Stingiest things thread(op for R&R access)

kg703 · 17-08-2018 03:34PM

LirW wrote: »

My family drama beats your family drama.

Hehehe that’s not close to my in laws. Not even close. It’s pratically Eastenders. I just stay out of it cause that’s my husbands problem.

Some stinge though:

Doing the coffee run in work which I do a lot and twice someone’s gone oh wait you always get it, I’ll get these and has given me a swipe with no money on it so I pay for them anyway. Good thing I’m not a stinge and see the funny side

Lemongrease · 17-08-2018 04:11PM

LirW wrote: »

My sister is acting the bollox at the moment, as much as I love her.
So she's a single mother in her mid 20s and currently about to finish her degree in psychology, therefore there's a lot to do. Her boy is turning 1 next month.
Now my mother and her mother had a big fall-out a few years ago and haven't spoken since, there was a lot of really heavy stuff involved. Anyway, a few weeks ago my mom had the idea to visit her mother for a week and stay with her and talk it all out (My mother lives on the canaries, my nan in Austria). Now my mother tried to find a reasonably cheap flight connection soon enough and asked my sister if she could imagine asking the nan how she'd think about it. But my mom couldn't find a reasonable flight and had to cancel the trip for the near future and told my sister that the plan is scrapped for now. My mom doesn't have a lot of money so it's kind of a big deal to find a cheap flight.
Now my sister couldn't keep her mouth shut and asked the nan anyway and she actually got quite excited over it... silly silly her.

Then a week later, after my mother was a bit cross with her for hyping my nan up, my sister sent her a voice message: Hey if you still consider coming, how about you fly back with me when I visit you in September, you could stay with me and look after the baby, because there's sooo much going on at college at the moment (insert: I'm a stingy b1tch and my baby is too precious to be sent to a childminder) and in exchange I'll drive you down to nan and you can meet for lunch or so.

My family drama beats your family drama.

Eh what ? Is your sista’ from another mista’ or something ?

miamee · 17-08-2018 04:41PM

"Now my mother and her mother" = "Now my mother and my mother's mother"

Mr.Wemmick · 17-08-2018 04:45PM

Reading about stags and organising flights, money, people.. it's a nightmare, is it ever any other way?

Years ago we often did things as a group and one girl always had to organise it, drum up the excitement of a get together, or a trip away etc. Inevitably, you a have one or two stick in the mud types who never paid on time, owed money afterwards and made excuses - the usual stingy a'hole activity.

Anyway, the girl who insisted on organising these events, loved to wallow in the hardship of the stinges. Bad enough you have to witness a stinge full-on in all their glory, but to have to talk about what they did over and over and..

I bowed out of the get togethers after a bit, preferring to meet up with one or two decent ones rather than experience the group's full-on dramas.

Purple Mountain · 17-08-2018 07:13PM

miamee wrote: »

"Now my mother and her mother" = "Now my mother and my mother's mother"

Like I said.. my grandma and your grandma sitting by the fire..

17-08-2018 10:38PM

LirW wrote: »

After reading over it I think it didn't really come across what's the stinge about it! Shame on me.

I try summing it up, my sister took the opportunity to cheekily ask for a free babysitter for a week instead of simply paying someone like everyone else who works/goes to college. She genuinely doesn't see why she should pay someone to take care of her precious child of the century because my mother was considering coming over for a week for something entirely different which didn't work out.

My first reaction to hearing of a single mother in the family who needs a bit of help to get her professional qualification would be to ask what kind of help she needs. Is it really 'stingy' to ask for help from a family member? Meanwhile, we're plastering the airwaves and online adverts with 'just ask' 'just talk to someone' campaigns around mental health.

Paddy Cow · 18-08-2018 10:33AM

AndrewJRenko wrote: »

My first reaction to hearing of a single mother in the family who needs a bit of help to get her professional qualification would be to ask what kind of help she needs. Is it really 'stingy' to ask for help from a family member? Meanwhile, we're plastering the airwaves and online adverts with 'just ask' 'just talk to someone' campaigns around mental health.

In this case, yes. The op's mother has already reared her children and was coming to spend a week with her own mother. She is short of cash and wouldn't be making this trip often. For her daughter to expect her to come and stay with her to look after her child is incredibly cheeky and stingy. She's not asking for help. She's hijacking someone's much needed holiday. That's not a sign of someone with mental health issues. It's a sign of someone who needs a good kick up the arse.

18-08-2018 12:28PM

Paddy Cow wrote: »

In this case, yes. The op's mother has already reared her children and was coming to spend a week with her own mother. She is short of cash and wouldn't be making this trip often. For her daughter to expect her to come and stay with her to look after her child is incredibly cheeky and stingy. She's not asking for help. She's hijacking someone's much needed holiday. That's not a sign of someone with mental health issues. It's a sign of someone who needs a good kick up the arse.

Congratulations on your ability to diagnose the situation with such certainty from such a long distance and such little knowledge.

The_Conductor · 18-08-2018 12:47PM

Honestly- my head hurts trying to make headwind into deciphering the two cases from the last day...........

I'm not sure that either case reflect anything out of the ordinary- other than perhaps the sister who wanted a free baby sitter- was conscious of money being short for her mum, and when the trip fell through- then still expected her to buy flights over to go baby sitting for a week. The least the sister could do is pay for the flight- if she wanted a baby sitter?

As for the name change on the flight tickets- I still don't know what happened- and I've reread it three times. Actually, I'm not even sure who the baddie is- or why..........

I'm getting old and grouchy (but not stingy!)

Footoo · 18-08-2018 12:57PM

The_Conductor wrote: »

Honestly- my head hurts trying to make headwind into deciphering the two cases from the last day...........

I'm not sure that either case reflect anything out of the ordinary- other than perhaps the sister who wanted a free baby sitter- was conscious of money being short for her mum, and when the trip fell through- then still expected her to buy flights over to go baby sitting for a week. The least the sister could do is pay for the flight- if she wanted a baby sitter?

As for the name change on the flight tickets- I still don't know what happened- and I've reread it three times. Actually, I'm not even sure who the baddie is- or why..........

I'm getting old and grouchy (but not stingy!)

No clue either. Is the OP mad that the Father-in law gave his own son €90 because he was strapped for cash.?

SirChenjin · 18-08-2018 12:58PM

The_Conductor wrote: »

Honestly- my head hurts trying to make headwind into deciphering the two cases from the last day...........

As for the name change on the flight tickets- I still don't know what happened- and I've reread it three times. Actually, I'm not even sure who the baddie is- or why..........

I'm getting old and grouchy (but not stingy!)

Same here, I can't figure out that story.
Oh and I'm getting old and grouchy too.

razorblunt · 18-08-2018 01:12PM

That’s a lot of words to basically say your sister is looking for free child care. The family drama is superfluous.

Paddy Cow · 18-08-2018 01:37PM

AndrewJRenko wrote: »

Congratulations on your ability to diagnose the situation with such certainty from such a long distance and such little knowledge.

I read LirW's posts and took her at face value. She is after all the one in the best position to know what's going on. You're the one gaslighting about mental health.

Paddy Cow · 18-08-2018 02:08PM

The_Conductor wrote: »

As for the name change on the flight tickets- I still don't know what happened- and I've reread it three times. Actually, I'm not even sure who the baddie is- or why..........

Fitz has a friend who owes him €90. His father in law can't go on his stage so he was going to sell his FIL's ticket to his friend for €190. €100 to change the name on the ticket and then pocket the other €90 to recoup his loss from his friend. He realised that was a sh!tty thing to do and told the FIL's son he had got €90 back for his ticket. The FIL gave the money to his son and now Fitz has the hump because he thinks the money should be his.

Fitz you are 100% in the wrong here. Your friend owes you €90. Not your FIL or his son. Getting money back for your FIL does not make you entitled to it. People are spending 100's of euros to go to your stage and you're cribbing over €90 that isn't yours and you think you are in the right?

fitzparker · 18-08-2018 11:58PM

Paddy Cow wrote: »

Fitz has a friend who owes him €90. His father in law can't go on his stage so he was going to sell his FIL's ticket to his friend for €190. €100 to change the name on the ticket and then pocket the other €90 to recoup his loss from his friend. He realised that was a sh!tty thing to do and told the FIL's son he had got €90 back for his ticket. The FIL gave the money to his son and now Fitz has the hump because he thinks the money should be his.

Fitz you are 100% in the wrong here. Your friend owes you €90. Not your FIL or his son. Getting money back for your FIL does not make you entitled to it. People are spending 100's of euros to go to your stage and you're cribbing over €90 that isn't yours and you think you are in the right?

Nope your wrong. Originally I was telling my friend to give me the €190 he was going to pay anyway €100 name change and the €90 he owed. But I didn't I never mentioned the €90 he owed and said to give me €190 so I can give FIL €90 to recoup from his loss... That's actually doing a good thing.

What I didn't like was a surprise I gave the father in law of this €90 and he basically didn't give a fcuk about it and gave to his son instead within 30 seconds without even saying thanks to me.

Put it this way. In easoer terms

I got father in law surprise €90 but told his son first. He called dad and dad said he can have it. Son calls me back and it's nasically "he doesn't want it transfer to me"

I would have rathered A decent person would have took the money said thanks then did want ever they want with it.

handlemaster · 19-08-2018 08:10AM

My head is spinning. Please make it stop. Keep the tales simple

PandaPoo · 19-08-2018 11:00AM

A lady came up to me yesterday looking for a refund on a bottle of wine. It happens from time to time, exchange if it's not open or maybe it's corked.

She said she's drank a glass out of it and there's nothing wrong with the wine, it's just not to her taste. She got it as a gift and wanted the money back. I told her I couldn't give her a refund without a receipt and I'm not sure I can even let you exchange it because there's nothing wrong with it. I price checked it and it was an €18 bottle!!

I told my supervisor and she said yeah let her exchange it but it has to be from the alcohol section. I couldn't believe that she was allowed get an exchange on it, it's not a restaurant, you can't drink some and change it.

So I told her to get more wine to the value of €18 or higher. She comes back up with groceries and I said I'm sorry it has to be from the alcohol section. You can get beer, wine, spirits..
She was furious. She still wanted her money back. I tried to explain that it was a goodwill gesture that we were even letting her exchange it, it probably wasn't even bought in our store.

She came back up with a bottle of wine for €6 and said she'll take the €12 cash. I was losing my patience at that point. You have to get at least another €12 in the alcohol section, or I swap the wine and you don't get any cash.

She storms back off, and comes back with bottles of 7up, coke, fanta etc. I had to walk her down and she begrudgingly chose some cans to make up the difference. F*cking entitled people!

dieselbug · 19-08-2018 03:49PM

PandaPoo wrote: »

A lady came up to me yesterday looking for a refund on a bottle of wine. It happens from time to time, exchange if it's not open or maybe it's corked.

She said she's drank a glass out of it and there's nothing wrong with the wine, it's just not to her taste. She got it as a gift and wanted the money back. I told her I couldn't give her a refund without a receipt and I'm not sure I can even let you exchange it because there's nothing wrong with it. I price checked it and it was an €18 bottle!!

I told my supervisor and she said yeah let her exchange it but it has to be from the alcohol section. I couldn't believe that she was allowed get an exchange on it, it's not a restaurant, you can't drink some and change it.

So I told her to get more wine to the value of €18 or higher. She comes back up with groceries and I said I'm sorry it has to be from the alcohol section. You can get beer, wine, spirits..
She was furious. She still wanted her money back. I tried to explain that it was a goodwill gesture that we were even letting her exchange it, it probably wasn't even bought in our store.

She came back up with a bottle of wine for €6 and said she'll take the €12 cash. I was losing my patience at that point. You have to get at least another €12 in the alcohol section, or I swap the wine and you don't get any cash.

She storms back off, and comes back with bottles of 7up, coke, fanta etc. I had to walk her down and she begrudgingly chose some cans to make up the difference. F*cking entitled people!

Am I reading this correctly
You took back a partial bottle that she had drank from!!!!

Mongfinder General · 19-08-2018 03:50PM

dieselbug wrote: »

Am I reading this correctly
You took back a partial bottle that she had drank from!!!!

The neck of some people!

Panthro · 19-08-2018 03:53PM

The supervisor was in the wrong to allow that bint to get away with such nonsense.

Hococop · 19-08-2018 03:56PM

Is it a case of people like that would do more damage by deterring people from going to the shop for being refuse?

PandaPoo · 19-08-2018 03:56PM

Panthro wrote: »

The supervisor was in the wrong to allow that bint to get away with such nonsense.

Absolutely. I kept repeating 'there's nothing wrong with the wine, it probably wasn't even bought here' but she just said ah let her swap it. I was disgusted. It only encourages them

dartboardio · 19-08-2018 11:14PM

Ok..
My boyfriend gave me €20 last week to buy tickets for a gig we were supposed to go to. I said sure I’ll get dinner and I’ll get the tickets on my card with that €20 you gave me,All fine.

That night I got the dinner €30 our taxi €10 and bought us extra drinks to bring home, 6 bottles each or whatever. Another €15 euro.

We didn’t end up going to the gig so I kept the €20 but presumed it was MORE than covered.

He then initiated we get pizza last night which I paid for, all grand, €15. In his mind that €15 was his because we never bought the tickets. So his €20 was still ‘active’

He then initiated we visit the cinema tonight and proceeds to hand me €4 for his ticket. I paid for the sweets and popcorn and tickets. €30 total. And a taxi home, another €10

We’re standing in line to order our popcorn, I want my own because he will hog ours if we share, he then says ‘I have €5 credit left so that can cover the extra popcorn’

I say, credit for what? On your card or something?

He says no, I’ve a fiver credit left over from the €20 I gave you, since I only ‘spent’ €15 of that on pizza last night!!!!!!

Dick Pickle · 19-08-2018 11:16PM

dartboardio wrote: »

Ok..
My boyfriend gave me €20 last week to buy tickets for a gig we were supposed to go to. I said sure I’ll get dinner and I’ll get the tickets on my card with that €20 you gave me,All fine.

That night I got the dinner €30 our taxi €10 and bought us extra drinks to bring home, 6 bottles each or whatever. Another €15 euro.

We didn’t end up going to the gig so I kept the €20 but presumed it was MORE than covered.

He then initiated we get pizza last night which I paid for, all grand, €15. In his mind that €15 was his because we never bought the tickets. So his €20 was still ‘active’

He then initiated we visit the cinema tonight and proceeds to hand me €4 for his ticket. I paid for the sweets and popcorn and tickets. €30 total. And a taxi home, another €10

We’re standing in line to order our popcorn, I want my own because he will hog ours if we share, he then says ‘I have €5 credit left so that can cover the extra popcorn’

I say, credit for what? On your card or something?

He says no, I’ve a fiver credit left over from the €20 I gave you, since I only ‘spent’ €15 of that on pizza last night!!!!!!

Did he get his hole?

Cork Lass · 19-08-2018 11:21PM

dartboardio wrote: »

Ok..
My boyfriend gave me €20 last week to buy tickets for a gig we were supposed to go to. I said sure I’ll get dinner and I’ll get the tickets on my card with that €20 you gave me,All fine.

That night I got the dinner €30 our taxi €10 and bought us extra drinks to bring home, 6 bottles each or whatever. Another €15 euro.

We didn’t end up going to the gig so I kept the €20 but presumed it was MORE than covered.

He then initiated we get pizza last night which I paid for, all grand, €15. In his mind that €15 was his because we never bought the tickets. So his €20 was still ‘active’

He then initiated we visit the cinema tonight and proceeds to hand me €4 for his ticket. I paid for the sweets and popcorn and tickets. €30 total. And a taxi home, another €10

We’re standing in line to order our popcorn, I want my own because he will hog ours if we share, he then says ‘I have €5 credit left so that can cover the extra popcorn’

I say, credit for what? On your card or something?

He says no, I’ve a fiver credit left over from the €20 I gave you, since I only ‘spent’ €15 of that on pizza last night!!!!!!

You need to kick him to the kerb.

Gwynplaine · 19-08-2018 11:21PM

Time for that lad to be shown the door.

punisher5112 · 19-08-2018 11:24PM

dartboardio wrote: »

Ok..
My boyfriend gave me €20 last week to buy tickets for a gig we were supposed to go to. I said sure I’ll get dinner and I’ll get the tickets on my card with that €20 you gave me,All fine.

That night I got the dinner €30 our taxi €10 and bought us extra drinks to bring home, 6 bottles each or whatever. Another €15 euro.

We didn’t end up going to the gig so I kept the €20 but presumed it was MORE than covered.

He then initiated we get pizza last night which I paid for, all grand, €15. In his mind that €15 was his because we never bought the tickets. So his €20 was still ‘active’

He then initiated we visit the cinema tonight and proceeds to hand me €4 for his ticket. I paid for the sweets and popcorn and tickets. €30 total. And a taxi home, another €10

We’re standing in line to order our popcorn, I want my own because he will hog ours if we share, he then says ‘I have €5 credit left so that can cover the extra popcorn’

I say, credit for what? On your card or something?

He says no, I’ve a fiver credit left over from the €20 I gave you, since I only ‘spent’ €15 of that on pizza last night!!!!!!

Do not have a baby whatever you do....

He will not pay a cent towards it by the sounds of it ...

Tell me how · 19-08-2018 11:31PM

dartboardio wrote: »

Ok..
My boyfriend gave me €20 last week to buy tickets for a gig we were supposed to go to. I said sure I’ll get dinner and I’ll get the tickets on my card with that €20 you gave me,All fine.

That night I got the dinner €30 our taxi €10 and bought us extra drinks to bring home, 6 bottles each or whatever. Another €15 euro.

We didn’t end up going to the gig so I kept the €20 but presumed it was MORE than covered.

He then initiated we get pizza last night which I paid for, all grand, €15. In his mind that €15 was his because we never bought the tickets. So his €20 was still ‘active’

He then initiated we visit the cinema tonight and proceeds to hand me €4 for his ticket. I paid for the sweets and popcorn and tickets. €30 total. And a taxi home, another €10

We’re standing in line to order our popcorn, I want my own because he will hog ours if we share, he then says ‘I have €5 credit left so that can cover the extra popcorn’

I say, credit for what? On your card or something?

He says no, I’ve a fiver credit left over from the €20 I gave you, since I only ‘spent’ €15 of that on pizza last night!!!!!!

That final fiver is the cheapest life lesson you'll ever learn. I expect ye are quite young but even so, someone that militant about spending money with a partner is not someone to plan long term with.

If you do expect to be posting things in future like "My husband was left his parents house and he wants me to pay 50% of market value directly to him before we move in to it"

dartboardio · 19-08-2018 11:34PM

The scary thing is he’s 27

Paddy Cow · 19-08-2018 11:47PM

fitzparker wrote: »

Nope your wrong. Originally I was telling my friend to give me the €190 he was going to pay anyway €100 name change and the €90 he owed. But I didn't I never mentioned the €90 he owed and said to give me €190 so I can give FIL €90 to recoup from his loss... That's actually doing a good thing.

Nope I'm right. You were going to charge him the €100 flight change (fair enough) and the €90 as a pay back on the loan, which in your own words, you bottled it. You actually thought about it, which is something that most people wouldn't, so don't be so quick to give yourself a pat on the back.

fitzparker wrote: »

What I didn't like was a surprise I gave the father in law of this €90 and he basically didn't give a fcuk about it and gave to his son instead within 30 seconds without even saying thanks to me.

You are making a mountain out of a molehill and I find your reaction really bizzare

Your FIL couldn't go on the trip and you managed to save him €90. He still lost €100 which he's not cribbing about. You seem to be really p!ssed off that his first reaction was to give it to his son, who is strapped for cash, rather than thanking, or giving it to you?

fitzparker wrote: »

Put it this way. In easoer terms

I got father in law surprise €90 but told his son first. He called dad and dad said he can have it. Son calls me back and it's nasically "he doesn't want it transfer to me"

I would have rathered A decent person would have took the money said thanks then did want ever they want with it.

I'll reiterate - your FIL LOST €100 on the flights. He's not crabbing about that. I can't believe you are still going on about the €90. It was nothing to do with your FIL or BIL. You had a chance to chase your friend who actually owed you the money but you let it go. Seriously????

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