What would you do if you found out you were terminally ill?(Mod Note Post One)

Cleopatra_ · 12-08-2018 08:54PM #1

Let's say you've got a year left. What would you do with your remaining time on earth? Let's say you're still well enough to get around and do things.

I reckon I'd like to do a bit more travelling. Get the tattoos I haven't gotten around to yet, try the drugs I've been reluctant to try. Maybe get the missus to agree to a threeway since I'd be dying and all

I'd spend as much time as I could with my partner, family and friends too of course.

Mod Note A good few posts have being reported. Just remember this is a sensitive topic and cut out the bickering!

Under His Eye · 12-08-2018 09:05PM

I would travel, try drugs and have a blast.

Try_harder · 12-08-2018 09:08PM

Well if I had a year to live Id imagine Id deteriorate very rapidly. I would let my family know how much I love them and prepare a will.

Id try to do things I wanted to do, but so far have not, subject to my being able.

If I deteriorating badly Id try to arrange my own death

Turnipman · 12-08-2018 09:08PM

I'd sue the HSE.

corner of hells · 12-08-2018 09:09PM

There's a regular poster in AH who's terminal and I've a parent who's terminal at the moment hopefully everyone will be a little sensitive.

Alf Veedersane · 12-08-2018 09:09PM

Cry, probably

Larbre34 · 12-08-2018 09:10PM

Turnipman wrote: »

I'd sue the HSE.

21st Century Ireland in nutshell.

Pass the skag works.

thebull85 · 12-08-2018 09:10PM

Heroin

wally1990 · 12-08-2018 09:10PM

Heroin , if I knew I had like 1 or 2 days left I would try it , give me that stuff and let’s see what the crack is about!

Up until that point traveling and sight seeing and doing as much as I can to enjoy my last moments

Try_harder · 12-08-2018 09:11PM

corner of hells wrote: »

There's a regular poster in AH who's terminal and I've a parent who's terminal at the moment hopefully everyone will be a little sensitive.

Sorry to hear that.

My own mum is deteriorating at the moment, memory loss etc and its very hard to deal with. Its much worse for her I know

corner of hells · 12-08-2018 09:11PM

thebull85 wrote: »

Heroin

Interestingly enough , a lot of painkillers prescribed to terminal patients are pretty serious opiates.

12-08-2018 09:12PM

I would tell my family and do as much together as possible. I wouldn’t ask to be kept at home. Having kept a family member at home for their final days, I’d opt for a hospice.

kingbhome · 12-08-2018 09:12PM

I would spend every single day finding a way to cure it and get better. Go out fighting rather than all the bull**** above

Ten of Swords · 12-08-2018 09:12PM

If there was no treatment, even experimental, I'd get my affairs in order and spend the rest of my time either enjoying myself or in the company of my friends and loved ones.

corner of hells · 12-08-2018 09:12PM

Try_harder wrote: »

Sorry to hear that.

My own mum is deteriorating at the moment, memory loss etc and its very hard to deal with. Its much worse for her I know

Thanks , look after yourselves too.

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1 · 12-08-2018 09:13PM

corner of hells wrote: »

There's a regular poster in AH who's terminal and I've a parent who's terminal at the moment hopefully everyone will be a little sensitive.

My feelings exactly. Having been through the scenario with a young family member a few years ago and now a good friend at the moment I even found the thread title upsetting. I'd ask people to keep in mind that it's a sensitive subject and close to the bone for many.
I'll simply not read any more but can't hide the thread title unfortunately.

Try_harder · 12-08-2018 09:14PM

corner of hells wrote: »

Thanks , look after yourselves too.

You too

Cleopatra_ · 12-08-2018 09:18PM

Maximus Obnoxious Shipyard wrote: »

My feelings exactly. Having been through the scenario with a young family member a few years ago and now a good friend at the moment I even found the thread title upsetting. I'd ask people to keep in mind that it's a sensitive subject and close to the bone for many.
I'll simply not read any more but can't hide the thread title unfortunately.

I apologise if people find this to be a sensitive subject. I guess I thought it could be treated in a lighthearted way in After Hours.

corner of hells · 12-08-2018 09:19PM

Cleopatra_ wrote: »

I apologise if people find this to be a sensitive subject. I guess I thought it could be treated in a lighthearted way in After Hours.

Don't apologise , life needs a bit of black humour , not the Eddy Murphy type either.

12-08-2018 09:22PM

Try_harder wrote: »

Sorry to hear that.

My own mum is deteriorating at the moment, memory loss etc and its very hard to deal with. Its much worse for her I know

I don’t agree. I think that it’s much harder for loved ones. Take care of yourself. It isn’t easy.

12-08-2018 09:25PM

Travel as much as possible while I'm still healthy enough to do so.

Ideally I'd then like to end my life in as painless and dignified a manner as possible, so would look into the feasibility of travelling to Dignitas in Switzerland and availing of assisted suicide (obviously this would depend largely on financial/time/legal constraints).

Try_harder · 12-08-2018 09:25PM

Deleted User wrote: »

I dont agree. I think that its much harder for loved ones. Take care of yourself. It isnt easy.

It is her knowing her memory is going, and how upsetting it is for her.

12-08-2018 09:31PM

My take on this is that planning on enjoying yourself when your life is ending isn't something that really feels possible. Fear of rapidly deteriorating unexpectedly (which happened with a relative recently) is another factor that makes skydiving in Uzbekistan unappealing when it comes down to it. People want to be near medical assistance.

I think I'd try to make everything as easy as possible for the ones I'd be leaving behind, and just spend as much time in the company of the people I love as I could.

erica74 · 12-08-2018 09:40PM

I think I'd just take it one day at a time. Now, it seems slightly humorous to plan all the exciting bucket list things because I know it's not real but, realistically, if I was dying, I can't imagine waking up every day full of energy and plans.
I've always had a fear of dying so, if I was to know in advance that I was dying, I don't think I would cope very well.

OldMrBrennan83 · 12-08-2018 09:41PM

I live as normal and then cut the wrists in 50 weeks.

acai berry · 12-08-2018 09:42PM

First and foremost, I'd start getting rid of all my clutter. The less my next of kin have to get rid of when I'm gone, the better.

colm_mcm · 12-08-2018 09:42PM

I’d take out lots of loans.

12-08-2018 09:42PM

erica74 wrote: »

I think I'd just take it one day at a time. Now, it seems slightly humorous to plan all the exciting bucket list things because I know it's not real but, realistically, if I was dying, I can't imagine waking up every day full of energy and plans.
I've always had a fear of dying so, if I was to know in advance that I was dying, I don't think I would cope very well.

You'd cope, people are very good at coping because what it comes down to is that you have no choice but to cope.

acai berry · 12-08-2018 09:43PM

Patww79 wrote: »

I live as normal and then cut the wrists in 50 weeks.

Sounds a bit dire. I hope not.

OldMrBrennan83 · 12-08-2018 09:44PM

acai berry wrote: »

Sounds a bit dire. I hope not.

Believe me, so do I.

Try_harder · 12-08-2018 09:45PM

Remember to delete my internets and wipe my laptop and phone oops!

What would you do if you found out you were terminally ill?(Mod Note Post One)

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