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What would you do if you found out you were terminally ill?(Mod Note Post One)

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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,736 ✭✭✭Yer Da sells Avon


    I'd like to think that I'd suddenly stop worrying about stuff and make the most of what time I have left. But knowing how my mind works, I suspect I'd spend my remaining year solemnly counting down the days, Googling any new symptoms and being painfully conscious of any changes in my health, and what those changes mean in terms of metastases, assuming it's cancer.

    Being single and not having any kids, or anyone who depends on me being around, I'm not sure I'd feel too guilty about the idea of checking-out a bit earlier than advertised.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 527 ✭✭✭acai berry


    Patww79 wrote: »
    Believe me, so do I.

    I sat with a friend until she died in the hospice - and really, they make it very easy in the end with palliative medicine. No need for slashing wrists!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,681 ✭✭✭Try_harder


    colm_mcm wrote: »
    Id take out lots of loans.

    From who? No one would give them to you, and if they did the debt would still exist


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 812 ✭✭✭Cleopatra_


    I guess I was going for black humour, as I have a life limiting condition myself. While I wouldn't call it exactly terminal, I have a life expectancy of late thirties and it will be terminal one day. I prefer to have a sense of humour about this as much as I can, after all we're all going to kick the bucket one day.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,439 ✭✭✭corner of hells


    Try_harder wrote: »
    From who? No one would give them to you, and if they did the debt would still exist

    That would be half the challenge , convincing a bank to give you a loan knowing you're in the drop zone.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,779 ✭✭✭An Ri rua


    Cleopatra_ wrote:
    I reckon I'd like to do a bit more travelling. Get the tattoos I haven't gotten around to yet, try the drugs I've been reluctant to try. Maybe get the missus to agree to a threeway since I'd be dying and all I'd spend as much time as I could with my partner, family and friends too of course.


    I'd change my username from Cleopatra if I had a missus and I was a bloke. Or I'd get a sex change for ****s and giggles.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 527 ✭✭✭acai berry


    Cleopatra_ wrote: »
    I guess I was going for black humour, as I have a life limiting condition myself. While I wouldn't call it exactly terminal, I have a life expectancy of late thirties and it will be terminal one day. I prefer to have a sense of humour about this as much as I can, after all we're all going to kick the bucket one day.

    Different people find different coping mechanisms. When I was diagnosed with cancer - I wasn't terminal, but who's to know in the early days. In the hospital, I saw people, laughing and making jokes at their condition. I must say that was not my approach. I was just very quiet and sombre.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,274 ✭✭✭august12


    acai berry wrote:
    First and foremost, I'd start getting rid of all my clutter. The less my next of kin have to get rid of when I'm gone, the better.

    This was exactly my thought as well, my house is full of useless crap,


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 527 ✭✭✭acai berry


    An Ri rua wrote: »
    I'd change my username from Cleopatra if I had a missus and I was a bloke. Or I'd get a sex change for ****s and giggles.

    Not good taste in this thread.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,462 ✭✭✭✭WoollyRedHat


    Sail around the world.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,423 ✭✭✭✭Outlaw Pete


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 812 ✭✭✭Cleopatra_


    An Ri rua wrote: »
    I'd change my username from Cleopatra if I had a missus and I was a bloke. Or I'd get a sex change for ****s and giggles.

    I'm not a bloke though!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,779 ✭✭✭An Ri rua


    I would seek out the genuine article esoteric arms of most religions and see if I could learn more about death and therefore life.
    E.g. as I currently do, the writings of the Rosicrucians. Very accessible through the books of Joseph Weed.
    I would, as a previous poster highlighted, see what other knowledge is out there. E.g. the work of Grigori Grabovoi (knock yourself out, Wikipedia graduates, but those who seek real truth always find it).
    I would make an honest attempt, through the lens of death, to understand life and my purpose here. I would seek out all those I've wronged and, if not apologising directly, make amends behind the scenes at least.
    And the funny thing is, this 'exercise' should be practiced now, by all. Not just when you know you're going to die? Because you DO know, you ARE going to die. Ask De Montaigne, ask Socrates (not literally...).
    So that final year could be your best lived year. Fully conscious, awake, contributing. Instead of consuming, navel-gazing, selfie-making, hedonism, heroin etc etc.
    I would definitely not take the final word of a doctor. They're simply saying that they can do no more. Its still your body and your life. So make your own calls after that 'prognosis'.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,779 ✭✭✭An Ri rua


    I understand your sentiment but I think we're all guilty of hiding death in a corner of our lives. Whereas its the necessary duality to life. When it occurs close to us, it sharpens our senses. Then things go all foggy again. Life us the blink of an eye.
    I've spent 7 nights awake separately with 2 close relatives, in nursing homes, as they passed on and I believe it crystallises what's real and what's BS out there. Its simply unforgettable and changes you.
    I think when someone else passes, its not merely loss of the person but also loss of the 'eternality' of life, that innocence of forever, that we lose. And that cuts deep.
    But, once we internalise its lessons, it should invigorate us. To love, to live consciously, to have threesomes, take heroin, whatever it is you may be driven to do. Good or bad, that's your choice. But take action! Live. Get off Facebook and yes maybe even Boards !!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,779 ✭✭✭An Ri rua


    acai berry wrote:
    Not good taste in this thread.


    I disagree completely. As the Op sets the tone for a thread


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 527 ✭✭✭acai berry


    https://www.cbc.ca/news/entertainment/irish-writer-nuala-o-faolain-dies-at-68-1.712726

    Remember Nuala O'Faolain? She did a documentary on herself being terminally ill. Her idea was to travel as much as she could before dying. The only memory I have of watching that documentary is seeing her sitting in utter desolation, alone, at a bistro table outside a coffee shop in Paris.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 26,611 ✭✭✭✭OldMrBrennan83


    acai berry wrote: »
    https://www.cbc.ca/news/entertainment/irish-writer-nuala-o-faolain-dies-at-68-1.712726

    Remember Nuala O'Faolain? She did a documentary on herself being terminally ill. Her idea was to travel as much as she could before dying. The only memory I have of watching that documentary is seeing her sitting in utter desolation, alone, at a bistro table outside a coffee shop in Paris.

    Need people around you, people you want, that's the main thing.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 239 ✭✭erudec


    Turnipman wrote: »
    I'd sue the HSE.

    You'd need a very slow death to make it to the first hearing, let alone a judgement.

    All the better for you, although you'd better spend all your money before you kick the bucket, because they'll go after your estate.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 21,325 ✭✭✭✭Donald Trump


    Delete my browsing history


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,253 ✭✭✭ouxbbkqtswdfaw


    I would ask God to forgive me all my faults, ask a priest to hear my confession. I will pray from my heart. I will forgive all others who have hurt me, and as a Catholic, would receive the Holy Eucharist daily if possible, asking God to bring me to everlasting life.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 527 ✭✭✭acai berry


    An Ri rua wrote: »
    I disagree completely. As the Op sets the tone for a thread
    In that case then, it's just a stupid remark. :rolleyes:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,563 ✭✭✭monkeysnapper


    I'd get a Springer spaniel .....


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 239 ✭✭erudec


    Cleopatra_ wrote: »
    Let's say you've got a year left. What would you do with your remaining time on earth? Let's say you're still well enough to get around and do things.

    I reckon I'd like to do a bit more travelling. Get the tattoos I haven't gotten around to yet, try the drugs I've been reluctant to try. Maybe get the missus to agree to a threeway since I'd be dying and all :p I'd spend as much time as I could with my partner, family and friends too of course.

    Has anyone said Bungee jumping yet?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 239 ✭✭erudec


    colm_mcm wrote: »
    I’d take out lots of loans.

    Hehehe.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 359 ✭✭twignme


    I have lived all my bucket list already, I can’t really understand the whole wait until your time is limited thing to do all that stuff. After my sister died a few years ago, I went a bit crazy with the grief and de-cluttered, made the will, sorted out all my affairs, so everything is good to go so to speak. If I was to be given the terminal prognosis, I would pack some good music and take myself off to Dignitas whilst I was still able. No fuss, no bother.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 26,611 ✭✭✭✭OldMrBrennan83


    twignme wrote: »
    I have lived all my bucket list already, I can’t really understand the whole wait until your time is limited thing to do all that stuff. After my sister died a few years ago, I went a bit crazy with the grief and de-cluttered, made the will, sorted out all my affairs, so everything is good to go so to speak. If I was to be given the terminal prognosis, I would pack some good music and take myself off to Dignitas whilst I was still able. No fuss, no bother.

    Bit of a double standard there. You say why wait til you get the prognosis, but why did you wait til your sister died?


  • Moderators, Entertainment Moderators Posts: 10,464 Mod ✭✭✭✭xzanti


    Spend every second I could with my kids. Make videos for them. Write notes for them. Make the best of every day until I couldn't anymore.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,825 ✭✭✭LirW


    Spend as much time with my children and my partner as possible. Even if it's just days in the couch watching movies. I would wanna be there until the end and I want them to know that I love them dearly.
    Also I'd try to get an exclusive pre-screening of an amazing movie and want to jump out of a plane and if I'd have the money, I wanna go on a cruise. Always wanted to know how that is.
    But I believe it often doesn't work out because most terminally ill people don't exactly swim in money.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,779 ✭✭✭An Ri rua


    acai berry wrote:
    In that case then, it's just a stupid remark.


    That's very arrogant of you


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,439 ✭✭✭corner of hells


    Delete my browsing history

    If I was you , I'd probably be trying to burn down Google .


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