Is it okay to approach a woman and compliment her?

noubliezjamais · 29-03-2019 07:51PM #1

As a young guy, I wonder if it's ever okay to approach a similar young girl of college age and give her some compliments (i.e. you're pretty) along with small talk.

I'm confused because on one had you have people on the internet that say most women will love the confidence that comes with approaching them but on the other hand you have people saying it's harassment and rude.

Purple Mountain · 29-03-2019 07:52PM

No. Its creepy.

sportsfan90 · 29-03-2019 07:55PM

If you're handsome it's charming.

If you're ugly it's creepy.

Signore Fancy Pants · 29-03-2019 07:55PM

As a woman, I love it when guys come up and tell me im pretty.

Do it OP.

I also love it when lads say I remind them of their mam. Thats guaranteed finger bang time!

TheValeyard · 29-03-2019 07:56PM

Tell her in the morning OP, just when she wakes up.....

Bannasidhe · 29-03-2019 07:56PM

Just approach her and talk to her, to put it bluntly, like she's a human being. If she doesn't want to chat - accept that. It may not be personal. She could just not want to talk. Respect that and if she's interested you will get another chance.

Starting off with 'you're pretty' or other comments (regardless if you mean them as compliments) on her appearance can come across as a bit creepy tbh.

Fann Linn · 29-03-2019 07:56PM

Dale Doback wrote: »

As a woman, I love it when guys come up and tell me im pretty.

Do it OP.

I also love it when lads say I remind them of their mam. Thats guaranteed finger bang time!

PM sent.

whiskeyman · 29-03-2019 08:03PM

You'll have to request consent for a compliment first.
Didn't you attend the talks bro?

EmmetSpiceland · 29-03-2019 08:03PM

Randomly complimenting a stranger is a very odd thing to do. You compliment your partner, when it’s deserved. Doing it to someone you’ve just seen across the street won’t be met with open legs, those legs will be running in the opposite direction.

Also, don’t bother even approaching anyone if you’re not dressed properly. Dragging yourself over like some swamp monster in those awful bootcut jeans with a cheque shirt is going to be a clear warning sign.

Be confident in yourself and your appearance. And for gods sakd don’t go making some pervy remark about the poor girl.

Force Carrier · 29-03-2019 08:05PM

Going up cold to a girl in college and saying "you're pretty" is a little direct.

Try subtlety, go up to her and smell her hair. Follow with "you smell different when you're awake"

noubliezjamais · 29-03-2019 08:07PM

EmmetSpiceland wrote: »

Randomly complimenting a stranger is a very odd thing to do. You compliment your partner, when it’s deserved. Doing it to someone you’ve just seen across the street won’t be met with open legs, those legs will be running in the opposite direction.

Also, don’t bother even approaching anyone if you’re not dressed properly. Dragging yourself over like some swamp monster in those awful bootcut jeans with a cheque shirt is going to be a clear warning sign.

Be confident in yourself and your appearance. And for gods sakd don’t go making some pervy remark about the poor girl.

I wear skinny jeans and GAP shirts. tend to be a bit feminine according to some.

JohnnyFlash · 29-03-2019 08:07PM

Everyone likes a compliment. I was in House a few weeks ago and was walking back from the smoking area when some bird said to me, ‘great arse on you’. Chuffed I was. Got chatting to her, and three hours later we were back in her place riding like it was the last time either of us would. Nearly burned me arse off the lightbulb on the ceiling.

RCK1 · 29-03-2019 08:10PM

It all depends how you do it and the type of person she is. Try talking normally/pleasantly a few times then make a genuine nice compliment. Most people female or male would be happy with it. Just don't go up randomly and make a comment out of the blue in a creepy way

Tacklebox · 29-03-2019 08:13PM

I'd compliment a friend or someone I haven't seen in a while, or if they've been ill and look better.

The only way I'd compliment a stranger is if they're out surfing, fishing or have something like a classy motorbike or nice fishing set up or surfing really well.

I'd say nice wave, looked sweet.

Or if someone had a nice piece of fishing equipment and I never seen it before I'd say is that a Shimano reel, or there's great action on that rod.

If I was in a tattoo parlor and someone had nice work done I'd compliment them on it, or ask who was the artist.

I wouldn't compliment a stranger on their looks, body or whatever.
It's just downright a bit creepy

rgodard80a · 29-03-2019 08:16PM

noubliezjamais wrote: »

I wonder if it's ever okay to approach a similar young girl of college age and give her some compliments

Depends, do you like the smell of mace?

Andrew00 · 29-03-2019 08:17PM

Only good looking lads can walk up to a girl and compliment her.

If youre ugly she'll call the guards or her friends will laugh at you

How Soon Is Now · 29-03-2019 08:18PM

Stay away from the vast majority of these college women there all mainly new age feminist types that will have you put on some kinda list if you breath funny around them.

Remember OP men are evil we can't be trusted with anything!

Just have a nice safe **** at home you be grand!

emo72 · 29-03-2019 08:20PM

why is it ok to compliment someone on their looks anyway? its a bit shallow. why not consder the whole package?

"hi. i just wanted to say your extremely brainy. i never heard a girl do quadratic equations like that. so hot babe!"

Cookie_Monster · 29-03-2019 08:22PM

"Nice tits luv"

Yeah, maybe not OP

Zubeneschamali · 29-03-2019 08:23PM

noubliezjamais wrote: »

As a young guy, I wonder if it's ever okay to approach a similar young girl of college age and give her some compliments (i.e. you're pretty) along with small talk.

If you have to ask us, the answer is No, never.

Men who can get away with this would never ask us.

BBFAN · 29-03-2019 08:23PM

It depends on whether you've every spoken before?

ceadaoin. · 29-03-2019 08:24PM

It's creepy for a guy to walk up to a girl at college who is a complete stranger and complement her. I don't know why people think it makes a difference if he is good looking. It doesnt. Still creepy

Pawwed Rig · 29-03-2019 08:29PM

It is perfectly normal in real life if you ask normal real life people. If you ask people on the internet it is weird and creepy. This is why advice from the internet is a waste of time*

*except my advice obviously.

Seriously OP just do it. If you follow advice online you will be approaching women through your solicitor. Most girls in real life or not rabid left wing nutters.

hatrickpatrick · 29-03-2019 08:32PM

I do it all the time. Life is too short to hold back on saying something that might just brighten someone's day up, just because the cultural era we're living in is such a clusterf*ck. For the record, I've never had anyone get visibly annoyed, but I have gotten several dates out of taking the chance.

Saying nice things to people shouldn't be remotely controversial FFS.

ChikiChiki · 29-03-2019 08:33PM

noubliezjamais wrote: »

As a young guy, I wonder if it's ever okay to approach a similar young girl of college age and give her some compliments (i.e. you're pretty) along with small talk.

I'm confused because on one had you have people on the internet that say most women will love the confidence that comes with approaching them but on the other hand you have people saying it's harassment and rude.

If your good looking then yes otherwise no.

29-03-2019 08:34PM

hatrickpatrick wrote: »

Saying nice things to people shouldn't be remotely controversial FFS.

it's not except for people who like pretending it is

lawred2 · 29-03-2019 08:34PM

Tacklebox wrote: »

I'd compliment a friend or someone I haven't seen in a while, or if they've been ill and look better.

The only way I'd compliment a stranger is if they're out surfing, fishing or have something like a classy motorbike or nice fishing set up or surfing really well.

I'd say nice wave, looked sweet.

Or if someone had a nice piece of fishing equipment and I never seen it before I'd say is that a Shimano reel, or there's great action on that rod.

If I was in a tattoo parlor and someone had nice work done I'd compliment them on it, or ask who was the artist.

I wouldn't compliment a stranger on their looks, body or whatever.
It's just downright a bit creepy

Great action on that rod

You massive pervert

29-03-2019 08:37PM

ceadaoin. wrote: »

It's creepy for a guy to walk up to a girl at college who is a complete stranger and complement her. I don't know why people think it makes a difference if he is good looking. It doesnt. Still creepy

Because most of the people responding here like that have so low confidence as to consider themselves ugly and that no girl would be interested in them. Sad but that is how it is here. They'd rather rage and blame da wimmen

lawred2 · 29-03-2019 08:37PM

emo72 wrote: »

why is it ok to compliment someone on their looks anyway? its a bit shallow. why not consder the whole package?

"hi. i just wanted to say your extremely brainy. i never heard a girl do quadratic equations like that. so hot babe!"

Humans prize good looks.

It may be shallow but it's reality.

ancapailldorcha · 29-03-2019 08:39PM

noubliezjamais wrote: »

I wear skinny jeans and GAP shirts. tend to be a bit feminine according to some.

Why do you have the European Patent Office as a signature?

lawred2 · 29-03-2019 08:39PM

hatrickpatrick wrote: »

I do it all the time. Life is too short to hold back on saying something that might just brighten someone's day up, just because the cultural era we're living in is such a clusterf*ck. For the record, I've never had anyone get visibly annoyed, but I have gotten several dates out of taking the chance.

Saying nice things to people shouldn't be remotely controversial FFS.

It's all in the delivery and the carrier... Good looking and assured without being smug or self satisfied and your compliments will be warmly received...

Otherwise forget about it or you'll be on the wrong end of a rape whistle

Is it okay to approach a woman and compliment her?

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