what do weddings cost the couple overall??

OldMrBrennan83 · 24-06-2018 05:24PM

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Blaas4life · 24-06-2018 05:25PM

facehugger99 wrote: »

Most recent weddings I've been to, the wedding couple already have children and obviously their kids are involved in the day as they should be.

I think it's quite nice to see children at a wedding. I guess it depends how you see a wedding. For me they are family celebrations but some people seem to view them as a multi-day piss-up - wouldn't be my scene.

You could understand em wanting there kids there (this makes sense)...but hordes of kids running about making noise is my idea of hell

If I wanted that,I'd hang about in a playground (without meaning to sound like a paedo :pac: )

andekwarhola · 24-06-2018 05:32PM

Patww79 wrote: »

Read it again. I'll give you a clue, the word starts with O and ends with Y.

Opprobriously?

24-06-2018 05:34PM

c.p.w.g.w wrote: »

The amount some people spend is shocking, that could be money to pay off the mortgage early, cover kids uniforms and books for their entire school live. A few foreign holidays

Cash gifts cover a large amount of the cost though so it costs the couple much less than the headline number.

flandabieduzie · 24-06-2018 05:38PM

This thread sums up why I don't want to get married. And I'm not referring to the finances!

umop episdn · 24-06-2018 05:39PM

flandabieduzie wrote: »

This thread sums up why I don't want to get married. And I'm not referring to the finances!

Nobody loves you?

lazygal · 24-06-2018 05:40PM

I'm a parent, I don't like children at weddings and we don't bring ours to them nor do we expect them to be invited. I don't think a wedding is a family day, it's two people celebrating their relationship and usually getting the legal bit sorted. We didn't ask all our aunts/uncles/cousins, friends and family we actually like were who we asked.
I can't remember how much we spent overall, but we had two great weddings. One just the legal one with our parents and went for dinner, then a big celebration a week later. Had an open bar and spent most of the rest of the budget on food and a great band. No regrets at all and we asked that people not give gifts or if so inclined to donate to a nominated charity. We got a good bit of cash from family, nowhere near covered the cost of the day nor did we expect or plan for it to.

lazygal · 24-06-2018 05:41PM

flandabieduzie wrote: »

This thread sums up why I don't want to get married. And I'm not referring to the finances!

Getting married and having a wedding can be two completely different things. If we hadn't wanted a wedding we would have nipped out to the registry office at lunch and got the legals done. The marriage bit takes ten minutes tops and ties up a lot of legal loose ends.

Ginger83 · 24-06-2018 05:41PM

Ours was 1800 all in, small numbers no bull****

duffman13 · 24-06-2018 05:44PM

Ours including the honeymoon will be 22k. The honeymoon is 10k which is more important than the wedding IMO. Have had a house since 2011 and have saved to pay for the wedding. We are having around 120 people but we definitely won't make a profit, lots of my family haven't got a pot to piss in so it's literally a celebration. If we got 3-4k in gifts I'd be very surprised

It's an expensive day but one I'm looking forward to. I've been to 4 weddings in the last 8 months and not one of them has been under 20k for the day. Two of them have been 30k not including honeymoon. I struggled to see what they got for the extra 18k but one couple paid 3300 for a photographer and 4k for a band for two hours.

duffman13 · 24-06-2018 05:47PM

Phoenix Stale Viking wrote: »

Cash gifts cover a large amount of the cost though so it costs the couple much less than the headline number.

This overblown, my sister got married recently and made less than 2k in cash from 100 guests. Some of the gifts she got were worth feck all. I've always had the mindset of cover my plate but lots of people see it as an (almost) free meal

BuboBubo · 24-06-2018 05:50PM

Generally cost €25k upwards.

Total waste of money and unnecessary stress imo, but to each their own.

Mr Bubos brother took out a 5 year credit union loan to pay for his, marriage lasted 2 years

Eggs For Dinner · 24-06-2018 05:57PM

duffman13 wrote: »

. I've always had the mindset of cover my plate but lots of people see it as an (almost) free meal

Eh, you get invited as a guest. If I invite someone to anything, I would expect to bear the cost.. If I'm to pay for a meal, a hotel where average fare which has been kept under heat lamps for hours would be far down on my list of preferences.

_Dara_ · 24-06-2018 06:09PM

duffman13 wrote: »

This overblown, my sister got married recently and made less than 2k in cash from 100 guests. Some of the gifts she got were worth feck all. I've always had the mindset of cover my plate but lots of people see it as an (almost) free meal

Seeing as weddings are usually expensive to attend even without the gift, I doubt anyone is going out if their way to get a “free” carvery meal.

OldMrBrennan83 · 24-06-2018 06:10PM

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andekwarhola · 24-06-2018 06:12PM

_Dara_ wrote: »

Seeing as weddings are usually expensive to attend even without the gift, I doubt anyone is going out if their way to get a “free” carvery meal.

I always find paying for a hotel, travel and a 200 quid gift an economic means of getting a beef and potato meal.

_Dara_ · 24-06-2018 06:13PM

Patww79 wrote: »

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I’ve been to lots of weddings. Some swish, some on a tighter budget. With the exception of one, the food was mediocre. I’m interested - what are the “right” weddings?

OldMrBrennan83 · 24-06-2018 06:14PM

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_Dara_ · 24-06-2018 06:19PM

Patww79 wrote: »

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They are very rare. Mediocre food is the overwhelming norm.

24-06-2018 06:21PM

Weddings provide catering, not cuisine. Unless there's an a la carte menu it's not going to be particularly special nor cooked to order.

iamwhoiam · 24-06-2018 06:22PM

duffman13 wrote: »

This overblown, my sister got married recently and made less than 2k in cash from 100 guests. Some of the gifts she got were worth feck all. I've always had the mindset of cover my plate but lots of people see it as an (almost) free meal

" made cash " ? Its not a business in my opinion and a gift is a bonus and people are kind to do that . But maybe thats just our family ?

Pac1Man · 24-06-2018 06:26PM

umop episdn wrote: »

....and drunken twats falling over themselves, groping waitresses and puking I the corner just aren't my type of people... but you go right ahead and enjoy yourself

Because that's the alternative...

OldMrBrennan83 · 24-06-2018 06:27PM

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duffman13 · 24-06-2018 06:32PM

iamwhoiam wrote: »

" made cash " ? Its not a business in my opinion and a gift is a bonus and people are kind to do that . But maybe thats just our family ?

Jaysis poor choice of words, I was responding to someone who said people make enough from weddings to cover the cost of a wedding. A gift is a gift, and maybe you and your family are better than everyone.

_Dara_ · 24-06-2018 06:33PM

Patww79 wrote: »

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Good for you. Most weddings are not that. Though I’ve had duck at a wedding. It was overcooked as any meat can be. Aaaaand, the key point - it wasn’t a free meal.

duffman13 · 24-06-2018 06:37PM

_Dara_ wrote: »

Seeing as weddings are usually expensive to attend even without the gift, I doubt anyone is going out if their way to get a “free” carvery meal.

Im not arguing they are expensive to attend, of course they are. I've only ever gone to weddings of people who I had an interest in and had a strong relationship.

Also carvery meal? I've been to a lot of weddings recently and I've probably had one bad meal that was disappointing. The rest were very good restaurant quality food. Each to their own but I can't agree that it's carvery standard

_Dara_ · 24-06-2018 07:14PM

duffman13 wrote: »

Im not arguing they are expensive to attend, of course they are. I've only ever gone to weddings of people who I had an interest in and had a strong relationship.

Also carvery meal? I've been to a lot of weddings recently and I've probably had one bad meal that was disappointing. The rest were very good restaurant quality food. Each to their own but I can't agree that it's carvery standard

Carvery is probably a slight exaggeration but the food is mass-catering. It’s not restaurant standard either and certainly nothing you’d go out of your way for. For the per head price, the equivalent at a good mid-range restaurant would be much higher. For example, if you go for a fish course at a wedding, it’s very difficult to ensure that fish won’t be overcooked.

Pauliedragon · 24-06-2018 07:14PM

They should start a system where people put money in sympathy cards. Funerals are bloody expensive. At least with a wedding you can plan in advance. Uncle Billy dies suddenly of a heart attack his wife doesn't work, he has 3 school aged kids and it has to be taken care of in a few days. A wedding is by choice. Let's start a movement. No more wedding gifts keep your hard earned cash for funeral cards.:D

Panthro · 24-06-2018 07:28PM

I'm happy to support such a movement.
Once I've married myself and have received several hundred quid from all the people's weddings I've been to over the years
#Tight git!

iamwhoiam · 24-06-2018 07:30PM

_Dara_ wrote: »

Carvery is probably a slight exaggeration but the food is mass-catering. It’s not restaurant standard either and certainly nothing you’d go out of your way for. For the per head price, the equivalent at a good mid-range restaurant would be much higher. For example, if you go for a fish course at a wedding, it’s very difficult to ensure that fish won’t be overcooked.

The per head price is in fairness not just for the actual food . Its for the venue , the room and tables and staff . For the decorations and flowers etc . The venue for a family member will put up the lights and flowers and lantern etc

what do weddings cost the couple overall??

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