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What's the craic (pun intended) with anal sex?

  • 22-12-2018 12:41PM
    #1
    Porklife
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    Morning folks,

    As this is AH, I'm expecting a plethora of vulgar answers but I'm genuinely wondering, what's the story with men and anal sex? Every guy I've been with over the last few years has asked for it. I can't think of a single guy who hasn't asked me if I'm up for it. Nothing at all wrong with that, I have done it in the right circumstances when the mood has taken over but I definitely don't enjoy it. I'm just wondering why men like it so much. I think the.. for want of a better word, normal way, is much nicer. Is it because its a bit taboo (or is it even?), is it because it shows the girl has a dirty side? Also.. And this hugely worries me, are you put off by a girl who does it? Do you judge her in some maybe even subconscious way?

    Sorry to be so vulgar at breakfast time on a lovely Christmas Saturday folks but I have my reasons for asking 😉😑😜


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  • #2
    Kevwoody
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    Apt username!


  • #3
    Timberrrrrrrr
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    Next time a man broaches the subject say yes.

    Go into your bedroom, whip out a big auld 12" rubber dildo and say

    "But you first"

    I bet the conversation gets dropped quite quickley :D


  • #4
    Porklife
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,681 ✭✭✭Porklife


    Ramsi wrote: »
    I imagine they get off on dominating and inflicting pain on the girl.

    You really think that's what it is? Surely loving couples do it and the guy doesn't want to hurt his girl?


  • #5
    zapitastas
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    Porn has normalised it and so seems like the thing to do


  • #6
    Avatar MIA
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    Every hole's a goal!


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  • #7
    Avatar MIA
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    Porklife wrote: »
    You really think that's what it is? Surely loving couples do it and the guy doesn't want to hurt his girl?

    It's not, but there's a sexuality forum you can join to get more considered responses.


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    Cee-Jay-Cee
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    It’s guaranteed to be a tight fit unlike the other option which can get a bit loose with overuse.


  • #9
    Pauliedragon
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    Porklife wrote: »
    Morning folks,

    As this is AH, I'm expecting a plethora of vulgar answers but I'm genuinely wondering, what's the story with men and anal sex? Every guy I've been with over the last few years has asked for it. I can't think of a single guy who hasn't asked me if I'm up for it. Nothing at all wrong with that, I have done it in the right circumstances when the mood has taken over but I definitely don't enjoy it. I'm just wondering why men like it so much. I think the.. for want of a better word, normal way, is much nicer. Is it because its a bit taboo (or is it even?), is it because it shows the girl has a dirty side? Also.. And this hugely worries me, are you put off by a girl who does it? Do you judge her in some maybe even subconscious way?

    Sorry to be so vulgar at breakfast time on a lovely Christmas Saturday folks but I have my reasons for asking 😉😑😜
    One theory I've heard is the a hole is a lot tighter than the vagina therefore the sensation is better for the bloke's cock. Same theory went for a few blokes who go for asian women only as the rumour is they have tighter vaginas.


  • #10
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    Cee-Jay-Cee wrote: »
    It’s guaranteed to be a tight fit unlike the other option which can get a bit loose with overuse.

    If by over use you mean birthing , then yes. Otherwise, not so much.


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    [Deleted User]
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    Because it's naughty


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  • #12
    Porklife
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    Pauliedragon wrote: »
    One theory I've heard is the a hole is a lot tighter than the vagina therefore the sensation is better for the bloke's cock. Same theory went for a few blokes who go for asian women only as the rumour is they have tighter vaginas.

    Interesting. My concern is if he'll lose respect for me if I do it.


  • #13
    KathleenGrant
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    I was separated about 10 years ago and was on the dating scene for a while. 3 different men were keen to have anal sex to the point of being insistent. One had never done it and really wanted to try it. The other 2 insisted that because I had a few children sex in the normal way would not be as good for them as anal sex.


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    Deleted User wrote: »
    Because it's naughty

    AND (for the time of year) NICE :)


  • #15
    nails1
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    Secretly in the closet


  • #16
    Avatar MIA
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    KathleenGrant wrote: »
    I was separated about 10 years ago and was on the dating scene for a while. 3 different men were keen to have anal sex to the point of being insistent. One had never done it and really wanted to try it. The other 2 insisted that because I had a few children sex in the normal way would not be as good for them as anal sex.

    Insisted? That's a massive warning sign there.


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    nails1 wrote: »
    Secretly in the closet

    Yeah, especially if they're using the masculine form of your name in the process! :)


  • #18
    Franz Von Peppercorn
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    Porn has a lot of influence on that i’d say.


  • #19
    Porklife
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    KathleenGrant wrote: »
    I was separated about 10 years ago and was on the dating scene for a while. 3 different men were keen to have anal sex to the point of being insistent. One had never done it and really wanted to try it. The other 2 insisted that because I had a few children sex in the normal way would not be as good for them as anal sex.
    Hmmm, I don't have kids so it's not that for me, just seems every single guy has asked me to do it. Not a single guy that hasn't wanted to. Maybe men just love it and it feels amazing and tight


  • #20
    KathleenGrant
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    Avatar MIA wrote: »
    Insisted? That's a massive warning sign there.

    Well to be fair only one was really insistent. But the other 2 mentioned it every time we had sex. It was the reason I stopped seeing all 3.


  • #21
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    Porklife wrote: »
    Interesting. My concern is if he'll lose respect for me if I do it.

    Possible, but only the type that would "lose respect" for you partaking in any sexual act. I.e. best avoided.


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  • #22
    Porklife
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    KathleenGrant wrote: »
    Well to be fair only one was really insistent. But the other 2 mentioned it every time we had sex. It was the reason I stopped seeing all 3.

    I had the same experience with a guy recently, just wouldn't stop asking every time and acted pissed off when I said no so I stopped seeing him
    😔


  • #23
    Wibbs
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    KathleenGrant wrote: »
    The other 2 insisted that because I had a few children sex in the normal way would not be as good for them as anal sex.
    Sound like small mickey syndrome to me TBH. Now granted I've only slept with three women who have had kids, but I didn't notice any difference on that score(if anything it was a little better as one could go deeper, so to speak). Of course physical trauma from birth can affect some women, but to that degree on average? The idea that more sex makes things more roomy is also nonsense in my humble. Like anything people differ in size, men and women, but the vast majority are around an average. The snuggest I ever came across(missus!!) was also a woman who had the most partners.

    Porn definitely is a factor. American stuff is obsessed with bum stuff. For what reasons I'm not sure on. The "dirty" aspect must loom large in what can be a conservative culture. Plus porn has to up the ante from basic in out stuff to keep getting sales/hits. A mate of mine who's circumcised has a major thing for it and he being less sensitive means he gets more from it and reckons this is why it's more a thing for Americans as they're majority like him? Might be something to it.

    I've tried the other way so to speak, but didn't particularly enjoy it TBH. Much prefer the way designed for purpose.

    Many worry about Artificial Intelligence. I worry far more about Organic Idiocy.



  • #24
    KathleenGrant
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    Porklife wrote: »
    I had the same experience with a guy recently, just wouldn't stop asking every time and acted pissed off when I said no so I stopped seeing him
    😔

    One guy actually said my "withholding it" was a sign i may be a hostile partner in the future so I spared him from my hostility and finished it there and then.


  • #25
    Bullocks
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    Porklife wrote: »
    KathleenGrant wrote: »
    Well to be fair only one was really insistent. But the other 2 mentioned it every time we had sex. It was the reason I stopped seeing all 3.

    I had the same experience with a guy recently, just wouldn't stop asking every time and acted pissed off when I said no so I stopped seeing him
    😔
    What kind of dicks keep asking??? Definitely worth pulling out the dildo to give to him first refusal for anal


  • #26
    KathleenGrant
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    Bullocks wrote: »
    What kind of dicks keep asking??? Definitely worth pulling out the dildo to give to him first refusal for anal

    That would be funny.


  • #27
    Wheety
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    I'd also say it's because of porn. Changes young lads perception of sex. Categories devoted to anal on every porn site. Young men (and women) have much easier access to hard core porn than any other generation before. They get used to normal sex porn and seek something different to get their kicks. That then translates to real life.


  • #28
    Wibbs
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    Fear of pregnancy might plug into it? Up the bum, no harm done and all that. :D I have known a couple of women who actually preferred it and got off on it more. They told me they felt much more, which had me asking how little did they feel from the normal avenue Mind you women can be extremely variable on what revs them up. Men are more straightforward that way.

    Many worry about Artificial Intelligence. I worry far more about Organic Idiocy.



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    KathleenGrant wrote: »
    One guy actually said my "withholding it" was a sign i may be a hostile partner in the future so I spared him from my hostility and finished it there and then.

    KathleenNoGrant :D


  • #30
    KathleenGrant
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    Avatar MIA wrote: »
    KathleenNoGrant :D

    :D


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    Wibbs wrote: »
    Fear of pregnancy might plug into it? Up the bum, no harm done and all that. :D I have known a couple of women who actually preferred it and got off on it more. They told me they felt much more, which had me asking how little did they feel from the normal avenue Mind you women can be extremely variable on what revs them up. Men are more straightforward that way.

    A lot of prep required too to ensure it's a pleasing experience.


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