sex and making love whats the difference

elexes · 30-08-2003 05:47PM #1

i was having this conversation ages ago with my gf and i said that there was a clear and obvious between having sex and making love . but for the life of me i could not think what it was . it just came into my head today and i still couldnt think of a good way to describe the difference but know there is a good and easy way of explaining it . what do u think ? how could u describe it ?

if this is in the wrong spot move it or if it breaks any rulz lock it

phreak · 30-08-2003 05:53PM

making love is what your girlfriend is doing to you while you're having sex with her.

The_Bullman · 30-08-2003 05:57PM

damn you for getting that posted before me Pheak

KdjaCL · 30-08-2003 05:59PM

Im sad, i have morals so technically have never had sex ,always made love.
You have sex with someone you have no feelings for and its basicaly just satisfying your urges.
Making love is being as close possible to someone.

Thats my take on it all

me and Ex argued about this a lot wheeares i felt we were making love she was having sex.

kdjac

jammy_dodger · 30-08-2003 06:05PM

The difference between sex and making love is that one exsists and the other is a figment of imagination, manifested by female erotica novelists.

BKtje · 30-08-2003 06:43PM

One is a scientific term shortened other is what people do when they have deep feelings for each other

Giblet · 30-08-2003 06:59PM

Sex is what you do when you're drunk and find out you woke up to a fat chick.

Making love is when she is reall hot!

skittishkitten · 30-08-2003 08:18PM

Ummmm...... I think .....

Making love is suppose to be a slow seduction , full of emotion and tenderness .......

Having Sex is the wild crazed gotta do it , gotta have it , give it to me , OH GOD this is so good type of sex

That's my take anyhow

Bard · 30-08-2003 08:28PM

Making love is the whole act of foreplay and having sex, whether wild and excited or slow and gentle, with someone you love and who loves you back, - an emotional union of two people, body and soul.

Having sex is just ... well, fucking, basically.

sceptre · 30-08-2003 09:17PM

Making love is what they do on American soaps. If I asked anyone I've ever gone out with if they wanted to "make love" they'd think I was running a comedy routine by them.

"Having sex" includes foreplay. Think of it as sex with a floor show before the main feature starts. The floor show is of course sometimes optional. It's like going to an 80 minute movie (time used for illustrative "if it was a movie" purposes only) - it's nice to have a feature beforehand too. There are times when you don't have the time, all you want is the main feature. That's called "bathroom or hallway sex".

"Making love" is a euphemism, plain and simple. Like when people first started using the word "gender" to classify people (as opposed to nouns) as male or female. Or when babies go poopee. You want to use it to mean "tender loving sex", knock yerself out. Or you could just use "tender loving sex". "Making love" is probably shorter though. It's a corruption of the word "lovemaking" (also a euphemism but it's probably where the term "making love" came from).

skittishkitten · 30-08-2003 10:08PM

Originally posted by Bard
Making love is the whole act of foreplay and having sex, whether wild and excited or slow and gentle, with someone you love and who loves you back, - an emotional union of two people, body and soul.

Having sex is just ... well, fucking, basically.

Wild and excited would seem more like just plain having sex , but then again .... guess I wouldn't know as I've never "made love" to anyone ..... it's always sex to me

simu · 30-08-2003 10:13PM

From the posts above, you can see that it depends on how differrent ppl interpret the two phrases. Personally, I abhor the term "making love" - it just smacks of cheap sentimentality and prudery. So, I always say "having sex" whether I love the other person or not.

bugler · 30-08-2003 10:14PM

Just different interpretations of the same thing. Females usually (though not all of them as skittish has shown here) will think they do the latter probably most/all of the time. Whereas guys will not be inclined to differentiate or else will lean toward the former

I'm not comfortable with saying the phrase "making love". Very soapy indeed as sceptre said. Bard, that's very limp

Victor · 30-08-2003 10:25PM

Originally posted by skittishkitten
Having Sex is the wild crazed gotta do it , gotta have it , give it to me , OH GOD this is so good type of sex

So, how you doin'? [/Joey voice off]

Cake Fiend · 30-08-2003 10:41PM

Having sex is physical, 'making love' is an emotional thing.

Catsmokinpot · 31-08-2003 06:53AM

Originally posted by Phreak
making love is what your girlfriend is doing to you while you're having sex with her.

damn thats what i wanted to say as soon as i saw the thread

Space Coyote · 31-08-2003 08:58PM

What's the difference ?
Making love : After the deed she smiles, kisses your forehead, gets out of bed and goes to the kitchen to make breakfast/lunch/dinner for you both.

Having sex : She can't get out of bed.

Seraphina · 31-08-2003 10:59PM

making love? bleh, its a bit of a soppy ooh its such an emotional experience phrase. over done really. its sex. sexual intercourse, hot sweaty and sometimes messy. stop trying to dress it up

the fnj · 01-09-2003 10:41AM

About 15 minutes.

Cabaal · 01-09-2003 11:18AM

Really the only difference is a word, nothing more.
Akthough it can be your perception of the 'action'.

Making by using the word people romantises sex more so, or maybe some people just think the work 'sex' sounds dirty.
So instead they use the word making love...

just my 2cent

sceptre · 05-09-2003 02:14AM

Sorry to drag this thread back from the dying but I've had a thought.

I'm willing to bet that the phrase "making love" comes from those guidelines they had for movies and/or TV way back (can't remember what they were called - the Hays guidelines, Hughes guidelines, something like that). I suspect that "sex" was a taboo word and they used "making love" (or, er whoopee) instead. Then it caught on. I'm far too lazy to start checking it out, though it does strike me as a phrase that probably only dates from the 1950s or 60s at the earliest.

Which is only of interest to me probably but this will just sink back into the depths of page 2 then.

nadir · 09-09-2003 07:08AM

I agree with bard, the foreplay is what makes making love, but more so doing the act of deep affection, as opposed to sex which is jusr ****ing.

Kappar · 09-09-2003 09:06AM

sex and making love whats the difference

About ten beers! budum bum bum tich

Wook · 09-09-2003 09:23AM

If you need to ask , then you didn't had sex nor love

Havelock · 09-09-2003 09:28AM

I wouldn't be so sure, to make love sounds more to me like what it actually is two people who love each other, making the physical act of love. Maybe it is a more poetic turn of speech, but I doubt its orgins are only that new.

namuras · 09-09-2003 11:07AM

The difference is five minutes, and have time to catch the last bus home.

sod · 09-09-2003 01:43PM

eddie murpy said it best in RAW, do you want somebody to make love to you or someone who wants to fúck the shi_t out of you motherf_ucker?? <clenched teeth and crazy eye>

he tells em better

Dont Ban Me · 09-09-2003 04:22PM

To me its basically the same thing, for example
you can have a mug of tea or a cup of tea! They both serve the same purpose but with a slight difference, you get more out of the mug (making love) then the cup (sex) in the log run (duration of you drinking the tea)!

Rabies · 09-09-2003 04:26PM

some times i take a flask of tea to work.

AngelofFire · 09-09-2003 10:19PM

Having sex is just stickin it in for then minutes then letting it pop. Making love is when u concentrate on having proper intimate emotional sex.

LoneGunM@n · 09-09-2003 10:43PM

To me, making love is about making a connection on an emtional level .... whereas sex is all about tearing each others clothes off & going at like jack rabbits

sex and making love whats the difference

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