory is being good looking is an achievement similar to any qualification you can earn in university.

PokeHerKing · 31-05-2019 08:51AM

Hannibal_Smith wrote:

In his head he's top dollar though He thinks he's amazing at his job and at life in general.

This is the main thing you need in life. Especially in business. If you think you're the dogs bollox you'll succeed.

I'd still take being rediculously good looking over it but ignorance is bliss.

super_furry · 31-05-2019 08:56AM

Pure incel talk here.

Mad_maxx · 31-05-2019 09:22AM

Day Lewin wrote: »

Looks are an initial advantage only; once the personality comes forward, the gilt gets knocked off the gingerbread mighty fast.

@kowloon wrote
"I'm not sure good looking men have quite as much advantage as good looking women, relatively speaking. The rich man good looking wife trope seems to be more common than the reverse, but maybe there just aren't as many wealthy women to balance that out.
I have heard good looking people complain about just being liked for their looks, but it's an issue I think most of us would be more than happy to experience. "

Its easy enough to take a fancy to a pretty face when you first meet them: but some of those pretty people are absolutely poisonous - full of themselves, vain, self-important and entitled. And that pretty girl will certainly pull a guy before her plain friend does.

But women know full well that a handsome guy who is proud of his looks may well turn out to be a ruthless exploiter and serial messer: handsome is as handsome does, etc. Proceed with caution.

So no, looks are NOT the main thing is life: the main things are integrity, sincerity, generosity and respect. In both sexes.

The worst human I've ever known was also quite possibly the ugliest

ArchXStanton · 31-05-2019 09:39AM

It's definitely an advantage, I grew up with two relatively well known (one extremely well known) good looking girls, it was interesting to see how they marketed their looks in life from promoting clubs, modelling, dating celebs to achieve the lifestyles they lead, thing is they were a pair of dopes to talk to, I used to walk away thinking what a pretty sh*thead that I wished I never heard.

Are looks the main thing in life?

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