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Things you want to say to husband/boyf/ex's/friends/family/people *MOD NOTE POST #1*

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,240 ✭✭✭jellybear


    This is really tough :(


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,240 ✭✭✭jellybear


    Dear woman stopped on the pedestrian crossing who was 2 inches away from my legs when you started rolling your car towards me...

    You do realise it's not an offence to be on your phone as you're crossing the road? It is however wrong and dangerous to stop on a pedestrian crossing.
    You're also incorrect on another point- I was paying attention. That's how I saw your car rolling towards me.
    You were the one not paying attention.
    A simple apology for being wrong on two accounts would have sufficed.
    Being so defensive and trying to blame someone else for your wrongdoings is pathetic.

    You have no idea what's going on in people's lives and there was no need for your horrible attitude when you were the one in the wrong.

    *Ahhhhh. Rant over :D*


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,587 ✭✭✭DunnoKidz


    Ya know "pal", I've had about enough of this condescending, privileged, frienemy nonsense. If you can't be the least bit considerate, leave me in peace.

    .


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    You,

    You are at loggerheads with everyone. We can't make you happy. We can't fix you. Only you can do that. They say the best revenge is living well. Can you not do this? How hard is it for you? Instead you have taken a path of pure revenge. How you sleep at night I will never know. You need a psychiatrist and you belong in a prison for all that you have done.

    As for you,
    Time and Time and Time again it happens. You're a bum. Sort yourself out.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Here I am yet again, wide awake in the middle of the night, hurt, rejected and fed another flimsy excuse for the 100th time.

    I lose a load of weight and you still look at me like I'm disgusting in a pair of shorts. . .

    Nothing has changed, and I can't tell If you genuinely suck at relationships and haven't a clue or if you really are just an a$$hole.

    I had a lot to write but stopped because I'm only going to upset myself further. . .we'll see what the morning brings. . .


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,452 ✭✭✭JackTaylorFan


    Dear K

    All I did was set up some clear boundaries. It is unfortunate that you lack the emotional maturity to understand that women must do this with men in order to protect themselves at times.

    It was nothing personal, but it was necessary. I do it with every man I befriend if they seem to be flooding my inbox all day long - which you were.

    Anyways, it was clear from your rash reply, you were never interested in being friends, in fact, all you did is clearly prove any such thing would have been entirely an error of judgement on my part.

    I wish you well. I wanted to say something nice about your music, but meh... too late...

    Good luck.


  • Registered Users Posts: 2,619 ✭✭✭erica74


    A little less than 12 months ago, my sister disclosed to you that our brother, your husband, sexually abused us for years when we were young children.
    I was 6. I was 6 when he started sexually abusing me. It went on for 2 - 3 years.
    You have 2 teenage daughters. You're all still living together, happy family, going on a family holiday later this month.
    I am so fucking confused. So confused. I mean, my brain feels like fucking mush. I don't understand it. I don't know what I thought you would do, I don't know what I wanted you to do, I didn't think it would be like this.
    He is a compulsive liar and always has been. What story did he spin about it?

    I feel sick.

    Now I have a mother who seems to be pretending everything is grand but her 2 daughters are just awful bitches. She pretty much disowned us for telling her about our brother, her son, sexually abusing us, something he had ample opportunity to do because she neglected us and left us home alone all the time. She is letting on to everyone that we're just awful daughters who never visit and never get in touch.
    Now, you're showing me that you either don't believe me or you believe me but just don't care.

    I'm so fucking confused.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,240 ✭✭✭jellybear


    Dear husband,

    Happy 1 year Wedding Anniversary to us!! :D

    Love,
    Your wifey


  • Registered Users Posts: 2,619 ✭✭✭erica74


    I just don't know what to think. In my head I sometimes still feel like a child and all of this emotion and all of these thoughts are a lot for a child to process. My head is all over the place right now.m

    My mother never wanted me and she still doesn't want me. She again missed her opportunity to be a mother when I told her what my brother did to me, she didn't care. She again missed her opportunity to be a mother when I confronted her about how she treated me as a child and as an adult, she didn't care. If she dies tomorrow, I don't think I'll care.

    My brother took away my childhood, mocked me and ridiculed me as an adult, told the extended family that I never visited, never got in touch, because I'm selfish and don't care. Why does he continue to be able to paint himself as a good person. I want to go to family events but I don't want to see him, I don't want to speak about him, I don't want to think about him so the easiest thing to do is avoid everything.

    My dad also took away my childhood. An alcoholic, an absent father. He never hit us, never verbally abused us but he wasn't there, that left a hole in my life. He was fun when he wasn't drinking, he knew how to make us laugh when he wasn't drinking, he knew how to make the most of time when he wasn't drinking. But he was very rarely not drinking.

    My dad being absent physically and my mother being mentally absent created the perfect environment for abuse to take place. We were alone, neglected, already abused by our mother so we didn't really understand the dynamics of relationships, we didn't understand love or affection, and I think my brother is an opportunist and saw his opportunity. This went on for years, he had this opportunity for years.

    I'm angry at all of the adults who missed all the signs, no family cared, no neighbours cared, no other parents cared, no teachers cared, nobody cared.


  • Registered Users Posts: 439 ✭✭Salthillprom


    You’re a lying, deceiving, conceited user of others who has no respect for yourself or anyone who has the misfortune to cross your path.

    You’ve also unmasked yourself as a complete oddball and I think you must have some undiagnosed mental illness because normal people definitely don’t behave the way you do. I should have paid more attention when I began to realise that you don’t have many friends and don’t seem too popular with your peers. There’s a reason for everything...you’ve probably burned too many bridges with people...or others were able to see that you are a weirdo, when I was blind to that fact.

    I’ve definitely never been treated so badly as I was by you. And yet you presently continue to deceive and blind those closest to you...leading a fake life and forcing others to do the same, unbeknownst to them. Now that’s evil.

    Karma is a beaaaatch and some day it’s gona come right back to you and bite you squarely on the a$$...wait til you see..

    (Feels good to get that off my chest!..even if it is to a bunch of randomers!)


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,240 ✭✭✭jellybear


    C & P,
    Looking forward to seeing you two!! :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Someone else who's clearly not being worked hard enough. If you were it would remove all that aggro. So much of what I see in you today was what I saw in her a few years ago. Come down from that high horse of yours and look at yourself before you start flinging them stones. Where's the handbook with details of all our jobs, duties and responsibilities to the extended family? You might want to pick it up yourself and give it a read, if there is one. Where were you last year? Busy ignoring that childs birthday in favour of your friends and social life. Now, you are all mouth.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 32,634 ✭✭✭✭Graces7


    Blessings and thanks to so many folk in my life past , present and whatever small future I now still have..

    for all kindnesses, and all the love.. that make pain and frustration bearable....
    For all the insults, neglect, hurts... For wise ones whose advice I did not assimilate for years...Learning the long way that if we get angry, bitter, then we hurt only ourselves, not the ones who hurt and damage us.
    That dwelling on past hurts destroys present and future... and that we can choose to walk on by from past wounds.. They call it forgiveness

    It does not make new hurts hurt less but enables tranquillity.."This too shall pass.."

    I cannot say this to family long gone. I can say it here, and I can live it so that no hurt spills out on to others. Can look at beauty, at all the seemingly small things of life with real joy..

    So yes, thank you for lessons that were utterly painful. I see too now that many were weakness and not spite, not aimed at ME... Just human weakness and probably your woundedness.. the war damaged father who passed his dire woundedness on. The weak despairing mother who became a smother....

    So thank you for teaching me that we are all weak and hurt... for most of all giving me life.. and that i can choose now.. Follow the light in my heart and soul unhindered by the past.... be to others as I would have them be to me, yet standing up to evil.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Dear X,

    Yes, I did think about it when you said it to me but when I looked into this I decided it was a bad idea. You expected me to give up the only bit of security I have at the moment for no financial gain on my side. Along with this I was going to take a financial hit of at least €35 a week on my limited income. I had to consider my own long term future and I don't want to end up broke when I am older.

    I know your not happy over this but at this stage I don't care. The truth is you should have helped me out more in the past but you did not. You saw how I have had to deal with certain things. If it was not for Y help things would be far worse for me know. Due to Y helping me out I got a certain allowance, a bit more money and a few perks that will save me money.

    I mentioned to you a few time about z and the last time I mentioned it you said - you can pay monthly for that. Yes I can pay for this monthly and you have left me no choice in doing this. So what I got with one thing is now gone paying for Z.

    Do you know what - I am sick of your lying to me. I am sick of your meaness and your total lack of ability of stepping up to help me out with anything. Meanwhile you just expect me to keep helping you out with any of the number of things you can think off. I know your planning that I will end up minding your in your old age also. I don't know why you think I should do this after the way I have been treated over the past few years.

    Well at this stage I have had enough. Your going to step up and help me out now or so help me I am going to bring the biggest mess possible to your door. You may think I am stupid but I am not. You have been lying to me for a while and I found prof of this. So at this stage you have no choice to help me. I can't wait till the right moment come to give you the good news.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,247 ✭✭✭milli milli


    To my brother

    We used to be best friends, we were so close. We spent our time together laughing and joking and having the best time. My baby brother, I watched you grow up, you were the apple of my eye and I wanted you to have the world.

    But your partner never liked that we were so close and slowly over the years, she pulled you away. We never hang out anymore, anytime you do visit you & your partner are joined at the hip. You are always picking fights with me even though we may only see each other every few months. Tonight I saw your partner exchange glances with you after I said something. The two of you talk about me like I am someone that you can’t stand. You have no interest in what’s going on in my life.
    I can’t believe we were once so close. My heart is broken that our relationship is so bad. And nothing major ever happened. It was just a slow thing. You’ve changed so much since meeting your partner, all the family say so.
    I just really miss how we used to be. I’ve talked to you about this before, but nothing changes.
    I suppose I should just accept that we don’t have a relationship anymore but as an idealist who just wishes everyone would get along and who believes family is important, I find it so hard to accept. :(


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,204 ✭✭✭Kitty6277


    J,

    I keep thinking about something you said over the weekend. That if you had the money you'd propose. Every time I think of it I smile. I know we're young, and it'll be a while before we get there for various reasons, but it makes me so happy to actually hear you say that you feel the same as I do.


  • Registered Users Posts: 534 ✭✭✭flowerchild


    Dear -

    I am trying so hard to save our marriage, and I am watching it slip away. You don’t answer me when I talk, don’t look at me when I speak, just look at the screen or into space. My son told me you do the same with him and his brother.

    It’s mid-afternoon and you have gone to bed.

    I think you are depressed but you won’t go to the GP or a psychologist, you just say you don’t trust any of them. You stay downstairs at night and come up to bed, but don’t talk.

    I love you but it’s unenjoyable. If you are unhappy with me I don’t want you to feel trapped. I’ve told you if you want to move out and find someone else I will support you and make it easy for you.

    I’m no angel. I’ve been unhappy too, but at least I talk with you.

    I don’t know what else to do. I just know that I don’t want to live like this. I know that I am beginning to emotionally seperate from you.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,514 ✭✭✭Sunny Dayz


    C,
    Do you realise what you are doing to me? I am really struggling to get my head around things at the minute and you are not helping things at all, you are making them worse. I don't understand what you are doing or why you want to do this, I really can't wrap my head around this at all. I feels like you have pulled the rug from underneath me and I don't know what to think or where to go from here. Please stop all this carry on, I don't know how much more of it I can cope with. I know you're not having an easy time of it either but this carry on is making matters worse. It's not like you at all and I thought I knew you inside out.
    M


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,174 ✭✭✭RhubarbCrumble


    Oh fcuk off brother in law. Whinging and b***hing about how 'ridiculous and unfair' it is that you have to pay €10 for a blood test because your medical card won't cover it. According to you it 'should' and 'why should you have to pay for it?'
    Do you know how much it cost me for a blood test recently? €80. €80 that I couldn't afford, but still had to pay due to the fact that I'm not entitled to a medical card because I 'stupidly' go out to work and have done all my life whereas you've sat on your fat backside expecting everyone else to finance you, from family to government and you have the bloody nerve to give out about having to pay a tenner!


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  • Posts: 21,679 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Kinda lonely now. The kind that no person can cure. Deep down inside of me where you should be. I miss you mammy. What would you say to me if I told you how it is? What would you tell me to do? Probably "you know what's best for you love".Thing is though I don't. I really really don't. So I make bad decisions, and naval gaze, and sit with my memories and all the longed for times gone past. You were sick for ages weren't you?
    I didn't see it. Just please please be in a wonderful amazing happy place right now. I want the inside of your head to be magical.
    I'm so scared it isn't though. And I'm tormented by those times when I was difficult and snapped at you. I'm sorry.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,514 ✭✭✭Sunny Dayz


    F,
    I think I've already posted here about your immaturity. Well it's reared it head again hasn't it. You need to learn that not everything is about you, if someone else already has plans that just don't happen to include you, don't take it personally and get into a sulk because they won't cancel them for you.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,240 ✭✭✭jellybear


    I'm so, so happy for you but it hurts too. Everything happens for a reason though. I just have to stay positive.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 554 ✭✭✭Whocanibe


    To self

    It's time to relax, move on and be happy again. The past 18 months have been horrible, but, you know what ..they're behind you, so leave it all go and look to the future. There's an old saying "Don't look back, that's not the way you're going" and it's very fitting!

    You are surrounded by so many good friends and family who have shown you so much love and support, and you have so much to be grateful for. Chin up and onwards and upwards! :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 554 ✭✭✭Whocanibe


    To J

    You're one in a million, thank you just for being you. :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Dear me,

    During these awfully busy and stressful times dont forget to look after yourself.

    - Look after your back
    - Get exercise, even if only a few times a week
    - Read your books. Join your local library.
    - Walk in nature
    - Sleep
    - Take deep breaths in through your nose, out through your mouth
    - When you think youre going to cut out from the stress, take 5 mins and close your eyes.

    When I write these, they are actually free things to do!

    Remember that these times will pass. You are extraordinary in how youve handled everything so far.

    Take care you xx me xx


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Dear A , b,c and d,

    A - we all know your married to the meanest man in Ireland but there is no need to be as mean with me. I remember sending you money when you were in college and you were glad of it as a broke student. Now you know I am on the dole and you cant give me as much as €10 for my birthday.

    B, it time you told your wife where to go in regards to a few things. I have always steeped up in regards to buying presents for all your children's so the least you could do is give me a present for my birthday. Ps don't expect me to help you and her out in the next few months I am going to be suddenly busy. I am not becoming your free babysitting service.

    C, how dare you have another go at me. I am not taking it from you any more. You might have forget that I know about certain things and you don't want z finding out. You could be decent and help me out but no you do nothing. Well I am just letting you know now that I won't be minding our parents in their old age. That's going to become your problem not mine. I hope you have plenty of money to pay their nursing home bills.

    D, Please stop taking me for an idiot. Please stop lying to me and as for lecturing me a few months ago on meaness you should have a good look in the mirror at yourself. I know far more than you realise and it just a matter of time before you find this out. I am going to enjoy watching your reaction then. Unless you help me out I am just going to tell a few people about you and what you have done over the past few years. I am going to show you up and let you deal with the fall out after z finds out what you did for a.
    What you sow you reap.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 710 ✭✭✭ginandtonicsky


    It's that song, isn't it. "I don't want your body but I hate to think about you with somebody else. Our love has gone cold, you're intertwining your soul with somebody else.'

    You occupy less head space. But you're always there, just below the surface. Walks home from work in the evenings. In bed at night.

    I'm trying to reign it in, to do the right things, therapy, journalling, plans, so many plans. When does it get easier? What's the point of all this love and pain? I keep hearing my boss's voice in my head in moments of pure comedic interlude. "What's the ROI?" You'd probably laugh at that too.

    You always said I'd sell sand to an Arab. You had such faith in me. I miss that. I wish I could sell my heart on moving on.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,128 ✭✭✭misstearheus


    Dear God or Big Man spinning the magic in the Sky;

    Please let there be some drying in the Weather over the next couple of days! :D:o Bring a few Showers if needed but if the next 2 days could dry all the Clothes I have hanging out that would be brill! Like last Weekend I got stuff dried hanging out and when I asked before! :D:pac::)


  • Registered Users Posts: 2,619 ✭✭✭erica74


    You're right, I would prefer to go by myself, it would be less stressful. I wouldn't have to listen to you ruminating over minor nothingness that happened a lifetime ago. Instead I will have to be the referee all weekend and then, listen to you ruminating over every single thing that happened over the weekend for years to come, and it will be years because you can never let anything fucking go, no matter how miniscule it is. You're draining me.

    Do you ever have such a horrible anxious feeling fluttering in your chest that it makes you breathless. I don't even know why I'm feeling this way. Well, there's literally 100 reasons why I'm feeling this way but the feeling seems to be preventing me from pinpointing the reason. Not being able to pinpoint the reason is making the feeling even worse.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Dear Z,

    I saw your house up for sale on daft. I contacted a friend of mine after seeing it and asked them - guess who is selling their house and they said Z. I got the reply no way.
    My friend said to me a few other things then.

    The truth is Z that you were left that house and money along with it. You were working and living in your family home for years both rent and mortgage free. You were just paying for the upkeep and the bills. You got money a few years ago and you spent some of this cash on doing up the house. I know that due to some family issues you could not work for a while but after this period you set up your own business with a few other people you know.

    Now I see your house for sale on daft and your trying to sell now at the top of the housing market. Along with is your house is one of a large number in the same area.
    You must have a good reason or a few good reasons for selling this house.
    Do you know what I think - your selling the house as you need the money.
    Do you realise that when you sell the house your going to have to pay a capital gains tax bill of somewhere in the region of €50,000 to €60,000 depending on what you get for the house?

    I saw all the mistakes you made over the past few years. Most people learn from their mistakes but you never did. The number of the same type of woman you kept going towards, got involved with and then ending up heartbroken when things did not work out.

    You were given so many chances with an ex female friend who is a decent, kind, loyal woman and you decided that she was not good enough for you.

    Instead you went on to meet a non national woman and within a few months this lady was pregnant with your baby. I saw photos of you and the baby and being honest you were the first white man I saw been happy with a very dark brown baby. Even now I can see no likeness between you and the child.

    Do you know what else I have noticed Z that there are no recent photos of you, the baby and your baby mama together on fb?
    Did having a baby with a woman you barely knew push you and her together for a few months and then when reality kicked in your found out that you could not stay a couple?

    Why are you selling your house? Are you selling it to move to another part of the country and to have spare cash? Are you selling it to give her a pay off?
    Are you selling the house to fund the move back to where she came from?

    We both know you will put a positive spin on why your selling the house to people but you don't sell a family home in a nice area with good local schools unless you moving to a more exclusive area. I know you wont say to people I am moving as I need the cash.

    Do you know what the best of the situation you are now in?

    Your ex female friend saw your house for sale on daft. She was sorry to see that your selling the house and figured you need to sell it. She is glad that you turned her down in the past as she did not need to prop you and your lifestyle up with the money she has.
    She also found out that in time she will get a decent six figure inheritance.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,912 ✭✭✭✭Eeden


    I kept wanting to call you about our day today. You would have come with us. You would have been so happy and proud.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,015 ✭✭✭optogirl


    Dear Z,


    Instead you went on to meet a non national woman and within a few months this lady was pregnant with your baby. I saw photos of you and the baby and being honest you were the first white man I saw been happy with a very dark brown baby. Even now I can see no likeness between you and the child.


    Are you selling the house to fund the move back to where she came from?

    Dear you - I hope that anger has clouded your judgement. The racist comments diminish your argument big time.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hey Biker chic,
    still thinking about you every day, but not as much anymore, time is a great healer for a broken heart.

    I wonder, tante, do you ever think of me anymore at all, I'm still getting those little reminders every day,
    blue Hyundais are getting scarce though,
    looking over the Shannon at the hills above Killaloe,
    as




    I press the plunger on the coffeepot in the morning,
    should I perhaps have cleaned the mould out of yours
    when Jack the lad slept in your house when you needed to get away.

    Or when I see a bike in the mirror, approaching fast
    zipping fast on the motorway, I always give them space
    Just in case it might be you getting back to me or

    Just someone else going somewhere fast, on a bike.

    Hey you wouldn't have the RTEfm for the cvj you gave me for the OH car?

    It's in the jeep now but cds are all busted.

    Sometimes I stop and think, and ask myself was it all just a game, a game like yer granny's ma did a century ago??

    Stay safe my friend, still thinking of you,
    that night we looked at the stars, at Orion's belt in February,
    perhaps next time you look at the plough you'll be reminded
    of the ploughjockey you left behind with loads of lonely furrows to turn,
    still thinking of you when I see Mars, it was close this summer, but alas no cigar.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 554 ✭✭✭Whocanibe


    C.
    It's six years tomorrow, it feels like yesterday. I miss you so much,and all the great laughs we had, and not a day goes by without me thinking of you. It has gotten easier, but when I'm alone, the tears come.

    E's birthday is tomorrow, there is always a tinge of sadness on her birthday, but we always have a drink in your honour. I wish you were still with us, you went way too soon. :(

    Anyway, bottoms up, we'll meet again where we said. :P

    Hope it's not too hot there for you. ;):D


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,174 ✭✭✭RhubarbCrumble


    J, I am so frustrated because of you. I'm sick to the back teeth over the fact that you LITERALLY just will not listen to me and to anything I say to you. It's like banging my head off a brick wall trying to deal with you. Because of you I can't get things sorted out. You're putting me through hell, you know it and you just couldn't give a fcuk!


  • Registered Users Posts: 701 ✭✭✭bolgbui41


    Dear C.,

    Thank you for listening to me. It seems like such a simple thing, but you're one of the few people I know who really, really listens to everything that's being said to you. I know the rest of us complain about how you really can be the most German of Germans when it comes to some things - so direct! - but you're also one of the kindest people I know. I can't wait to go visit you in December. Here's to many more chats!

    Do chara,

    BB


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,204 ✭✭✭Kitty6277


    J,

    I miss you. I hope you can come see me soon.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,912 ✭✭✭✭Eeden


    You cheer me up no end every time I see you! I'm just so happy that you make time for me and I love catching up with you. I know we only see each other once a year or so, but that's fine by me! :D:D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,514 ✭✭✭Sunny Dayz


    MR,
    I'm sorry. I wasn't there for you. I know it's too late now. I did what I thought was best, giving you some space. But I didn't realise that in doing that, I wasn't giving you support. Please don't think that I didn't care, or that I didn't think of you. I guess I've learnt a lesson the hard way and will have to live with this regret. Please don't think badly of me.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 653 ✭✭✭waxmelts2000


    I heard today confirming again how awful a person you are, rude and abusive to people who simply asked you a question! I'm so glad I no longer have to put up with your verbal and emotional abuse.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,342 ✭✭✭SAMTALK


    You were the one who messed up big time. You broke our hearts. You treated the kids so wrong.

    Yet you seem to think Im going to walk away.. Well buster you got that wrong. Im now over the heartbreak and Im not going to be walked on again.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,240 ✭✭✭jellybear


    Today has been so tough :( I don't know why exactly....maybe it's the constant reminders of what should have been but sadly will never be :(

    Dear S,
    I'm sorry I cant open up about it...It's just too tough:(


  • Registered Users Posts: 610 ✭✭✭Cutie 3.14


    P,

    FUUUÚUUUUCCCCKKKKKK

    YOOOOOUUUUUUUUUUUU


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I tried to leave the first time when I had a little more of myself intact. Why didn't you just let me go?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,201 ✭✭✭languagenerd


    I got a bit teary on the bus after I left you today. It's weird, because we'd had a lovely afternoon, the two of us - drinking coffee, speaking mainly in your native language (mine is rusty, I know), singing along to your favourite song from the 1940s. You made me laugh a lot, I managed to raise a few smiles from you.

    I think the reason I cried into my sunglasses afterwards is because I'm grateful I can still make these memories of afternoons with you, but sad because you can't. Once I leave, you more than likely won't remember I was there. In fact, I probably cease to exist for you when I'm not there - you definitely recognise me when I walk in, but you don't know my name anymore or remember that I'm your grand-daughter. You always called me by my full name, middle name included. You only vaguely recall it now, and only if you're prompted.

    I talked to you today about what you used to call "the good old days", when you'd collect me from school at lunch and drive me to the house while Gran got the food together. When I'd be trying to redo my contraband eyeliner in the car on the way back and you'd roll your eyes but dutifully warn me when we were coming up to the speed ramps so I wouldn't gouge myself. It's getting harder for me to remember the conversations we had back then, when you remembered things I'd tell you about my day, when you'd be passing on whatever gossip you heard Gran talking about earlier. It's one of Alzheimers' horrible tricks - not only have you lost your memory, but the rest of us lose some of our memories OF you as you were before, as we spend more and more time with this version of you. But we'll try. We'll keep telling you about all the things you used to do. We'll keep showing you the photos. Thank you for our nice afternoon today <3


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,759 ✭✭✭✭Deja Boo


    G - I don't really see the point






    ....to any of this.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,010 ✭✭✭La.de.da


    You don't get to play games. Been there and heard them all before plenty of times over. Good job I found out so early on.
    I'll never look for anyone again. If something happens it happens. I'll be fine on my own if not.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,759 ✭✭✭✭Deja Boo


    M - you couldn't find it in your heart to give me this one little human kindness, after all the ridiculous nonsense you put me through on a daily basis?


    niiiiice, real nice :mad:


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,174 ✭✭✭RhubarbCrumble


    So you had a problem with what was said to you. Because you knew it was the truth. All that's wrong with you is your huge ego is bruised.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 898 ✭✭✭Schwanz


    You used me because of my abilities in the sack and you ripped me off by using my debit card the next morning in Tommy Hilfiger for near 2k worth of clothes.

    Fcuk You.


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