what to get girlfriend after first major argument ?

shyguy27 · 01-06-2018 07:49PM #1

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Iv been in a relationship with a girl for nearly 6 months and we had our first big argument last night , basically over both of us been over jealous at times.

wev made up in the mean time and promised to both work on our issues.

what would be a nice gift to get her for when i see her again to show how much she means to me ,
any help would be greatly appreciated . TIA

sorry if this is a dumb question but im really head over heels about this girl , and was wondering what some of your boyfriends/husbands get for you when in my situation.

wally1990 · 01-06-2018 07:54PM

shyguy27 wrote: »

have another profile on here with 5k+ posts but made this due to privacy*

Iv been in a relationship with a girl for nearly 6 months and we had our first big argument last night , basically over both of us been over jealous at times.

wev made up in the mean time and promised to both work on our issues.

what would be a nice gift to get her for when i see her again to show how much she means to me ,
any help would be greatly appreciated . TIA

sorry if this is a dumb question but im really head over heels about this girl , and was wondering what some of your boyfriends/husbands get for you when in my situation.

Night away
Or
Book a meal for the 2 of you
Or
Book an activity ye can both do together

I’d personally avoid gifts for her but rather do something that the both of you can share in because if this trends continues you will be handing over gifts that are meaningless in reality without improving the relationship so my strong advice is something that the both of ye are doing and talking and avoid material gifts

Spend time with her and do stuff together
That will trump any handbag or earrings etc
That will make the relationship stronger

shyguy27 · 01-06-2018 07:56PM

wally1990 wrote: »

Night away
Or
Book a meal for the 2 of you
Or
Book an activity ye can both do together

I’d personally avoid gifts for her but rather do something that the both of you can share in because if this trends continues you will be handing over gifts that are meaningless in reality without improving the relationship so my strong advice is something that the both of ye are doing and talking and avoid material gifts

Spend time with her and do stuff together
That will trump any handbag or earrings etc
That will make the relationship stronger

thanks so much for the kind words , i was hoping no-one would suggest clothes or jewelry

Think il book a meal for 2 and cinema maybe

wally1990 · 01-06-2018 07:59PM

shyguy27 wrote: »

thanks so much for the kind words , i was hoping no-one would suggest clothes or jewelry Think il book a meal for 2 and cinema maybe

That will mean a lot more than a gift

We all know women loves gifts and you’d always hear some women say ‘oh Mary’s boyfriend bought her X ,how nice was that ‘ but a strong relationship and bonding from spending time together is worth more than a bad relationship with a room full of presents.

It will go a longer way to improving the relationship after a fight than a gift would

shyguy27 · 01-06-2018 08:02PM

wally1990 wrote: »

That will mean a lot more than a gift

We all know women loves gifts and you’d always hear some women say ‘oh Mary’s boyfriend bought her X ,how nice was that ‘ but a strong relationship and bonding from spending time together is worth more than a bad relationship with a room full of presents.

It will go a longer way to improving the relationship after a fight than a gift would

Thanks again for the kind words wally , i 100% get what your saying

Thats a little stress off my chest anyway cheers again

OldMrBrennan83 · 01-06-2018 08:05PM

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shyguy27 · 01-06-2018 08:11PM

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cheers i definitely dont want that

meeeeh · 01-06-2018 08:21PM

Frankly as a woman (I suspect other contributors were male who know 'what women are like') I would be very wary of someone who bought gifts after fights. I would always wonder if he is trying to placate me with that. Resolve the issue and if you want to do something suggest going out but don't frame it as gift after fight more like an opportunity to spend some quality time together. You can either split the bill if she insists or you can pay if she doesn't.

shyguy27 · 01-06-2018 09:55PM

meeeeh wrote: »

Frankly as a woman (I suspect other contributors were male who know 'what women are like') I would be very wary of someone who bought gifts after fights. I would always wonder if he is trying to placate me with that. Resolve the issue and if you want to do something suggest going out but don't frame it as gift after fight more like an opportunity to spend some quality time together. You can either split the bill if she insists or you can pay if she doesn't.

Thank you very much yeah we are just taking space for a night and working on understanding each other better

We are resolving the issue and have told each other the fight might have for been the best so we can truly understand what one another is like

Thinking about booking a place away from home and having a meal and cinema just how much i really like this person

eviltwin · 02-06-2018 08:39AM

If I got my husband something every time we had a fight we'd be broke. Fighting is normal, the best thing you can do is learn from it. Gifts etc shouldn't be linked to an argument unless you were particularly nasty and probably not even then. So do something nice because you want to, not because you think you owe her.

Pelvis · 02-06-2018 08:41AM

Say sorry, that's all you should need to do.

Shefwedfan · 02-06-2018 08:42AM

Nothing

It’s equal rights these days

She should buy you something

Apart from that depends on what she likes....flowers seem to be a winner in my relationship....

myshirt · 02-06-2018 08:46AM

Absolutely nothing. It will be the biggest mistake of your relationship to get into this cycle. It is absolutely CRITICAL that you get her sweet f#ck all. Completely ridiculous concept.

You need respect on both sides and confidence in yourself. Lack of this will drive the jealousy. You have to earn her respect and give her respect. You won't get this by grovelling. Be a man and bin the queer feminist theory.

dudara · 02-06-2018 09:32AM

A sincere discussion should really be all that’s needed. A fight doesn’t have to end with a “sorry” from one side, but in a healthy relationship it should be discussed.

I like what you said, you want to show her much much she means to do you. Do something nice for that reason. Don’t do it to say sorry.

A Pint of Goo · 02-06-2018 11:15AM

shyguy27 wrote: »

have another profile on here with 5k+ posts but made this due to privacy*

Iv been in a relationship with a girl for nearly 6 months and we had our first big argument last night , basically over both of us been over jealous at times.

wev made up in the mean time and promised to both work on our issues.

what would be a nice gift to get her for when i see her again to show how much she means to me ,
any help would be greatly appreciated . TIA

sorry if this is a dumb question but im really head over heels about this girl , and was wondering what some of your boyfriends/husbands get for you when in my situation.

Don't get her anything. Your adults and had a fight, no big deal.

fishy_fishy · 02-06-2018 11:19AM

If I was seeing someone for 6 months and they bought me something to make up for a fight I'd feel really disrespected. Unless the other person was 100% in the wrong, I'd feel like I wasnt being taken seriously and was just something to be placated.

tashiusclay · 02-06-2018 11:57PM

myshirt wrote: »

You need respect on both sides and confidence in yourself. Lack of this will drive the jealousy. You have to earn her respect and give her respect. You won't get this by grovelling.

+1.
Don't turn yourself into a pandering groveller, if ye have a row, just give her space, and apologise IF you were in the wrong, if she was in the wrong, give her space and let her either come to you and apologise or simply improve her behaviour or actions that led to the row. Treat her like you would your own close male friends, no need to go ass kissing just because she's a woman, she'll respect you more in the long term for being straight and honest and fair, not for grovelling.

Schwanz · 03-06-2018 11:55AM

Have sex. It's the best after an argument.

kylith · 03-06-2018 11:04PM

Sit down and have an honest discussion about the fight. Apologise for anything you need to apologise for, and talk bout what ye can do as a couple to resolve the issue. Buying gifts is a ridiculous and childish habit to get into, imo.

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