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Amy_Amy · 28-03-2019 12:56AM

I'm still very depressed about all his promises. It hit me like a ton of bricks today. I just cannot get over what he promised me.

ToddyDoody · 28-03-2019 01:01AM

Amy_Amy wrote: »

he came, and asked me for my address.

In Ally McBeal, one of the sexy characters (Lucy Liu) called it the dumb stick.

Could it have been the dumb stick talking?

Amy_Amy · 28-03-2019 01:13AM

I just feel so used and been in such a ****ty mood.

28-03-2019 02:06AM

OP I have to ask, why did you decide to post this in After Hours? Have you tried going over to Personal Issues?

If this genuinely affected you as badly as you say I think you should seek some professional help, starting firstly with your GP who should be able to direct you to the necessary services.

Big Bag of Chips · 28-03-2019 07:20AM

Amy_Amy, I think you need to cop on. He offered to send you a gift (a gift that there was no need for.) At the time he probably meant it. Same way as two people keep saying "We really should meet up for lunch" and it never happens. Those people aren't stringing anyone along. They genuinely mean it when they say it and then things happen and they forget, or it doesn't happen for various reasons.

You consentually had sex with him before any gift was mentioned. So you weren't "used". He then mentioned something in passing and forgot/didn't get around to sending it. If I remember from your previous posts pretty soon afterwards you started questioning where this gift was, and eventually started sending him abuse about it. This all happened years ago and you are still sending him abuse about it. I think I recall you mentioning that you are now at the stage where it could get you in serious trouble.

Cop on.

He said the equivalent of "let's do lunch". Then it slipped by the wayside and never happened. Then you started pushing for it, (and it's safe to assume, if you're still talking about it 6-8 years later that you probably weren't particularly "sane" about it at the time). I would say at that point he decided it wasn't worth sending to you because you had already gone all sorts of crazy.

It's not his fault you told your sister you had a new fella and he was sending you a present. Your fight with your sister was never anything to do with him. You dragged him into it and then sent him the height of abuse for not facilitating your feud. He did right to stay out of it. He had a lucky escape. Only thing is, you're still at him about it.... 6 years later.

Leave him alone. He hasn't actually done anything wrong. Find yourself a hobby and a counsellor who can try get you to see where YOU are always going wrong.

And, I've said it already but it needs to be said again..... Cop on.

LouD2016 · 28-03-2019 07:28AM

Big Bag of Chips wrote: »

Amy_Amy, I think you need to cop on. He offered to send you a gift (a gift that there was no need for.) At the time he probably meant it. Same way as two people keep saying "We really should meet up for lunch" and it never happens. Those people aren't stringing anyone along. They genuinely mean it when they say it and then things happen and they forget, or it doesn't happen for various reasons.

You consentually had sex with him before any gift was mentioned. So you weren't "used". He then mentioned something in passing and forgot/didn't get around to sending it. If I remember from your previous posts pretty soon afterwards you started questioning where this gift was, and eventually started sending him abuse about it. This all happened years ago and you are still sending him abuse about it. I think I recall you mentioning that you are now at the stage where it could get you in serious trouble.

Cop on.

He said the equivalent of "let's do lunch". Then it slipped by the wayside and never happened. Then you started pushing for it, (and it's safe to assume, if you're still talking about it 6-8 years later that you probably weren't particularly "sane" about it at the time). I would say at that point he decided it wasn't worth sending to you because you had already gone all sorts of crazy.

Leave him alone. He hasn't actually done anything wrong. Find yourself a hobby and a counsellor who can try get you to see where YOU are always going wrong.

And, I've said it already but it needs to be said again..... Cop on.

I agree with the above. The way you phrase it "used" etc conveys a completely different scenario.
You said yourself it was consenual...you said yourself you were fine with it being a one night stand...so you need to stop saying you were used. Words can get very twisted these days.

Your obsession with this gift isnt normal. No one gives gifts after a one night stand. Its not a thing and with all due respect you arent a 5 year old thats missing a birthday present.

If this has affected you so badly i would really suggest talking to a professional as there are obviously some underlying issues here.

I hope you get sorted and can move on.

0ph0rce0 · 28-03-2019 08:03AM

I'll ride ya and genuinely buy you a gift after if it will cheer you up and help you move on.

Let us know sure.

Amy_Amy · 28-03-2019 09:10PM

I just had an awful few days. Felt rotten being used and I just can't get over it. Then I was meant to go out with a friend on Saturday night but they cancelled on me saying they were covered in a rash. I had my eye on a guy and I knew he would be out on Saturday night and my friend cancelled and I had no one to go out with. I think she was just getting my hopes up just to knock them again.

TheRepentent · 28-03-2019 09:27PM

Amy_Amy wrote: »

I had my eye on a guy

Well he dodged a fukking bullet anyways

28-03-2019 09:30PM

Amy_Amy wrote: »

I just had an awful few days. Felt rotten being used and I just can't get over it. Then I was meant to go out with a friend on Saturday night but they cancelled on me saying they were covered in a rash. I had my eye on a guy and I knew he would be out on Saturday night and my friend cancelled and I had no one to go out with. I think she was just getting my hopes up just to knock them again.

Amy did you read big bag of chips response to you? Please get some help as your behaviour is very irrational.

Uncharted · 28-03-2019 09:35PM

Amy_Amy wrote: »

I just had an awful few days. Felt rotten being used and I just can't get over it. Then I was meant to go out with a friend on Saturday night but they cancelled on me saying they were covered in a rash. I had my eye on a guy and I knew he would be out on Saturday night and my friend cancelled and I had no one to go out with. I think she was just getting my hopes up just to knock them again.

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bizidea · 28-03-2019 09:36PM

super_furry wrote: »

The gift was inside you all along.

Was the gift wrapped or un wrapped

quickbeam · 28-03-2019 09:38PM

Uncharted wrote: »

Buy yourself a vibrator. Forget those nasty guys.

Perhaps a plug in,multi speed vibrator.

Then light some candles, run yourself a nice bath and jump in with the electric vibe.

Problem sorted.

That's not nice. At all.

Uncharted · 28-03-2019 09:41PM

quickbeam wrote: »

That's not nice. At all.

Gimme a break ffs.

A new account seeking relationship advice in AH ??

I repeat .....in After Hours ?????

Pfffft.

quickbeam · 28-03-2019 09:42PM

Uncharted wrote: »

Gimme a break ffs.

A new account seeking relationship advice in AH ??

I repeat .....in After Hours ?????

Pfffft.

So?

You told somebody to go kill themselves!

Pfffft.

:eek:

Uncharted · 28-03-2019 09:46PM

quickbeam wrote: »

So?

You told somebody to go kill themselves!

Pfffft.

:eek:

No I didn't.

That's how you perceived it.

It's dark humour in a notoriously dark humoured section of boards.ie.

You're just deliberately being offended on someone else's behalf.

cruais · 28-03-2019 09:50PM

Harvey Norman's keep on ringing me to buy more furniture....i only wanted one night stand

I'll get my coat

afkasurfjunkie · 28-03-2019 09:57PM

If he had given you a gift he would effectively have been paying you. Is that what you would honestly prefer? Better to feel used than feel like a prozzie.

Big Bag of Chips · 28-03-2019 10:13PM

You have no basis to feel used. You said yourself it was a one night stand. How exactly were you used? And why are you linking this episode from about 6 years ago to your friend not being able to go out last weekend?

You need to seriously get yourself to a GP. You're not right. Your actions and reactions are not right, and have been ongoing for years.

You must be exhausted.

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